input needed :(

[inspiron21]

Ok well i been in a relationship for 5yrs now. Had many ups and downs but alot of great times as well. Its been long distance this whole time im 21 and she is 29 now. The reason i felt like i couldnt go b wit her was the fact that i thought she was incapable of takin care of both of us. I told her that several times, and i worked and saved up and got her a car so she could goto work, got her her jobs, took care of her daughter. I gave her or tried to give her everything she wanted. She kept sayin "oh ur the reason y we are not together, becuz u choose not to come and b wit me" Needless to say for the past five years shes lived wit her mom and moved over 10 times. She was not stable never had a permanent job. Another reason she uses is that my family keeps me over here away from her, which is not true. It was hard on my family first cuz im gay but now they r ok wit it for the most part. So i finally got her a permanent job and helped her get a place of her own now, sumthin she has never had. Right now im a student in college and i have a small business which is able to support her if she needed anything. I told her to wait a few more months and i'll have enough money saved up for her to move here and have the rent paid for at least 6 months. She keeps sayin i did nothin for her, and she did everythin on her own. I was like ok wutever. She has never given me anythin in 5 years, and im not materalistic but i asked her to write me a letter. And her response is "oh i dont do that, or i dont know ur zip code" its been 5 years u think she would know it by now, i've lived at the same place.

 

Anyways during the past five years she has left me witout sayin anythin to me, and would leave for weeks or maybe a month and then call me out of no where. And everytime i would take her back, cuz i missed her and i jus wanted her to b ok. She did that about 5 times. We got back together and she hasnt done it for about the past 2 years. Well yesterday i try talkin to her cuz she didnt even talk to me the two days prior and shes like i jus want to b alone. I need space, ur so selfish, and goes on and on, and that she doesnt want to b wit me. I didnt even see this coming cuz we were gettin along fine before. Im to the point where i had enough of being left alone im 21 and i jus dont want the drama anymore. I've been faithful to her, she knows where im at all the time she knows or has nothin to worry about but i dont understand y she treats me like that. I've given her so much money, and for a letter she couldnt even give that to me . She acts like she can use me wen she feels like. But deep in my heart i love her to death. I dont know, but should i jus do NC for awhile? any input helpful. thanks

[MikeC]

Go NC with her. By you giving into her wanting to be with you over and over, you are giving her power to dump you again. Go NC, and when she contacts you, ignore her. Watch what happens lol.