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[RoseHeart]

Today is a really ****ty day. I can't believe i had to see you again on campus. It threw me off. I feel like crying. I miss you all over again. Everything hurts so much right now. Knowing it's really over and you'll never want me. This feeling just sucks.

[Mandy26]

so a text out of the blue... you asked if I still wanted the microwave...stated that you would deliver it and leave it in my garage for me.

 

I am proud of myself for not responding...but I lost sleep and again dealt with feelings I thought I was over you...so sad at times again.

 

You broke up with me via text after I pulled away, after you were never going to tell your ex or your female friend that we were or even you were in a relationship...you are a selfish nacarcassitic ass... honestly though I wish you all the best in your future.

[StrangerThanFiction]

The evening you told me about your little vacation I was crushed., totally crushed. I was also more angry than I've been in a very very long time. The next day my chest ached and I was so miserable and in so much pain I thought for sure my heart would just quit under the strain. It was worse than when we broke up in the first place.

 

I don't know what you were trying to accomplish by rubbing my nose in this, but that doesn't matter anymore. What it did accomplish was putting the last minuscule sliver of hope to rest with absolute finality and making me see you for what you are instead of what I thought you were. You're not the man I was in love with. You are a stranger. You are cruel and selfish. You are not someone I want in my life in any way. By you doing this it has made me realize that I don't want to have any contact with you anymore. NC has become ridiculously easy now because there is no desire for me to reach out. I don't care of you don't love me (if you ever actually did in the first place). I don't care if you don't think about me. I don't care if you miss me. I no longer love you and I no longer miss you. In a way I'm glad that you did this. It might have hurt enormously at the time, but it also gave me the clarity I needed to see past my hurt to the reality of the situation.

 

I'm sure what you wanted to achieve was the opposite of what actually came out of it and I'd like to thank you for making this easier for me, even though you're intentions were to make it harder Thought you knew me better than that

[SoThatHappened]

Haven't been in contact with you for almost 5 months, but wanted to let you know that I'm finally over you.

 

The pain is gone. The hurt is gone. I don't hold you on a pedestal anymore, and I see you for the person you are. And that person is someone I don't want to be with.

 

You're really disgusting, and I feel sorry for your next victim. But I actually feel more sorry for you and your daughter if you continue living the life you've lead up until now.

 

You don't have a hold on me anymore. You never will again.

 

I'm finally reading the next chapter of my life and have closed the book on us.

 

I really am better off and glad that I'm no longer with you.

[Cupid's Puppet]

Eh screw you. My sister was right. You're being selfish. You need to move on. I thought you wanted me out of your life. Live with your decision. I have to live with mines.

[Cupid's Puppet]

Look. I'm trying to talk to this other guy right now and you messing me up. You just told me you can't talk to me. Why you keep texting me? I'm not trying to understand you anymore. You want to talk to me or you don't? You just said you couldn't. Oh let me guess, God told you that you can text me but not talk to me on the phone?

[JDPT]

Still wishing you rot at times but what good is it?

[JFReyes]

Still wishing you rot at times but what good is it?

 

Like war, absolutely nothing. Hopefully those times are diminishing in frequency and intensity. Peace, brother... :-)

[Sad26]

How cruel and unjust this world is. Here I am crying for the past 5 months and you are enjoying your time and better you are also tweeting about it for me to read.

How can you disappear from my life just like that and send me a text message that you are breaking up. Why could you not give me a decent break up by talking to me. I begged you for last 5 months to have a five minute call but you ignored all my messages. Whenever and wherever you get a chance you take out your cruelty on me. What have I done to you - you are the one who cheated on me, lied to me, let your friends call me names publicly on twitter, and yet you make me feel like I was a monster.

How could I not judge you? How did you make me believe in the beginning that you are an innocent person who can never cheat and is always honest. Why did I let my guard down ? Why did I trust you, why did I love you? How can someone not have 5 minutes for the person with whom they had one year of relationship. Did I ever mean anything to you ?

