Dadubwa Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 (I'm a lesbian..) My girlfriend and I broke up about 4 weeks ago. She started hanging out with this girl the night before she decided to break up with me. About a week before she broke up with me, I tried to end things with her because out relationship was on the rocks....about an hour after I talked to her, she called me up and was crying and tell me that "she wasn't ready to let go, and she loved me too much, she'd to ANYTHING to stay with me." all that jazz. So I took her back. Then she went to a party at her best friends out (nina's house) Nina and my girlfriend were like best friends, but Nina had this other REALLY good friend named Jess, who was a lesbian. I chose not to go to the party. I supposed there was drinking there. And the next morning my girlfriend calls and breaks up with me. Not even 4 weeks later she's in a relationship with Jess. When my ex came to pick up her stuff, she brought Jess with her, HOW SLEEZY IS THAT!? Anyways, my EX and I have been togethe for almost 2 years. And I'm having a tough time seeing her together with Jess...I know it's going to happen cause the 3 of us have the same friends. I need help... how do I go about not being bitter and upset that I was that worthless to her that 4 weeks later I'm replaced?
boshemia Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 how do I go about not being bitter and upset that I was that worthless to her that 4 weeks later I'm replaced? Well, I would gues you deny you feelings, you deny your anger and you seethe on the inside. OR, you realize that you have a right to be angry, and you have a right to be hurt. They aren't negative emotions, just as physical pain is a symptom of a physical injury... emotional pain is a symptom of emotional injury. When you burn yourself, you don't deny it... hopefully you admit that it hurts, and you give it the proper attention it needs to get better. That means you don't make a scene when you see them together, but you don't try to act like you are okay with it either. Check out http://www.coping.org/coping/intror.htm and see if there are toold there you can use. Especially the tool for handling loss. Meanwhile, don't expect yourself to be superhuman, you are in pain, and it is going to take some time to heal. Allow yourself to take that time, and take care of yourself for awhile.
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