Post here instead of contacting your ex!

[stillfiguringitallou]

So you decided to contact me, to again tell me you are over it. Only after I had gotten down to 2 contacts - in a month, To return items, and inform you they were being returned, nothing more.

 

Toe tell me how the only thing in this "entire situation" you have to feel guilty for, is cutting of contact to me...

 

And it was the lightbulb moment. The one everyone talks about - probably stemming from the fact that as i erased you from my life, purged things in my fashion so as not to be the *******, and saw the timeline in black and white, for you to say that was the most pompous, disrespectful and delusional action.

 

I'm still going back and forth between shock and pure anger.

 

But, you were wrong about one thing. Being unable to help me move on ... I'm pretty sure this contact was about exactly the opposite idea.

 

And choosing the path you did of undeserved self righteousness, it was like the missing puzzle peace that made the picture crystal clear.

 

If I ever see you again, it will be to soon.

[SailorGirl925]

Perfect opportunity here to send the text/email that I can't actually send because I'm in NC! Here goes...

 

Dear D-Bag of a boyfriend. I've invested and invested and given you my heart and soul. You got fired and begged me to listen endlessly for hours about how you made huge mistakes and screwed up. I endured your extreme highs and lows these last few months and was there for you 100 per cent. Now you friggin up and dissapear on me and ignore me? You just said that karma was getting you back for being such a jerk to others. Yes, what comes around goes around. So it's been 9 days and you have not bothered to contact me. Hope you had a happy birthday you SOB - I was not about to send you a text or call you since you feel I'm not important. I guess you got your daddy to help you out financially. Nothing like a 56 year old man admitting he can't find a job and instead of hustling to do whatever it takes... you go crawling to your dad for money. He gave you a house, you had to sell your Corvette to your son and now the big boat you bought with a credit card is collecting dust... you are not such a hot shot anymore. You said it all when you said "I've never had to worry about money in my life, I don't like this feeling". LOL. Arrogant jerk. Why couldn't you just be nice to people? Nothing like a good dose of humility. Guess it made you so uncomfortable you had to dump me rather than let me see you fall off your throne? I had high hopes for you/us but you are so intent on killing our relationship - I'm done. Tired of beating a dead horse. I was too nice, too supportive and too good to you. My fault - nice guys finish last, learned the hard way.

[furby58]

Dear Mr X,

 

 

I saw you come off that tram last night and it wasnt "mmm i'd tap that " reaction anymore that use to go through my mind ..it was more.."my god you look like crap and gained weight more than ever since our split " whilst im working my arse off and looking wayy better! Love goggles..is coming off slowly.

 

Luckily i was already on the phone to a girlfriend , pretended i didnt see you and kept walking.

 

So..**** you .

 

Furby

[Thegreatestthing]

Contacted him despite coming here,of course no reply

Whatever you do,don't email them or contact them

It Left me feeling ridiculous,and sad

I cannot comprehend how you can tell someone you'll never go

You promise to never go ,that you love them.....then never speak to them again.

Ignore all their little cries for help,I don't understand the heartlessness ,This must be the first time I've been hurt instead of being the careless and cold one.

 

Whatever you do don't write to them.

[Justaguy30]

Here we are 5 months later. I was doing so much better a month ago and then you talked to me and were so sweet and kind and it really made me feel so much better. Then I reached out to you and said I wanted to talk again because when we spoke I was mean and rude and upset instead of just listening to what you had to say. Last night I was with a friend dropping one of their friends off at 3am and I saw your car at A's house, the guy you just told me for the thousandth time is just your friend and you are not dating or screwing. Clearly you are which I already knew but seeing solid proof really messed me up. I wish you had just been honest with me about it. It truly hurts that you left me for him. He lives in a trailer park and works with you at the nursing home as a cook and his mom is your boss... He has no future and doesn't even take care of his own daughter who lives with his mother. What do you see in him, do you think he is going to be a good supportive father to your children? How could you believe that when he is 25 and doesn't even take care of his daughter. He doesn't even have a car. It really hurts because you left a good future with me for nothing. He won't even ever be good to you and you know that and don't seem to care. The night you called me you were so sad because I was always there for you and the kids and clearly you were upset because he is not. Well open your eyes, he never will be. I am so mad at you for not only hurting me but hurting your children. How could a man be more important than your own children. I guess I am glad that I saw that because now I know that we can't even ever be friends, I have no respect for you anymore. Not even a little bit. How could I care about a friend that just does not give a **** about anyone. As you can tell I am very upset today and that is an understatement. Crushed to the core once again. Thank you so much

[Always Pondering]

I thought about you for a while today, with a really weird question.