I will never forgive myself for trusting, loving and misjudging you. Enjoy your life and keep on hurting others.

[jonsnuh]

You were the biggest mistake I made in this lifetime.

[FlatTree]

Why do you have to keep me on the hook? When dragged into a conversation with you two days ago and I asked you about the new guy why did you have to minimize it "as we are just bang buddies," cry the whole time making me feel bad for you, and say a bunch of subtle breadcrumbs trying to keep me on the hook. Then I get to see you at his house, away from work, for "lunch" just the next day.

 

Now I just have the worst urge to try to make you feel bad about it. The way you made me feel just the day before. Why can't you have the strength of your convictions? I don't even think you know you are messing with me. You are just selfish and want it all. I can't even tell you to stop though is the worst part. Woe is me, world give me strength and compassion.

[Justaguy30]

Good job *******. After everything I went through with you and after everything I did even after you beat me up what 15 times, broke my nose cheating on me every day while I watched your kids. Now I get to go to jail again all because you are a whiny little bitch. I ****ing hate you!!!!! Why is it that you get to ruin my life all over again after I already went through all of this **** for loving you. You are the worst low life scum bag on this planet. Enjoy because you have to live with what you did to me.

[SapperGB]

Its just 5 days since you told me that you couldnt be what im looking for, the conversation on the phone hurt so much, you know that. I tried to be brave so I asked you to come outside so we could say goodbye with a hug and a smile..

We met at your garden gate and all the bravery went. the tears that well'd in my eyes were real but i did not beg or plead. we held each other in our arms, kissed and cuddled tenderly for a fair while, i sent you indoors as it was getting cold, walked away and never looked back.

 

I cry now as i write this my love, ive realised my mistakes. Ive a huge change ahead and selfishly need support but i see one thing good to come out of this change. I would have no option other than to conform to what you wanted me to be.

I miss you Emily, so much yet you wont even respond to my simple good morning messages.

[xUnknown]

The first time, I couldn't believe it. I just started house arrest. I was on my own, with nobody, for the next 6 months. You came back, right when I was starting to move on. I let the one I loved back into my heart again. I gave you the benefit of the doubt that you were confused and you now knew what you wanted. Now, almost like clockwork...364 days after we broke up the year before, we do it again. Why? Because you're confused.

 

You're best friend got engaged and now you're scared about what you want out of your life? STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS! You're only feeding your own unhappiness. Stop to look around at what you have. You've admitted all the great things I do for you and how highly you think of me, how I've been nothing but good to you, how I've been the first and only person to throw you a FANTASTIC surprise party a week before when you came home from you're 3 month move for work.

 

I know I'm better off without you. I know I deserve better. But, I know the good you've done for me too. But you left me right after my little brother died. Right when I tell you I'm going through the grief again. Trying to face it head on instead of pushing it back like I did. I told you how much I wanted you to be there for me.

 

Its almost like when things get difficult for me, you run. Sure, you're confused... but about what? You're new job offer?? Take the job. I've supported and encouraged you the whole way. Because I want you to be happy. I was willing to give up my entire life, make the move, for you. Because I saw it working, just as you did. This was the plan we made, together.

 

Now, I've got to pick up my broken pieces and find myself again. Try to trust people again...because the one I cared about more than anyone, took what I knew, took what I loved, and threw it all way....because she was confused.

[SapperGB]

Damn you Em!

Youre online now, its the longest ive seen you online all day, others were you popping on for a second or two this is now 10 minutes.

I know youve seen my message, are contemplating how to reply? are you sending someone else messages? i asked you a fortnight ago if there was someone else you said of course not, then i realized the song i sent about sadness and tears on the night we broke up was called another love. your reply to that song was "sometimes songs speak better than words" IS that implying anything?

just tell me if there is. its better than lying saying i am awesome and the "its not you its me" BS

Edited November 5, 2014 by SapperGB

[edgygirl]

I think I'm on my way to recover from the damage you did.

