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May 26, 2015

I just got asked out by a new guy. Maybe it's nothing but an ego boost, but it sure feels good. May you never contact me and stay out of my life forever. I was soooo right to cancel everything. It's what I call good instinct. I should have listened to it much much sooner.

I'll drink to that

May 26, 2015

Haha, you shouldn't feel like that. In fact, I quite enjoyed reading your previous posts (on the previous page), provided some much needed comic relief well, at any rate it's always better to vent on here rather than giving our exes an earful, am I right?

I try. Lol. Well, I think the blocking helps me and others because you don't have to worry about being curious about your exes. Facebook is the worst thing to appear in the history of the internet, but that's just my opinion. Lol

May 26, 2015

I try. Lol. Well, I think the blocking helps me and others because you don't have to worry about being curious about your exes. Facebook is the worst thing to appear in the history of the internet, but that's just my opinion. Lol

Haha yeah, good old Facebook, I agree with your remark. Ignorance is bliss, what you don't know can't hurt you. I had to learn that the hard way. I could have avoided a whole world of pain had I not gone on a stalking spree on that dreaded site, oops.

May 27, 2015

Haha yeah, good old Facebook, I agree with your remark. Ignorance is bliss, what you don't know can't hurt you. I had to learn that the hard way. I could have avoided a whole world of pain had I not gone on a stalking spree on that dreaded site, oops.

Totally agree brother. That site is a bain and a curse unto humanity. Remember back in the days---which is only a decade ago...lol---you could be ignorant about what was going on in your ex's life? When people emailed you, and/or called you to catch up? Again, that site is a mother****er, and I should delete my account, but I won't. But I go on deactivation sprees a bit. LOL

May 27, 2015

Hey <name>, hope all is well. I just wanted to take a few minutes to tell you some things I never got around to. Not because I want you back, but because I finally want closure.

I want you to know that you are my soulmate. But just like the pieces of a puzzle being chewed by a toddler, the pieces get warped, twisted, torn and scraped. There comes a time when they no longer fit together.

Secondly, I want you to know that you caused a rift in my very existence when you left. And I'm not talking about you literally leaving, I'm talking about the person I fell in love with. That goofy nerdy girl was a blank canvas of endless possibilities. The smell of your hair as we held each other and you told me about the life we were going to have. The goosebumps you used to get when you'd tell me about the babies we were going to have. The smile you'd have on your face as I'd just lay there and watch you sleeping. Waking up with your hand in mine.

Something changed along the way. I'm not going to say it's all because you slept with your tutor after he got you drunk, and I'm not even going to touch the well of daddy issues - but somewhere along the way, you lost that spark. You left me. You became an alcoholic, a substance abuser, and started sleeping around - all the time maintaining a platonic friendship with me. It used to crush me every time you'd tell me about the guys you'd been sleeping with. The time you told me about your threesome almost drove me to suicide.

You never saw it, did you? When you told me about the life we could have had, it wasn't just an aspiration for me, it was my goal, it was my vocation and I was going to do whatever it took to protect the life I wanted. So for you to not just take it away from me, but then come back to burn down what was left of me... It crushed me. Our babies, gone. The holidays, cancelled. The home, the cuddles, the love. It was all gone.

It sent me into a pit of self-loathing. You'd come to me every day with your amazing life now you'd got rid of me, and there I was trying to patch up our relationship like a fool. You know, at one time, my only aspiration in life was to have as much money as I could get a hold of - to have whatever I couldn't have when I was little. But when you came along, the only thing I wanted was a family. I still remember the daughter we always used to dream of. I was such a fool for falling in love with a fantasy... Your aspirations on the other hand went the other way, you started off wanting us to have a family. Then you became obsessed with your delusions of grandeur and aspirations of fame and fortune. I know you always wanted to be a singer, and I always supported that, but you became wholly engulfed by the notion that you would one day be "top of the world". Don't you see? You were already top of the world to me.

That's why it took me so long to stop hurting so much. I'd put you on a pedestal so high I couldn't even reach it. That's what 4 years with you will do! But as time passed, I gained perspective, I saw how manipulating, controlling and toxic you were, and with a lot of help and effort, I resisted you.

