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triniechu Established Member

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I have always found it interesting that women say I still want you as a friend. Guys don't say that very often. For me I have friends and the person that shredded my heart is not my friend haha

 

I feel it's different for everyone. My ex of 12 years are actually friends! We've been through so much together and we still cherished our friendship so much. My ex had a brain tumor and had 1 surgery while we were together and another a few years after the breakup. I still wanted to be there for him

No matter what. It took us about a year to be friends again. And now we are great friends. He's like a brother to me.

 

Like I said it's different for everyone.

Amy74 Established Member

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So--it's Wednesday....again.

 

**** you.

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Justaguy30 Established Member

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After we spoke today I can tell that you have totally moved on. Which is strange because the last time we spoke you were trying to screw me and kiss me and get me over to your house. I can tell that you are in love with someone else which I suppose is good for you. I hope that you don't treat him like you treated me but I am sure you will. After you do that a couple times perhaps you will see that it was in fact you that ruined our relationship and your marriage with your EX. You seemed to be telling me all the right things like you are just focused on paying bills and working and not worried about banging everyone in the entire world and I hope that's true. You truly should be focused on your kids. While we were together you were a sad excuse for a parent by all means. Today you looked really run down and skinny like you have been partying all the time as I am sure you have. I wish you would take my advice and try going to therapy and getting on medication so that you can feel like a normal person. I also noticed that you were wearing long sleeves again which I am sure means you have been cutting. I am sorry you are having such a hard time and you feel that no one loves you. The reason why you feel that way is that you don't know what love is which means you will never be able to love someone else. Love is always being there for someone else and seeing through the hard times without doing someone wrong no matter what. You jump ship at the first sight of rough seas. I am sure who ever you were fighting with the night you came to see me wouldn't have been very happy if we had hooked up that night but you would have never told them and wouldn't have felt bad about it. I really do wish you the best. Learn to be honest with people because you are a horrible liar and it looks bad on you.

furby58 Member

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Dear Mr X,

 

It's been a couple of days since you message me..a part of me felt rather peaceful may be because im tired being hurt by you and your BS. Today is one of those days ..if i had bumped into you i'd punch you in the face because thats what it felt like to me when you told me that you are in a new relationship .. i dont know why it bothers me so much now when i've always known from the beginning of the BU and i was fine until the past several weeks.Maybe im angry at my self more than anything for feeling the butterflies for you all over again when it should have died by now.

 

Furby

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buchanan.girl New Member

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you're not contacting me.

I'm not contacting you.

and I'm starting to think that it's ok if we never talk again.

It's ok. I'm fine. I'm good with that. I'm good without you.

You're a ****ing jerk and I hate you. I used to love you, but you used me and you drain me out, and now I realize all of these demons inside you and I hate you I hate you I hate you I hate you.

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Hoosfoos Established Member

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There's no evidence anywhere (except for the bin down in storage) that you were ever in my life. Ive erased everything. Ill bet dollars to donuts that all the stuff I gave you, you have it around and use it without having second thoughts. Because you dont care that you left.

 

Did we ever even happen? Its like some kind of intense dream, yet everything reminds me of you. Please dont attempt to contact me, my life has never been more ****ed up than it is now, and I dont want to lie to you.

 

I wasnt perfect but I was there for YOU, 110%. So many people have told me post breakup that you were very much at fault for the deterioration of out relationship, but I guess that doesnt really matter because everything for you was conditional..you never truly loved me.

 

I saw Nicole the other day on the transit walkway the other day. She didnt see me. She looked overweight, haggard, and miserable. The first thing that came to mind was that I wanted to tell you that by God, did I ever dodge a bullet. But youre not here anymore.

 

You were supposed to be my happy ending. Instead, youre the most painful experience of my life. Im at square one again while you probably havent missed a beat.

love1336x Established Member

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I don't care about being your stupid girlfriend.

I want to be your friend again.

It was your idea for us to date!

I should have kept you in the friend zone!

Why didn't I?

leavesonautumn Established Member

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A huge part of me had the realization that maybe I'm not as upset about our breakup as I'm making myself believe. Pushing you out of my thoughts becomes easier and easier as the days go by.

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VanessaVanessa Established Member

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One day you will know.

 

 

But I just don't want to wait for it anymore.

 

 

I want to be far away from that.

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Amy74 Established Member

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A huge part of me had the realization that maybe I'm not as upset about our breakup as I'm making myself believe. Pushing you out of my thoughts becomes easier and easier as the days go by.

 

Wow--this really struck me. Really why am I so upset? It wasn't a good relationship. The only good part was the sex. It was really good but it's just sex. I believe I will eventually find another partner who is really good at sex.

 

I feel so much better now. I don't know if this new outlook will last but it's refreshing.

 

Thank you so much!!!!!!

Thegreatestthing Established Member

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I've sent too many emails maybe four and if I send another one it's no good so I have to post here.

I have no idea what I did wrong to make him stop replying or talking to me.

I've never acted clingy before,I don't know what I could do to hear from him again.

It hurts like anything that I might never hear from him ever again,not knowing what I did.

me85 Established Member

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Why did you send me a request to add you on LinkedIn tonight after 9 days NC & obviously knowing I "unfriended" you or whatever & got off of there?? Perhaps it was by accident?? Though I don't know how that's really possible. Why would you do that, especially after my last email to you?? Are you just fu cking bat sh it crazy??!!

