Author Miss_Bee Posted May 1, 2007 Author Posted May 1, 2007 everyone says that at your age....hahaha Everyone except you.. being the exception right?
dropdeadlegs Posted May 1, 2007 Posted May 1, 2007 Yeah, that very well could happen. But i've also heard that he likes em older I guess I just have to sit back and stop worrying about her. If they do end up splitting, because he isn't serious, and isn't what he makes himself out of be.. There really isn't anything that i can do about it. Except be her ear and shoulder. I am pretty sure that they will be ok. They are joined at the hip, and are still in the honeymoon stage. But thank you all for your insight. Miss_Bee, I wanted to clarify my opinion about his age/maturity. I don't think he is necessarily not serious, or not who/what he makes himself out to be. I'm very sure that he thinks he is completely up to the task of taking on a large ready-made family. Perhaps he even idealizes the situation. The reality rarely has the same outcome as the fantasy. Life is hard. Life with 6 children is much harder. When I said that at 25 I didn't have a clue about what I wanted, let me be clear that I sure THOUGHT I did. I have been married twice, and I don't think I really understood love. I thought I loved them, and I did care for them, but I was attempting to rescue men those from themselves. I did it in the name of love and made myself crazy and miserable. I never felt appreciated because they didn't seem to feel they needed any rescuing. I'm 42 and the love I have now is so different. Maybe when I'm 60 I'll be right here on LS saying "in my 40's I was still clueless as to what love was." My point is that people change and grow constantly. Maturity continues throughout life. The lucky ones are in relationships that grow and mature in similar ways and at similar speeds. The rest of us are hopefully learning from our mistakes and trying to make better choices next time. Alpha is probably right in that your sister makes bad choices in male partners. I have made a lot of bad choices, too. Some of them hurt me badly, but I only have myself to blame for being so blind in many ways. I don't think anybody telling me I was making mistakes mattered one bit. We are all on our own quests in life. My mistakes have made me a better person overall. I hope I make better choices from the lessons learned, but I acknowledge that I still have a lot to learn about relationships and life in general.
Pyro Posted May 1, 2007 Posted May 1, 2007 Yeah, that very well could happen. But i've also heard that he likes em older I guess I just have to sit back and stop worrying about her. If they do end up splitting, because he isn't serious, and isn't what he makes himself out of be.. There really isn't anything that i can do about it. Except be her ear and shoulder. I am pretty sure that they will be ok. They are joined at the hip, and are still in the honeymoon stage. Thats all that you can do Bee is be there for her. After the "honeymoon" phase is when the real test will begin. Like I said before, just keep your ears and eyes open, but I do wish her the best.
alphamale Posted May 1, 2007 Posted May 1, 2007 Alpha is probably right in that your sister makes bad choices in male partners. damn right!
Pyro Posted May 1, 2007 Posted May 1, 2007 We are all on our own quests in life. My mistakes have made me a better person overall. I hope I make better choices from the lessons learned, but I acknowledge that I still have a lot to learn about relationships and life in general. Love the attitude DDL. If only more people though this way.
dropdeadlegs Posted May 1, 2007 Posted May 1, 2007 Love the attitude DDL. If only more people though this way. Thanks Riddler. Some (many) people blame the world and the people in it for their problems. I blame myself for most of my hardships. Sure, sometimes someone truly does me wrong, but I chose to let that person into my life, often while seeing warning flags, so ultimately the only person to blame is me. Aren't the most valuable lessons learned in life a product of our mistakes? I've learned a lot more from my bad choices than from my good ones.
Pyro Posted May 1, 2007 Posted May 1, 2007 Thanks Riddler. Some (many) people blame the world and the people in it for their problems. I blame myself for most of my hardships. Sure, sometimes someone truly does me wrong, but I chose to let that person into my life, often while seeing warning flags, so ultimately the only person to blame is me. Aren't the most valuable lessons learned in life a product of our mistakes? I've learned a lot more from my bad choices than from my good ones. Amen to that. I love to learn. Unfortunately there are many bitter people like that in the world and even here on LS
Recommended Posts