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Justaguy30 Established Member

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On days like today I really miss you, laying in bed watching netflix just talking. You are so beautiful and i miss your smile more than anything in this world. I would do just about anything to just lay there and cuddle with you like we used to. I am just sad today I guess.

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On days like today I really miss you, laying in bed watching netflix just talking. You are so beautiful and i miss your smile more than anything in this world. I would do just about anything to just lay there and cuddle with you like we used to. I am just sad today I guess.

 

I feel your pain. I miss the simple things that meant so much.

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Justaguy30 Established Member

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Its been a while since I have missed you all day, today has been really tough on me. Its summer and we had so many plans to do stuff together. I wish you were here laying in my bed right now but that is not realistic. I absolutely despise a few of your so called friends and even if you did get better and treat me well I could never be with you since those people are in your life. Please grow up and see what you are doing to everyone around you. Its pathetic that you are willing to just discharge anyone in your life because they don't agree with your gross behaviors. You have two wonderful children that need you and you are never there for them. You just drop them off at your brothers or your moms or pretty much anyone's house so that you can be by yourself all weekend or on your days off. Don't you see that they want to be with you...... I wanted to be with you but for some reason you pour all of your efforts into people that could care less about you and you leave the people that really love you hanging. You told me no one loves you the last time we spoke. That isn't true at all, you have people that love you more than anything but you don't love them back because you are a selfish child.

me85 Established Member

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Day 5 of NC complete.

 

I haven't heard from you. I guess you finally realize how serious I am about not wanting to keep in touch with you. It only took me having the balls to be clear and clearly spell it out for you.

 

I did what I had to do by sending you that email. I won't be your cake anymore. You're very lucky I haven't exposed you for the cheater you are.

 

Still, today I cried because I haven't heard from you. What the hell is wrong with me???

 

I don't know if I even love you anymore but somehow no matter what I do you're always in my thoughts. I want to hate you. You chose yet another girl over me. You treated me so bad when we were together.

 

Why were we so comfortable with each other from the start? Why did we have all that intense passion for one another? Why was the sex the best sex ever? Why was our chemistry so amazing?

 

Why can't I just forget about you?

 

Are you thinking about me? You did not respond to my email which has surprisingly made me kinda sad. I wish you cared. I wish you'd come knocking on my door telling me what a huge mistake you have made.

 

I don't know what I feel towards you really. I'm not even sure if this is missing you or what ??? Today I cried over you for the first time in a long time & I know it's because I haven't heard from you.

 

Did you ever really love me at all?

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nickjd Member

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It's been nearly 5 months since I gracefully bowed out of our life together. To this day I will never know the true reason why you felt you had to do what you did.

 

why you could just let someone fill the space in your life in exchange for the soul mate you had craved and cared for since you left school. The one who opened up doors and would do anything for you within his capability. The one who gave up his former life to start a new one with you.

 

I have a good idea behind the reasons you felt unloved, and I admit mistakes were made by both of us - however I can assure you I loved and will always love you until the end and apologize deeply if there was any confusion about my thoughts about us.

 

Now I am back to square one.. 26 and where I was before I knew you, 12,000 miles away. I have no idea how to move on in life, or if I will ever find a person like you again, but with the help of my family it has kept me going. We supported each other for so long, I feel like I has lost part of me.

 

I know we tried to work things out, but everyone had warned me against it. I hope you get on in life and for whatever reasons our paths cross again if it was meant to be. I'm sorry I didn't leave on good terms. I do have regrets.

 

Good luck with everything, you were my best friend. You deserve the best from life.

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furby58 Member

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Dear Mr X,

 

I said give me space for a while i.e a week or two since you managed to piss me off pretty bad on our last encounter. I dont know what kind of fairy floss world but when i say a while it means a week or two not 24 hours :mad:

 

 

Furby

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me85 Established Member

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I don't know why I didn't mention in my email that I have been seeing someone (and yes we slept together.)

 

He was the first guy I've been with since you. The sex was eh, nothing special. Definitely did not compare to the sex we used to have. Good grief. I'm not sure that I will ever find that again.

 

Anyways, that guy is going home today and I am so relieved because he was becoming a bit too clingy, wanting to see me everyday as if we were boyfriend and girlfriend. I certainly do not want to be in a RS for a long long time to come.

 

Where one leaves, another is sure to follow and I am already texting someone new. I'm just dating it up on Tinder! Still, I am so bored with these little boys thinking they are men. Even you, with all of your flaws, made me feel a certain way no one will ever make me feel again. Hopefully I'll feel better with someone else and whatever sparks we had will pale in comparison.

 

I've never had such a hard time getting over someone. Yeah, I've kept on living life because life goes on but there's this lingering sadness for us I carry around that won't go away. I've seen you 3 times in 7 months. 3 times in 7 months...wow. I'm not just now putting the math together but it's still really hard to believe. We slowly dwindled down to nothing.