I've learned a lot from my time with you, and honestly I don't think for all my formal education that I will ever be taught anything like the lessons I was taught by being your soulmate. I'm not going to list them all, I don't want to waste my time on you any more than I have - but I do want to thank you for making me realise that life isn't just about making money.

Finally, I want to wish you luck. I may not have meant anything to you, and I doubt I even cross your mind anymore, but I wish you the best of everything in life. Maybe you're not the one for me anymore, but you're the one for someone, and when someone sees in you what I see in you, he's going to do everything in his power to make sure you have the life you want.

Goodbye x

May 27, 2015

I just got asked out by a new guy. Maybe it's nothing but an ego boost, but it sure feels good. May you never contact me and stay out of my life forever. I was soooo right to cancel everything. It's what I call good instinct. I should have listened to it much much sooner.

As they say, one door closes and another one opens. Best of wishes to you.

May 27, 2015

And to Miss Bakersfield,

Ahh ****...why am I even writing about you? We haven't had anything of substance to talk about since the Clinton Administration. Besides, you were just like the woman that the above poster described when speaking of his ex. I hope the sex was good when you decided to call me MULTIPLE TIMES from his home after the breakup, with one of your calls describing some of the sex acts you two engaged in. I'm so happy FB wasn't around then, because I would've put your business out on blast for everyone to see. On second thought, as brainwashed as you had made me, probably not.

I don't really think of you much anymore, and why should I? That was damn near 15 years ago. Yet, you still had an impact on me. I always wondered how life might've been had we NOT met. Perhaps I wouldn't have destroyed so many potential relationships, or the one I had with Miss Creole Lady Marmalade, because my heart would've been opened to love. That's what happens when a good man runs into a TRAMP. But I thank you Miss 661. I thank you for showing me what I DON'T want in a future relationship, and how not to treat someone. It took me years to realize that last point, but eventually, when you're in your late 30s and lonely, I think the point is made quite well.

And BTW, after you pestered me for 3-4 years post-breakup, you exploded on me when I laughed at your pregnancy. I couldn't help it. You told me through email that I was a loser before you met me, was a loser at that current moment, and would always be a loser. No baby, a loser is someone who gets pregnant by a MARRIED MAN WITH FOUR KIDS AND A WIFE AT HOME.

Drops the mic.

May 27, 2015

Totally agree brother. That site is a bain and a curse unto humanity. Remember back in the days---which is only a decade ago...lol---you could be ignorant about what was going on in your ex's life? When people emailed you, and/or called you to catch up? Again, that site is a mother****er, and I should delete my account, but I won't. But I go on deactivation sprees a bit. LOL

Haha, amen to that. I remember back when you had to log onto chunky desktop computers to do any sort of online activity...now you have the whole world at your fingertips in the form of smartphones, which makes Facebook stalking so easily accessible and very tempting, almost impossible to resist. People in the 19th century must have had it easy, I don't imagine many people back then delivering messages on horseback to communicate with their exes lol. But then they also had a whole different code for courtship, it's an entirely different ballgame in this modern era, the Facebook era. Ahh, the internet...that concludes my rant.

Lol at deactivation spree. Also, I remember when it was SO easy to cut contact with your ex when all you had to do was block them on email and block them on MSN messenger, easy peasy. Ahh. I guess my rant wasn't quite over yet, I lied. My ex described me as a compulsive liar lol.

So yeah, Facebook = bad. The only thing that keeps me away from it is finding out about my slut of an ex sleeping with a bunch of men off tinder. Stay classy babe, you're a credit to womenfolk everywhere. A true gem.

May 27, 2015

Haha, amen to that. I remember back when you had to log onto chunky desktop computers to do any sort of online activity...now you have the whole world at your fingertips in the form of smartphones, which makes Facebook stalking so easily accessible and very tempting, almost impossible to resist. People in the 19th century must have had it easy, I don't imagine many people back then delivering messages on horseback to communicate with their exes lol. But then they also had a whole different code for courtship, it's an entirely different ballgame in this modern era, the Facebook era. Ahh, the internet...that concludes my rant.

