Pyro Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 So true. Quite the strong message... *reluctantly puts the bus into park* So I've reached you.....
pelagicsands Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 *reluctantly puts the bus into park* Can I watch you get off, please?
Trialbyfire Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 So I've reached you..... For a few minutes. You know I like driving. What would South Park be like without Ms. Crabtree? Yes, I know it's no good to be bitter but I'm working on the anger issue. In some ways, it is an effective protection mechanism to ensure that I don't get suckered again by the same person. It's also a way to inject some dark humour into certain threads. Can I watch you get off, please? Since you asked politely...maybe...
Pyro Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 For a few minutes. You know I like driving. What would South Park be like without Ms. Crabtree? Yes, I know it's no good to be bitter but I'm working on the anger issue. In some ways, it is an effective protection mechanism to ensure that I don't get suckered again by the same person. It's also a way to inject some dark humour into certain threads. If you read that link that I sent with her picture, they actually killed off her character a few years back, but that won't happen here. We all go through the bad times. I mean, isn't that what makes us stronger? At least you admit it and you are working on it. Lots of people will do the easier thing and not try to improve and keep their guard up and generalize the entire opposite sex into one bad group. Some good humor can come out of our bad experiences. At least you can go back and laugh about it. That is proof that you were able to conquer that chapter in your life.
Trialbyfire Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 If you read that link that I sent with her picture, they actually killed off her character a few years back, but that won't happen here. We all go through the bad times. I mean, isn't that what makes us stronger? At least you admit it and you are working on it. Lots of people will do the easier thing and not try to improve and keep their guard up and generalize the entire opposite sex into one bad group. Some good humor can come out of our bad experiences. At least you can go back and laugh about it. That is proof that you were able to conquer that chapter in your life. Hahaha...you can't kill Ms. Crabtree. She'll be reborn in people like me. I enjoy the company of men too much to group them together as one. That's why I created that...arsehole phrase...within poly's thread. It's fun to vent, even when you wouldn't do the things that you write about.
Pyro Posted April 27, 2007 Posted April 27, 2007 I enjoy the company of men too much to group them together as one. That's why I created that...arsehole phrase...within poly's thread. It's fun to vent, even when you wouldn't do the things that you write about. There is hope for you afterall. It is very fun indeed. Life is too short to be taking it seriously all the time.
Author fray718 Posted April 28, 2007 Author Posted April 28, 2007 I IMed him today and I can tell he no longer is interested and I asked him what happened...I told him to just be honest....he said {I seemed really nervous that night}. Indeed, I was sorta nervous that night and he even asked me if i was nervous. He started putting his hand up my shirt but I gently grabbed it and put it on my back instead. From what I learned from this (correct me if im wrong)...its better to put off making out (since i only dated this guy for 2 weeks) until at least perhaps a bit longer because for some reason sometimes guys can lose interest after making out. Not in all cases ofcourse, but for me as being so inexperienced its probably best to keep the romance light and fluffy in the beginning. What do you think of this? Maybe this is the strategy for me for the most part? I'm one of those innocent-looking and slightly awkward girls.
Trialbyfire Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 If I were to interpret his words, I would say that he originally wanted to know if you would put out and you didn't. When you showed him how nervous you were while making out, he realized that you were innocent. It sounds like he was looking for one thing...
pelagicsands Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 I IMed him today and I can tell he no longer is interested and I asked him what happened...I told him to just be honest....he said 'you seemed really uncomfortable that night...i guess i was looking for something different, What does IM stand for? Instant Masturbation??
VinaAmez Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 It's time to move on if you don't hear from him. I think you should STOP questioned everything you do and every move. You'll drive yourself nuts. You have no idea why he hasn't called. It's most likely not the kissing so don't worry about it.
pelagicsands Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 , I would say that he originally wanted to know if you would put out and You are so crude.
VinaAmez Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 What does IM stand for? Instant Masturbation?? Thank you for that. I'm not going to look at IM the same anymore.
pelagicsands Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Thank you for that. I'm not going to look at IM the same anymore. Is that your IM avatar, too? Nice.
VinaAmez Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Is that your IM avatar, too? Nice. No it's not me. My a** isn't that big.
pelagicsands Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 My a** isn't that big. Don't be so critical, until you've at least tried one.
VinaAmez Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Don't be so critical, until you've at least tried one. Oh excuse me...how stupid of me.
Star Gazer Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 If I were to interpret his words, I would say that he originally wanted to know if you would put out and you didn't. When you showed him how nervous you were while making out, he realized that you were innocent. It sounds like he was looking for one thing... Exactly. Go back and re-read my earlier post. The fact that you made out with him (regardless of how quickly it happened or how long you waited) played no role in his decision to bail. He chose to bail because he could tell from your personality that you weren't going to put out easily. He was looking for someone who would. That's the "piece of the puzzle" he was looking for...and he was only looking for ONE particular puzzle piece: SEX. I know it sucks, but seriously, consider yourself lucky that this guy did NOT get what he wanted, because if he did you'd be a lot more hurt.
Trialbyfire Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 Exactly. Go back and re-read my earlier post. The fact that you made out with him (regardless of how quickly it happened or how long you waited) played no role in his decision to bail. He chose to bail because he could tell from your personality that you weren't going to put out easily. He was looking for someone who would. That's the "piece of the puzzle" he was looking for...and he was only looking for ONE particular puzzle piece: SEX. I know it sucks, but seriously, consider yourself lucky that this guy did NOT get what he wanted, because if he did you'd be a lot more hurt. Exactly. If and when you decide you're ready for it, make sure it's with someone very, very special, who cares about you and is patient with you. Be glad you got away from this one.
Author fray718 Posted April 29, 2007 Author Posted April 29, 2007 Exactly. If and when you decide you're ready for it, make sure it's with someone very, very special, who cares about you and is patient with you. Be glad you got away from this one. Wow guys, thank you all so much. I do feel much better. He had told me when I asked him what happened also that he was not just looking for sex at all and that he takes things very slowly as well....but based on what he said about the piece of puzzle, he sounds somewhat contradictory. How can he be so slow if he was sticking his hand up my shirt (I gently took his hand and put it on my back instead that night). But ofcourse, Im still rather disappointed as this guy did seem like the nice guy type and he's not very attractive either....I thought oh maybe I should date a guy who is physically unnattractive and maybe the chances of him appreciating me will be higher. I suppose in this case, not so. Funny thing is that my ex from a year ago had told me that he thought it was so cute whenever I got all awkward and innocent during those physical moments (and my ex was much more attractive than this guy as well...when my friends met him, their first words to me always were "he's cute!" =) ). I just need time to get comfortable with someone new. I personally think its dumb that this guy used this as his reason to write me off so quickly. But it's ok, I know that over time I'll discover someone who appreciates me.
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