stace79 Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 God!! Exes can be so horrible! I am on day three of NC (for like the fifth attempt), and I'm actually feeling quite confident (again) that I don't need or want to speak to my ex. I deleted all numbers, texts, voicemails etc from my phone, blocked him on instant messenger, yada yada and so on and so forth. So today, he finds the one way I forgot to block him....leaving a comment on my wordpress blog (I haven't even posted anything new for like two weeks!!!). He says: I understand why you’re doing what you are. The only way you can move on is to have a big blow-up and convince yourself he’s an awful person that didn’t care about you. The reality is I DO care for you, and will really miss my friend. I hope some day you will contact me, you will be happy, and we can begin anew as friends. You’ve added a lot to my life, Kelly. I so want to give him a piece of my mind, and say "look here you dumb f*ck, this is not about what I need to do, and this is not about trying to be able to be friends with you. This is about you being a sick, twisted, mindscrew, and I'm done with you making ME feel like I'm the one losing her mind." I'm so insulted and disgusted that he would even patronize me this way, and find the one way to inject himself into my life. Argghhh!! I know this is what he wanted, a reaction, but I absolutely will not call that MFer. Not a snowball's chance in HeII!!! Thank you for listening to my rant. I needed a place to vent and obviously not even my blog is safe anymore.
Icantletgo Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 OMG. I had the same thing happen to my ex. he dumped me. he cheated on me. but he expected us to be friends and for me to be here for him when the girl he left me for left him??? HELL NO. He would still tell me he cared for me and that feelings were there...just so that I could stay THATMUCH longer. Well I am doing NC again as well. And so far no contact. I know it's going to be hard but we have to stick together. In the long run, we'll thank ourselves for it. Good luck to you. And yes. Our exes are selfish BASTARDSSS
Author stace79 Posted April 23, 2007 Author Posted April 23, 2007 Yeah, his favorite thing to do when I got mad and yelled was grab me, hug me close and say how much he loved me. What an awful thing to do to someone. All this after he told me he couldn't date me anymore because he had to "figure out what was supposed to be between he and his ex-girlfriend." The same ex-girlfriend who strung him along for like two years because she didn't want a relationship until he had me. Blah. Stupid bastard and stupid b!tch. I am going to keep NC just to piss him off. =o)
Davis Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 Hey Stace! Don't do it!! Does he really know if you read the blog? Regardless, as you said, he is looking for a reaction. Any response you give will open the door and he will continue to contact you. Just keep doing NC and move on with you life. SHOW him, don't tell him, that you're not going to be friends.
2ndIINone Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 Hey, you aren't writing anything in your blog that would have to do with him, are you? Or even relationships... frienships..... anything that he could relate to himself and how you are feeling about the situation? and DON'T give him that reaction. You don't need his friendship.... he already proved he's not worthy and incapable of it.
SuziwithaQ Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 Good luck to you Stace. I still haven't gotten the guts to delete mine from myspace or the phone, etc. We've been NC for 5 days and I'm so sad about it, but I know it is for the best. I posted on another thread and no one has responded. I'm really hoping to get some support and would like to offer my support to you as well. Keep up the good work--you are worth so much more than to be f'd around with.
Icantletgo Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 SuziQ. Delete him. It's not healthy to look at his myspace. I had to delete him. I was crying and paranoid on a daily basis, wondering if he's talking to this girl and why did that girl write that.
SweetOlive Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 God!! Exes can be so horrible! I am on day three of NC (for like the fifth attempt), and I'm actually feeling quite confident (again) that I don't need or want to speak to my ex. I deleted all numbers, texts, voicemails etc from my phone, blocked him on instant messenger, yada yada and so on and so forth. So today, he finds the one way I forgot to block him....leaving a comment on my wordpress blog (I haven't even posted anything new for like two weeks!!!). He says: I understand why you
Trialbyfire Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 Yes, he's jacking with you. Good for you for not responding. It's a way to get a response from you by making you angry enough to want the last word. Once you're in a dialogue with them, they reel you right back in. Stand firm. You can do it.
Author stace79 Posted April 24, 2007 Author Posted April 24, 2007 I haven't responded to him, and I refuse to do it. I'm pretty confident it's driving him crazy. Good. I hope he feels half as bad as I have the past few months. I formerly wrote about him and our relationship in my blog, but I haven't written anything in about two weeks, and I don't plan to. If I must write, I started an actual paper journal. I think not writing anything at all, not responding, not blocking him from viewing it -- all that will drive him more nuts than responding or anything. It's like a screaming child....ignore them, and eventually they'll get tired of it or cry themselves to sleep. Thanks for listening to me rant, everybody. Hey, you aren't writing anything in your blog that would have to do with him, are you? Or even relationships... frienships..... anything that he could relate to himself and how you are feeling about the situation? and DON'T give him that reaction. You don't need his friendship.... he already proved he's not worthy and incapable of it.
mental_traveller Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 Stick with the no contact, keep up the good work!
2ndIINone Posted April 25, 2007 Posted April 25, 2007 I formerly wrote about him and our relationship in my blog, but I haven't written anything in about two weeks, and I don't plan to. If I must write, I started an actual paper journal. I think not writing anything at all, not responding, not blocking him from viewing it -- all that will drive him more nuts than responding or anything. Good, don't do it anymore.... even the slightest 'hint' of anything resembling anger or you're being upset would just feed his ego. Ever read peoples headlines on myspace??? Sometimes you can just TELL who is hurting or upset about their boyfriend/girlfriend just from the crap they put in their headline. DON'T leave ANY hints whatsoever that would show him some kind of emotion on your part. Keep up the NC... you're doin' good S~ It's like a screaming child....ignore them, and eventually they'll get tired of it or cry themselves to sleep. Funny, I always though NC was started many moons ago when "time outs" started with kids. Think about it... a young kid is acting up... trying to cross your boundaries... so what do the parents do? Sit em' on a chair... no talking whatsoever... giving the kid time to think about what they did wrong..... can't leave the chair until the PARENT is ready to talk.
Author stace79 Posted April 25, 2007 Author Posted April 25, 2007 Thanks for the support guys. I am going through the anger stage right now, and all I can think of when he pops in my head is "Drop dead, arsehole." However, I do know he probably is with his ex or will be later today/tomorrow. It infuriates me. I so want to e-mail her and tell her all the lovely things he used to say about her, and how he was with me literally three hours before the last time he saw her. Ohhh, I would love nothing more right now than to completely trash his chances with her ever. I guess the only thing that stops me is that I actually have class. Unlike his ex, I won't keep interfering now that he's decided to work things out with her. That's all she did for three months while we were dating exclusively, and I refuse to lower myself to her level. I just wish I could let HER know that this is how a REAL lady behaves. Not like the trailer trash wh@re that she is. Bleh, I hate that girl with the fire of a thousand suns. And he's the idiot who chose her over me!!!!! Good gracious, do I have a lot of anger today.
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