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[DinnerForOne]

This morning I was feeling better than I have in a long time and then you call. I ignore the first call because quite frankly I have NOTHING to say to you at this point in time. Then you call again. Like a fool I answer.

 

You're travelling overseas tomorrow and you can't find your passport - well isn't that just a shame. You packed up and left here in such a F*** hurry maybe it's in one of your boxes that I'm certain you haven't even bothered to unpack yet because you are sooooo busy down the pub with your mates.... you know the ones you allowed to S**** all over our marriage - yes those, getting drunk. Either that or you are sooo busy screwing someone else, you just got distracted, either way, NO it is NOT here.

 

It's really time you get your s*** together and take ownership of your own life.... I'm not your mommy. Now leave me the hell alone......

Edited June 10, 2015 by DinnerForOne

[dyna85]

I waver between thinking of you constantly to thinking of you constantly. Can't wait til that turns to not so often and then rarely. I honest to God can't see this ever happening, but a girl can hope.

 

I see reminders of you and hear them and feel them all the time. However, I realize this is all me doing myself a huge disservice by continuing to contemplate the cards of fate and how screwed up it all became in such a brief period of time.

 

You do so many things that I know are wrong. Had I not gone into it disregarding the warnings, I'd have been saved of so much heartache. Yet, I can't say I'd take back having met you, because it was one of the best experiences of my life (despite being followed by the worst pain).

 

Anyway, I realize that it would be no good for me to be around someone who does what you do, yet I still love and care for you and always will. There will never be a day that I despise you, though I do not appreciate how you treated me in the end, and it does hurt and anger me that you could be so cruel.

 

All in all, I hope one day you come around admitting fault. That would be the day, but I won't hold my breath for it. It would help close it out and at least help me advance in this whole moving on process. Not that you care... but in case there's even a slight amount of care, I'm just letting you know how I feel.

 

Until then,

Love you. Miss you. Be well. Get better soon (ie. become a better version of yourself for the benefit of you and those with whom you come into contact). Most of all, take care. Really do love & miss you very much. xoxoxox

[candie13]

It's my birthday today. I was not a bad gf, I had prepared a decent birthday for you. I hope I've ruined it for the next one, at least for the first year, haha. Well, until this morning, I was hoping you'd text - what other better motive would you ever have.

 

No, sir, no news from you. Well, that end the last chapter of our story, I guess. No more looking back. Stay well.

[Yummm]

It's my birthday today. I was not a bad gf, I had prepared a decent birthday for you. I hope I've ruined it for the next one, at least for the first year, haha. Well, until this morning, I was hoping you'd text - what other better motive would you ever have.

 

No, sir, no news from you. Well, that end the last chapter of our story, I guess. No more looking back. Stay well.

 

Happy birthday!!!

 

Don't worry yourself, my ex dumped me 1 week before my birthday, she messaged me on my birthday and it was very formal and cold and just upset me more. You don't need his sympathy text on your birthday, you don't need him. Stay positive and enjoy your special day

[DinnerForOne]

(I'm thinking about sending this to my STBEH. I need his financial support in this matter. Any suggestions would be welcomed.)

 

Hi "J",

 

I am job hunting and have been for the past couple of weeks. Whilst scouring various job sites, etc. it has become clear to me that in order to find employment with growth and decent earning potential, I am going to need to obtain more up-to-date skills that employers are looking for.

 

I am continuing my job search, but would also like the opportunity to study (lksagfhagoha) here is the link (;kjahgfahoahgoash) in the meantime. The entire program takes 26 weeks at a cost of 3849258375823.

 

I believe the sooner I start this program, the sooner I will become more marketable with this certification and my growth and earning potential will be substantially increased.

 

Would you consider paying for the course?

 

Regards

DinnerForOne

[JollyDays]

I wish it was..... but alas, my "J" would never say such sweet words to me. *Sigh*

 

 

It was fun (for a moment) to imagine it was her. Now, back to regularly scheduled programming. LOL

[StrangerThanFiction]

Ex,

 

As I'm sure you know by now all the stuff that you left at my place is now in a storage facility. There is absolutely no ties left between us now that I've cut the last one. I have blocked you on everything possible so don't bother trying to get in touch and argue my decision. It's done.

