Guest Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 Hi there, ive been looking on posts and cant seem to find anyone writing in with what I am thinking so I thought I would ask. My husband and I have been married for 12 years and have a 4 year old. Things had been pretty great untill our daughter was born. Then over the last few years having a demanding child took a toll on us. We started fighting more and more. Both of us were at fault and started to neglect each other and become more unhappy with each other. We both have said some harsh things, but it seemed that more frequently my husband would resort to name calling and making me feel like I was not worth much at all. About six months ago I went into counseling and tried to use some of the advice given in the book The Proper Care and Feeding of husbands and in the end only resented my husband more. Now we have both been in counsling for about a month and my husband is really tring to change, the problem is that I feel so empty inside that I dont think I have anything left to offer to the marrage. We had gotten in a huge fight a few months ago and it was like everything in me snapped when my husband was yelling at me like I was 2 years old. I cried for a few days and desided that it would be best if I left. Thats when he desided to go to counseling and things started to change. But I dont feel anything for him anymore. Part of me wants this to work, I dont understand why I wouldnt. But another part of me is done, I dont want to cry anymore, I dont want to feel like I am a no body. I am so confused. The other thing is that my husband is starting to give up too and I dont think I have enough or even care to fight for this marrage. I hope this makes some sense. Please any thoughts would be helpful
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