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[WhatWeHad]

And another thing....where do you get off being so happy, huh!! You were the one who broke promises, lied, possibly cheated at some point. Why do you get to be the one with a life the way you want it (I assume)? You built this beautiful foundation of love for me to stand on; trust that you nurtured; promises you made to make me feel safe with you and then you just pull the rug right from under me without warning? Then you act like I should be fine and be over it as if we didn't mean anything to each other. You asked me to marry you! You said you loved me first! Where do you get off moving on without a blink???!!! Once again....you suck!!!

[milk]

I miss you so much tonight. I wonder what you're doing, who you're with, how your studying is going, if you've been eating well.. the usual. I shouldn't even be thinking about you anymore. I am so angry at you for jerking me back and forth but I would do anything to be jerked in the direction that you are in one more time. I wonder if you miss me too, but I bet you are fine. I'm sure I'm going to love you for a while. I miss hearing you telling me that you love me more.

[lostsoul6486]

I've been thinking about you way more than I should be recently. You are still the first and last thing on my mind every morning and every night even though I know I'm not on yours for even a second.

 

For all of you who are in this situation, let me offer you a quote I heard not too long ago: "There is nothing that can take the pain away. But eventually, you will find a way to live with it. There will be nightmares. And every day when you wake up, it will be the first thing you think about. Until one day it will be the second thing."

[Jet Lag]

So, I can't even come outside your house to pick something up? You have to take it to someone else's place. Seriously, what is the problem? Are you scared I will look into your house? Will there be another girl there...or another girls stuff?

 

I wasn't planning on looking in. I just needed to grab the stuff for your (not my) son.

 

I saw you today, from across the stadium. I saw you a few times. I presume you saw me too.

 

It is hard to understand how you no longer want to even acknowledge me. How do we go from best friends to this?

 

Maybe you are just trying to do the right thing by me, the thing I asked you. Nice that NOW you start doing the right thing.

 

I dreamt about you last night...and the night before...and the night before that.

 

Do you even think about me?

[tlour61]

Hello

 

Ex: Hello

 

We need to talk.

 

Ex: I F***** hate you and don't want to talk to you. I don't like you are the house.

 

Well that is nice. I really don't like you too much. I need you to pick up your things and change you address.

 

Ex: I will pick it up when I feel like it.

 

Too bad you don't get the help you need you drunk. Keep on screwing with the people who care. Because one day you are going to find out you have nobody. Buying your way out of bad behavior won't always work. I still want you to change your address and get that stupid safe out of my house. Stop the drinking dirtbag.

 

Five months later mail and safe is still at the house.

 

Ring Ring

Ex; hello

 

I need you to change your address. for a person who hates me so much you are leaving a lot of personal information. If you don't change it I will start writing letter to each one stating you no longer live here. Nice job opening a new checking account with my address. If you think you are avoiding a levy from the IRs think again. They do it by SS# you stupid F***. But since you have been so nice to me and keeping you address at my home. I think next time I receive new banking statement I will mail it back to the IRS. Since none of the company understand return to send this drunk no longer lives here.

 

As for the $1000 you left in the safe. Thank you for the trip I just took. I enjoyed the extra spending money.

 

PS: Don't ever give a women a choice between you or their child you would lose most times.

Edited November 16, 2014 by tlour61

[StrangerThanFiction]

I had sex with the same friend I did the last time again. You know what happened? I cried after. I FREAKING CRIED! That has never happened to me before. Just all of a sudden my throat got tight, tears started to flow, and my whole body shook with rib cracking sobs. My friend was really understanding and just held me as I cried and he told me it would all be alright and it was ok but all I could think of is that I wish it was you holding me. The driving force for me having sex with him was because I just wanted a little physical closeness and intimacy. I haven't been touched in so long. But obviously I'm really not ready for it yet (still). I can honestly say I don't want you back but for some reason I miss you still. I don't even know what it is I miss in you. You were a cheater, a liar, and a user. You weren't a good bf but I still stayed with you for 6 years, always hoping things would get better. Foolish naïveté on my part, I know. Here I am, two months after BU still heartsick and in pain while there you are travelling, possibly engaged, and happy. It makes me sick that such an ********* has everything come to him so easily and has everything they want. My friends say that you'll eventually lose it all because bad people get what's coming to them. I'm not going to hold my breath, I'm not going to hope for it, I'm just going to try to get to the point where I just don't care what happens to you at all. That's all I can do, really.

