Guest Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 I am totally dating a fat guy. I, by contrast, am a size 2. I have never dated a fat guy before. We're not talking chubby, we're talking obese. Man boobs and all. I have no problem with said fat. In fact (for all you women out there who have always wondered), it *IS* totally like a big teddy bear. Here's my condundrum. I am not well versed in "fat etiquette." He's not an inactive guy by any means (we go hiking and biking and stuff) but he's not a marathon runner either. I want to make clear that I am perfectly happy with my fat man. He was fat when I met him, he's fat today, and he's going to be fat tomorrow. Don't want to change anything. I do get the sense that he's sensitive about it though - I have NEVER said anything but positive things about him, the way he "works it," etc. So it's never directly come up. But I do think he's more sensitive and insecure about his weight than he lets on. So here's the thing. Him and I spend a LOT of time together, and we always make an effort to include one another in our activities with friends, etc. I made a commitment to my best female friend that I would help her get into a weight loss regimen this summer. We're going to be running - A LOT. Going to local parks, etc, - it'll be fun. But I know that this running is NOT going to be up my man's alley. I think it would be really hard for him. Do I invite him, being 99% sure that he won't want to go, and risking bringing up the "fat" issue (which I admit, I have avoided like the plague for 6 months now)? Or do I not invite him, going on my assumptions, and possibly risk making him feel excluded? Help?
Guest Posted April 30, 2007 Posted April 30, 2007 I am totally dating a fat guy. I, by contrast, am a size 2. I have never dated a fat guy before. We're not talking chubby, we're talking obese. Man boobs and all. I have no problem with said fat. In fact (for all you women out there who have always wondered), it *IS* totally like a big teddy bear. Here's my condundrum. I am not well versed in "fat etiquette." He's not an inactive guy by any means (we go hiking and biking and stuff) but he's not a marathon runner either. I want to make clear that I am perfectly happy with my fat man. He was fat when I met him, he's fat today, and he's going to be fat tomorrow. Don't want to change anything. I do get the sense that he's sensitive about it though - I have NEVER said anything but positive things about him, the way he "works it," etc. So it's never directly come up. But I do think he's more sensitive and insecure about his weight than he lets on. So here's the thing. Him and I spend a LOT of time together, and we always make an effort to include one another in our activities with friends, etc. I made a commitment to my best female friend that I would help her get into a weight loss regimen this summer. We're going to be running - A LOT. Going to local parks, etc, - it'll be fun. But I know that this running is NOT going to be up my man's alley. I think it would be really hard for him. Do I invite him, being 99% sure that he won't want to go, and risking bringing up the "fat" issue (which I admit, I have avoided like the plague for 6 months now)? Or do I not invite him, going on my assumptions, and possibly risk making him feel excluded? Help? Sorry but if you dident realy care about his size you wouldent be on a internet message bord asking advice about your "Fat guy boyfriend". And if you were realy ok with his size you wouldent have to dance around the subject of it eather. Sounds like hes active for being over weight to me so whats the hang up on haveing him go to the park walking or running with you guys? My advice let him go and find some one you can feel fits you better and you are more comfterable with. theres plenty of women who honestly dont mind dateing a larger guy or girl for that matter be fair and let him find one.
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