MattNZ Posted April 23, 2007 Posted April 23, 2007 Hi guys, Some of you might be aware from my contributions that my ex and I are on a break at the moment (going on 2 weeks now) to give each other some space. I thought I was making progress by keeping myself busy and looking at areas in my life I am unhappy with. Using the opportunity to grow (applying for a new job and hitting the gym and playing soccer). However, I feel I am still not making much progress. We had the weekend apart totally and spent it with our own mates. (one text from her on saturday) She suggested we meet up tonight and I am more than happy to do that. However, I find myself sitting at work worrying about how I am going to feel when we say goodbye tonight. I know how to conduct myself when we do meet as the past 2 times have been really easy - just being myself and focussing on the postiives in my life at the moment and not dwelling/reminiscing with her. This has led to 2 really good 'dates'. I can't help but feel nervous that i am going to crumble after doing so well when we have met previously. I get hope from a message I saw she sent her brother-in-law saying that things are improving slowly with the two of us. I guess I just need an outlet as I work alot on my own in a crappy office and my mind wanders! I know I have contributed to others on how to get yourself in a good space, but right now i feel I am back to square one and also worrying about things needlessly! Just need a bit of support/advice on how to approach tonight please. Cheers guys Matt
missmay66 Posted April 24, 2007 Posted April 24, 2007 Good for you! ;- ) When you meet up with her, be completely HAPPY, even if you're not. Put on a poker face. Do NOT bring up the relationship. If she brings it up, just smile and ask her how SHE thinks it's going. Tell her what you've been doing these last two weeks...make it sound like you've been super busy and having a lot of fun. I know you just want to blow up and dig into the issues that split you apart, but please do not be tempted to do this. Look like the secure, happy man that she wants. Do not get mopey. Do not whine. Do not tell her how much you love her and want to spend forever with her...unless she does first. Then it's ok. ;- ) Hope I helped. <3 May
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