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[Lemon Drop]

Is the 1st time the charm? No.

 

Is the 2nd time the charm? No.

 

What about the 3rd time? Not really.

 

The 4th effing time? Are you kidding me? You did it AGAIN??????

 

How dumb do I have to be? What is REALLY going on? Why do I need to know what your agenda really is and what you are doing IN REALITY instead of what you have told me? How could an hour and a half of great minutes be worth the crap the last month has been wondering where you have been?

 

I'm sick of you. I'm sick of you toying with me. I'm sick of you not telling the truth. I'm sick of caring about you. I'm sick of wanting to have a piece of your life. I'm sick of wanting you to make me laugh. I'm sick of wanting to be with you. I'm sick of you!

 

I hope Karma will catch up with you and I hope she will whisper in my ear to let me know what she was up to. Stay AWOL, I don't want to hear from you anymore.

[hoper6]

a lil long but pls read and pls save my life

Background

-3 years together both 19 year old

-starting 2 both very much in love since starting of this year problems started to occur

-her priorities change like she was giving more time to her friends

i started pointing to her that please talk to your friend less, particularly one male friend but she said to dont worry he is like my family dont be afraid of him due of him i became insecure & whenever i said something about them talking late at night she used to get angry bt in the end i said ok cause i loved her and trusted her,,

 

in june we didnt talk to each other cause of this friend issue and coz she taught that i sort become a diff person(i did become bt it jst dat i was giving myself more time then her coz in last 2 years i had only given time to her not to me coz of which i had become a lazy person,bt i always loved her) i assume that it was a break and we would be back together cause whenever we used to fight we didnt talk for a week or two then we were normal again but not time what i thought was a break for us it was break up for her nd she didnt even told me that once..

 

i was expecting an apology from her but it didnt came then after a month or so i started the contact with her and then she stated that i dont love you anymore…

 

i kinda became angry nd i blocked her from social networks but again after a month(aug) i started to miss her badly and i contacted her coz i still loved her and then she replied very coldly and i could see that she is not the same person anymore, it broke my heart i pleaded begged try to convince her that please give us another chance but she was adamant that nothing cant be happen(she mentioned that she now likes some1 else)..

 

Sept.

Then i started my first round of nc 21 days(my bad) but initial contact with her went pretty well(for about 30 mins quick responses) then i contacted her after 4 days that was ok(her responses were quick and short) then after 3 days i contacted her again but this time no reply came i waited for a reply for almost a week then i called her other best friend(female) and asked her what she is upto she told me that my ex just started her new realtionship(10-15 days old) and she is quite happy about it and you should move on too my heart sank..

 

i started 2nd round of nc 30 days(oct) and i broke the convo by wishing her happy some xyz festival she replied same to you then i jst normal ask about howz she and she asked about my health then i said bye in nov i was really depressed i askd her female friend that who is this new bf of hers (she said that she had no idea)

maybe she was trying to hide it from me coz her male friend ,her and this female friend are like best friends to each other so if her new bf was this male friend maybe her female friend was trying to hide it..

but i think she told that to her about me asking about her new bf so ex removed me from whatspp coz i can no longer c her dp or status..

 

since then i hv maintained low contact trying to bring out the happy memories of our realtionship to her notice ,, i did that thrice in month of nov and her repli did came but dey werent gud jst ok-ok but then i realized that the more i contact the more and more hurted i became so i decided not to start convo with her ever again if she starts i will respond..

Dec.

she wished me hbd which i wasnt expecting.. and i simply said thanks

 

NOW ITS BEEN 4-5 MONTHS SINCE BREAK UP AND THIS PAIN IS STILL THERE

ALSO ITS BEEN 3 MONTHS SINCE HER NEW REALTIONSHIP

 

which i intially thought was a rebound(coz i jst started 2 months after breakup) but as time passes i doubt that its a rebound especially if that male friend of hers is involved coz they already spent a lot of time together and she was very close to him so its possible that she was already emotionally conected to him..

 

my question is what should i do from now? should i ask some1 whoz is this new guy(possible risk include of that person telling her)?

should i give up? should i keep hope?

pls help

[CopingGal]

Oh thank god! I'm not only not the only one who was dumped via text, I'm not the only one who thinks its despicable and horribly immature!!

