Guest Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 My fiancee and I have been together For over a year and We are getting married next month. He is always talking about his ex gurlfriend as if they are steal dating. They were together for 2 years and they still own a house and everything together. Before we started dating she would call him about once a month but when we started dating she started calling about three a week. When she emails him or send him text messages she always says love you at the end. Then For his birthday that just passed she sent him a birthday and in it it said " I miss you and I have been thinking about you alot lately". Its starting to piss me off. When we moved in together he didnt want to tell her. He said that its not important. Then When we got engaged he didnt want to tell her. I know that she wants him back. When I talk to him about he gets mad and says that she is just a friends and he wants to be with me not her. I think that he should stop talking to her and let his past be his past. I feel as if she is going to break us up. I Don't know what to do.
thelittlespoon Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 I'm going to be brutally honest with you - he's obviously not over her. He may say that their relationship is strictly platonic, but there seems to be something much deeper going on there. Do you honestly think that these problems are going to go away after you two get married? They won't. As long as the ex is still in his life, and he still has major ties to her (such as still owning a house with her) there will always be that threat to your guys' relationship. I wouldn't doubt it if he ends up going back to her someday.
addicted2love Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 guest....I'm telling you right now...don't marry this man. If he's still in love with her (he won't tell you that) he will no doubt seek her out again. Even if it's years down the line. My ex looked me up 13 years later. Said he's still in love w/ me, could never get over me, etc and now it's hell for everyone involved. Marriage to this man will not change how he feels about her. I hate to tell you this but I wish someone had told me years ago before I married someone else. It would have saved everyone involved a whole lot of hurt.
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