 

I never really mattered all that much to you. Now I know for certain that you only loved me physically. You just saw me as a piece of meat, a sex object and nothing more. You tossed me away like garbage. AFTER breaking my heart into a million tiny little pieces.

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Justaguy30 Established Member

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I know its over and that you have moved on. It really hurt me when we were together that I wasn't important enough to even respond too so why would my feelings be important now. I am sure your new boyfriend is awesome and I bet you treat him like gold to his face but I am sure you screw around on him too. I just wish that you could know how you make people feel. You can't just ignore someone who cares about you. You are so selfish its unbelievable. You keep telling me you will call me and bring my stuff by. I sit up stairs and wait for hours for that to happen like some poor sad fool but its a call that never comes because you are too busy to even give a little bit of a **** about someone else.

love1336x Established Member

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You acted so strange around me...

As if I did something wrong!

I keep thinking about it over and over.

Thinking it was a sign you loved me still

Or a sign you hate me and wish u didn't have to see me...

 

Which one was it?

I'll ponder on that all night.

theexfiance Established Member

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How could you sleep with someone so soon? It hasn't even been one month after our broken ENGAGEMENT and you're already ****ing some other guy? You swore that you loved me. That I was the one. That you would always be there for me.

 

When things got hard, you ran out on me. You quit. It's sad when you put all of your faith in a person and they can't trust you.

 

You lied. You said that you wanted to work on yourself. Instead, you're out getting blitzed and screwing anything that will take you. That's sad. It's sad to see that after we broke things off, I was responsible. I dealt with our financial responsibilities, didn't get petty about the debts, and tried so hard in the first couple of weeks to talk.

 

All you gave me was bull.s.h.i.t. I don't know how I could be so stupid for so long. **** you. For taking me for granted, for lying to me, and for every stupid ****ing thing that you do after I'm gone.

 

If I never see you again...it'll be too soon.

 

-G

Amy74 Established Member

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I saw someone with your last name today.

 

 

Not really--I just wanted to say hi.

love1336x Established Member

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I am crying, and shaking and feeling so down....

 

I LOVED YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

F*CKING LOVED YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU!!!!!

 

You was my baby! You was WORLD!

 

HOW COULD YOU?

 

 

LESS THAN A WEEK AND BANGING ANOTHER GIRL?

 

Not even a good woman either. She been with EVERYONE! EVERYONE!!!!!!!

 

Your DICK could seriously FALL OFF EVEN WITH A CONDOM!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Less than a week.... How could you? Less than a week.... Couldn't wait huh? Less than a week... how important was I to you? Less than a week... I loved you... So much.

Jatli Member

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It's been 3 month since you left me for her and I miss you every single minute of every single day.

 

My heart is aching and I can't stop it. I want to get better I want to not think of you so much but we were so good together I don't understand what happend. I am so heartbroken.

 

You have never told me about her and denied there was even someone else bit I knew. I want to email you so bad. I want to just see your face.

 

I feel lost. I know I don't need a man in my life to make me happy but I just want the man in my life that made me happy.

 

I don't know what to do Anymore

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love1336x Established Member

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I want this day to be over already.

Its been hell...

Simple hell.

All I can think about is you and her.

I miss you. Even though I'm hurting. I miss you.

I still want to be held by you.

I still want everything to go back to normal.

I want to be loved by you.

So badly..... But.. We can't. So. Yea.

All I'm left with is pain and suffering.

I miss you.

edgygirl Established Member

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11 days NC (on my part). 7 days since your last email.

 

I just need time off of you. You are so disappointing in so many ways.

 

Going on vacation tomorrow. For me it has always been the best escape post-breakup. Going abroad makes one remember the world is large and there are so many people out there. I hope to have good experiences that will remind me to forget you.

 

Your last words were "Maybe let's talk when you're back". Yeah... maybe indeed. Cause I also have to think now. I have this vision in my mind that the right man for me would never have the guts to really breakup. Maybe you're not it. After all, when things get real, when you find someone who might be really it for you, you suddenly chose out of nowhere to become blind to what they are.

 

I chose to stop trying to date for now. At least here, because in my trip I will flirt away. I was pushing away every single guy I tried to meet and it's not fair to them or to me. I need time to process things and I can't pretend I'm 100% yet. You on the other hand must be dating already. 5 dates a week as before you met me? Possibly. It hurts to think, but the good thing is they'd be compared against me as you once said. Good luck finding what we had in someone else.

 

I know you must be wondering why I suddenly stopped writing and pleading. I'll let you keep thinking because I am the one now who has to do some thinking. Again - you're so disappointing. I would never guess you'd become this person.

 

edit: it's been a month we broke up today :(

 

And this forum inspires me:

"I don't understand why it's so easy for you to forget me."

"I miss the old you. The person you are now is not the man I love and miss. Right now, you are a jerk. You are evil. The old you died, I grieved cause I lost him. The man I loved died. Who you are right now, I don't know and I dont care. Cause I don't know you."

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triniechu Established Member

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I'm Moving on without you.

I'm so sorry for everything I've done to you.

I still wish we can work things out.