 

Also, all the best for you and your relationship with your "we're just friends" new girlfriend. I'm sure that will turn out to be fantastic because you've never lied to her- whoops! Yes you have! Just as much as you lied to me- and you've never cheated on her- double whoops! You cheated on both of us at the same time with the other- so obviously your relationship is based on total trust and respect. Whoops! Looks like I spelled bullsh*t and douchebaggery wrong there! My bad. For awhile I considered messaging her and telling her what you've pulled on both of us over the last 2 years of our 7 year relationship for about 5 seconds, then I decided that there would be no point to it. You're her problem now and either she will find out what a terrible waste of human garbage you are and drop your butt like flaming crap or she will be sucked in by your lies and deceit and end up wasting precious years of her life on you until you suck the life (and money) like you did to me. Either way, it doesn't effect my life. So, enjoy yet another relationship that was started and based on lies. Going for 3 for 3 it seems lol.

 

Anyway, this is my final goodbye to you. It's finally over and I couldn't be happier about it

[OldSoul86]

B,

 

Well, yesterday was my convocation and it was a bittersweet moment. I am embarking on a new chapter in my life, alone. I always thought that you'd come to my graduation and spend the weekend with me. This wonderful thing happened to me yesterday and because of the state of mind I'm in right now, I don't think I truly appreciate what it means to be finished my degree - I just feel numb. This degree meant that I could get my own place, you could move up to be with me permanently, and we could live a happy life together - but obviously this won't happen because I had to end things with you.

 

I am also resentful that you sent me that email a couple of days ago, why did you go and have to say things that cut me to my core? You knew I was immensely struggling with the fact that we had to part ways because of our diverging life paths (I want a family - you don't, I want a life outside of my computer screen - you don't, I want to be happy - you choose not to be, I want to share my family with my significant other - you chose to make a terrible impression on my family by being cold and distant when really if you loved me you should have been trying your damn hardest to make that good impression that you clearly desired from your last email.)

 

You know what B? Despite all of the differences between us, and a relationship that started and ended long distance - I still love you and care about you more that you'll ever know. Although my tears have finally dried up, I still feel this pang of dread and honestly feel that you will try to weasel your way back into my life at some point in the future. You made me into someone I never want to be again - a hermit. I felt like I was shackled to my computer because of a sense of obligation to you. I am damn lucky that my friends and family are extremely understanding and supportive and have welcomed me back to reality with loving and open arms. I am not responsible for your happiness, you need to make yourself happy - and the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over, expecting the same results. You need to go out into the world, and not hide behind a computer screen.

 

The worst part is, I have met someone that I am genuinely interested in pursuing a relationship with at some point (I had to tell her last night that I need to take things slowly because she is going full throttle.) I am not mended yet, your last contact has cut me incredibly deep - I should have listened to my gut and changed my email address completely. I blocked you every single place except my email, what a massive error that was. I want to move on and be happy - because I haven't been happy in a long time. Your constant complaining about your job and coworkers, your lack of enthusiasm for life, and your woe is me attitude really got me down in the ditch. You know what? Life is a gift, if you want to waste it gaming in front of a computer screen, without any close proximity companionship - be my guest. I don't want to do it anymore, and I can't do it anymore - I was going insane.

 

I needed to check out of this relationship for my own well-being (both mentally and physically) and I am sorry that I hurt you in the process. Don't forget - I HURT TOO - I had to be the one who was strong enough and had enough foresight to see that this relationship was a dead end because I was unfulfilled and deserved better. I DO deserve better, and when the time is right I am going to go get what I deserve.

 

M

[NomiMalone]

Please call me. I wanna hear your voice again so bad.

[beembm]

I feel so sick to my stomach. Each moment brings a new wave of emotion, ranging from hatred to longing. I so wish things were different. I keep thinking they could have been but I guess not, because you didn't want it. I'm trying to sit with the pain. Breathe it in. Feel it fully, in the hopes of letting it move through me. I feel like I don't even know you anymore. Yes, I stalk you online. No, I don't have any self control. How is it that you're back on OKcupid multiple times a day and it hasn't even been a week? Did you ever really love me? Why wouldn't you be emotionally intimate with me? Were you scared of getting hurt? I loved you and would not have hurt you... I don't think. I'm trying so hard to let go. I know I can't control any of this. My heart hurts.

[beembm]

My heart literally feels broken. I've never felt such pain before. I want nothing more than to escape it but I know I have to live through it to move on. I can't believe this is over. I've cried for days straight. I can't function at work. I can't get you out of my mind. I want to forgive you and just move on already. I hate you and love you at the same time. I do love you. And I miss you so much

[StrangerThanFiction]

Not good today. I'm feeling sad. I'm feeling like I'll be alone for the rest of my life. At 29 it feels too late to start over. Most guys my age or older are already taken. I just want to give up. I miss him for the first time since our BU and I'm trying to remember everything he did to me so I realize he's not worth me missing him but it's not working. I see couple everywhere and it makes me feel so lonely. It feels like I'll never have that again.