 

On a more positive note, I finally blocked your number on my phone. I didn't do it for the last two months because I told myself I was waiting for you to come grab the few things still at my place. In two months you haven't mentioned them once. I'm done fooling myself. If you wanted your things back you would've come and got them by now or at least said something. It starting to seem to me that you're just delaying picking it up until you're totally sure things with you and your chippy are sure to work out and if they don't you have an "in" back into my life. Well screw you, you bastard. I'm not going to allow you treat me like that. You are now blocked and I'm done. Now the real healing can commence I suppose.

[Haydn]

You should not worry about bad things happening to others we feel so wronged by and hurt by. Much better to not care what becomes of them, good or bad. Hate eats you away. Maybe stay away from having sex with `friends?` It could tarnish the friendship. And your friend could feel something more for you....

 

Things can come easily for you as well but `he` is stopping you because you allow it. It is about you now. Stop blaming yourself STF. I did for a long time. It is not easy to get out of but you will.

 

Take care and keep going.

 

 

 

I had sex with the same friend I did the last time again. You know what happened? I cried after. I FREAKING CRIED! That has never happened to me before. Just all of a sudden my throat got tight, tears started to flow, and my whole body shook with rib cracking sobs. My friend was really understanding and just held me as I cried and he told me it would all be alright and it was ok but all I could think of is that I wish it was you holding me. The driving force for me having sex with him was because I just wanted a little physical closeness and intimacy. I haven't been touched in so long. But obviously I'm really not ready for it yet (still). I can honestly say I don't want you back but for some reason I miss you still. I don't even know what it is I miss in you. You were a cheater, a liar, and a user. You weren't a good bf but I still stayed with you for 6 years, always hoping things would get better. Foolish naïveté on my part, I know. Here I am, two months after BU still heartsick and in pain while there you are travelling, possibly engaged, and happy. It makes me sick that such an ********* has everything come to him so easily and has everything they want. My friends say that you'll eventually lose it all because bad people get what's coming to them. I'm not going to hold my breath, I'm not going to hope for it, I'm just going to try to get to the point where I just don't care what happens to you at all. That's all I can do, really.

 

On a more positive note, I finally blocked your number on my phone. I didn't do it for the last two months because I told myself I was waiting for you to come grab the few things still at my place. In two months you haven't mentioned them once. I'm done fooling myself. If you wanted your things back you would've come and got them by now or at least said something. It starting to seem to me that you're just delaying picking it up until you're totally sure things with you and your chippy are sure to work out and if they don't you have an "in" back into my life. Well screw you, you bastard. I'm not going to allow you treat me like that. You are now blocked and I'm done. Now the real healing can commence I suppose.

[StrangerThanFiction]

You should not worry about bad things happening to others we feel so wronged by and hurt by. Much better to not care what becomes of them, good or bad. Hate eats you away. Maybe stay away from having sex with `friends?` It could tarnish the friendship. And your friend could feel something more for you....

 

Things can come easily for you as well but `he` is stopping you because you allow it. It is about you now. Stop blaming yourself STF. I did for a long time. It is not easy to get out of but you will.

 

Take care and keep going.

 

I'm trying really hard not to wish doom and destruction on him. Most days I feel indifferent towards what's going on in his life, but there's some days I can't help but have evil little thoughts about him and hope everything falls apart for him. However, that's usually when I'm hungover so there's an easy way to solve that I guess

 

I'll definitely be avoiding sex with friends for the time being. Especially since he told me he's been in love with me for over ten years now *facepalm*. Talk about awkward. Don't want to lead him on into thinking I feel more for him then I do. I was straight up honest with about my feelings though so at least he knows where we stand.

