sunshine79 Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 okay this may sound ridiculous but something has changed over the past 3 days...maybe i'm an over emotional female today, i don't know... my fiance calls me on his way to work ALMOST every morning to see how i am and how i slept and all since i go to work 3 hrs before him so he's in the bed when i leave... he is in a business that they are high stress nearing hte end of month adn i'm aware of that. so on wednesday was his BIG stress day so i kinda held back and didn't bother him. he ended up working late that night which was fine cause he sent me texts and called and apologized so it was totally cool. the next day (thurs) i talk to him in the morning and he tellsm e about a surprise he has for me (concert) and i can't get overly excited here at work so i showed how i could and he didn't think i was that stoked about it so i think it hurt his feelings and we got off the phone.... that day...he didn't call me anymore (he normally calls on his way to work and then lunch and then afternoon) so i thougth it was werid and 15 mins before he was to leave work i called him at work..he was leaving shortly and was in a great mood. he comes home, we have supper and we're fine...fall asleep on teh couch and that was our night. it got more normal after he was home so now today, h didn't call me on his way to work or when he got there so 2 hrs later i called him, just to make sure nothing had happened...and he said he was busy...so he barely talked to me. i asked if we were diong lunch like norm on friday and he said he wasn't sure he had a lot to do. well excuse me! his busy busy part is over why is he now so busy?? i'm confused...is he mad...does he just not want to talk on the phone at work? should i say something? is he just in a phase and wants some 'him' time during the day and no calls to me...he's trying to get a promotion b ut has been 2 weeks now, why is he all of a sudden so busy he forgets about me???
Woggle Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Maybe it is a very stressful and busy time at work right now. I wouldn't take it personally. Sometimes at work on really busy days I just sit in my ofice when I get some time to breathe. Nothing against the woman in my life but I need to unwind alone before I go back out there.
Author sunshine79 Posted April 27, 2007 Author Posted April 27, 2007 that's what i'm hoping woggle....i dotn' know if i'm being extra needy right now and emotional or what my best friend is going through some tough times with her fiance and i just cant' believe the amount of time that her fiance 'neglects' her and i guess i don't want that to happen to me. i compare a lot of times and i know last week was probably the best week we've ever had nad maybe that's why i'm overanalyzing things. it's not like i think there's another woman or he doesn't like me i guess it hurts my feelings and i don't understand to be THAT busy not to email me or call me or even text a simple i love you. gosh i'm emotional today, huh?
tikigods Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 I use to be able to call my husband several times a day (when I hated my job LOL), but now that I am in a place I like, and actually doing stuff I find it hard to get on the phone to just give him a little call. Sometimes things come up and if he is stressed then it might not be his number 1 priority, the only other thing is is why don't you give him a call?
Author sunshine79 Posted April 27, 2007 Author Posted April 27, 2007 i did give him a call yesterday and this morning...and he apologized this morning for not having a chance to call me...i don't know, just weird to me that the busiest is over for the month and he still cant' find time to call me like normal? i guess i'm over reacting but it irks me. he's been in a weird mood. i actually saw him at lunch (he called and wante to know if i was giong to be at home when he went so that was nice) and he was being in a weird mood. i guess he has a lot on his mind with his job and promotion... and now to top it off he told me that his mom called him hysterical and she had gone to the dr and she may either be anemic or have leukemia. now why can't they tell the difference?? she has to wait until monda y to get hte tests back. i'm lost. i know this is weighing on him and i hate it for him i hate it so bad. his dad died of cancer 2 years ago and this really is going to be hard on him if it's anything serious. i dont' know what to do, what to say, i'm just praying for her and hope she is just anemic and can change her diet and it's nothing major. how scary. this won't help adding to the already job stress...ugh... thanks for the advice
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 The last thing you want to do is make calling you an obligation. If he sees that calling you is no longer his choice, but your demand (complete with emotional punishment for not calling) - then the seeds of resentment will be planted. All that has to happen for it to grow into a full blown resentment is for you to keep making it an issue.
Star Gazer Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 The last thing you want to do is make calling you an obligation. If he sees that calling you is no longer his choice, but your demand (complete with emotional punishment for not calling) - then the seeds of resentment will be planted. All that has to happen for it to grow into a full blown resentment is for you to keep making it an issue. Exactly what I was thinking.
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