mandypandy Posted April 25, 2007 Posted April 25, 2007 i am BIsexual me and my man have been together for 3 years we are currently taking some time to our selfs we live together so its not totaly to our selfs lol well i have done some bad **** in the past and he wants to have a threesome not just because im bi but because he feels it would make things fair without hurting me and he dosent want to be with no one else BUT as many girls as i'ev been with i have never been with my man and a girl im scared i know people who have and they said it ****ed with their head and i already have had issues in my past (with my head) but it does turn me on to think about it on the other hand it scares me to have that vision of him ****ing this girl (whoever she is) and thats another thing who would we do it with? not one of my friends because if he ended up talking to her i would kill them and im scared of std's from a stranger someone help i dont know if i can do this
VirtualInsanity Posted April 25, 2007 Posted April 25, 2007 i am BIsexual me and my man have been together for 3 years we are currently taking some time to our selfs we live together so its not totaly to our selfs lol well i have done some bad **** in the past and he wants to have a threesome not just because im bi but because he feels it would make things fair without hurting me and he dosent want to be with no one else BUT as many girls as i'ev been with i have never been with my man and a girl im scared i know people who have and they said it ****ed with their head and i already have had issues in my past (with my head) but it does turn me on to think about it on the other hand it scares me to have that vision of him ****ing this girl (whoever she is) and thats another thing who would we do it with? not one of my friends because if he ended up talking to her i would kill them and im scared of std's from a stranger someone help i dont know if i can do this Make things fair? He needs to get over the past. Sorry but your SO is stupid to ask this of u.
Chrome Barracuda Posted April 25, 2007 Posted April 25, 2007 So let me ask you. Your bi-sexual, you probably slept behind his back even though your in a committed relationship. Thinking that since it's a female it doesnt count because you have no intimate feelings for any of these females. Then he finds out get's frustrated. Since your bi-sexual he wants a threesome with another female in the mix. Your nervous about things? Why are you nervous? Your bi-sexual right, he loves you right, you slept with other females and it didnt count right. (Hey I'm just basing this on what you wrote.) Why would it bother you. If I was him I would have asked for it to be another girl and man!!!. (I'm a freak like that.lol) Maybe not with a man but just to mess with your head, anyways if your cool with having sex with both sexes what's the problem? I'd say go out to a bar with your boyfriend, pick up an attractive blonde that interested, take her back to you all's place and let the freak flag fly.
Chrome Barracuda Posted April 25, 2007 Posted April 25, 2007 Make things fair? He needs to get over the past. Sorry but your SO is stupid to ask this of u. How can he get over his girlfriend cheating VI??? Cheating is cheating doesnt matter if it is with a man or a woman. If I was him I probably do the same thing. It's not fair that she get to have all the fun.
VirtualInsanity Posted April 25, 2007 Posted April 25, 2007 What about STDs? 2 wrongs don't make a right CB. Hey! I missed the cheating part. When did she say that?
Star Gazer Posted April 25, 2007 Posted April 25, 2007 i am BIsexual me and my man have been together for 3 years we are currently taking some time to our selfs we live together so its not totaly to our selfs lol well i have done some bad **** in the past and he wants to have a threesome not just because im bi but because he feels it would make things fair without hurting me and he dosent want to be with no one else BUT as many girls as i'ev been with i have never been with my man and a girl im scared i know people who have and they said it ****ed with their head and i already have had issues in my past (with my head) but it does turn me on to think about it on the other hand it scares me to have that vision of him ****ing this girl (whoever she is) and thats another thing who would we do it with? not one of my friends because if he ended up talking to her i would kill them and im scared of std's from a stranger someone help i dont know if i can do this PUNCTUATION, SENTENCES, PLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEASE!!!!
Chrome Barracuda Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 What about STDs? 2 wrongs don't make a right CB. Hey! I missed the cheating part. When did she say that? Yeah STD's are the tricky part. use protection. Make sure your safe, but hey VI you know girls can give other girls STD's as well. Anything from skin to skin contact. such as HPV. and others. So if she's out there doing dirt behnd her boyfriend's back she shouldnt think she's so safe either.
Trialbyfire Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 Why in the world would anyone consider a threesome, especially considering a situation like this? Are you seriously trying to screw yourself up more beyond the ability to recover? Say no to your b/f about the threesome but do whatever it takes (healthy actions) to make him trust you again.
