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AnyaNova Established Member

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Dammit I (still) miss you.

 

 

But I do know this. My still missing you has nothing to do with neediness, clinginess, or desperation.

 

 

I had the chance to be with other men and turned them down because they truly weren't a good match for me.

 

 

I still don't understand at all.

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todreaminblue Established Member

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Dammit I (still) miss you.

 

 

But I do know this. My still missing you has nothing to do with neediness, clinginess, or desperation.

 

 

I had the chance to be with other men and turned them down because they truly weren't a good match for me.

 

 

I still don't understand at all.

 

 

 

i hav eturned down men too who love to hear from em adn reply promptly no less .....i am no clearer having an iq on the workings of mans heart anya....none of us are meant to i believe....entirely and completely frustrating a fact that sometimes needs to be let go before men with butterfly nets come to collect us to rock in a corner somewhere......going i alomst had it i almost had a clue over and over....smilin......cheer up...he sucks.they all suck..thats it..want some chocolate i have some a stash of it somewhere help me find it i have hidden it from myself ..lol....hugs ..deb

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stillfiguringitallou Established Member

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So I sent you a copy of the book my t recommended to me on co dependency, after i didn't recieve the card back as return to sender.

 

You accepted the package, and I haven't gotten a notice of return yet, so I'm hoping this means you are going to actually use it, in your road to healing.

 

I'd be lying if I said I didn't hope we could talk again after we've both had some time apart to work on us. I'd be lying if I said I didn't hope there was a future with a healthier us in it.

 

I'd also be lying if I said it would end my world if there wasn't.

 

I love you - in such a way that I will let you go. I love you enough to have spent the money to purchase something I feel will help you on your journey, with full knowledge that the journies we are taking may lead us further apart, and I am okay with that.

 

As long as the day comes that we can both be happy, and have the lives and relationships and happiness we both deserve so much. That is all that matters in the end.

 

That is how I know I love you, but still love me too.

 

I'm scared to do the next part. The part about abuses I've tolerated as an adult. I know I'll find you in there, and I'm scared that will result in boundaries too hard to cross.

 

But i love me too. And if it does, then obviously it was meant to.

guest572 Established Member

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I love you and miss you every day. I am convinced that you are the one for me and I will never find anyone else. I tried and I just got hurt again. I hate not having you in my life. You are my best friend and now there is no-one to turn to.

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schrysilla New Member

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Hello again T,

 

It's been roughly 2 months since we broke up from our 2-year relationship. and now you're already in a relationship with this girl. That girl you're dating right now, reminds me of the girl you kissed when I'm out on a vacation when we're still happily dating.

 

You kissed her with an alibi "I know we're going to break up, so I'm doing it anyways." on the day you said you will never EVER leave me alone.

You cried and crawled back to me saying you felt very guilty and will NEVER do it again.

 

Ah... All your sweet talks bothers the hell out of everyone. Even your parents are sick of your mouth full of sugar. and now, this new bitch of yours will feel the same thing sometime soon.

 

"I will never leave you baby, on any condition"

"I promise we're going to be old together, and even die next to each other."

 

OH HELL YEAH BITCH.

 

And you said this to my face "I'm going to start new again with this new girl, I will not make the same mistakes I did with you, and I will love her more than I loved you. So, I'm taking this relationship seriously."

OHOHOHOHO.

So.. this new relationship of yours starts 1 month after our break up and you call that serious?

Oh no... It's not only you that's stupid. that whore of yours is too, because she accepts the fact that she's only a BAND AID. In the end, She's going to break your heart like it was nothing.

She's going to break your heart the same way you did to me.

 

And eventually... karma exists.

 

**** you,

S.

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schrysilla New Member

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Oh.. and..

I've forgiven all of your mistakes, I've given you INFINITE chances to fix all of your mistakes.

Even your friend called me a bitch because they THOUGHT i was the one that always force you to call with you. WHICH IN REALITY, you were the one forcing yourself.

 

It was my mistake. trusting you, loving you, caring you, BELIEVING IN YOU.

and all i got was pain.

 

Ah... that's the stuff.. thanks for making this thread.

felt so much better now.

Thanks!

