summer33 Posted April 25, 2007 Posted April 25, 2007 I met this guy online about 3 weeks ago (im 25 and hes 24). weve gone out on dates/seen eachother four times now. I really like him and im attracted to him, but im having a hard time figuring out if he feels the same way about me. He seems to me a bit shy and nervous when we're together (but then again i might be wrong, i dont think im a good people reader), but he does the whole touch thing, touching me on the shoulder or punching my arm, and he asked me to hang out twice although i was the one that asked him out on the first date. Last time i was at his place (he invited me over) and we were watching tv on his bed under the blankets and i gave him a back rub, and i was sure he was going to make a move (i really wanted him to, at least a hug) but he didnt. I was going to hug him on my way out but he had his dog in his arms. so that kinda got me down in the dumps. Anyways what id like to ask is when does a guy usually make a move (by that i mean a kiss)? if he hasnt done anything by the fourth date does that mean he doesnt like me? Also should i just tell him how i feel about him or wait it out and see... should i make the first move? (which ive never done before by the way). Do guys like it when the girl takes initiative? Thanks!!!
Enema Posted April 25, 2007 Posted April 25, 2007 Depends on the guy. Some will do it on the first date, others will wait. You met online, which makes me think he's going to be a bit behind the average guy in terms of speed. Don't be afraid to make the move yourself if you like him.
AngelofVengence Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 If you're really into him, you should tell him. he might just be too shy to say anything. And most of the time, the shy ones are usually the most caring and sensitive, and more able to make you feel special because they'll share their secrets with only you. I know from personal experience. I met my bf online too, and at first he was really shy, but it was just because he wasn't confident in himself and wasn't sure if I was into him, even though he was really into me. but once I made it clear that i wanted to be more than friends and give the relationship a try, he was sooo happy. Enema, I think you're wrong to judge someone online as being "behind the average guy in terms of speed", because the person may not be looking for relationships online, but maybe just was bored one day and decided to go to a chatline, which was the case of me and my guy. And there is nothing wrong with looking for relationships online these days, many relationships online lasts longer than relationships based strictly on physical attraction because you get to know the personality before anything else. We've been together almost two years now and we are happier than ever, so many of our friends are jealous of us, single or not. I say go for it, Maybe not make a move, but just ask him if he would like to be more than friends. If he says no, you guys will stay friends, if yes, then, congrats. what do you have to lose?
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