 

You're right. Time to let it go and start really focussing on my own life. Just hope I have the strength.

[Mandy26]

Cried and cried today- wishing you would call- knowing you won't - wanting something that you couldn't give me which is sincere love- even though I know that relationship are private but being kept a secret is not. The truth is so painfully obvious- you love her not me even though you deny it or else you have have let her kniw you are involved and known I existed and it wouldn't have changed your friendship , I am worth more even though I feel so small oh the grieving - healing process can be so difficult at times- tomorrow will be better - I know it will.

[JFReyes]

PS: Don't ever give a women a choice between you or their child you would lose most times.

 

Blood is stronger than steel; thinking otherwise is folly. Good luck.

 

Peace :-)

[Mandy26]

Back on here again....crying again...blaming myself for just walking away after learning more...wasted 2 years...brought him into my son's life. Feeling beat up and crushed. Really struggling with giving myself the self love we all deserve....needing to let it go -knowing I should and focus on today and tomorrow and in the moment, struggling right now

[Drspell12]

Your birthday was two weeks ago.

And all I wanted to say to you that day was... thanks for dumping me

[Agent Orange]

I suffered a pretty huge loss last week, and thought you would at least reach out to offer your condolences...you didn't and I don't know why I'm surprised. I suppose I still think of you as a decent human being, but deep down I know better. There are only three reasons I can think of that you wouldn't contact me. 1.) you're unaware of my loss

2.) you're convinced I'll "misinterpret" you breaking NC as a sign that you want to get back together

3.) you don't care

 

I'm pretty sure it's a combination of 2 and 3 but either way, you've been on my mind a lot lately, and I really hate that. You're such a bad person, but then why do I miss you?!

[Mi7522]

" Buh bye" ..... What's with the at least 10 character deal?

[SadinDC]

Relationship ended June 2013, no contact until "final" conversation Sept. 2013 and I went immediately into NC. She contacted me just before Thanksgiving seeking "friendship" and I told her no. She contacted me again late January '14 near my birthday and I lashed out at her (not a good idea) suggesting she used me, etc....she responded, I broke down and asked to talk and she said "no" (heartbreaking for me)....NC contact again until September 2014. She asked to "reconnect". Used language that, to me, suggested an interest that was more than "just friends". I was weak again and told her that I was still vulnerable and still had feelings assuming she would take that as a signal to either back off (if she was not interested in romance) or let me know is she was interested. Nope. After a couple of friendly emails, I found the strength to actually ask her if she still had feelings. She replied she was sorry if she implied anything beyond friends and told me she was dating. That hurt. I sent her a note yesterday saying I still had feelings and that I could not be "just friends" wished her well and told her further contact would be emotionally damaging for me. Clock has started again. Sigh. And I feel bad and sad that I'm mistreating her. And I miss her. Some addictive stuff going on for me for sure. No specific purpose in posting this but encouraging words are most welcome. Thanks!

[Arient]

Relationship ended June 2013, no contact until "final" conversation Sept. 2013 and I went immediately into NC. She contacted me just before Thanksgiving seeking "friendship" and I told her no. She contacted me again late January '14 near my birthday and I lashed out at her (not a good idea) suggesting she used me, etc....she responded, I broke down and asked to talk and she said "no" (heartbreaking for me)....NC contact again until September 2014. She asked to "reconnect". Used language that, to me, suggested an interest that was more than "just friends". I was weak again and told her that I was still vulnerable and still had feelings assuming she would take that as a signal to either back off (if she was not interested in romance) or let me know is she was interested. Nope. After a couple of friendly emails, I found the strength to actually ask her if she still had feelings. She replied she was sorry if she implied anything beyond friends and told me she was dating. That hurt. I sent her a note yesterday saying I still had feelings and that I could not be "just friends" wished her well and told her further contact would be emotionally damaging for me. Clock has started again. Sigh. And I feel bad and sad that I'm mistreating her. And I miss her. Some addictive stuff going on for me for sure. No specific purpose in posting this but encouraging words are most welcome. Thanks!