Lol at deactivation spree. Also, I remember when it was SO easy to cut contact with your ex when all you had to do was block them on email and block them on MSN messenger, easy peasy. Ahh. I guess my rant wasn't quite over yet, I lied. My ex described me as a compulsive liar lol.

So yeah, Facebook = bad. The only thing that keeps me away from it is finding out about my slut of an ex sleeping with a bunch of men off tinder. Stay classy babe, you're a credit to womenfolk everywhere. A true gem.

What's funny is that I've never met anyone on FB---well, one tried to hit on me, until I found out that she tossed salads, so I had to bounce...LMAO.

Back to scheduled programming...

Yeah, Facebook has made fools out of so many of us---at LS and in the general world. I HATE that I can block a chick, unblock her ass, and be nosey in the process. No, I don't want to see your main squeeze, I don't want to see the kids that we were supposed to have made together, and I don't want you stalking my page as well. LOL

As for Tinder...LOL. Man, I wouldn't even think about her, which is hard to do when it comes to an ex, I know. It's just that if a woman that I'm an ex with is on any of those hookup sites, it just clears my head completely. I'm just thinking of how it's going to be 2050-2060 when I'm an elderly man and bragging to younger people about how I've been a member of FB since '05, aka the Turn of the Century. LOL

May 27, 2015

I can't wait for the day I can finally wash my hands of the last of your sliminess (aka: getting your crap out of my house). God, I feel so effing dirty and filthy for letting you touch me (and any other woman who made eye contact with you and wasn't immediately repulsed by your rotting snaggle teeth and bad hygiene, apparently) for the last 7 years, give or take. You cheating sack of squirrel anuses. Best of luck in your future as your dad's basement dweller. I can see you now, throwing a fit when he comes home from grocery shopping and forgot to buy your favorite type of string cheese and then stomping back down to your cockroach infested maze of old pizza boxes and skid-marked underwear to go whine about it to all your adoring 12 year old admirers on Clash of Clans. Grow up and start acting your physical age of 43 instead of your mental one of 13.

End rant. That actually just made me laugh after I read it over again. Bye.

May 27, 2015

In the end, I blame it on the 5000 mile distance and the 6 hour time difference. I blame it on our young age and inability to compromise. I blame it on your previous girlfriend, who cheated on you and destroyed your confidence. I blame it on your mother who cheated on your father, which destroyed your trust in monogamous relationships. I blame our ending on myself, because I played games just to start fights and to make you jealous. I blame myself because I told you we weren't compatible when, baby, we ****ing were.

I blame you for telling me it was either you or nothing. We couldn't be friends until we met. We had to be together or we were just wasting time. I blame you for making me choose whether I wanted to lose you as soon as I'd met you. I blame myself for lying to you and telling you I loved you just to keep you with me.

I never let you know, but I was so jealous. I said you were and ridiculed you for it, but honey I was worse. Your best friend that loved you? Oh yeah, I hated her. When she came to you knowing that you were with me... I wanted to rip her eyes out. Nevertheless, you denied her. I swear that's when I began to love you (maybe not in the way you wanted, though).

I blame myself for not letting you know how much I cared.

I shared things with you that I will never share with another person ever again. I get angry sometimes thinking about how I just gave you a chunk of my life and you ****ing ran away with it. No remorse, nothing. Just a good bye. It's not fair the way we engaged with each other and its like you just forgot because "you don't have feelings for me anymore".

I blame you for wanting me to love you so bad, when you didn't even love me. You were in love with the idea of love, as was I, but I admitted it and didn't let myself succumb to it.

The pictures we showed each other? Of our families, our homes, our bodies? In the end, they didn't matter enough to you. Even though I trusted in you to stay with me through thick and thin since you loved me.