[TrevorDia]

According to Greek mythology, humans were originally created with four arms, four legs and a head with two faces. Fearing their power, Zeus split them into two separate parts, condemning them to spend their lives in search of their other halves. I consider myself lucky to have had a fleeting moment with my other half.

[Ariess10]

Not good today. I'm feeling sad. I'm feeling like I'll be alone for the rest of my life. At 29 it feels too late to start over. Most guys my age or older are already taken. I just want to give up. I miss him for the first time since our BU and I'm trying to remember everything he did to me so I realize he's not worth me missing him but it's not working. I see couple everywhere and it makes me feel so lonely. It feels like I'll never have that again.

 

Hey now I'm 32 and staring over

[OldSoul86]

I just want to be over you. I don't want to be stuck in the hurt anymore. I want to move on and find someone else. I am mad at myself for prolonging the relationship as long as I did. We should have cut it off when we had that two week break. Why did I decide to get back with you? I was doing fine during the break - you went silent on me, and I had no idea where you went.

 

I will NEVER do a long distance relationship again. Even though we only saw each other 10 times over the course of 1.5 years - I fell so deeply in love with you and wanted to spend the rest of my life with you. Despite the loneliness I felt when we were apart - I pulled you in closer, and for what? I may have been the one to break it off with you, but I did it for self-preservation and to ensure that neither one of us dragged this relationship on further - our life goals are just far too different and that's not to mention the deal breaker (you don't want kids and I do.)

 

You sapped the life out of me. The last couple of weeks have been a whirlwind of seeing friends, meeting up with the new girl I like but I am far too damaged to make anything of it right now, and spending time with family. You know what? Now that I am spending a day by myself for the first time since it happened - I FEEL LIKE ABSOLUTE GARBAGE. I just want to close my eyes, and then open them up to the opportunities that await me in the future. You weren't good for me, and you sure as heck didn't appreciate me when you had me - despite my numerous attempts to make you understand how I need to be loved.

 

One minute I hate you, one minute I love you, one minute I am optimistic, and then one minute I hate the world. Please, someone, help me through this roller coaster of emotions - and people say being the dumper is easy - pfft, yeah right.

[candie13]

Life is strange. It's as if we dated a million years ago. I remember just how difficult it was for me to go to that first date, how I was feeling guilty and it had given me nightmares.

 

I have three dates this week. And I would have had more if I stayed around longer. Every passing moment makes me drift away more. I like the men I am talking to. All of them, quite interesting. I am glad I've met you. It has nourished me a lot. A real lot. I'm sure you're well. I'm sure you're dating, maybe even becoming exclusive by now. I think you're gonna drive yourself and your partner into a wall. I wish you to fall inlove. Fall inlove and be happy.

 

I don't have peace, but I am in peace. I'll get peace, eventually.

[learnbyliving]

I spent all day trying to convince myself I was missing the sudden loss of comfort and affection you gave, not you as a person, but the truth is somewhere in between. I know this time next year I'll be looking back on this and see that it was better to break up, but right now I can't stop thinking about your humor, your attentiveness, your affections, the what could have beens.

 

I'm scared to check my phone even though I know you won't reach out. I think about reaching out but I already know nothing constructive can be said. I don't even want to reconcile because I know it's better this way, but all day I wanted to tell you how sad I am, how this ache is crippling me from doing what I need to to get my life on track. But that just sounds pathetic.

 

Today I can't get over how certain you sounded when you finally broke it off. I sensed a feeling of relief from you and I just don't understand because I never put pressure on you. How could we go from the highest highs we've ever felt 2 weeks ago to you saying you would rather be single 2 days ago?

 

I almost wish you treated me poorly or did something bad because that would be so much easier to deal. But everything was great to me until suddenly you no longer felt the same way. And that makes it so hard to process for me. Why a person's feelings can change so fast even though we were both so happy not that long ago. And I know you were, not just because it was plain to see, but because you told me even as we were breaking up.

[learnbyliving]

Earlier I wished I could be mad instead of sad. Seems like I got my wish, except now I'm just mad and sad. I was this close to texting you immediately to blow up at you and explain how you wronged me, to make you feel a little bit of the pain I feel.

 

Then I decided not to do that, and to vent it out here instead. I typed it all out, but then a few minutes later, I deleted that too because I felt it was not a constructive exercise.

 

Things you said hurt me but I know you did not take pleasure in it. I know I could at least make you feel a little guilt if I were to confront you fully, but for now I'll spare you that because you are a good person and you said whatever you needed to detach from me and protect yourself. I only wish I could act to protect myself better.