 

I felt so damn sad reading your post, isn't it sad that we, who loved with all our heart, who loved so strongly and fearlessly and honestly, are the ones stuck so damn longer than those breaking our hearts. But I have to remind myself that even if the relationship dies, my love will always last, it's just waiting to blossom again. Some hugs for you, from another in-the-healing- heart.

[Xemyd]

I guess it's pretty obvious, hey? I'm still in love with you.

[welyam]

haha i don't have any ex that i want to contact withl, but this is a pretty good idea

[ralfgarnett]

How could you do it ?, how can you just up and leave after 20 years ?, how can you be so heartless and cold when you know just how much your loved by all of us.

[CopingGal]

Hello Asswipe.

 

Fuhk you.

[lop98]

I cry often since I moved here... thinking about you, us, all the words and few actions that took place between us. We never did much for us, we just settled with the distance and took each day as it came... we loved each other and crashed again and again and the distance was always painful, so other people were brought in, and we moved on, and we did what we wanted to do with each other but with someone else instead. You'd always check up on me, I was always thinking about you. The few times we reconnected since then, I could feel your love... every night we hugged and cried over the stupid decisions that we made, I still believed there was hope for us. We agreed to move here. Now I'm here... and I'll see you soon, and I know we'll hug and caress each other as we usually do... but you're still sorting out your life, I'm still in a relationship, and it hurts me.... everything I said two years ago, all the words that now seem like bulls/it, like naive crap we knew nothing about and that happened before the breakup that was devastating and made me hate you for a year... I still want it, I still want the life together, I still want to share everything with you, I want a baby with you, I want to come home from work and find you everyday, I want to be in your arms every night... I love you. I understood this may never happen but sometimes, like tonight, it hurts.

[Agent Orange]

I miss you, I still love you, and I hate myself for feeling this way.

[toolforgrowth]

I don't miss you, I haven't loved you for long time, and I'd rather eat a bucket of vomit than get back together with you. You cheated and broke our marriage vows. I dumped you and divorced you and became the best dad for our daughter I could possibly be. And now, almost three years later, you ask me to go to her parent teacher conference with you...the first time in years that you have asked me to do anything with you and our daughter.

 

What part of "I don't want to see you again" are you not understanding? So I scheduled my ownconference time with her teacher. Big deal. I even made sure that you could still get your own time with her. And now you suddenly feel like I need to "get past my aversion to you" and that you "think it's silly that I hate you so much that we can't be in the same room together for 20 minutes"?

 

You don't get it. I am a part of C's life, NOT yours. WE divorced. What part of that are you not understanding? I will not be blackmailed or guilt tripped into being around cheating piece of $h!t that you are. If my choosing to have my own life bothers you, you should have thought of the consequences of your actions. This is YOUR fault. Now you have to live with it. Is it finally starting to get to you now? Or are you just so bored in your current relationship that you have nothing better to do than to try to control me?

 

Be grateful I didn't respond to that text. I would have lambasted your sorry azz. I chose to be the better person and ignore it.

 

God I really needed to get that off my chest.

[Sad26]

How can this world be so unfair, how can you be so cold hearted, selfish, and could think only of yourselves. How can you go around enjoying your time without a thought of what you did to me and how am I spending my days/nights. How can you let your friends call me names on twitter and still say nothing to them. What have I done to deserve all these ? Why could I not judge you and why did I ever trust you and worse why did I love you?

 

You will have nothing of the pain and the suffering you inflicted on me. This is an unjust, unfair world and you will enjoy your life.

[tryingtodealwithit]

I don't like that I feel this way, but...

 

I hate your f*****g guts and I hope you're miserable. I hope that you are wallowing in that grind that is your life. And I hope every once in a while you think to yourself "I messed up."