staystronggirl Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 Hi, new here, sorry if I don't get the abbreviations right. I ended a 2 year A over a year ago. I was in love and was hopeful for a long time that it'd work out. He and I still work together. His W is away and he invited himself on a weekend trip I and a bunch of friends are going on. Noone in the group knows. I know he wants to renew our old arrangement, why wouldn't he? I've been very careful over the past year not to put myself in compromising situations, but I'm starting to talk myself into it!!!..Help! How should I safeguard my self and my heart from him?
scaredinlove Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Hi, new here, sorry if I don't get the abbreviations right. I ended a 2 year A over a year ago. I was in love and was hopeful for a long time that it'd work out. He and I still work together. His W is away and he invited himself on a weekend trip I and a bunch of friends are going on. Noone in the group knows. I know he wants to renew our old arrangement, why wouldn't he? I've been very careful over the past year not to put myself in compromising situations, but I'm starting to talk myself into it!!!..Help! How should I safeguard my self and my heart from him? Avoid staying along with him , stay with the group! Good Luck and stay strong.
whichwayisup Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Do you want to suffer and feel pain, confusion and heartache like you did before? My guess is no...Do what you can to stay away from him, don't put yourself in that situation with him that something could happen...One night of passion isn't worth the loss of your self respect! Stay strong and say NO.
outofdarkness Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Hi, new here, sorry if I don't get the abbreviations right. I ended a 2 year A over a year ago. I was in love and was hopeful for a long time that it'd work out. He and I still work together. His W is away and he invited himself on a weekend trip I and a bunch of friends are going on. Noone in the group knows. I know he wants to renew our old arrangement, why wouldn't he? I've been very careful over the past year not to put myself in compromising situations, but I'm starting to talk myself into it!!!..Help! How should I safeguard my self and my heart from him? Why can't you just tell him it's the girls only?? Guys generally don't like to tag along on a girl's wknd or even girl's night out..
Seen_It_All Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 LOL .. of course he wants to start things up again - it was all WIN/WIN for him during the affair. Why wouldn't he want to start it up again? There's not a whole lot of effort he has put into it, especially if he's got a compliant OW on the side whose always waiting for a few precious moments of his time - and is only too happy to MAKE those stolen moments the best she possibly can. Why would he turn that down? He still gets the security of his wife, family, home, job, etc. So it's not like he has to actually sacrifice anything to get your adoration, right? His life will continue exactly as it always has, but now he'd have YOU enhancing it on the side. Of course he's going to take it if you're offering it. It's been a year since you dumped this user. One YEAR. Why on God's green earth would you even consider going BACKWARDS like that?
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