But I'm hopeful and wish both of us the best!

 

I still love you, I miss you and I really wanna kiss you!!!

I love you Siopao!! <3

You will always be my strongman and I'm happy that you've helped me become the stronger person that I am now.

I look forward until the day I see you again!!! We can catch up and tell each other where we have been and what we've explored during our time apart.

I know deep in my heart you still love me, but not just the same love we used to have. I would still want you in my life as a friend.

 

I'll love you always!

Justaguy30 Established Member

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After we last spoke for some reason I thought wow maybe this person does have a heart and maybe time has changed her. Perhaps she sees that all of her evil deeds have truly hurt someone else and that she has grown up a bit. Unfortunately you have proven me wrong once more. You are still just a sick little child that enjoys hurting me for no reason at all. Just because you can, you are sick and I hate you. After you said sorry I didn't hate you anymore and well now I do again which is really sad because I was feeling kind of good about things but because I allowed myself to have contact with you you have hurt me once more. It will be the last time I allow you to have power over me. Its going to feel really good when you call me for the next 20 years and you will and I will never answer not once. You will want something or need to say something to me but guess what ill never be there for you ever again. NEVER! Why did you make me hate you again....... You had a good thing going here but once again you ****ed it up. I am sure you laid there banging your boyfriend laughing about how you were just going to blow me off because you are sick. At least I never have to be a low life human being and that I can live with. Peace bitch

leavesonautumn Established Member

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On to month 6 and I still feel like a bag of dicks.

Justaguy30 Established Member

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I'm Moving on without you.

I would still want you in my life as a friend.

 

I'll love you always!

 

I have always found it interesting that women say I still want you as a friend. Guys don't say that very often. For me I have friends and the person that shredded my heart is not my friend haha

Justaguy30 Established Member

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I have always found it interesting that women say I still want you as a friend. Guys don't say that very often. For me I have friends and the person that shredded my heart is not my friend haha

 

Its like saying I wanna hangout with you but I really like ****ing other people lol

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Today was your birthday but to me it was no different than any other day. I remembered that it was your birthday in the morning but forgot through the day as I celebrated Canada Day and watched the World Cup with my friends.

 

I have nothing else to say.

 

The great thing here is: I did not feel tempted to wish you a happy birthday or contact you at all just for the sake of the day. Not even one ounce of temptation. I still don't even though I'm about to go to sleep.

 

Another reminder that things can only flow smoothly from here on out.

love1336x Established Member

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I feel sad, but at the same time I feel... Okay.

I don't want to cry anymore.

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Justaguy30 Established Member

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I am crying, and shaking and feeling so down....

 

I LOVED YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

F*CKING LOVED YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU!!!!!

 

You was my baby! You was WORLD!

 

HOW COULD YOU?

 

 

LESS THAN A WEEK AND BANGING ANOTHER GIRL?

 

Not even a good woman either. She been with EVERYONE! EVERYONE!!!!!!!

 

Your DICK could seriously FALL OFF EVEN WITH A CONDOM!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Less than a week.... How could you? Less than a week.... Couldn't wait huh? Less than a week... how important was I to you? Less than a week... I loved you... So much.

 

My ex screwed people while we were together and was dating someone before we broke up. A week is at least something.

me85 Established Member

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I'm really surprised I haven't heard from you.

You honestly don't care about me, do you??

 

God, I swear I wish I could hate you because you're the worst thing that's ever happened to me.

 

My last email must've really gotten to you for you to not respond. Well, GOOD! You deserve hasher words than what I sent, that's for sure. I was being polite. I'm glad I sent what I sent without being the biggest bitch on the planet (even though I have every right to be and you sure as hell deserve it.)

 

I wish I knew what you thought about it. I know I shouldn't care but I do.

 

My life is such a mess right now. I've turned into a full blown binging alcoholic and I hate myself for not being able to stop. It, like you, is a disease that's ruining my life.

 

Do I even love you anymore? I don't even know you now and I used to know you better than you know yourself. It seems like everything changed in a flash but slowly came to this, at the same time. It's so strange.

 

You were my best friend. All of the sudden, after many months of not thinking of you and I, I am starting to think about you and I. I have these images in my head, like of us kissing and how we held hands everywhere we went, even in the car while driving...laughing and playing in bed watching tv before we went to sleep...

 

I'll admit I'm missing you a lot right now. I've been lying to myself and it's helped tremendously up unitl this point. I've been telling myself I was fine and I really was. Dating, staying busy, distracted and none of that's changed but since not being in contact with you for the past 8 days after hearing from you every day until then is hurting me.

 

I'm hurting all over again.

I miss you so much.

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I am dreading tomorrow because I hold the tiniest of hopes that you'll try to find a way to contact me...but I know you won't. Even if you did, what would it matter? You never cared about me anyway. I know that now.

 

Hell, you don't even know how to do 'friends' right! So....no...I don't consider you a friend. Friends don't let friends have friends like you.

 

 

Now, if I could only make my heart stop loving you. Stupid heart!

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