KaneNAbel Posted April 25, 2007 Posted April 25, 2007 Me and this girl called it quits about a month ago. We had a deep emotional connection but I think that she 'psychologically' prepared herself for this break because a) She had tons of emotional baggage from her ex she couldn't get over which directly affected our relationship and it was getting worse and b) we were together for 3 months and in another 4 months, she was leaving for 5 years to get her PHD so she didn't want the relationship to consume here especially since we were dealing with the other crap. Well, on the night of the break, she came over we gathered her stuff, we were intimat one last time and I left the room afterwards. I had to cards she gave me with sentimental stuff in it in the room. I can't remember where I put them, but I can't seem to find them anymore. It's a possibility that she found and took them when I left the room while she was looking around for any clothing she had left behind. I just don't understand why someone would take those cards though. Especially since there were tons of emails sent to me that were worse in the sentimental department. Maybe because I had left them on the floor underneath my dresser (I think) and she was offended about me treating them that way so she kept them? Maybe she didn't want to have record of how sentimental she got because in the cards she mentions how amazing I was and how she likes the both of us getting to know each other? (She was the one who ultimately initiated the break.) Anyway, this is the one of the many questions I have about the situation but I can't ask her because we were NC ever since that night and I don't plan on breaking it.
Author KaneNAbel Posted April 25, 2007 Author Posted April 25, 2007 Hey, I see people looking, but does anyone, anyone at all have insight on this?
Icantletgo Posted April 25, 2007 Posted April 25, 2007 How long have you been NC? Are you sure she took it and not just placed them somewhere else? Maybe she felt guilty that you had them and guilty for the things she put in them since she didn't feel that way anymore. When i broke up with my ex, I asked him for a ring I gave him back cause I felt so guilty seeing him wear it or knowing he had it. I made a lot of promises to him when i gave him that ring and I felt guilty that he thought I still held those promises.
Author KaneNAbel Posted April 25, 2007 Author Posted April 25, 2007 We've been NC three weeks this day. I'm sure she wouldn't have just place them somewhere else. That does make sense that she would feel guilty about her not feeling that way anymore, but she gave me plenty of emails that were much more sentimental. I guess that she didn't want me to think that she still thought that I was 'amazing'? But she still said I was perfect the night of the break....so it's confusing. I don't know, no one will truly know the dynamic unless you were in my shoes so I appreciate the insight. It makes sense. I'm hoping that since our stint was so short lived that I will get over it quickly and perhaps I can meet up with her before she leaves for school so we can just talk. But until I feel that I don't want to be with her anymore or at least have the ability to shut myself off in that regard, then I won't even bother. It will be like groundhog's day. If I poke my head out and I still see a shadow, then I will have to wait longer. (Bad analogy?)
Icantletgo Posted April 25, 2007 Posted April 25, 2007 Just give her her space and time. You will find someone else. But don't look into things anymore. It was her decision to end it, so just move on cause you dont have control anymore.
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