Guest Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 Why do people put too much interest in oral sex? It is as if marriage is doomed if the couple does not have it in their sex menu. First of all, it is mostly men who think it is such a treat. Honestly, if I love my husband, I wouldn't allow him to go down at all. If he is skillful enough, the hand is even a better instrument in providing variety to the sex activity. It is extremely unsanitary! Why lick a part of the body that excretes malodorous fluid, is extremely prone to infection, let alone closest to another part that lets out the most disgusting excrement? There's millions of germs in there, regardless of how well it is washed prior. Again, the woman's hand and techniques could top the equally germ carrier mouth.
Topper Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 Millions of people both men and woman enjoy giving and receiving oral sex. There is very little evidence that a healthy person will transfer some infection by oral. Of course if your talking about multiple partners and a lack of hygiene that is a different story. If your not comfortable with Oral sex that's fine. Nobody is forcing you to perform or have oral performed on you. As long as you and your partner are happy with your sex life, that is all that matters.
lovelorcet Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 Why do people put too much interest in oral sex? It is as if marriage is doomed if the couple does not have it in their sex menu. First of all, it is mostly men who think it is such a treat. Honestly, if I love my husband, I wouldn't allow him to go down at all. If he is skillful enough, the hand is even a better instrument in providing variety to the sex activity. It is extremely unsanitary! Why lick a part of the body that excretes malodorous fluid, is extremely prone to infection, let alone closest to another part that lets out the most disgusting excrement? There's millions of germs in there, regardless of how well it is washed prior. Again, the woman's hand and techniques could top the equally germ carrier mouth. I am going to have to disagree with just about everything you say here. I guess you are just missing out.
Guest Posted April 29, 2007 Posted April 29, 2007 Why do people put too much interest in oral sex? It is as if marriage is doomed if the couple does not have it in their sex menu. First of all, it is mostly men who think it is such a treat. Honestly, if I love my husband, I wouldn't allow him to go down at all. If he is skillful enough, the hand is even a better instrument in providing variety to the sex activity. It is extremely unsanitary! Why lick a part of the body that excretes malodorous fluid, is extremely prone to infection, let alone closest to another part that lets out the most disgusting excrement? There's millions of germs in there, regardless of how well it is washed prior. Again, the woman's hand and techniques could top the equally germ carrier mouth. If you are that germ phobic, than yes, oral sex is probably not for you. The human mouth, by the way, is pretty filthy, so you probably shouldn't kiss each other either. As for me? I think oral sex is AWESOME. If you don't like it, that's your issue. As for me....I don't think it's overrated at all! Oh, and i'm female by the way
Lizzie60 Posted April 30, 2007 Posted April 30, 2007 Why do people put too much interest in oral sex? It is as if marriage is doomed if the couple does not have it in their sex menu. First of all, it is mostly men who think it is such a treat. Honestly, if I love my husband, I wouldn't allow him to go down at all. If he is skillful enough, the hand is even a better instrument in providing variety to the sex activity. It is extremely unsanitary! Why lick a part of the body that excretes malodorous fluid, is extremely prone to infection, let alone closest to another part that lets out the most disgusting excrement? There's millions of germs in there, regardless of how well it is washed prior. Again, the woman's hand and techniques could top the equally germ carrier mouth. This is one of the most amazing sexual activity. I just love oral sex, receiving and giving. I can do it for a looong time, I really enjoy it but of course both partners have to be squeaky clean. Fingers can carry just as much germs as the genitals. I know I wouldn't stay with a man who don't want to perform oral sex. You are missing out on one of the sexual wonders!
Adick Posted April 30, 2007 Posted April 30, 2007 Why lick a part of the body that excretes malodorous fluid, is extremely prone to infection, let alone closest to another part that lets out the most disgusting excrement? There's millions of germs in there, regardless of how well it is washed prior. Along those same lines, why would I want to put my penis in there! Man you make it sound like a simmering cesspool of disease and pestulance! Have you ever coughed, spat, or produced phlegm--well then along your lines of thinking why on earth would anyone ever want to kiss you? Oral is fantastic to give and get for both sexes. As for that "other part that lets out the most disgusting excrement"--that is not a bad place to play with either! It is all about cleanliness and hygeine.
milvushina Posted April 30, 2007 Posted April 30, 2007 Mine does not excrete malodorous fluid - unless I am sick which does not happen often. It gets shaved and washed everyday and packed in clean underwear. Unlike my hands which touch everything from tables to toilet handles to door handles to money. your hands are GROSS. I am more worried about some guy's mouth germs touching my vagina, so I like for him to brush his teeth first. There is nothing gross about vaginas. And they're only prone to infection if you don't wipe properly. I've only ever had yeast infections when I was on antibiotics, and one UTI. And not to be gross but I do a "smell test" sometimes before and it doesn't smell like anything really. Certainly not a malodorous excretion, EWWWWW
a4a Posted April 30, 2007 Posted April 30, 2007 Eat me I am a donut. For goodness sake someone is looking for validation for their feelings about oral sex. Wash your crotch and have fun.
dropdeadlegs Posted April 30, 2007 Posted April 30, 2007 Actually, I think oral sex is underrated. Giving and receiving. If you don't like it or find it gross, don't do it. I personally would be disappointed if my sexual repertoire didn't include oral, and I think my man would be disappointed, too. What you say about manual stimulation is true, and I enjoy that too. Guess I pretty much like just about anything I've tried, but I have limits, too, things I find gross. Like bestiality.
