Madeamistake Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 Hi, Its been a while since I last posted my sorrows on LS (lol), but now I come with a different story to tell and seek advice (a much happier one imo). I met this girl about a month ago (through a friend) and there is something about her that wows me. We connected from the very first day that we met and we have hung out a few times. She even invited me to her b-day party, and whenever she has plans, she likes to keep me in the loop. I really like her character (Fun, outgoing but responsible at the sametime) and have even met her friends (about 6 of them) and we all partied together on the one day - all 6 of them and myself. They think Im "cool", all want to hang sometime, gave me their numbers and took mine, blah blah blah. I even overheard them talk about me at one time, all good stuff I think. The thing is, when I happened to overhear their conversation, I heard her say that she is not ready to date, and I found out why. Her parents are going through a divorce and its really taking a toll on her and her younger bro. Secondly, last year she dated a guy who was a habitual liar, et cetera. Therefore her outlook on relationships is generally low (negative) as she does not think there is much hope in them for her. That kind of worries me, as I feel like she may sees me as the "general male species - a jerk", although I have not given her any reason to. She may also have some (unresolved) issues that she needs to clear up, and honestly speaking, I do not want to be the one to clean up someone else's mess. I really like this girl and would like to take it slow with her. I feel like telling her that I like her but at the same time dont want to push her as she is not in the greatest of places at the moment. I also do not want to rush into things as I have only been single for a few months (about 4.5 months) and may need to close one or two doors in my life (my ex wants to come back into my life after giving me a hard time - I think she has heard that I have started to 'hang' with this new girl). What do I do in this situation, pls help?
DanielMadr Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 What do I do in this situation, pls help? What do you want to do? If she is not worth the trouble...you mentioned some mess then dont do anything....find some other girl. If she is worth it, then kiss her and you will see. If she likes you she would want you to be a part of her life. If she has some strong issues or just like to hang out with you and nothing more, you will have your answer. Taking it slow means to be her gay-friend. Make up your mind and be her friend or lover...part of her life or part of the solution or miles away? Decide.
CrazyC8s Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 Yea, you should make your intentions known, cause just being her friend right now is going to tell her that that is all you're interested in and then when you finally decide you want something more it could be too late, cause once a girl is good friends with a guy its hard for her to look at him romantically. Why do you think so many guys hear the excuse "I wouldn't want to risk our friendship, I value it too much"?
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