[DinnerForOne]

Babes,

 

I love you so much and miss you so much. I have been thinking about the good times we had together and the things we shared over the past 10 years and it brings tears to my eyes.

 

For some reason I just cannot give up on the hope that your heart will be touched and your mind will be opened and that you would consider giving us another chance. A real chance this time, with transparency.

 

10 years, babes, 10 years. I truly believe that divorce is a big mistake. I'm so scared that we go down this path, blocked by our pride, and regret it forever.

 

Please babes, please reconsider. Please can we explore positive options and not the negativity of divorce. I implore you to please hear me in your heart, feel me in your heart and that you reach out to me.

 

I will always always love you.

[FistOfTheNorthStar]

Every waking moment I keep think of you momma. I am still in a bit of shock because you left me after promising me, and begging me never to leave you. I am so afraid of you ever coming back because... you don't deserve me. What the **** did I ever do to you to leave me out in the cold like that? Then you act like your love just completely turned off. Literally within 2 weeks... you wanted to be "friends".

You said that it would have been better if we were friends all along? Really? Our personalities resonated against each other. I have no doubt we would have always grown feelings for each other. As fate had it we did date, and it was the best months of my life to date. I walked around shining the love I felt, proud that I had found "the one'.

Then you left. Left me with the pain that I hid from you, I lied to myself and you saying I stopped loving you, but I can't stop it. It's there because it was genuine. I truly fell in love with you. All your flaws, your mistakes, it all meant so much to me. I still remember one night you had an accident and freaked out, where I calmed you down and cleaned up. I was like hey its okay, this happens.

I do wonder if I am the only one suffering through this momma. I miss you so much. Perhaps I no longer exist to you. "I know the truth is ugly, did you ever really love me?"

You don't deserve this hope left inside of my heart. I hate that festering wish that one day you will come back, then fight with myself saying she won't come back... she chose her lifestyle. Momma, were you truly thinking of your child, or selfishly of yourself?

If you do ever come back, I wish you the best. I want ALWAYS the best for your kid, wishing I was never removed from his life. When you left me, I apologized for not being enough and you were so confused as to why I was apologizing there was no need.

You let your mind be taken over and this other person made you see me as pathetic for leaving. Mami, I never walked away. I fought, I ****ing fought for you and the little guy.

You. Left. Me.

Vaya con dios, amor...

[Throldur]

Either let me ****ing go or contact me.

 

I want to move forward with or without you.

[Heatemyheart89]

Dear you ,

 

Day 3 of not talking to you and it's hard. It would be the easiest think ever to keep talking to you. I keep reflecting on the relationship. I was blind to the signs, you told me you couldn't give me what I wanted. The shame is you will likely give it to another woman. You started checking out of this relationship a while ago, I know that now.

The way you are, I never had you. You are no ones. You live on the hope that you will meet the one in the future. I wanted to be the one. I hope I never know what happens to you, it's too painful. So I guess this is goodbye.

 

Love me x

[mossycup]

Dear Ex Fiance

 

You left so you could pursue "unnattached, unconditional, spiritual love". I don't know if you've achieved this, but I've discovered, in the soul-wrenching pain of losing you, that one of the best ways to achieve this is actuallly to have to work through losing the person you want more than anyone else in life. Not that it was my goal to do this - unlike you I would have been satisfied by the love of a few friend and family, and a spouse to care for for the rest of our lives - but I on that road with regards to you.

 

PS I can't imagine why anyone would choose to pursue this kind of love for any other reason that life has shoved it on you. For sure I'm learning alot and growing wiser, but I find it had to imagine now the idea of choosing this freely, although we once idealized this state together, imagining we could love the world in this way, while taking care of each other. I would have enjoyed that vision, but I can see now that true unconditional love is not so easy to feel, at least for me.

[Yummm]

Seriously, enough is enough.

 

I finally try move on and delete you from my life and worse enough I have to see you every bloody day as we work so close, but today you decide to walk past my office window and stare? It's NOWHERE near where you need to go, why do you do it? Leave me the f**k alone girl.

[learnbyliving]

If it was all about how you don't want a committed RS and the timing, you shouldn't have compared our experience to how you felt with past lovers. Recognize that before your divorce you were in a state of mind that allowed you to feel connected and love openly. We "don't have a deep connection" because your current state of mind does not allow it. You told me times over that the timing just wasn't right and you don't want anything right now, then why do you have to quantify our experience like "we had a good connection but not great". That makes me feel like ****, making me doubt my own memories of how happy I was. No, more than happy, how fulfilled I felt.

Edited June 17, 2015 by learnbyliving