Cossette4 Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 I find myself wondering this because despite 7 months of no contact, I haven't been able to let this go. I still think about him and what he did every day, and I either get sad, angry, vengeful, hurt, or bewildered when I do think of him. I don't check his or the skank's Myspace anymore (and haven't since February), and I am proud to say that I didn't respond to a text message I got on April 9th from him after 7 months of no contact that said "call me sometime." I guess what would set me free is an acknowledgement that the skank he ran to and immediately moved in with following the breakup was a rebound, and that he couldn't so easily forget about me or what we had for 5 years in the long run. The text message out of no where after 7 months was a glimmer of hope that he was beginning to see all of this, but of course, there are 100 other interpretations for why he sent it, and since I didn't respond back, I'll never know for sure. I know I don't want him back, but I do want justice in this situation--I want to know that people can't just run from their issues and bury their pain by dating on the rebound, or that people can't just run off with someone and be totally in love with them immediately just days after ending a 5 year relationship when the ex girlfriend and the new girlfriend are polar opposites in looks, intelligence, and morals. This whole mess has never made any sense to me, and the insanity of everything he's done continues to eat away at me. I still can't believe it ended like this and he is the person he is now. Obviously, NC helps because I couldn't handle seeing his face or hearing his voice, but I'm just not totally positive that NC alone will heal me I need *something* to happen to make this okay again. I want to witness his "what goes around comes around" and I want to hear it from him that he's sorry, that he's made the biggest mistake of his life, that he regrets everything, so then I can hand him this big bag of suffering and be like, "Thanks for taking this off my shoulders...It's yours to deal with now."
krzr Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 your not gonna get any of that so continue no contact because it will get better one day u will wake up and it just snaps that u have moved on. sometimes u never totally get over it but u finally meet someone else and invest urself into that relationship and forget about your past. and thats just what u are to him the past so dont reply to that txt it was just a feeler. if he really wanted u back he could send something like ive been thinking about u and missing u alot lately maybe we can meet up and talk or something like that.
shockandawed Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 Hey Cossette, You know we are pretty familiar with each others stories. It has been 4 months for me and I still think of her daily and have the same experiences you have for the most part. She is supposedly getting married within a month already. So I completely understand your frustrations with his rebound. I don't think NC alone will work for you. You have to forgive him at some point and quit waiting for him to fall on his rear over all of this. I understand so much why you want that, but it is causing you to put your life on hold until it happens. I am sure his relationship will unravel and karma will bit him in the a@(, but it may take some time..why put your life on hold until it does? What have you been doing for yourself? Have you dated anyone? I am not suggesting jumping into anything serious, but it wouldn't hurt to casually get out there and see what the possibilities are. I know that helps me quite a bit. At first, no one stood a chance, but I have met a couple who have made me realize I could fall for someone again. Unfortunately, I don't think either will work out, but it has awaken me to the fact I will love another again. And in the meantime, I am meeting some unique and interesting people. Hang in there and worry about Cossette and not him. He is an idiot who sounds like he had some oats to sow. I am certain he will regret this some day. Just make sure that by then, you have completely moved on. You are too good to ever be with this clown again. Thank the man upstairs you found out about him before you got married.
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