Chrome Barracuda Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 Yo T trust went out the door when she did. lol. I'm sorry if your bi-sexual but in a committed relationship, if you step out on him embracing your fem side behind his back. In his head he's thinking damn if she cheats before, with a woman. Do I have to worry about if it's a man and woman next time? See it aint gonna be easy. If you cant be faithful to your man and be seeking bi-sexual the two ideas cannot co-exist. One has to go or slow down or just stop. Or your boyfriend (as sick as what I'm going to say here sounds) might just open up and embrace this side of you and want to share in it. I've heard of worse things happening to alot of people I met. Things could be a whole lot worse. Now I'm not encouraging cheating. I never would actively encourage bad behavior. But you guys need a resolution. quick!
insomnie Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 She never said she cheated...just that she's been with a lot of girls in the past. That could mean before she met him.
insomnie Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 Anyway... if you're having any doubts about it, no, it's not a good idea.
Chrome Barracuda Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 She never said she cheated...just that she's been with a lot of girls in the past. That could mean before she met him. i am BIsexual me and my man have been together for 3 years we are currently taking some time to our selfs we live together so its not totaly to our selfs lol well i have done some bad **** in the past and he wants to have a threesome not just because im bi but because he feels it would make things fair without hurting me Boy doesnt seem like she was faithful to me...lol. He wants a threesome to make things fair without hurting me, 3 years and I've done some bad **** in the past. I'm sorry guys but it appears she might have cheated, under pure spectulation and I'm reading between the lines here. What she wrote here just screamed he wants to have a fling just like she did. I'm sorry but I'm calling it like I see it.
insomnie Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 I don't see it that way. When asking for advice, most people would say they cheated if they cheated. To me it simply sounds like she's had more experience and he's jealous or wants an excuse to either have a fling or press for a threesome.
Chrome Barracuda Posted April 26, 2007 Posted April 26, 2007 I don't see it that way. When asking for advice, most people would say they cheated if they cheated. To me it simply sounds like she's had more experience and he's jealous or wants an excuse to either have a fling or press for a threesome. naw doesnt seem right with what she wrote. I feel it. Why would she be nervous about it? and also what **** did she do in the past for him to act this way? Also she never said that she was with him at the time in the past so I just assumed I guess. We need more detailed information from the poster to se the whole story. Alot of inconsistancies. No one wants a threesome to make things fair without hurting me. It implies revenge without the guilt, you feel me?
Author mandypandy Posted April 26, 2007 Author Posted April 26, 2007 ok for the sake of everyone arguing over if i cheated heres the deal we had been together for like 1 or 2 months (we were young and broke up alot) i told him over the phone not to talk to me any more then i was walking over to my friend michelles this GUY that i see every now and then walking around the appts stopped me and asked if i was ok (i was crying) well long story short we ended up having sex but as soon as he "started" i told him to stop (i was drunk) i felt soooo bad that i told my "boyfriend" when we got back together well HE SAYS we werent officialy broken up so in his eyes i cheated!!! other than that i had a few guys callin my phone that WERE my friends but they did wanna get with me so he got pissed so i totaly cut guys off (well we moved ne ways) so knowing that please help me out (sorry i left it out you really gotta be precise in these things huh)!!!! thanx guys
Author mandypandy Posted April 26, 2007 Author Posted April 26, 2007 naw doesnt seem right with what she wrote. I feel it. Why would she be nervous about it? and also what **** did she do in the past for him to act this way? Also she never said that she was with him at the time in the past so I just assumed I guess. We need more detailed information from the poster to se the whole story. Alot of inconsistancies. No one wants a threesome to make things fair without hurting me. It implies revenge without the guilt, you feel me? ok for the sake of everyone arguing over if i cheated heres the deal we had been together for like 1 or 2 months (we were young and broke up alot) i told him over the phone not to talk to me any more then i was walking over to my friend michelles this GUY that i see every now and then walking around the appts stopped me and asked if i was ok (i was crying) well long story short we ended up having sex but as soon as he "started" i told him to stop (i was drunk) i felt soooo bad that i told my "boyfriend" when we got back together well HE SAYS we werent officialy broken up so in his eyes i cheated!!! other than that i had a few guys callin my phone that WERE my friends but they did wanna get with me so he got pissed so i totaly cut guys off (well we moved ne ways) so knowing that please help me out (sorry i left it out you really gotta be precise in these things huh)!!!! thanx guys
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