 

My ex didn't dump me via text. He simply abandoned me and took up with another woman. After only seeing him for therapy sessions, him not doing any work in therapy sessions, and him not answering my calls I dumped him. He says if I had just hung on for a little bit longer things would have been different because he got closure on his past relationship. Then he told me he had been cheating on me. Then he threw her in my face. Then he acted like nothing happened and tried to force me to be his friend.

 

I think I would have preferred a text-message break up instead of all of this other stuff.

[CopingGal]

It's been three years since you ripped my heart out and thought it was funny. It's been three years since you tried to destroy me. Our couple's therapist told me that you emotionally tried to kill me. It's been three years since you mentally abused me and emotionally tortured me.

 

Your new girlfriend looks as if she may have some mental challenges. Something is not right with her. That's your style- to go after someone who is suffering in some way. You did it with me, the woman you cheated with and now her. I never knew what evil looked like before I met you. You are the first truly, truly evil person I ever dated. I never knew about people like you when I was growing up.

 

People like you grow up to be serial killers. You have the heart of a serial killer although your actions may dispute this. You are manipulative and just plain evil. You are a very scary man and you are mentally unbalanced. You are disturbed. My friend has told me that she thinks you belong in a mental institution.

[whattodo99]

We shared our lives for 7 years then you left me high and dry after we hit a few bumps in the road. Left me with the bills, left me with everything on my shoulders and only cared about yourself.

 

A year later you came back wanting to work on things. I said yes, but I had a very small amount of love in my heart for you!!! You remember that??? A little! But I loved you! I still do!

 

I wanted to work on things more than you will ever know. You asked if I could accept all of you and I said yes... But this isn't a one way street. I'm still hurting from what you did to our family and the year of divorce crap we went through with our new born child! I know you don't want to hear any of this right now, but you need to know that I am hurting more than I ever thought possible. Today I don't feel I could ever be in a relationship again, even if it's a booty call.

 

You pushed and pushed and in the end my heart broke AGAIN because I was not moving fast enough for you!! That was my fault for letting you do that to me and I feel like crap because of it. Now you plaster your facebook about how abused you were and that you are in a better place because you've moved on. This is how you love? This is how you care? This is how you treat your baby's daddy? You come across ok when we talk about our child, but your pain is quite obvious and it hurts me to see you go through it.

 

Now since our divorce you've found a boyfriend to help numb the pain and told me that you are going to be with him for a long time just to spit in my face. Now there is another man in our 2 year olds life for who knows how long. Screw you! Yes, I'm angry. I loved you, you loved me and just months after we cut the tie you show me that our love in the first place was nothing more than a sham. We shared EVERYTHING with one another!

 

We have a beautiful 2 year old child that means to world to us. At least show her that you have your crap together.

 

(deep breath)

 

I miss you, I dream about you, I dream about us... even though you've brought so much pain in my life. Damn you....

[WillLoveAgain]

Well I am back to square one after a long day of back and forth email with my ex yesterday. There were things that needed to be said and I did just that, it's been 12 hours since my last email and i'm feeling good. Although i still feel the tightness in my chest there is also light there. I may have broken no-contact but it gave peace, now all i have to do is walk away and never look back.

 

K, you were my first everything and i will always cherish that. I hope that someday i can use what i have learned from our relationship to guide my children. I'm sorry for the way I acted when we were breaking up. I said some hurtful things that i wish i could take back. I want you to know that i trully want to forgive you but i am not there yet, it's still raw. Love conqueres all and my love will conquere my demons. I know we cannot be friends anymore but know that i am here if you even need one. I set you free with love and light and wish you find true love and hapiness. with all my heart B

[ajc24]