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CopingGal Established Member

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Hey L,

 

I was thinking about you today. I've been having that same daydream lately- you come back to me and you tell me the psychiatrist fixed you. You tell me you are very sorry for what you did to me and that you are cured now- you have a conscience now. But it's not true and it never will be.

 

I know you're the scum of the earth, but you are also a very, very, very sick man. I hate you. I love who I thought you were. Is it possible that I love you, the actual you? I think it's more pity than anything else. I'm so sorry that you are such a sick, sick, sick, man. You poor bastard, you really are a mess.

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CopingGal Established Member

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Hello again T,

 

It's been roughly 2 months since we broke up from our 2-year relationship. and now you're already in a relationship with this girl. That girl you're dating right now, reminds me of the girl you kissed when I'm out on a vacation when we're still happily dating.

 

You kissed her with an alibi "I know we're going to break up, so I'm doing it anyways." on the day you said you will never EVER leave me alone.

You cried and crawled back to me saying you felt very guilty and will NEVER do it again.

 

Ah... All your sweet talks bothers the hell out of everyone. Even your parents are sick of your mouth full of sugar. and now, this new bitch of yours will feel the same thing sometime soon.

 

"I will never leave you baby, on any condition"

"I promise we're going to be old together, and even die next to each other."

 

OH HELL YEAH BITCH.

 

And you said this to my face "I'm going to start new again with this new girl, I will not make the same mistakes I did with you, and I will love her more than I loved you. So, I'm taking this relationship seriously."

OHOHOHOHO.

So.. this new relationship of yours starts 1 month after our break up and you call that serious?

Oh no... It's not only you that's stupid. that whore of yours is too, because she accepts the fact that she's only a BAND AID. In the end, She's going to break your heart like it was nothing.

She's going to break your heart the same way you did to me.

 

And eventually... karma exists.

 

**** you,

S.

 

 

This guy sounds like a jerk. I feel sorry for the rebound girl. He didn't even give himself time to get over you. He sounds like a real ass. You deserve better.

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AnyaNova Established Member

AnyaNova

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I am contemplating possibilities that I haven't in years.

 

I wish sometimes very much that it was in my nature to hate you.

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CopingGal Established Member

CopingGal

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I love you and miss you every day. I am convinced that you are the one for me and I will never find anyone else. I tried and I just got hurt again. I hate not having you in my life. You are my best friend and now there is no-one to turn to.

 

Turn to yourself now...seriously. Turn to yourself.

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stillfiguringitallou Established Member

stillfiguringitallou

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It was father's day today. And though I thought of you initially this morning, I was very proud of myself for putting that all to rest. For not reaching out, for not wishing you a Happy Father's Day.

 

I still am.

 

Perhaps you were right all along. I won't say I'm over you, I won't say I don't love you, as I'm trying to live fully and truly in my reality. But your actions say you are over me. Your actions say you don't, and never did really love me. That is my reality.

 

This space and time and punishment is giving me the tools I need to let you go. Regardless of whether I love you, regardless of whether I am over you. I have now switched from hoping you come back, to hoping you stay away.

 

Just a little longer now.

 

Just long enough that I have no desire to speak with you ever again. Just long enough so if I do, it will merely be another blip on the screen of my lifeline.

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VanessaVanessa Established Member

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...You found someone, and I'm just here. Still the idiot.

 

 

I wish now that when I met you I'd just handed you a freaking ritual knife and found a stone table. Would have been much quicker and less painful.

 

 

.......Exact.

VanessaVanessa Established Member

VanessaVanessa

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Lo que se ama no se abandona'

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Amy74 Established Member

Amy74

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I guess you texted me because you were thinking about me and you wanted me to think about you too. AND I guess that it was cryptic because...well, because that's just how you are. What it would have been too easy to just say that you're thinking about me...or maybe you think that would have made you too vulnerable? A stupid screen shot of stupid Candy Crush...it took me almost twelve hours to notice that the chocolates were in the shape of a stupid heart. WTF?