 

Not that you deserve my suffering. Or the way I suffered and was sad the last months.

 

I've been NOT having nightmares about you or woken up suddenly for two full nights now, and that seems like progress.

 

And incredibly, today I thought about you and the (I think) new person, and for the first time, it didn't sting. Wow. I'm impressed with myself.

 

I was talking with someone online and he told me he couldn't cry over his dying mother, and I said I also never cried about my failed relationship. This is what I told him: 'I've been upset over a failed romantic relationship, but I guess not as much as I'd like to think, as I didn't cry once over it. I guess in the end our intuition says when something wasn't right anyway.'

 

And yes, deep down I probably always knew we had all connections needed, intellectual, intuition, sexual, but an important one was missing: emotional. Although we shared amazing intuition, we where never really friends and you never really got the real me.

 

So, I wish you disappear completely from my mind soon, I can't wait for that to happen and fast. I still have flashes about you when I leave work and am home cause I'm not 100% ready for dating someone for real. But I think about you less and less. Yay. And I'm talking to interesting guys. Maybe there's someone out there who is as empathetic as I'd like to think. There must be.

 

Our relationship sucked in the end, and honestly I think only you are to blame. I'm only to blame for not trying to confront and communicate the issues in a better way, and for swiping it under the rug (lesson learned, that doesn't work and snowballs). I did give all I could and all my heart.

 

So, good luck with that. I feel like you have to go through a lot in life still to understand yourself better and have more self-awareness of the world around you and yourself before you can be a decent partner to anyone

 

NOT crying over you. YAY.

 

Feeling a little indifference for the first time. I know that's the first REAL sign of getting over someone.

 

Also not missing being around you for the first time this week. I mean, I don't want that person you became anyway.

 

Leave my head for good. Hopefully very soon

Edited November 6, 2014 by edgygirl

[Justaguy30]

I have come to terms with the fact that you are mentally ill and I feel bad because I didn't know that at the time and now I feel like I picked on a sick person even though I wasn't trying to pick on you. You were really hurting me but you can't be rational like a normal person. I am sorry for doing that to you because it was not my intention to hurt your feelings which I clearly did. I hope are you are okay. I will always love you and probably miss you in some way for my entire life. It is unfortunate that we can't speak or anything because you have to hide everything from me. I wouldn't care what you are doing or who you are dating. Hope everything is okay and I am truly sorry I hurt you the way that I did. I didn't know that I was messing with your mind. Sorry

[HereAndThenGone]

I don't even know what to think anymore.

Not only did you come in and knock me off balance just to leave me for another girl but now it seems like everything else is falling apart too.

 

Why did you do it?

Why did you even contact me in the first place if you were just going to screw around with me and leave?

 

My work is suffering, and I already hated that job.

I had to drop my class because of this.

I started taking antidepressants because of this.

 

You've done nothing good for me.

And yet, I sit here giving you too much credit, like always.

 

I'm beginning to think this doesn't even really have to do with you at all.

It's been over a month since I've spoken to you and I can see you and her communicating back and forth on FB.

Does she know you were sleeping with me when you met her?

Were you sleeping with both of us?

You POS.

You didn't deserve me and I let you have me.

Why did I let myself do this and how can I stop myself from ever doing this again.

 

I didn't even know you that long, why does this still hurt so much.

[SapperGB]

This is now 1.5 days of NC... after you broke off you were the first to initiate contact, albeit very low contact (but i know how you are and youve always frustrated me with that). but your last was 11pm on Wednesday. I replied but heard nothing since.

 

I want to tell you that i know my mistakes. we both know they were not the kind of mistakes that break relationships, theyre the kind of things that concrete them; but i was too rushed. We both moved things too fast but i took it further by declaring love for you and suffocating you. had i known that it would have lead to this i would have backed right off. we arranged a day when you were going to open up to me but the day came and went without the talking we should have done - we just enjoyed the moment.

I read your old messages every day and really beat myself up for not realizing im finding it so hard and miss you so much, i wonder do you miss me?