I am having a hard time staying away from you and giving my full attention back to my wife and children. You said we were soul mates and you had never experienced connection like ours. You had said the sex was the best of your life. Was this all your game to lure me away from my wife? I miss you and the daily texting and loving we provided each other so much. I miss holding you so close and professing our eternal love as we came together. I miss dozing together afterward. But still a part of me feels you must not be the person you led me to believe. You were always promiscuous, so I tried to teach you better. You had no problem jumping into bed quickly with the next guy and dropping me so quickly. Suddenly instead of being so needy, your needs were met elsewhere so you discarded me like trash. You shattered my big heart. I might have left for you but am so glad I didn't. You deceived me into thinking you were sweet, loving and kind, but in reality you are the most cruel person I have ever met. You say now you want to marry your new boyfriend after a couple months. You wanted to tell him you loved him a weeks into the relationship. Is this a rebound? Have you replaced me? Or was everything you ever said to me complete bull****? 4 years of lying to me? I know now you are a loser. A girl who has no friends and has lived her whole life in the same place getting guys to like her by being sexual with them quickly. You just never met one with a heart as large as mine, so you preyed on it. You took what I had to give and left me. I know this is best for me, but I want to contact you so badly. I have tried NC for the past 3 months with no success, my longest being almost 3 weeks. Every time I reach out though, you respond, why? You always know exactly how long is it has been to the day, you must be counting too? Are you not as into your new boyfriend as you want me to believe? The last time we talked and I told you how hurt I was and that I still loved you, you told me "Actions speak louder than words." Do you want me to file for divorce and chase you? Win you back from your new bf? Why not just tell me that instead of telling me you have moved on then sending mixed signals? I am so confused, hurt and alone. I can share this with no one. How do you do it? Do you have no heart? No soul? You told me once when we made love you could feel the depth of my soul. I guess that was bs too, right? God, please allow me to forget this woman and get back to the way things were before I began this affair. I wish I could delete you from my mind and heart. Someone please help...

[amorydiver]

tinder!? already, im jus assuming its to distract you from thinking about me all day

[MajorOak]

Hey sweatie

It's only me. Wow nearly a year, I have been doing my homework, I haven't been idle, things all sorted now. So much pain, loneliness. A few days to go.

You asked me to be strong, I scare myself now, yet I feel so fragile also? Funny.

You'll see strength.

[WillLoveAgain]

Why are you doing this? Is it because you are guilty? You decided to walk away so please leave and let me move on. I already said what i had to say so let me move on in peace. You may have the best intention at heart but all the action you are taking just hurting me. You don't have to take care of me anymore, I can, I HAVE to do that myself. I let you go with all my heart B.

[darser]

been a month now, having a hard time trying to cope with my own ideas, wanting to give up on that hope right now of we can get back together cause i know you don't want to, you want to stay in touch but i can't be friends with you, why i feel like this? why life gave me something so beatiful for so long and decided it was for the best taht i had a time out from it? i don't know what, but i wanna die, i wanna be strong and keep kicking it up, but i know right now i'm fragil as a glass and can break any second right now

[WillLoveAgain]

You F**KING LIAR A**F*CK! So this is how you "maturely" handle this breakup by lying to me, when you know how important for you to be truthful. I guess you will never change! You will always be a SCUMBAG! I am DONE with you.

[Chrystopha]

I still believe that what happened with us happened for a reason. I'll always believe that we were meant to be together. I wish I could go back and say things that may have made a difference at the time. I miss you every day. I'll always love you.

[Nolan 93]

I love you, and I miss you everyday, what I wouldn't do to have you come back in my life. It's lonely with out hearing your voice, seeing your beautiful face, and holding you tightly in my arms. I hope you are happy with your discion, I wish you all the best with your ex, but know I am always here for you and I love you. You'll always be my first love, ..........,and I love you Lyriq.

[Kaya]

J - I so want to contact you, I'm struggling, I was in your neighbourhood today. I'm leaving to spend time with my family tomorrow, it's strange because it feels like yet another goodbye to you. I want to tell you that I still care about you, but I don't want to make you sad, and I don't want to make myself even sadder. I worry about you over this holiday season, I worry that you will feel terribly lonely, but I must remember that this is your choice, and that you want to go in a different direction - one that does not include me. Despite all that has been said and done, I still love you, maybe I always will. I hope you stay safe and find happiness & contentment.

[FixItCris]

Dear C.

I saw you on the motorway today. I had a bit of a panic attack, followed by a moment of realization and clarity.

I was just a rebound for you. I was never the guy you were looking for, I was the guy you needed. Once you got what you needed, you were able to find what you wanted.

I don't agree with the way you did it in the end, but I understand why.

I regret handling things the way I did in the end, but to be fair I was angry.

