TallNYGirl Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 Hello All Ok i am a 34 year old woman & not happy with dating men & having my number keep going up. I have never slept with someone I wasn't in a relationship with until last weekend. I never in my life had a 1 night stand. I have been with 12 men, I always was in a relationship with someone, throughout my life. I always have a boyfriend. I have dated this guy before fooled around, knew him for 17 years & we ran into each other last week & ended up sleeping together. I don't know why i am so bothered that my number is now 12! I have had friends in high school that slept with everyone. Why does this bother me so much? Why am i so hung up on the number? Just curious ladies, how old r u & how many partners have u had?
melodymatters Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 I am 40 and same as you, only have had sex with men that I was in monogomous relationships with ( well, after a few crazy flings in college, pre-aids days) I don't like the fact that my # would go up, because I have found more damaged men than I would have liked, so I STILL only have sex in serious relationships and convienetly have " forgotten" my number, LOL ( and HERE is another area where men and woman will never be equal, men inflate their number, woman deflate it !)
Kwo-ne'-she Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 I'm 38, and have been with 6 men. All of whom I was in a serious R with. My number may be on the "low" side....but I got married at 17, and was with him for almost 20 yrs.
Trialbyfire Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 I'm in my early thirties and have slept with two men but I'm on the extreme low side of the bell curve of sexual partner numbers.
VirtualInsanity Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 I'm on the extreme low side of the bell curve of sexual partner numbers. Same here. I'm 23 and on the low end.
Guest Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 Melony - So u know how I am feeling. I just hate that all these guys has so many issues. I wish I knew it right up front & not afterwards. haha Yes u r so right. For men to have alot they are studs for us, women we are easy haha. I don't know why i am 34 years old & this bothers me. I guess cause I always thought i'd be married by 25. I don't know why having sex with my friend that I knew for 17 years is bothering me, its not like he was a complete stranger or anything. I must be PMS'ing haha Any of my friends would be bragging that they slept with such a good looking guy & here i am upset over it hahaha. I guess since it was the first guy that i am not in a relationship with. Kwo - Do i have this right...... u got married at 17 & was with him for 20 years & had 6 partners? 17 plus 20 is 37...
Author TallNYGirl Posted April 23, 2007 Author Posted April 23, 2007 Melony - So u know how I am feeling. I just hate that all these guys has so many issues. I wish I knew it right up front & not afterwards. haha Yes u r so right. For men to have alot they are studs for us, women we are easy haha. I don't know why i am 34 years old & this bothers me. I guess cause I always thought i'd be married by 25. I don't know why having sex with my friend that I knew for 17 years is bothering me, its not like he was a complete stranger or anything. I must be PMS'ing haha Any of my friends would be bragging that they slept with such a good looking guy & here i am upset over it hahaha. I guess since it was the first guy that i am not in a relationship with. Kwo - Do i have this right...... u got married at 17 & was with him for 20 years & had 6 partners? 17 plus 20 is 37...
Trialbyfire Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 Same here. I'm 23 and on the low end. I'm starting to wonder if I need to go out and get me some more.
melodymatters Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 On the positive side, I WILL say this : After breaking up with a long term BF that I had a good sexual relationship with, I would always do the self pity trip of " Now I'm going to be with some 3 second guy with a 2 inch dick who doesn't believe in oral sex, woe is me"......and....they keep getting better, so.... At least thats one " break up" delusion I've put behind me !!!!
Kwo-ne'-she Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 Kwo - Do i have this right...... u got married at 17 & was with him for 20 years & had 6 partners? 17 plus 20 is 37... LOL Well, partially right. First, I typoed, that should read 5, not 6. Didn't catch it before. And to further clarify, one partner wasn't an actual R, I was raped at 16. I had a bf at 16, and was with him. met and married my husband. I said "nearly 20 yrs". We were actually seperated at 18 yrs, and the divorce wasn't final until 20. I had a R after leaving my M, (turns out he was M himself, so I ended that), then dated another man for 6 months. And am with my current SO. 5, not counting the rape.
Author TallNYGirl Posted April 24, 2007 Author Posted April 24, 2007 KWO Oh ok i see. I am so sorry to hear about the rape! I am sorry if i brought up any bad memories for u. I apoligize. I wish i was married for 20 years! It sucks dating all the time & meeting guys that turn out to be jerks! I wish they all came with a warning label ahhaah-
Kwo-ne'-she Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 KWO Oh ok i see. I am so sorry to hear about the rape! I am sorry if i brought up any bad memories for u. I apoligize. I wish i was married for 20 years! It sucks dating all the time & meeting guys that turn out to be jerks! I wish they all came with a warning label ahhaah- No problem, it was a very long time ago. And, the M wasn't so great, he turned abusive. I stayed for the kids. So...I envy you somewhat.
Adick Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 I am 45 and the number is (if you are talking strictly intercourse) 29
KittenMoon Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 Damn, I am always amazed that most people on LS have slept with more people than people I have met in my life who I even would have considered being in a relationship and sleeping with. I must be one of the weird, picky ones.
pelagicsands Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 Damn, I am always amazed that most people on LS have slept with more people than people I have met in my life You're young. So maybe you haven't met that many people, yet. And LSers probably just have a really intimate way of saying "hello." Always practice safe greetings.