 

Please Emily, cant we wipe the slate clean and start afresh? we never fought, never argued and always laughed together. lets relive the happiness, we are perfect together.

[tikay00]

Holy crap, I wanna peek at my exes Tumblr, and FB right now. Not going to. Always ends up with me thinking too much, and obsessing about her the whole day.

[polaske93]

I love you.. I always will, I think about you constantly and I hope your happy.. but I ****ing hate you! Why did you leave me for my friend?! Why do you treat me like the bond we had never existed? I ****ing miss you more then you will ever know. I hate this feeling, I just want to hold you, i want to share art with you.. I just want you. Even after all of this pain you caused me, and even though I know that I was nothing to you. You could care less about me, about my feelings.. but I still want you

[StrangerThanFiction]

I'm so done with this up and down BS!! I'll be okay for days and feel pretty much indifferent towards you. Then I'll start thinking about you and how little I meant to you and then I hurt again. The chick you left me for the first time is apparently engaged. To you, maybe? You were still talking to her when we broke up this final time. Maybe you went on your little trip with her and proposed? Ugh, I feel like a crazy person, thinking like this. It really doesn't matter now what you do or who you're with. Or it shouldn't. Something I find morbidly funny is that if you are engaged to her you were obviously cheating on both of us for the last year or so. She's welcome to have you! You're obviously not any sort of prize if you can do this to two women at the same time. I'm sure you'll make just as sh*tty a husband to her as you did to your first wife, and it'll end the same way too. With you cheating. Please just fall off the face of the planet already and do all women a favor.

[DSP]

Last night after the event I came home and collapsed in utter exhaustion. I curled up into a ball and I cried and screamed like I did the day I found out you were with another man. I had to be there for our child, but it ripped the wound open again.

 

I sat and listened to the rain in our empty house. I cried so hard and for so long I wanted to die. I screamed and begged for an answer. Why? What have I done to deserve this? Please stop hurting me... Please stop... Please.

 

I looked at you and all my feelings of love came back. Your raven dark hair; your beautiful smile. I saw glimpses of who you used to be. I also saw who you've become. You act as if you are over this and you probably are. None of this bothers you and you are OK.

 

When you spoke to others you kept saying us, we, in our house... You called my by my pet name.

 

Our house is empty and every footstep on the wooden floor echos and radiates my pain. I still look for you to come around the corner into the hallway with your smile just looking at me in adoration and amazement like you used too.

 

I woke up twice last night and reached for you. I miss your smell. I miss your taste. I miss hearing you breath and I know you are safe. I miss waking up and pressing the snooze button to hold you just one more time before I get up for the day. I always told you this was the best part of my day. Every single time. Every single morning.

 

Everything is hollow. Everything is empty. My heart hurts so much I can feel it physically broken in my rib cage.

 

Why are you so angry at me... What have I done to deserve this anger? I just wanted you to have a better life than when I found you. I wanted you to have it all. I just wanted you.

 

You are my darkest burning star.

 

I love you so much. I love you for everything you were. I love you for loving me. I miss my friend. I miss my left half. I miss making you happy. I miss making you laugh. I miss you.

Edited November 7, 2014 by DSP

[Justaguy30]

Wow, I am still just amazed that you did all of this to me. All you had to say is hey I am over this and I want to see other people but instead you played horrible games with me until I was so hurt I could barely function and you knew that but you didn't stop destroying me and then when we finally broke up you were just amazed at how pissed off and upset I was. You are a fool and you deserve to go through what I am currently going through. I feel bad for anyone that ever gets involved with you ever.

[edgygirl]

No need to contact you actually

 

I'm THRILLED to say that I just thought about you, it DID NOT sting and I DO NOT want you back

 

PHEW. Took 5 months but yeah... it finally happened.

 

Just like that. For no reason besides me seeing the light, it seems.

 

 

You are emotionally unaware and pathetic. I'd have a miserable life with you anyway.

 

Have a good life, assclown. Your loss