EX Contacted Me!

[MikeC]

Ok. You all know my story. I have kept NC with my EX. I have met someone else since the breakup. Someone totally different.

 

I knew that my EX would be looking at my MySpace page. It has changed, and she has seen that I have been talking to this other girl. Well, just a few minutes ago I get a message from her on MySpace. Now, this is after TOTALLY IGNORING ME for weeks now. I sent her nothing for a week and half now on my end.

 

"What's up? I see you have a girl now. I just want to wish you the best of luck & hope you are happy. Point of advice, don't rush into anything, it will never work out no matter how much you want it to."

 

That was the message. Now, why would she send this? What is she really saying? Giving me advice? Especially when out relationship was rushed from both sides. This seems odd.

 

I wanted to respond back right away, but I told myself NO! I am not giving her the satisfaction. Atleast now now.

 

Please give me your input about the whole situation. Thanks alot.

[MikeC]

Update.

 

Since I didn't respond right away, she must have been inclined to send me another message.

 

"Oh and by the way, if you want to talk or need some advice give me a call. Have a good night"

 

What the hell is that? She saw I read the message but didn't respond. I don't want to go NC with her, but I want her to sweat alittle bit.

 

Thanks.

[Island Girl]

She is seeing you are moving on still wants to be significant.

 

It is the old "I DON'T want YOU but I still want you to want ME and only ME - even if you meet someone else".

 

She is warped and hoping by yanking your chain you'll come running to show her she still has your devotion.

 

Why don't you want to go NC? You have a new girl now.

 

She is sweating - that is why she opened the door up for a call. "I'm willing to talk to you and give you a little attention" -- Now she waits to see if you'll jump at the chance. Don't.

[Trialbyfire]

If you want to keep LC, just respond back with:

 

"Thanks for the offer but I'm doing great. :)"

[MikeC]

Here is the thing. I still want to be friends with her.

 

I KNOW it wouldn't be anything more, as I have LOST those kinds of feelings because what she has done. What has frustrated me since the breakup was that she said she wanted to be friends, but was acting so arrogant about things. Now she sees I am moving on and it bothers her. I also noticed that she now logs back onto AIM now, whhich she has been off of the last few weeks.

 

I still have the key to her apartment and she hasn't mentioned getting it back yet. I want it to be where we could still hang out with no strings attached. She isn't a bad person, she just can be hard to talk to sometimes.

 

No Contact isn't an option right now. She got her space, now wants to talk. I have been wanting this, only on a friendly level.

 

I'm asking from the perspective of how I would handle the situation without NC. Thanks for listening.

[MikeC]

Hahaha. Finally got some answers.

 

I decided to say screw it and call her. I have no feelings for her, so it made it easier. Boy, I'm glad I did.

 

Instead of ignoring me like always, she picked up right away! Told me that she was ignoring me, not to be a bitch, but to totally remove her from my life so I could move on and not be 'clingy'. When she broke it off, she said she was happier being single. Well, at the end of the relationship, she had started talking to this guy who she knew from her childhood who had found her on MySpace. Well, low and behold, she is moving forward with him. Wait, didn't you want to be single? lol

 

But, this guy is LD, so she said it is perfect that she can't see him all the time. Thats what she wants. But now all her plans are changing around this guy. Gonna move back to NY in a year. Talkin to him on the phone for hours everyday. It felt weird, we were talking like damn good friends haha.

 

Anyways. This bothered me at first, but realized that we both had moved on. Just weird how she said she wanted to be single for awhile, then jumped into whatever is going on with this other guy. She sounds happy, and thats what matters.

[2ndIINone]

I'm not buying it as fast as you did. I highly doubt she moved on that fast with a guy from her childhood, from myspace, that lives in NY. BUT she wants to be single and is telling YOU that your new relationship won't work? Sounds to me like she's a tiny bit jealous that you moved on... Wants you to think she's moved on as well, but sends you that "your relationship won't work, call me if you want" email just so she doesn't look like an insanely jealous ex.

 

funny how she intiates the contact to shoot down your new relationship, but thinks HERS will work... long distance?

 

 

she's silly.

 

You were better off NOT contacting this broad... and btw, you don't need her friendship.

[MikeC]

Yeah. Seems to be contradicting herself, but hey, thats her life now.

 

I guess what I heard last night was **** I needed to hear. Got answers, instead of living in a dark cave.

 

It is really coming down to letting go of that last bit of feelings left inside of me. Yeah, after contacting her, I did feel alittle bit down, but it quickly went away.

 

lol Funny part is, she told me to stop analyzing everything and just go out and get laid. Said that the next girl I 'hookup' with will take my mind completely off of her. Very strange lol.