Darth Vader Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Not all of us want to walk on other's lives to get what we want. My xMM lied about being married. I left HIM. Not everyone is out to destroy a marriage. True, on both counts. Some people do lie, and some just don't care.
Darth Vader Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 ..just as MM couldn't include me in everything he wanted without infringing on my life could he.. It does go both ways, whether you're married or not.
Chapter2 Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 That's hilarious...Your screen name is God...very clever. At least you've got the guts to call yourself that....most just think it. Why is that?
Guest Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Not only did I inform her husband, which led to her divorce; I posted her contact details and picture on every sex site I could find, offering free, no strings sex. As I had given her work number, her home number, her mobile number and her home and work addresses she had a lot to deal with.
4whatItsWorth Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Chapter2, "God" means "good/nice" in Swedish....so actually, it does not have to be offensive. You can't walk around being pissed at Swedish ppl if they keep saying "god" I thought the best revenge is to let the OW have the cheater...if I "won" that I'd claim my money back on grounds on the guy being faulty.
Missy27 Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Hi HN I think the ULTIMATE revenge for ANY WS is them to see you upping and outing and living life with a huge great smile on your face Being successful, finding happiness again and walking through life with your head held high in the knowledge that YOU did not break any of the vows that you made. Unless your STBXW is a robot then she will have some kind of consience buried deep down in the pitt of her soul somewhere and when her consience starts to peep through, which it most definately will whether it be tomorrow, next month, next year or next decade she will realise what she has lost and she will die inside. Finding a stunning looking woman with a body to die for to hang off of your arm and flaunt in front of her wouldn't hurt either
Trimmer Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Put the OW/OM on mailing lists, email distribution for STD's... Oh no, you can get STD's from Email? Damn, I really should have bought that anti-virus software after all... For me, my XW is still my kids' mother, and her OM is still in her life, and therefore in my kids' as well. The only thing I care about with respect to XW/OM is that my kids continue to have a healthy, safe life, and there's no way that taking revenge of any kind on either of them would further that cause.
Salicious Crumb Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 As long as an OM stays away from me, I could give 2 squirts of piss what he does. I have better things to do than seek them out and get some sort of revenge. But if there ever were an OM, I would have my wife send him a message...don't ever meet me face to face...that is his warning. If he wants to remain attractive for other women...he'll stay away from me.
Can'tGiveUp Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Why is that? That made me laugh out loud. Thanks! Oh no, you can get STD's from Email? Damn, I really should have bought that anti-virus software after all... For me, my XW is still my kids' mother, and her OM is still in her life, and therefore in my kids' as well. The only thing I care about with respect to XW/OM is that my kids continue to have a healthy, safe life, and there's no way that taking revenge of any kind on either of them would further that cause. Wonderful response...focused on what is truly important.
Author hurting_in_nw Posted April 27, 2007 Author Posted April 27, 2007 But if there ever were an OM, I would have my wife send him a message...don't ever meet me face to face...that is his warning. If he wants to remain attractive for other women...he'll stay away from me. Well in my case, if the OM chooses to stick around, he will HAVE to meet me face-to-face, because our custody agreement states that any possible caregivers for our son must meet with the other parent, and be "approved." If the other parent feels the person is unfit, then it goes to mediation to be resolved.
pureinheart Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Why seek revenge... you know sometimes the best revenge is none at all. Look at the Virginia Tech shootings... I don't believe in revenge. You should not let the hurt take over. OP I know that you are hurting but this thread will do no one any good. I personally hope it gets deleated I don't believe in carrying out revenge either. I think if we all got our just punishment for every wrong done to another, we'ed all be in jail.... I did not "own" my spouse, he was his own person....whether a person chooses to cheat or not is their decision....both actions speak louder than words and should be dealt with according to the individual situation whether to stay or go. Provoking goes both ways....I possibly provoked in some way, or maybe in a big way my spouse cheating on me in the first place.
Chapter2 Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Thanks 4WIW, but I'm not Swedish nor am I pissed at the Swedish. The meaning of God in another country has absolutely nothing to do with what I was referring to nor was I "pissed". What got a reaction from me was the quote "God hates whores". Plus, if you read carefully, the word God does not ever offend me. I'm sure you also went on to read what I was reacting to when I posted it again so I'm a little confused by how you could have misread what I said. My point was that God doesn't hate sinners IMO...he hates sin. Maybe in Sweden "good/nice hates whores" makes sense but I haven't heard that in the US. Chapter2, "God" means "good/nice" in Swedish....so actually, it does not have to be offensive. You can't walk around being pissed at Swedish ppl if they keep saying "god" I thought the best revenge is to let the OW have the cheater...if I "won" that I'd claim my money back on grounds on the guy being faulty.
pureinheart Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Some may see the person who has been wronged as "weak" if they do nothing....in all actuality this person is the strongest alive. It takes great self control not to seek revenge, also this is a well adjusted person. Weak insecure people seek and carry out revenge in all forms, whether it be mild or severe. I have found it is easier to set back and watch people who have hurt me bury themselves....and in the meantime find a safe place to vent with supportive, stable people who will keep my head in the right direction, and who will not gossip nor spread kaos. To the betrayed in this forum....I understand and have been there myself concerning the hurt and pain of being cheated on. Revenge will only make one look bad and immature, even joking about it is uncool in my book, as the hurt is no joke and should be dealt with accordingly. To stay caught up in the thoughts or actions of revenge will only halt your own growth and maturity. Working on ones own self is always the best plan of action as we cannot change the past.....move on, you'll feel better about you.....
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