 

They say the grief you endure from someone leaving you is equivalent to the death of someone who was close to you. I wondered to myself, how would I feel if I found out that you had passed away? In my head, I imagine I would feel devastated. I wouldn't ever know for the rest of my life if you ever forgave me, what your final view on me was. It didn't make me feel sad thinking about this but I asked myself how would I actually feel if it happened? I know it wouldn't stop my life from moving forward but how painful would the news be?

 

Nothing has changed from these thoughts but I was surprised I never really thought about it.

 

Anyways, your birthday was last week wasn't it? I hope it was nice. I barely find myself thinking about anything that involves you nowadays, I almost kind of miss it.

[leavesonautumn]

I thought about you for a while today, with a really weird question.

 

They say the grief you endure from someone leaving you is equivalent to the death of someone who was close to you. I wondered to myself, how would I feel if I found out that you had passed away? In my head, I imagine I would feel devastated. I wouldn't ever know for the rest of my life if you ever forgave me, what your final view on me was. It didn't make me feel sad thinking about this but I asked myself how would I actually feel if it happened? I know it wouldn't stop my life from moving forward but how painful would the news be?

 

Nothing has changed from these thoughts but I was surprised I never really thought about it.

 

Anyways, your birthday was last week wasn't it? I hope it was nice. I barely find myself thinking about anything that involves you nowadays, I almost kind of miss it.

 

This is really interesting. I find myself being more attached to the thought of missing my ex rather than just missing my ex. I don't know what to do with myself now that I'm starting to move on emotionally and mentally so I'm convincing myself that I still want him.

[Thegreatestthing]

I didn't think of you the last six months then my world fell apart again the last month and now I just want you here like you were before,it didn't matter what was going on I had you so I was happy ,I want to write to you again so I'll just come here instead.

I don't understand even remotely what I did wrong,or why you left.

I don't understand the silence.

[Justaguy30]

You are always looking for someone to make you happy. When we first started dating you were always there for me and constantly went out of your way to help me and do things for me. It seemed like as soon as we moved in together you just stopped. I continued to care for you and your kids and did anything you ever asked because I knew you were having a hard time. The many times I tried to leave you I always came back. I was trying to leave because you were treating me like crap. I would be at home all day with the kids and you would get home and I would try to hug and kiss you and you would ignore me. You are pathetic and I really truly hate you.

 

I hope next time your relationship goes south which it will you realize how much you had with me and maybe you were accused of things because you were doing them constantly. I know it blows your mind that someone could be smarter than you or figure you out but I did and any man that actually cares about you with half a brain will. You will never find someone who is willing to date you while you screw anyone you want. If I had just gone around sleeping with every floozy I met you would have tried to kill me. Last we spoke you were all upset that I had been dating and sleeping with people but you are not only doing the same thing but you were doing it while we were together.

 

As for the next time I see you or you call me. I think ill just act like you are a ghost and a thing of the past. Someone I don't know and never knew which is really truly hard because I had so much respect for you for so many years. It is very confusing to have known a person for so long and to hold them highly only to really get to know them to find out they are horrible. It was really crushing to me that you are now dating A. I had sort of hoped you would slut around some more until you figured out that you have a problem and then maybe you would get help and then we could be together again. I look past so much bad in you because I really love the person I used to know and the sweet caring side of you is amazing. I hope next time you fall in love with someone you choose to treat them well. I know you're not currently doing that with A because you called me and asked me to come over in the middle of the night and then wound up at my house kissing on me and what not. That is not the behavior of a good partner. I am certain that had I gone to your house we would have hooked up and you would have been cheating on A which is something you did to me constantly but again you are fake and crazy. Best of luck