Adick Posted April 30, 2007 Posted April 30, 2007 Like bestiality. Now there is a topic! Oh...nevermind! If my girlfriend was not into oral sex (in any combination) it would likely be a deal killer for me. I agree--wash your crotch and have some fun!
portableversion Posted May 1, 2007 Posted May 1, 2007 original portableversion Wow, well everybody has their own preferences but I have had run into women(very few) before who had this attitude and its fine just as long as I don't have to live with it or even date that lady. I have no idea why I love going down on my wife-- oral sex was my 1st fantasy and it occurred in dreams then later in day dreams after i had my 1st orgasm at age 11. It really just seems to be a part of who I am to deny it would be to deny who I am (partially) I realize there is more than oral gifts and delights my wife doesn't have a bad odor in fact it drives me crazy and .... its just amazing and wonderful and then if she didn't like giving me oral that too would've been a deal breaker because I know they are out there- ladies who love giving oral --i've been there I wanted to marry the girl but she dumped me but I was changed forever Lady you mentioned( I assume youre female ) marriage trouble you could be heading for some dark times if your man loves it and you have this attitude about it it would probably be difficult to fake enthusiasm too and [/b]I would compare you [/b]to more enthusiastic women I had dated in the past I would want to cheat real bad I'd think about it all the time I've read 2 books touching the subject indirectly ALL You Need is Love and other lies about Marriage by Dr. john Jacobs and NLP and Relationships by i forgot they acknowledge that people need to give a lot of thought about who they are sexually and if you date someone that deviates from where you are the furthur the deviation the greater the dissatisfaction and the increaed likelyhood of infidelity..... basically don't do it you need to be clear and find a man who feels the same way you do and I would be leary if they say well I like it but I could live without it-- just give them 5 yrs and when they hear tales from their friends at work watch out
Tangerina Posted May 1, 2007 Posted May 1, 2007 My BF's ex that he dated for four years never wanted him to do it to her... he did it like once and it made her uncomfortable. I personally love it but after hearing this I was afraid that he wouldn't be very good but boy was I wrong! He is amazing at it. He doesn't do it a ton on his own but just knowing I can ask for it and he will happily do it is enough to keep me happy. I asked him where he learned his skills if he didn't have any practical experience and he said he read tips on the internet when he was a teenager, lol.
DutchGuy Posted May 1, 2007 Posted May 1, 2007 Your concerns about hygiene are silly. Oral sex is the same as kissing, as long as you're not losing blood. It can only help your immune system. For women even, studies have showed that by swallowing sperm their bodies get used to it and they conceive easier. Did you know that when a child is born, their colon gets inmediately colonized by the rectal and vaginal bacteria of the mother? And that this helps to build up their immune system, just like breast milk? For that reason you might want to choose natural birth and breast milk over Ceasarean Section. On a more non-Biologic level: oral sex has a very intimate aspect and is for some women inevitable to climax.
enoughisenough Posted May 1, 2007 Posted May 1, 2007 Well I hope you tell your husband or FUTURE husband this before you marry them. LOL
AFarAwayPlace Posted May 1, 2007 Posted May 1, 2007 The OP's feelings about oral seem really over the top, they could be one of those people who have a germ phobia. For me, I can take it or leave it but I love to perform orally on my boyfriend as I love his reactions, the sounds he makes, it drives me crazy and leads to more fun things.
happygirl70 Posted May 7, 2007 Posted May 7, 2007 I used to be uptight about oral sex and would give it but only because he wanted it so much. I would also let him do it but only because HE really wanted to. He'd actually get frustrated with me when I wouldn't let him. NOW.. that's a different story. I think before I was just insecure about my abilities and about my own body. I totally love oral.. giving and receiving!! Maybe the oral issue with the OP is more of an excuse not to deal with some deep-seated issues rather than germs. I can't speak for them, but that is more of what was going on with me when I had issues with it. Oral sex rocks!!
thelittlespoon Posted May 8, 2007 Posted May 8, 2007 In all honesty, I don't particularly receiving oral. I think it's really gross, and I don't dig kissing my guy after he's had his mouth on my privates. To each their own, right? My boyfriend LOVES when I go down on him, which I enjoy doing because he gets so much pleasure from it. It gives me pleasure watching him go crazy when he receives it. He does go down on me, but I normally stop him after a few minutes and tell him I want to have sex. It works well for us, because we both get what we want in bed.
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