Icantletgo Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 As you all know I'm doing nc with my ex. Today is the 7th day. One whole week. I was doing GREAT for a couple of days.... But I found out that my ex and his new chick are official now. I'm really extremely hurt that he has completely moved on and that he says he loves her now. I am soo hurt that i can't move on yet but he did it with EASE. He did it willingly. My only strength is knowing that HE didn't end the friendship between us because THEY got together. My strength is knowing it was MY choice and I did it before they got together, before HE ended it. Oh well. NC is for the best, but I can't help but feel sad and lonely today.
2ndIINone Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 Cheer up buttercup... you don't realize this now, but you will soon enough .... you are gonna look back a couple months from now and literally LOL at this poor sap you're upset about. Trust me.
primed7 Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 Just to say hold on and ride through these tough times. You WILL get better, just keep up with the NC. It works, ride out the loneliness and it'll get better. ((((Hugs))))
Trialbyfire Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 You'll experience waves of relief, happiness, sadness, anger, depression, remorse and regret. This will continue for awhile. As NC continues, sooner or later, the positive feelings will slowly overcome the negative ones until you simply stop caring. In effect, you've finally let go. Keep strong. This guy's a jerk who doesn't deserve you.
MattNZ Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 Jeez it's a rollercoaster ride eh!!! Only a couple of days ago you were up on a high! One can only assume that with time, these highs and lows become less extreme and we can begin to lead our lives on a positive note again? My heart goes out to you ICLG!
Shandy Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 Hi, it's day 12 of nc for me. I'm going through this too so I know how it feels. Some days I feel great but other days I'm so depressed. Like today, I can barely get myself out of bed. But I log onto LS and see your post and feel that you are feeling exactly the same way as I do. We are in this together at the same time and we can get through it!!
AriaIncognito Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 I'm on what, day 18 I think? It has it's ups and downs. I had something occur today that made me really want to email him and tell him about it. But, I talked myself out of it. You do what you have to. Just try to keep in your mind that you're doing this for YOU so that YOU can one day be as happy as YOU deserve to be. The heck with him, right?
Author Icantletgo Posted April 27, 2007 Author Posted April 27, 2007 Just got back from working out. Feel happy again. It's hard. OMG so hard. But then I try to remember how i felt when he lied to me, when he chose HER over me, when he didn't text back fast enough, or when he didn't call/text at all...and I feel relieved that I am here now, because I chose this. Thanks so much for your continued support. We will all get through this together. Much love!
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