[Sadspork]

You got tired of trying to help me with my problems and getting nothing back but sullenness, sulking and occasional good moods. You even told me we had more bad memories then good and in my heart I know its the truth. When you dropped off my things today you were so, so cold. A stranger. It's funny how one day you can be sharing your dreams and hopes and believing that this feeling will never go away. Of safety. Then the next you don't even know the other person anymore. Can we be together? No. Time and trials have proven that. It's not that I wan't what we had back. What we had was hurting us both. It's the fact that I want the companionship. The conversation. Can it ever be friendship? I don't see how when you have so much resentment in your heart for me. And don't tell me you don't, because I know you do and who could blame you when I was such a bitch. Thats why I lost all my friends. Everybody was sick of me and I think the past few months you were sick of me too. You probably wen't out and felt better because I wasn't there bombarding you with my needs, me me me. So I just want to grieve the end of our love and put it to rest like you seem to have already managed to do.

[ImThinkingWTF]

It feels so weird not telling you goodnight. Complaining to each other about how hard it is to sleep alone. Sunday was always our day....it's become my favorite day of the week because it's when we get to see each other. I'd probably be in your hot room right now with my face in your chest. I miss you. I'm not ready to let go...

[Patr]

I hope he's worth it

[sugarlove]

Can't read any of these.. feel all teared up. reading everyone's written hurt on this thread is reminding me how painful love can be.

 

The tears I've suppressed for 2 weeks is starting to well up in my eyes. All I can say.. is that I will never ever take you back. After the way you left me with nothing but questions and hurt.. never ever will I go back to who I was when you walk away.

 

Your excuse to leave, is so frivolous and lame. Is that how much you cherish our bond? Is that the best you can come up with? After all that we planned, you threw it all away in a day. You never cared, you just wanted t live the dream... you're a child, I knew it along.

 

I'm hurt. I'm sad every day for 2.5 months, reaching out to you, hoping to God you'll return back to me. Perhap it was always meant to be for me to find out about your dirty nature, your lack of control and your immature way with women. I hate you. I hate every time I think of you, I will use whatever love I have left in me to despise every memory I had of us together. You will never hurt me like this again.

[leavesonautumn]

Freaking out a tiny bit as I called my ex in error. His name is right below a good friend of mine and I quickly cancelled the call. It even shows as cancelled. If it show up as a missed call on his phone I'm going to die of embarassment.

 

I've never been one to contact my ex, don't quite have that urge so I hate coming across that way as well.

[love1336x]

It is sad, I would take you back after everything?

 

I'm dating few guys. They are taking my mind off of you.

I miss you. I'm sure you know.

 

Do I ever cross your mind?

[Xemyd]

Why did you have to break me? I was never that girl who let her world fall apart over a guy, but you, you've ruined me. Mentally I've checked out, I'm done with everything.

[rainy_sun]

I still can't believe you're gone. It's been 2 months now and I thought I would start to feel better. I keep dreaming about you and that we're back in contact and things are good between us again. I miss you so badly its so painful knowing you're not there. I miss your love, I know by the end yours had gone away. But I desperately wish things could have been different and that we'd worked through it. I've done a lot of reading and apparently it's a common feeling for those in long term relationships. But you didn't want to try again and it really hurts that you gave up on me and the relationship. I know the initial breakup was mutual but I regretted it and you didn't. You felt relieved and free. I just feel lonely and sad. I know that things will get better in time. But I desperately wish you were still part of my life, I miss your emotional support. You know more about me than anyone on the planet, we shared all of ourselves with each other. I miss that. I know that I did things wrong but that it wasn't totally my fault. I love you and wish you'd come back. I miss being part of your life and desperately want to know what you're up to but I know this will probably cause me pain. That's why I'm writing this here and not contacting you. I hate seeming desperate, it's very unattractive I know. I still wish you well. I need to stop caring and hoping you will come back because it's not helping me any.