When you told me goodbye, definitely, unlike the three (four?) other times we broke up, I couldn't believe it. I felt you pulling away. The most horrible thing about our relationship was that as you pulled away, I was getting more involved. I started to see us in my dreams. We fought, yes. We ignored each other, yes. But I still wanted you. I was going to make it to your country and we were going to have our happy ever after because I wanted to and I thought you did too.

I would've sacrificed so much for you. I would've relocated to stay with you, learned your language (no matter how difficult it was). Be the girl you wanted me to be. Unlike you, I didn't have the support of all my friends. Some called me stupid, some called me delusional.

What hurt the most was that two weeks later, you ended up with the girl that wanted you. Me? I was left with what could've been if I'd done what "you" wanted me to.

So, I hope you're happy. And I still want to visit your country. Maybe I will... who knows? I wish I could let you know what you gave up, but honestly, there isn't a way for you to know. You probably don't even care.

I screwed up the NC rule. You blew me off, anyways.

I'm done with waiting to see the green dot next to your skype profile. It gives me false hope for something that will never be. You've moved on, and so should I. I'm tired of the baggage of our relationship that couldn't hold water. If it was meant to be, it would've been. So, this is goodbye, on my terms.

Edited May 27, 2015 by rosegold

May 27, 2015

I'm soooo mad. I've started out well. with time, I realize that it's not even you, it's me that I am most mad at. Must admit, though, you have a good play. Very good. At least you put up a good fight at the beginning. I am especially proud of my sudden departure. I should have played it just as cold and rational as you did. That's what I should have done. It means nothing. It's over over over. I cannot wait to experiment again on other men. Test my theories. I am not good, I am great. And my best trait is bailing the hell out, once I smell fire. Can't f*ck around with a woman's instincts... have that, keep your pride and have it keep you warm at night, you loser. Day 15 of NC. Me thinks in 2 more weeks and a couple of other dates, I'll be as good as new. Patience. Forgive, but do not forget. And never leave that bloody guard down.

May 28, 2015

Tell me how I'm supposed to

Move on with the ghost of you

Take me back to the night we met

May 28, 2015

so I'm starting to get the hang of this. It has to go worse before it gets better - and yesterdays it started really poorly. But I've worked hard and ended the day positively, in a much much better mood. I know this because I have slept much better - I've dreamt that I was on stage and that I was playing Romeo, haha. Then, before the morning came, I've remembered how he was trying - again - to make it all about me, as though I am the one with the issue and I am the one who has to come back to him with an answer - if I am ready to consider having children without being married. It's such a cheap trick, such pointless manipulation... makes me wonder, who on Earth was I dating for 4 months? I really didn't know this guy at all. This is so scary, I was about to introduce him to my family and was considering sharing my life with him. I really didn't know this dude at all, makes me sick to my stomach only thinking about it. Gives me the shivers, such a turn off.

Funny, as time goes by, little pieces of conversation resurface and all of a sudden, they shed a totally different light on the relationship you thought you had. Makes me think of those small lizards bathing in the sun...irrelevant of the warmth of the day, their blood is ice cold...

May 29, 2015

Oh no, why am I thinking of you Miss NOLA? I know that you're not thinking of me, so I think I'll just go to sleep and, come tomorrow, I'll look at it as a new day and think of more positive things, such as breakfast.

May 30, 2015

Hello I

You are always in my mind. It has been a week since you left, and I am completely devastated. I packed all your things and put them in the basement today. But I had a glimpse at my awesome engagement ring and couldnt avoid crying again. I cant believe you gave it to me just a month ago.

I blame myself for everything. I have never met anybody as good as you. You are my best friend, and the most honest person i have ever met. I'm sorry I caused you all this pain.i need to forgive myself. I feel i am a bitch.

I am crying for all our future together, our kids, our house, the fantastic life we were going to have.

I cant believe you told my father you wanted to marry me and one week later you broke it up. I know you and understand you have huge issues to deal with now, i understand you cannot cope anymore.

I am also scared. I dont know what im going to do with my life now without you.

And worried. For you. I pray to god that you can sleep.

I miss you deeply.

