bigblueeyes Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 After many months of moping, crying, not knowing anything and just feeling like crap, I see a light on the horizon, and it is time to look at the bright side of things. It is finally over and while my A with MM did no last as long as many others here on LS, it was too long as is often the case. I want to thank everyone here on LS, who offered smiles and hugs when I was down. Those who shared their stories and made me feel less alone adrift on a sea of misery. To those who laughed at my angry rants. To those who gave me a real good trashing - even though it hurt like hell and at times was too much. And to those who with kindness made me realise that MM was not such a freaking big deal and that there is a life after an A. Thank you
Freedom Now Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 Congratulations on making it to the other side. You will be fine. There are many of us here on this side of the affair. Have hope. The best is yet to come for you!
Meaplus3 Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 After many months of moping, crying, not knowing anything and just feeling like crap, I see a light on the horizon, and it is time to look at the bright side of things. It is finally over and while my A with MM did no last as long as many others here on LS, it was too long as is often the case. I want to thank everyone here on LS, who offered smiles and hugs when I was down. Those who shared their stories and made me feel less alone adrift on a sea of misery. To those who laughed at my angry rants. To those who gave me a real good trashing - even though it hurt like hell and at times was too much. And to those who with kindness made me realise that MM was not such a freaking big deal and that there is a life after an A. Thank you Hi Bigblueyes, I don't know much of your stroy, however I am glad to hear that you are doing well. It's nice to hear about those that have been able to fully heal and move on. I am right there with you. Finally after a very long time, I feel like myself again. After month's of therapy, Ton's of Rant's here on LS and the support of a close girlfriend of mine, I feel like I can Live again! Hug' and best wishes. AP:)
Author bigblueeyes Posted April 24, 2007 Author Posted April 24, 2007 Not sure I have healed yet, but I do feel that this huge cloud of whatever was keeping me in an unhealthy relationship has lifted. I no longer feel a desire to be with this man, I feel no need to see him, I don't want to see him and I really don't care anymore whether he stays, goes, jumps in a lake It is such a huge relief. And while there may be black days ahead, the sense of relief is so strong that I doubt even the darkest hours can break it. I have loved and I will love again
torranceshipman Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 Good for you BigBlueEyes, it really only gets better from here! I finished it with the MM after a catalogue of his stupid lies and bad behaviour and its only been 3 months - and I'm now with an amazing new guy who is really honest, caring and sweet (and also a bit of a handful, can't help myself, I like just a little bit of trouble!)...I learnt loads from the A, and actually find different things sexy and alluring in a man now, which is a great lesson learned for me...I take note of a red flag IMMEDIATELY these days, and feel proud of myself for walking away with dignity - all the things you'll feel now that you've got rid of MM. I thought I'd miss the xMM a lot but to be honest, when I found out the truth about him, I realised he was just so spineless and cowardly, which is really unattrattractive! Remember those negative things about him and don' romanticise any of the memories and you'll find it easier to forget him. I'll also second that 'thanks to LSers' - without this site I wouldn't have had my eyes opened wide to the reality of what was actually going on. Maybe I'd still be stuck in the A now, what a hideous thought...!!! Good on you BigBlueEyes!
smartgirl Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 You sound happier in this post. I think that is a good sign. I wish you luck and I hope you soon find the real man of your dreams - the one who has been waiting just for you.
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