Trialbyfire Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 And really, unless they are saying the magic words "I screwed up, I want you back and I really want to work things out" then why are you talking to an ex? What can you possibly gain from a friendship with an ex? What can you get from an ex, friendship wise, that you couldn't get from your REAL friends? If you counsel someone not to beg, plead or whine, you can't expect the other party to do so, as well. The dumper usually has reasons why they chose to opt out of the relationship. If you continue adult communication with them, perhaps some of those changes have happened with you and with them, enough that your relationship can be repaired. NC based on the bolded text says, until "you say you're wrong...and...you are...too bad, I'm gone".
Yernasia Quorelios Posted April 28, 2007 Posted April 28, 2007 It's worth bearing the following in mind when wondering about someone elses intentions or actions. If a person really wants to work things out, they will work things through to resolution no matter how bad things have got. If a person does not want to work things out (for whatever reason - usually a desire to see if the grass is greener in the other side ), they won't, no matter how good things seem to be. They will find a reason (or reasons) not to resolve the resolvable. Illogical? Yes, because people do not think logically when they are in a highly emotional state of conflict - they think selfishly i.e immaturely. If/When they revert to the adult state you may hear:the magic words "I screwed up, I want you back and I really want to work things out"
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