 

Here's the secret Greg...I don't need some cryptic bull crap text to think about you. I think about you all the time...it's OPPRESSIVE the amount of time and energy that I spend thinking about you. Of course I'm thinking about you...I sent you a text the night before Father's Day because I hoped that would relieve some of the tension and anxiety that I have from thinking about you.

 

I imagine that you are feeling much the way I am right now...sad and a little relieved. And worried that the other is feeling relieved. Twisted right? I keep telling myself that it's okay to feel sad--we're suppose to feel sad--we SHOULD feel sad. There was no doubt that we loved each other. But it's also okay to feel relief---the relationship wasn't healthy and it wasn't happy. I love you desperately and miss you desperately but this is our chance to find some happiness.

 

I always said that without each other our future was destined for middle aged mediocrity--that the only chance we had of survival was deluding ourselves into believing that we could be happy. I don't believe that's the case anymore. I think that we will each find a partner more suited to ourselves...someone who will make us deliriously happy...love our children and help us heal from this. That's what I wish for you.

 

Now leave me the f*** alone. : )

redbaron005 Established Member

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And you said this to my face "I'm going to start new again with this new girl, I will not make the same mistakes I did with you, and I will love her more than I loved you. So, I'm taking this relationship seriously."

OHOHOHOHO.

So.. this new relationship of yours starts 1 month after our break up and you call that serious?

Oh no... It's not only you that's stupid. that whore of yours is too, because she accepts the fact that she's only a BAND AID. In the end, She's going to break your heart like it was nothing.

 

I was angry at my ex, but hell after reading this I'm furious at your guy. What a monumental dusche. At least you got out when you did.

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triniechu Established Member

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Jeremy,

 

You told me you loved me, that I was the one you wanted to be with forever. That you would fight for me when times get rough.....and you did the total opposite. You betrayed my love and my trust after all the things you've said. I thought you meant what you said? How can I ever trust you again? You ended our relationship and said you love me more as a friend , that you want to explore? I don't believe you! I know we've had our ups and downs but i stayed by you side regardless. My parents didn't approve of our relationship and I still stayed by your side. That was 100% of my heart Jeremy and you just threw it away. I'm hurting so much because I still love you and was not expecting this. It's been 2 weeks and I am still hurting. :(

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sickoflove11 Established Member

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I'm trying to post here instead of my phone.. it's driving me crazy. I try to reach out to you and make this a mutual friendship but it's doing my no good. You ignore me for a time then think you can just message me up whenever is convenient for you. I will not initiate contact anymore. I will do my best to stay away from my phone and stop waiting for you. This is harder than I imagined being friends.. why do you have to make it so difficult and confusing? :sick:

Always Pondering Established Member

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It's crazy to believe that it's been over a year since I've seen you. We used to see each other almost every day and now it's dead and gone. Well, things involving this healing process have only gotten better in the past half-year and not worse, so I'm thankful for that. I think finally after this long, I see myself becoming interested in the idea of possibly pursuing a new relationship. I've finally taken an interest in someone I met recently. It won't be right now because I don't want to rush into it but I take this as a good sign. It must mean that I'm coming closer and closer to snipping off that little connection that's trying its darned hardest to hold onto you in my unconscious.

 

Anyways, I can't wait until I see the day that I have fully disconnected from this whole silly thing. That will be such a great day. I have nothing else to write really, since no important thought or event in my life lately has involved you.

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Mary Oak Established Member

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I was listening to Joel Osteen last night, like we used to do together. He brought up some very interesting thoughts. I CAN do this through Christ who strengths me... so I thought, why am I not doing it?

 

Well, I guess to a degree I am, albeit, slowly. I am tons better than I used to be, but I still cry everyday. I would still rather be alone than with anyone else. But, I have accepted you life and that you are happy without me in it. That is a big step. Hurtful, but necessary.

 

We will never be again, but it still hurts. I guess it will continue to hurt... until it doesn't anymore.

 

I hope I don't miss you forever...when I think of my exes who I had long term relationships, I don't remember much about them. But, they were long ago, and I had never been in love before.

 

Goodbye R... just goodbye.

