sweetscarlet Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Sounds right, but GENERALLY speaking, it seems that guys are not as picky as girls when looking for a relationship. A lot of guys will go for a girl as long as she is good looking, but women look for more then just the looks, but there are always the exceptions. Many guys as they get older start to value things other than looks in women.
pelagicsands Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Many guys as they get older start to value things other than looks in women. But, thankfully, there are now treatment options for erectile dysfunction.
Author alphamale Posted April 28, 2007 Author Posted April 28, 2007 Many guys as they get older start to value things other than looks in women. that maybe true SS but physical attractiveness is valued by both sexes at any age. I know frumpy 50 yr old women who get no dates and I know attractive 50 yr old women who have tons of men hitting on them.
Art_Critic Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 would a warmed cantaloupe be considered "living"? It depends on if it was vine picked yet and who or how the warming was done..Warmed by the sun in the field then yes it would be considered living. Bring your knee pads... that dirt can hurt..
johan Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 When I'm in a good mood and enjoying myself, then I choose them. I can be pretty irresistible. I'm rarely in that kind of mood anymore, so I get chosen. Occasionally. Of course, when I have my game, I might instinctively be going for the ones who won't say "no". But on the other hand, I also go for the best girl in the room. As long as she has a sense of humor, then I have a chance. I wish I could control when I felt like that.
burning 4 revenge Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 It depends on if it was vine picked yet and who or how the warming was done..Warmed by the sun in the field then yes it would be considered living. Bring your knee pads... that dirt can hurt.. a clarification on vegetable f*cking
Green Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Well I can speak for myself and say I choose my women. I see a girl I like so I approach her, make her laugh, get her horny. Now every once in a while I have been so lucky as to have an atractive girl fall hard for me and make all the moves but that is not the norm. I think alot more power still relies with men to choose who there going to be with. Sure a good looking girl who wants to screw a bunch of people will be able to screw more people then a good looking guy in 99 out of 100 cases in my guess. but if by choose you mean a seriouse relationship I say men are the ones who have to go into the battle room and lay out a plan to hit on and impress the woman, men are the ones who prepose mariage. after your married you lose alot of leverage definetly, but in the choosing I say men get a very active role, most women are in a passive role.
pelagicsands Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 a clarification on vegetable f*cking Actually I think we're talking "comfort fruit."
burning 4 revenge Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 KMT is that an Al Qaeda jihadist in your avatar?
Author alphamale Posted April 28, 2007 Author Posted April 28, 2007 but in the choosing I say men get a very active role, most women are in a passive role. women actually make it LOOK like they are playing the passive role but in actuality they are the ones making the decisions early on. most women realize that men will hook up with or date any decent woman. the fact that you are the one who's trying to strut you feathers shows that you are not in control (in the initial stage, i mean)
Green Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 ok so whats your point? what am I suposed to do with this nugget of posible reality? Am I just suposed to sit back and say great observation. We've all heard this saying before who cares. Say some really hot homewrecker woman liked this guy well the guy if he's married has a full choice wether to cheat on his wife or not. and from the oposite the wife has no control over whether the guy is going to cheat on her or not. Both people in a relationship have equal ability to turn the other person down. Im just missing the point of your observation which can easily be argued for or against.
Author alphamale Posted April 28, 2007 Author Posted April 28, 2007 ok so whats your point? the point of this post was to make another LS regular eat crow because they did not believe what I was saying. I have now prevailed cos many people have agreed with my point-of-view.
Pyro Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Its common sense. A majority of the time the guy asks the girl out, so she does have the last say in the initial stage for the most part. If the girl were to ask the guy out, then he would have the last say.
Herzen Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 My belief is that women start most romantic relationships with the men of their choosing and men have little say in the matter. Some believe this isn't the case. Everything I've read and experienced over the last 20+ years leads me to believe that women have much more power in the early stages of the relationship as to whom they want to be with. Most men are easy and will date anyone who's fairly suitable. WOmen are much more picky and have the last say as to who they'll date and sleep with. I also think that if a man wants to be successful with women he needs to know these facts. What do you folks think? I agree with you, alpha. Whether it's marriage, dating, an affair, the woman acts as sexual gatekeeper. Biologically that makes sense. The female will be more selective because of child rearing goals.