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Always Pondering Established Member

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Why did you send me a request to add you on LinkedIn tonight after 9 days NC & obviously knowing I "unfriended" you or whatever & got off of there?? Perhaps it was by accident?? Though I don't know how that's really possible. Why would you do that, especially after my last email to you?? Are you just fu cking bat sh it crazy??!!

 

I don't think I've ever sent a friend request on any social media on accident ;). I understand the small possibility on a mobile phone if there's no "confirm" window but even then.

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me85 Established Member

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I don't think I've ever sent a friend request on any social media on accident ;). I understand the small possibility on a mobile phone if there's no "confirm" window but even then.

 

I know! I don't get it!! He's probably drunk and cyber stalking me. I know him. He's going through social sites to see if I'm still on there & checking to see if I still have him blocked on FB. Which of course, I do.

 

Man, I wish he knew I was on Tinder! Lol

Always Pondering Established Member

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I know! I don't get it!! He's probably drunk and cyber stalking me. I know him. He's going through social sites to see if I'm still on there & checking to see if I still have him blocked on FB. Which of course, I do.

 

Man, I wish he knew I was on Tinder! Lol

 

Wow, that's a lot of cyber stalking. I don't think I've ever felt so messed up to go on random social sites--of which I don't use--and search an ex up.

 

I'm not sure what Tinder is but I assume it's an app similar to "Hot or Not" (Tinder sounds better though). I used H/N for a while and got bored of it, I don't think it's my style.

furby58 Member

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Dear Mr X,

 

I woke up remembering that its your moms birthday today .Yeah i miss her alot ,i did think about calling or messaging her to wish her happy birthday ..then i thought..nahhh itll just show you how much i still care about you and for your family .

 

Furby

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VanessaVanessa Established Member

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Tell me what you do these days. Are you still confused? What thoughts take your time up? Are they old thought or new thoughts? Is your health fine? Do you feel fine? Do you wonder if what I said was real? Because I wonder that about you.

 

I have come up with so many questions over the past 9 months, and only probably figured out the answer to a fraction of them. -Why did or didn't you do this or that-. But I think the most desperate of the questions are the ones about myself. I can't wrap my head around the why I didn't prevent myself from being more cautious with you. Why didn't I take things more slowly-why didn't I say no those two times where I still had a chance to stop things from taking a different route-why didn't I say straight up what I wanted from you-why didn't I remember straight up what I hoped for me. ...There are so many more.

 

I never imagined things would pan out how they have to this point. I never knew that a feeling of hope and desire that I built up early last year would dissolve so soon, so deeply. How did I believe those words? How did I think it could go smooth, or smooth enough?

 

Right now the worst thing are the triggers. Two songs especially that never used to have anything to do with you. I wonder if you hear any songs. Where are you when they play? Does it matter?

 

The truth is I'm likely always going to care for you. Even though you hurt me in a new way to anything before. I will care always, and yet I want so so badly to forget you. It is what we didn't get to have that stings hard. It's that you didn't build it up in your head or your heart as much as I had.

 

I just feel so dumb sometimes. How did I get ahead of myself?

 

I know I can't do it the same way if there is ever another chance. I cannot approach it the same, knowing what I know, I can never be the same again. And it might be bad, but it might be good if only for just one day, maybe.

 

Just tell me that you won't do this to someone else again. Don't confuse your next partner. Don't let her feel unsure. Don't leave out things that you shouldn't leave out. Be consistent as much as possible. Please. No unfelt words said, no felt words unsaid.

 

Take care of yourself, forever. I want you to.

If you are in a slim possibility somehow holding onto me, in your sleep or in your thoughts, because you don't want me to move from where we were, please stop and please let me go. I just don't want you to fill my mind anymore. It's not fair.

elseaacych Established Member

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I will never talk to you again if I can avoid it. I will not go through the pain of losing you again.

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Amy74 Established Member

Amy74

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I really thought you would contact my today. Not that I was hoping--just prepared.

 

**** you.

 

I really *really* ****ing hate you.

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love1336x Established Member

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I'm okay.

Let's face it.

I was never fully yours.

And you was never fully mine.

We both were place holders for our true love to come... :)

leavesonautumn Established Member

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Hey Amy74, we're in a similar boat actually.

 

The sex was literally the BEST part of my relationship with my ex and was what always brought us back together. I don't know if I will ever experience that again but as long as I focus on him, I will never know if it's something I will experience again or not :)

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VanessaVanessa Established Member

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"And I wonder why (why) I'm fallin'

And I wonder why I'm off the ground...

 

Don't you ask me why?

I'm letting go of my head

Coz I’m fallin'...

 

If you could only see,

All the tears that are fallin'.

And the answer that I need...

 

Try to close my eyes

And I see you in my mind

And I wonder why...

 

Why I'm fallin'

Why I'm fallin'..."

Thegreatestthing Established Member

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So tempted to email you today I need someone to stop me

I can't seem to understand that your gone

I keep thinking if I don't write you'll forget me

It's a sad thing,I have twenty boys to talk too but they're not you,

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Amy74 Established Member

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Thoughts of you can still make me soooo sad sometimes.

 

But **** you because these days it's only sometimes.

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love1336x Established Member

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Each day of NC gets me closer to forgetting the pain you inflicted upon me.

I want to move on, but at the same time....

I want to keep you in my memory.

 

I want to ask for another chance.

I'm sorta hoping that NC can make us both realize how much we love each other. How much... We need each other ...

 

I love you baby. Come back to me.

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