chill chic Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 This other guy (not the one I posted about in another thread) that I met awhile back, and I have been talking through myspace, phone, and text for about 2 weeks. We just reconnected our communication because at the time that I met him, I was in another relationship. So we haven't really talked or seen each other since that time. Well we had been talking about hanging out all week, and I told him that I'd be out with friends this weekend and that I could meet up with him somewhere. He told me he'd be at the casino later in the night, and my friends originally were all planning on going, but plans changed and I went to meet him by myself. Pretty brave yes, but I had dodged hanging out with him the night before because I really didn't want to get to crazy since I worked the next morning (Saturday) and at first I was going to, but like I said, I decided not to, and he understood. Anyway, fast forward to lastnight when I met up with him, he complimented me, since we hadn't seen each other in awhile. Although at the time I met him, I was bone-thin, and now I'm still thin but not as skinny as he saw me before. Probably didn't notice, but of course I worry about that. While he was playing poker he said I could lay my head on his shoulder, because I was pretty hammered earlier from drinking. But of course that's a no no at a casino. So I would occasionally just because I wanted him to know that I was interested. And he was asking me about how I have been, if I was still with that guy, etc. I told him that I'm not with the guy anymore and that I'm single. But the whole night we couldn't really have a decent conversation because he was intensely playing poker and I was trying to stay awake. But he seemed to care about me, and my well-being, like making sure I was safe, even asking if he should follow me home to my parents to make sure I got there safe. But I told him that I'd be fine, which I was by that time. And we'd flirt here & there, and if I nudged him or play pushed him, he'd smile. I told him he was hot, and he said "what you forgot?" which made us laugh. So it seemed pretty good, and he was pretty sober as opposed to me being drunk. We weren't really planning on going back to his place but I wasn't sure if that's what he had in mind. But as we were leaving he told me that his friend called and said that he crashed at his place, which pretty much meant I wouldn't be going, but I'm glad because I didn't want to, and I don't think he wanted me to. But I'm so used to guys wanting me to go back to their place, that it was odd, but a relief that he wasn't being a sleezy guy. So..then as he dropped me off at my car, he told me to text him right when I woke up to maybe do something. Then he left, made sure I was in my car, and I got home fell asleep and woke up about 1pm. I didn't text him right away because I had planned on spending time with my dad, which I vaguely told him about lastnight. So I texted him around 4pm and this is what I texted:I was pretty hammered lastnight I can't actually believe I made it to the casino lol. Then I texted him again:So maybe it would've been better if I would've seen you earlier in the night but anyway, it was nice to see ya. Then later on he texted me back:"U 2" he doesn't text paragraphs like I do, but I was wondering if that is a good thing? Does he still sound interested? I'm thinking if he wasn't he wouldn't have texted me anything. I dunno...can someone translate?
Star Gazer Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 I forget, how old are you? And how many long-term relationships have you been in?
Author chill chic Posted April 23, 2007 Author Posted April 23, 2007 I forget, how old are you? And how many long-term relationships have you been in? well..I just turned 26, and I've only been in 2 serious long term relationships, one lasting for 5 years from when I was 18-23. So I kinda missed out on the whole dating scene early on, so I'm now trying to catch up to speed. then after that I was in a relationship for over a year, but even before that I was always dating a guy or with a guy. but still I have trouble trusting guys or figuring it all out. that's why I come here for help.
oppath Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 I think what Stargazer is getting at, and I concur, is that you seem to look too much into the smallest things, and this is evident in many of your posts. You shouldn't be this concerned about a guy after a pseudo-date. I also think it is important to challenge your history here. You say you missed out on "dating" because you were in a relationship, yet you say you've always been dating some guy. You don't have to make up for lost time and experiences. That isn't a healthy attitude to have. It will bring you nothing but insecurity. You've dated quite a bit, MORE than most people your age I'd wager. Relax and take things as they come.
Author chill chic Posted April 23, 2007 Author Posted April 23, 2007 I think what Stargazer is getting at, and I concur, is that you seem to look too much into the smallest things, and this is evident in many of your posts. You shouldn't be this concerned about a guy after a pseudo-date. I also think it is important to challenge your history here. You say you missed out on "dating" because you were in a relationship, yet you say you've always been dating some guy. You don't have to make up for lost time and experiences. That isn't a healthy attitude to have. It will bring you nothing but insecurity. You've dated quite a bit, MORE than most people your age I'd wager. Relax and take things as they come. Thanks for the advice, I have posted on here alot about different guys, even with different login names, so I've been on this website for awhile now lol. I do tend to overanalyze things, especially in relationships. I don't know why that is, but I get anxious and I wish I could change that. I don't necessarily regret not being able to date early on (in my late teens) that's not a big deal except that I could've learned a tip or two back then maybe. But yah ever since I was in last serious relationships, I've dated alot of guys, all different types, from bad boys to good boys, and I think I'm just trying to find my nitch. Not that I'm trying to rush things, but I'm learning from experiences in dating what type of guy I'd like to end up with, which is what dating is all about. But yah, I might take things too seriously sometimes, so I will try and be patient to let things just fall into place.
Star Gazer Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 I think what Stargazer is getting at, and I concur, is that you seem to look too much into the smallest things, and this is evident in many of your posts. You shouldn't be this concerned about a guy after a pseudo-date. I also think it is important to challenge your history here. You say you missed out on "dating" because you were in a relationship, yet you say you've always been dating some guy. You don't have to make up for lost time and experiences. That isn't a healthy attitude to have. It will bring you nothing but insecurity. You've dated quite a bit, MORE than most people your age I'd wager. Relax and take things as they come. Yup, you nailed it. I was irritated (at other things) and didn't want to post anything more than my question for fear of coming across as a total b*tch. Okay, so that having been said... CC - you read waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too much into the tiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiniest of details. What's even more troubling is you do this with guys you're not even dating...like oppath characterized them as, "pseudo-dates." You have a tendency to be overdramatic in your analysis of these itty bitty details as well. RELAX. There's no need to "catch up to speed." Just go with the flow and let experiences find you. :-)
Guest Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 "for fear of coming across as a total b*tch." So unlike you StarGazer, what are you sick or something?
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