BohemeRose Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 In another thread, someone mentioned that they were tired of having friends who were putting him/her down about his/her LDR. It was suggested that it was brought to a new thread, and since no one else did it, I figured I would! I know that I have this problem, myself. My friends don't seem to understand that constantly pointing out how long it's been since I've seen my boyfriend and how it's not a "normal" relationship isn't helping me. At all. It doesn't make me want to leave him and it doesn't make me feel any better about myself. So why do these LDR skeptic friends, who are supposed to care so much about our well-being, seem to do all in their power to end something that makes us happy, to spite the hardships? Thoughts? Opinions? Rants?
Poboy Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 these friends are not trying to end something, infact they are looking out ( trying in their way to help out ) for you by hinting that you should meetup since its an understanding that if you dont regularly , ldr wont work... thats what friends are supposed to tell right ? if you dont like it , tell them so and they'll get it.
Author BohemeRose Posted April 27, 2007 Author Posted April 27, 2007 these friends are not trying to end something, infact they are looking out ( trying in their way to help out ) for you by hinting that you should meetup since its an understanding that if you dont regularly , ldr wont work. See, now, my only reservation about that is, my best friend used to be the BIGGEST anti-LDR friend to constantly poke and prod for me to look for something more local....that is until she found herself in an LDR of her own. Now all of a sudden she doesn't make a peep. Maybe it's one of those "walk a mile in someone else's shoes" kinda dealie. <~ because I can. bunny.
catrocks Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 One of my best friends is in a LDR and has been in one for 3 or 4 years. My other two best friends have been in LDRs, neither successful but both lasted a few months. These are the ONLY people I can talk to properly about my LDR, because they truly know what it feels like. It was easier for me because I was living in a very international city and going to an international university, so LDRs seemed to be common there. But I am now living back in crappy England where most people I talk to have been going to the same bars and dating the same people from the same towns for years. I don't think they can even comprehend how an LDR works. I'm not saying that I am above them in any way, it's just different. People tend to judge situations by the situations they themselves have been in. So, in a very long and drawn out way, I'm trying to say that these people will never understand until they experience an LDR themselves, like you said. I find it best not to talk to these people about my relationship because they either change the subject or look at me like I'm an alien.
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