Aloros Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 Oh. Um. Well. I'm 24, and I'm at a meager 2. Two long-term relationships, one 5.5 years, one 9 months. I used my ex for sex a couple times and then jumped feet-first into another relationship a month after the breakup, and had sex a week into that relationship. That turned out ok though. I guess I can't exactly claim sainthood. So I wouldn't feel too bad. Sometimes you're just a victim of circumstances. Sometimes you just get lucky. A number doesn't necessarily mean anything.
Author TallNYGirl Posted April 24, 2007 Author Posted April 24, 2007 Kittenmoon - I am 34 years old & have had boyfriends ever since i was 17. I only sleep with people I am in a relationship with, except for this last one & I knew him for 17 years. Aloras - When I was 24 I only had 3 guys . U must not meet or date alot. I have met over 100 guys & only slept with 12 of them, not too bad if u ask me! I am the only one that i know that has never had a 1 night stand. The girl i work with is 23, married for 2 years & has had 7 1 night stands & has been with 2 guys at once!! Pelasicsands - This is not my way of saying hello. If it was i would have slept with over 100 guys. My friends in high school slept with over 50 guys in high school. I was the only one out of 15 girls that graduated high school a virgin. So I think 12 guys in 34 years isn't so bad. I think I am just feeling crappy since I slept with this last guy & i wasn't in a relationship with him.
LaughMachine Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 I am almost 19 and have been with only two people. I know girls who are of my age and have been with 12 people. I'm not the type of girl who does random hookups. The second one was just a rebound. Hey if you want to sleep with alot of people, go for it. It's just not me. I do masterbate alot though
Author TallNYGirl Posted April 24, 2007 Author Posted April 24, 2007 Aloras - U r still young, when i was 24, I was only with 3 guys. Talk to me in 12 years haha Laughmachine - When i was ur age, I was with only 1. I don't wantn to sleep with alot of people. But as u get older & date guys, it does happen & the number does get higher whether u like it or not. Its not me either to sleep with alot of people.
KittenMoon Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 Kittenmoon - I am 34 years old & have had boyfriends ever since i was 17. I only sleep with people I am in a relationship with, except for this last one & I knew him for 17 years. Aloras - When I was 24 I only had 3 guys . U must not meet or date alot. I have met over 100 guys & only slept with 12 of them, not too bad if u ask me! I am the only one that i know that has never had a 1 night stand. I didn' mean anything by my comment- I'm just amazed at how many people others seem to meet that they are interested in sexually. At 25, I've only slept with one guy (though were were together 6.5 yrs), but I feel like of all the guys I've met in my life, I could only imagine sleeping with maybe 3-4 of them. I guess I just have strange standards.
insomnie Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 21, 1, but my number is so low because I've been in this relaitonship since I was 18. I'm like Kittenmon, though. Of all the people I've ever met in my life, I'd have slept with only 2 - my current bf, and an ex I had in 9th grade with whom I never really had an opportunity to sleep. I've dated other guys, I have lots of guy friends, I come in contact with a lot of males...but those were the only two I've ever met that I've considered sex with. I think the reason is, while I am all for premarital relations (and I have them) I have a problem with sleeping with people I know I could never get married to. And my standards for people I can see marrying are high... when you judge someone on all the criteria (like similar beliefs, interests, values, plus chemistry) it eliminates almost everyone for me (I have non-mainstream beliefs, interests, values).
KittenMoon Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 21, 1, but my number is so low because I've been in this relaitonship since I was 18. I'm like Kittenmon, though. Of all the people I've ever met in my life, I'd have slept with only 2 - my current bf, and an ex I had in 9th grade with whom I never really had an opportunity to sleep. I've dated other guys, I have lots of guy friends, I come in contact with a lot of males...but those were the only two I've ever met that I've considered sex with. I think the reason is, while I am all for premarital relations (and I have them) I have a problem with sleeping with people I know I could never get married to. And my standards for people I can see marrying are high... when you judge someone on all the criteria (like similar beliefs, interests, values, plus chemistry) it eliminates almost everyone for me (I have non-mainstream beliefs, interests, values). I don't think I'd need to consider a person marriable to sleep with them, but it's like, when I get around someone I'd consider sleeping (or having a relationship) with, there's a very distinct gut feeling I get (no, it's not horniness). On the other hand, I fantasize quite often about people I'd never want to really sleep with- I know my fantasy would likely be much more interesting the real thing! Now if only the people I had the good feelings about weren't already attached or married.....
VirtualInsanity Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 I'm starting to wonder if I need to go out and get me some more. Why? For me, high numbers turn me off. Makes me wonder a few things.
Trialbyfire Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 Why? For me, high numbers turn me off. Makes me wonder a few things. I'm kidding, hence the winking smilie. Hang on, am I kidding? Am I too particular? Who knows, I guess time will tell.
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