May 30, 2015

getting back on your feet is the best revenge. Had a great date last night, talked until 2 in the morning, it's been years since I've felt this good with a man. Genuine fun, no pressure, good music and a bottle of wine. And no, sex was not involved. I am shocked at how easy it was to replace you. I am in shock. Maybe it's the euphoria of the day after... wow...

May 30, 2015

Ive been struggling again the past few days, its been 15 months and i thought i would be over you now, but no. I still go out shopping or just for a walk and i burst into tear, i get this overwhelming feeling and feeling of doom and yes it is doom, im never going to see you again. I hate what youve turned me into, I was so out going, fun to be with and im now a shell of my former self and its all because of you... You destroyed me, you cheated you lied and you treated me like crap.... I deserved better but i hate the way it ended. I couldnt say what i wanted to say because you left to work over seas, i ended it and i never saw you again. That night you left i cried because deep down i had a feeling i wouldnt see you again.... But you blames me for ending it, you said some horrible things to me when all along you were having an affair........ you made me feel like crap and all along you were seeing someone else.... how did i find out... you idiot, you forgot you gave me your new work mobile number and you changed your picture of you and her.... i saw it.... you piece of sh*t. She is nothing special even you said i was way out of your league, so im glad you lowered your standards and ended up with someone as ugly as you inside and out. If she thinks you wont cheat on her, she is deluded because you will, and if she thinks she can save you from your gambling she is a bigger idiot than you .... you have done it with everyone youve been with... no wonder your son and dad hate you so much... i hope your happy now and i hope karma will hit you so hard you will regret doing what you did to me.

May 31, 2015

And now I'm back to square one with Miss NOLA.

Just when I thought I was out, they pull me back in.

Ehh...

May 31, 2015

After five months, then you come telling me you want your MacBook and your stuff back. Do I look like someone who has nothing to do? I even bought a new charger for the MacBook, cos yours wasn't even working. Now what do you want me to do with the cable? Stick it up my bum bum?

May 31, 2015

After five months, then you come telling me you want your MacBook and your stuff back. Do I look like someone who has nothing to do? I even bought a new charger for the MacBook, cos yours wasn't even working. Now what do you want me to do with the cable? Stick it up my bum bum?

Hahaha. He can stick it up his bum. I love this Twigyy. Cracked me up.

May 31, 2015

1 year 2 months since BU and I still hurt for him. We haven't stayed full NC and that is partially my fault but I just miss him so much. I know he is still with the trash he left me for and I know it is LD and they only see each other once a week. I still hurt so bad. I never let him see my hurt and he thinks I am doing fine. He started coming around a bit lately and pulling over when he sees me only walks. But as soon as I found out he has not yet thrown out the trash I pulled away. I so want to hate him but my heart won't let me. We still have ties to each other (not kids) and he seems in no hurry to break them. I know the feelings are still there he is just bring so very stupid. I am trying so hard to let him go from my heart but am finding I cannot.

June 1, 2015

Happy five weeks since you walked out on me, A-hole.

June 1, 2015

I can't wait for the day I can finally wash my hands of the last of your sliminess (aka: getting your crap out of my house). God, I feel so effing dirty and filthy for letting you touch me (and any other woman who made eye contact with you and wasn't immediately repulsed by your rotting snaggle teeth and bad hygiene, apparently) for the last 7 years, give or take. You cheating sack of squirrel anuses. Best of luck in your future as your dad's basement dweller. I can see you now, throwing a fit when he comes home from grocery shopping and forgot to buy your favorite type of string cheese and then stomping back down to your cockroach infested maze of old pizza boxes and skid-marked underwear to go whine about it to all your adoring 12 year old admirers on Clash of Clans. Grow up and start acting your physical age of 43 instead of your mental one of 13.

End rant. That actually just made me laugh after I read it over again. Bye.

cracked me up! hahahahhahaha

June 1, 2015

You said so many wonderful things about me but you couldnt find the time to make it work. You changed the way I think, I am damaged goods now and who in the living hell wants a partner like that. Get out of my head, of my life, you have poisoned me. Yet, I still love you. How contradictory, my old self would be laughing out loud at my current self.

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