Star Gazer Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 I agree with you, alpha. Whether it's marriage, dating, an affair, the woman acts as sexual gatekeeper. Biologically that makes sense. The female will be more selective because of child rearing goals. Yes, biologically it also makes sense in that - sorry to get a little clinical here - a woman's vagina ACCEPTS a man's penis into her. Acceptance by the woman is her act of choosing. Men chase, woo, etc., while women accept the advances.
Star Gazer Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 the point of this post was to make another LS regular eat crow because they did not believe what I was saying. I have now prevailed cos many people have agreed with my point-of-view. I still wuv your opposition though, Alpha.
monkey00 Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 women actually make it LOOK like they are playing the passive role but in actuality they are the ones making the decisions early on. most women realize that men will hook up with or date any decent woman. the fact that you are the one who's trying to strut you feathers shows that you are not in control (in the initial stage, i mean) I agree alpha, women are the choosers in the dating scene. Although they do play the passive role, all they can do is indicate interest and if a guy isnt interested they will remain passive and move on. Or if they have the balls, they will give the guy their # or break the ice. I guess this falls back on women only being able to select from the pool of guys who are interested in them, or if they're lucky - the guy that reciprocates the girl's signs of interest. So long as the women allows the guy to make advances, she is the chooser in how quick or slow a relationship buds (if at all). Earlier on what you said, I agree women generally look for the overall package whereas a guy will go for any decent girl or better yet one with looks. But I think in the world of dating, women are on the worse end of the stick. I feel there are far more quality/genuine women out there who would probably make a great gf or future wife...but there are far many guys who fall short of being a gentleman/provider/etc - basically the balanced guy. And there's more of an assortment of guys out there - bums, jerks, losers, druggie, geeks, freaks, grown men who act like kids, doormat nice-guys, whiners, etc. Why do I say they're on the worse end of the stick? Because most women who have dated would have dated at least 2 or 3 if not every single one of these types within their lifetimes. And there are women out there who are desperate and settle and wind up in relationships with any guy just for the emotional blanket it provides - again the passive role. But it is understandable when women look for a guy, its icing on the cake to have the whole package as they are always considering long-term investment, whether or not they admit it. Women look for emotional investment and guys look for physical investment early on (or later on..or whatever). In conclusion I dont think there's 1 true answer to your question. I'd have to say it depends on the circumstances. Does the guy have things/qualities going for him that women throw themselves at him and on his end, select from a pool of women - or vice versa.
Virgo1982 Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 I disagree. I've ended most of my relationships and have turned down plenty of women who wanted to be more than just f**kbuddies. They were too stupid to know they made their choice when they agreed to become your **** buddy. So, I agree with AlphaMale
tanbark813 Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 the point of this post was to make another LS regular eat crow because they did not believe what I was saying. I have now prevailed cos many people have agreed with my point-of-view. And many people disagreed with your point-of-view. You haven't proven s**t. Regardless of your misguided views on dating my personal experiences speak for themselves in terms of forming my own opinions.
pelagicsands Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 Regardless of your misguided views on dating Hang on a second - that's not really fair. Misguided? I think he's just plain wrong. Please be more careful about what you say, in future.
tanbark813 Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 Hang on a second - that's not really fair. Misguided? I think he's just plain wrong. Please be more careful about what you say, in future. You're right. My apologies. (I wish I chose to post this.)
GregsBad Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 I disagree. I've ended most of my relationships and have turned down plenty of women who wanted to be more than just f**kbuddies. I feel unworthy Master. But I'm learning fast. Last week a girl called me first class a**hole. I wish that were true already (I'm working on it). But that honor may only be bestowed on me by another first class a**hole, or better. Anyway ... more to the point: I think if a chick can be with a guy for a bunch of dates without jumping his bones, or at least pawing him, then she's not in to him. Spare me the "Oh I want you, but I'm holding out til I'm sure". A guy can tell (just like a girl can) if you don't feel chemistry. And he should say "next!". If a guy hits and quits it in one or two dates, the possibilites are that it just wasn't so good. Then if she holds out for months and gives it up and he dumps her then, the posibilites are that it just wasn't that good. If she makes him wait for months: He's either getting it somewhere else and lying to her. Or he's low on sex drive and why would she want him unless she is too?
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