I hope one day we can hang out as friends, ride bikes and do the things we did for fun. You are a special kind of person that I was lucky to have in my life. You taught me so much, and I hope I taught you some things too. I hope you find the happiness you deserve after weathering the storms of your past. I hope one day we will both meet the perfect people for each of us, and life will forever be crazygood.

I wish you all the best in everything you do.

C xxx

[batt]

When I said I really care about you I do. I'm sorry you had those things happen to you when you were younger. When I said you're beautiful and amazing I meant it. You need to stop thinking so lowly of yourself. That was one of your biggest flaws, your constant negativity. But I was always there, because thats what boyfriends do. I'm sorry I was thinking about sex when you said you got a hotel room and wanted me to stay. Thats why I stopped when I saw you weren't ready. All our friends told you to speak up if something is bothering. I told you numerous times to please please please let me know if I do something to upset you. Remember our first date? When we went to Buz n Ned's and you were wearing that that pink and white stripped hoodie and we played that game on everyone? Remember our date to the comedy club and you were frantically looking for something to wear, and I told you it doesnt matter to me? how we just held on to each other after the show. Then you grabbed my hand and wanted me to show me your favorite Mexican restaurant? Or how bought those gloves, and gave you my jacket every time you were cold? Its rather ironic that the shirt I wore on our first date was the shirt you you didnt want to explain anything to me or even let me have 10 minutes to talk with you. Was anything I did so bad that you ended it so abruptly? Maybe communication was our biggest issue. It was something I wanted to work on apparently you don't. I took full blame, even though it was a two way street. I should have took your word about you being selfish and immature. I would have saved myself all this anger, grief and depression. The way you ended it infuriates me!!! Not even a phone call!!! Not even a text!!! No reason why you dumped me!!! Im just left here to speculate and its ****ing xmas and you know thats my favorite holiday. Part of me regrets telling you to enjoying being miserable and having no ambition to change, part of me is relieved. It was the truth and I have always been blunt maybe you need to hear. I want to send you a merry xmas text so badly, but **** you you cowardly bitch!!!

[DenverDude]

Hey, just wanted you to know that I am thinking of you over the holidays. Today is christmas eve, and normally we would be opening our presents that we got eachother. I can see your smile now. I miss you J. I hope you are well and I know Eddie misses you soo much. Please be safe and enjoy your new found freedom. Tell your family I said hello.

[NomiMalone]

Happy Christmas. Ottawa misses you xx

[FixItCris]

Dear C.

You're almost 39 and dumped me to jump straight into a relationship with another ******* (exactly your type)

I'm 35, good looking and single.

who's winning now, bitch?

[JFReyes]

Feliz Navidad J...

[NoMoreJerks]

Je t'aime, malgré toute. Mais je ne peux pas continuer de te fréquenter. Je m'excuse pour te faire de la peine. Je t'aime.

[Jingle14]

3 and a half years on, I'm still in love with you, D, and I miss you. Do you remember choosing the (artificial) tree and baubles together 4 years ago, which would be 'our tree in our future home'? Did you think of me when you decorated it this year? I'll love you forever, and I'll miss you twice as long.

 

Incidentally, I had a Facebook friend request from someone whose name I didn't know yesterday. Turns out it's a neighbour from 2 doors down. Said he'd been browsing and saw my profile 'my hot neighbour', as he put it. He can't understand why 'someone as gorgeous as you' was dumped. Why do all these other people want me - including the super intelligent, very good looking Italian 18 years my junior that I dated for a couple of months recently, but ended it with last week - and you don't. Who are you with who is so much better than me, and who loves you more than me and who is a better physical fit than me - you told me even after you dumped me that 'we fit together'. We still do, so why not give us another chance?

Edited December 25, 2014 by Jingle14

[Cupid's Puppet]

"Merry Christmas ___. I am glad our path in life met because you have made me a better person. One love. Merry Christmas to you and your family."

 

 

Was that supposed to brighten up my morning? Okay the only time I get any contact from you is for my birthday or a holiday. Honestly, just cut me off. Delete me from your phone and your life.

 

 

Remember? You said God sent you a sign so big you could not ignore and had to break up with me. So on that note, don't text me again. If you do, your fingers might fall off or God might give your kids and grandkids leprosy because you contacted me. You religious nutjob.

[Chrystopha]

I'd love to say to you, "Merry Christmas". I wonder what it must be like.