[throwitaway]

Yesterday I finally made the decision to stop looking at your facebook, your friends' facebook, and your okcupid profile. I have to admit it to myself, the reason why I've been hanging around is because you kept insisting you were 'confused' and that you 'werent sure that you wanted to be with me'. That you said taht you were happy, but you need to 'experience more before being in a committed relationship'.

 

Honestly, I don't blame you. I had the opportunity to look around before choosing you. What I still don't understand is how quickly you were able to jump back in and start looking for other guys... and how much you enjoyed and valued the attention they showered on you. In spite of the fact that I gave you everything. Why does it hurt/ It hurts because you made me feel as if Iwasn't good enough. Even though I know it has nothing to do with it.

 

Everyone keeps telling me, one day she'll regret it. One day she'll realize, one day she will understand. i can't allow myself to cling to that hope anymore. And, even though you texted me breadcrumbs, and you "liked" my okcupid profile, and viewed it, You are still lost and confused, dating around, hanging out with friends that don't really care about you.

 

I'm not going to rescue you this time, ********. This time, you need to save yourself. and this is probably going to be the most difficult trial you ever have gone through, even worse then when he died. Maybe one day we can talk again, and learn from our mistakes together.

 

Maybe one day we can learn to love each other again. But I'm not going to count on it... and I'm going to move on. I still love you, but that doesn't mean that we should be together. Goodbye, for now.

[love1336x]

What if the only reason why I'm feeling okay... Is because you are gone...

But when you come back from vacation... And we meet eye to eye... I fall apart?

[love1336x]

You are always on my mind...

Please go away! <3

[emotionalMess]

While checking out of a local grocery, I found out that one of the clerks is my ex's Aunt. Another clerk mentioned that she was the Aunt of "ex's name" in front of the Aunt. I don't think her Aunt knows anything about me. Since I the ex has blocked me, and I have blocked her, there is no communication channel open. I stopped myself from asking anything about the ex -I almost told the Aunt to say hello from "my name". I did not and I am very proud of myself. In fact, when her name came up I just said (hmmmm?) as if I did not care. There is a chance that she does know who I am and the indifference I displayed will now be communicated back to her. Either way, I am trying to care less and less and less - and its working. NC is working for me!

[Justaguy30]

Here I am again, we broke NC and you seemed to be feeling pretty good about us talking again and I found out you are dating the guy that I thought you were and called you out on it. It only hurt me because you talked to him all the time while we were together and you work with him. You made me look like a total fool to everyone you work with by doing that and talking **** all the time. You have no soul and don't care about anyone. I told you that I wanted to be friends but you just had to be honest with me, you lied so I guess that means our friendship means nothing to you. Why do I have to feel bad because you are such an *******. You did something wrong and made me feel like **** and instead of trying to make me feel better you do what you know makes me feel the worst. You are the worst person I have ever met in my entire life. Enjoy your trailer park nursing home cook that can't even muster up the ****ing man hood to care for his own daughter. I bet he will be helping you with your kids all of the time. You are a ****ing retard.

[Floralys]

**** you, I'm gone.

[VanessaVanessa]

Still so many questions, I search the answers in the air, in the heavy rain, in the pavement beneath me, on the objects around me. I cannot know what to do and that is the difficult thing. If I knew whether to go through and ask you. In the end I suppose once those questions were answered I'd probably produce some more and I'd want to get rid of the doubt for those questions too. That could go on. I wish you knew that I would've been committed. I do.

 

So I wonder who or what YOU search for, and I know that should, has to stop. I begin slightly to understand I should just let everything slide day by day...because I suppose in the end, if you were supposed to be here now, you would be. It's just that little push, that little glow, that little bell, that little dream which I need here, sooner not later.

[Xemyd]

Horrible dream about you last night, I woke up so panicked and worried about you I almost called you.

 

You do worry me.... Especially with your family's not so great health history. What if you got sick, and were in the hospital everyday, I wouldn't even know. If you died, I wouldn't find out for days.