Hoosfoos Established Member

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N, I saw you on the transit walkway for the first time in four years after everything you put me through. I have been through a lot since then and even loved again, although my heart is breaking once again from someone else. I always thought it would be tough to see you but I passed you by, without giving it a second thought to talk to you. You looked like a miserable bitch on wheels and I know now with 100% certainty that I dodged a bullet. Thanks for not being in my life anymore.

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edgygirl Established Member

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I'm talking with four adorable guys online. FOUR. It's funny to see there are other nice people in the world when I believed online dating was over for me. But... they're not you.

 

They all seem so into me. Specially one of them. He's the kind of guy that I know falls deep for me. He's a feeler and the opposite from you: he's sensitive, caring, compassionate, empathetic. I feel he would be able to make a relatively quick decision about being with someone for life. He wants kids and it seem he wants them sooner than later. He's basically all I never got from you. Yet... I miss you. I miss your powerful brain, your wit, I even miss your slight typical coldness. I miss hanging out with you.

 

I could have been happy with you even if I didn't get the touchy-feely side from you. Why did I make such a big issue out of it?

 

Lord I miss you. I wish I could find a way to be sedated and sleep the rest of the day I'm not at work. I don't really want to go on dates with other people, I just want not to feel. Yet I feel so much.

 

As you said and I said: "maybe you're being an idiot". You are.

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edgygirl Established Member

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I cancelled a date tonight. I feel sick to my stomach. I only want you.

 

I miss you. I miss hanging out with you. I miss being in your room. I miss meeting you after your late nights at work. I miss getting your emails with plans for the week. I miss your kiss. Your touch. I miss our good times from the beginning. I miss you saying "I like you" looking deep into my eyes.

 

And I don't think it's neediness. I have options. But you're the only option I miss.

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Died2000Deaths New Member

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You fooled me three times.

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You broke me again.

I'm never going back this time.

Your jealousy is out of hand.

Every man I talk to, I am NOT ****ING.

We were engaged!!!!

I wanted to propose to you this time.....

And you did it again to me, and then ran back to her.

 

It's because she is not pretty at all, and is very over weight.

You will never have to worry about men falling for her......but one day

in the future, I'm sure you'll find something to torture her with.

You'll obviously cheat on her, no doubt.

 

All because I purchased an item from a man. It could've been any man. Just like how I had to change my dr to a woman, but yet all your drs are women.

All this, all in your head, and because you are guilty, so you think every person is guilty. Not me. Never!! My heart was only to you. Nothing I ever do will be good enough for you. I tried all the time. I loved you. I was faithful. I was honest ALL the time. I did everything for you.....but nothing was good enough.

But because you're a lying cheat, that means every man and woman has to be one too.

 

I loved you more than life, and kept going back to you, because I FREAKING love you! I'm the one who ALWAYS went back.....but yet, just like last time was your fault, you blamed me. This time, you blatantly broke up with me, and again you are saying I broke up with you, my choices. Uh. You cursed me to death over absolutely nothing, for days....and then look at who you are hanging with again. Yep fool me once, fool me twice, I have no idea what the rest of the saying is, but I'm outta here again. And I best NOT read posts from you, on how you don't hear from me..... Up yours!!! I hate you, and now I understand the NC, because now, this **itch, is sticking to it!

 

You KILLED ME......OMG IT FREAKING HURTS LIKE FREAKING HELL.

MY HEART PHYSICALLY HURTS. I HATE YOU FOR THIS AGAIN. YOU EVIL, HEARTLESS, DISGUSTING MAN! do not curse me ever!!!! This was all you!!!

100% made up in your mind.....obviously all played out, to not want to be with me, and to be with her. You played me again. OMG....how can you keep doing that to a person....if only they read all your sob stories.....not once telling them the real truth, on how you gave me a ring, and then only 3 months later were you yapping and only g-d knows what with her, and told her you ADORED AND LUSTED AFTER HER.. ... Adore was what you used to say to me......

 

OMG you Hurt me again!!!!! The pain. I can't do this again.

You must not be human, to feed off of my pain.

You evil hurtful man.

Your choice,....then don't come back on here with sobs!!!

I hate you!

 

Ps no nasty people responses.....leave and read on...

edgygirl Established Member

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The saddest thing is I wish I could sleep all day so I didn't have to feel this.

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