Deep-N-Doo Posted April 25, 2007 Posted April 25, 2007 I had what I thought was the love of my life. I spent 2.5 years with her through thick and thin. We had disagreements, but we always seemed to work them out. We both are divorced and it seems neither of us were looking to get married but looking for companionship and someone to have fun with. The good times came to an abrupt end. I had the TV on one Saturday, and a relationship counselor talked about two things for a great relationship that you dont see in Hollywood relationships are love and respect. I thought about it and I told her that this is something I had for her was love and respect. I did not expect her to ask me if I felt she was giving the same thing. I had to be honest and tell her that I knew she loved me but sometimes I did not feel she respected me. At first she sarcastically joked, "Well, you have found me out, I dont respect you. Does that mean you are leaving me now?" Then five minutes later she got angry and asked me how could I love someone that didnt respect me? I told her I did not feel totally dissed. But I felt at times she was very unexpectedly nasty to me and no apology. She wanted specific dates and times and I told her I could not come up with them all on the spot. I mentioned a couple of occassions and we talked it out a half hour. We came to an agreement that if I felt disrespect on her part I would tell her about it and we would work it out. Problem solved. We went to breakfast and we did things together that day and it was great to lift that burden off my shoulders and I felt a true connection. The next day I ran my typical Sunday errands and thought about how much I loved her all day long. I went and got her a love card and brought that to her house with dinner. She read the card.... it was a funny love card and laughed. Then she asked me, how long did I feel she had disrespected me. In my mind I thought, didnt we settle this yesterday? I wanted to clear the air and I did, why are we back to this subject? I told her I didnt know. Maybe a couple of months. Then she stopped talking to me. Then she stopped eating and left the dining room and went upstairs. Five minutes later she came down and told me that she felt I had withheld this from her and she did not like it when I would not tell her things. She said she was angry with me and told me to get out of her house. I asked her to calm down and lets talk about this. She said she did not want to talk about it and told me to get out. In the almost three years together she has NEVER thrown me out of her house after an argument. (really it wasnt an argument because I never got a word in edge wise) I was very angry and confused. I was not thinking with a straight mind and grabbed my belongings and layed my copy of her house key on the table and left. She came after me at the door with the rest of my personal things and said you forgot this. I decided to give her 5 days to cool down. She never called me once. I left her a message on the fifth day as she would not pick up the phone. The next day I sent her a text message... no response. The next day I tried to call her twice and she would not pick up her home or cell. That evening I sent an e-mail with an apology to save face even though I did not think I was in the wrong.... again, you guessed it, no response. I decided after that to go with NC as she was making no effort to reconcile after an argument (as usual). 2 weeks later I was at a party with my friend and the female contingent told me to send her flowers. In a desperate leap of faith I did send her flowers.... no response... no nothing. Here we are almost 5 weeks later and still NC from her. I am about to say sayonara. I wonder what I did wrong? Should I maintain NC? Do any of you think she will after a month or two contact me and what should I say. Right before this all happened she was the love of my life, but now I feel like I was used and her doormat.
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