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collegeguy129 New Member

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You're strong, you don't need them. Don't sell yourself short. I might have felt like the other people here, but I got a huge smack in the face that knocked my senses back. Don't worry, in time you'll find someone else. In time you feeling ****ty will go away, but heres a little pick me up!

 

But guess what, I DONT WANT YOU TONIGHT!!

Stay classy and keep those middle fingers flying ;]

 

Thought maybe other people could use this!

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David87 Established Member

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Be strong buddy. Thanks for sharing.

FredJones80 Established Member

FredJones80

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Just over a year ago you wanted to get married, this year you decided you never wanted to see me again...

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lamis Established Member

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Just over a year ago you wanted to get married, this year you decided you never wanted to see me again...

 

I have that exact same situation. It is definitely rough my friend.

 

 

Now for my message to my ex:

I am at the point now where I can at least watch shows I love that you introduced me to, like The Office. I avoided it for a long time even when I wanted to watch it because I knew it would be a trigger, but it isn't really anymore. One thing that sucks, is that you used to tell me how much I remind you of Jim and that I was your "Jim." Turns out I'm actually your Roy.

Human experience is interesting, because the way I view that show now is so much different since my life experience has changed so much.

Anyway. You're kind of a ho. Just sayin'.

AnyaNova Established Member

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Forced crash so we can test my blood levels.

 

Miss you. Great person../believe in you...yadda yadda yadda.

 

This is exhausting. Can't wait til this is over.

 

You left me alone through this and that sucks.

 

I wish I could think right now.

Always Pondering Established Member

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Forced crash so we can test my blood levels.

 

Miss you. Great person../believe in you...yadda yadda yadda.

 

This is exhausting. Can't wait til this is over.

 

You left me alone through this and that sucks.

 

I wish I could think right now.

 

Could be a good sign, I remember getting to the point where I just got absolutely sick and annoyed at myself for thinking about memories, asking myself questions, etc. After that kind of behavior started really took a toll on me mentally, I got fed up with it and stopped.

 

I kept a journal in which I'd write my feelings about this whole situation on a near daily-basis. I even got tired of writing things in it whether it was positive or negative because thoughts associating my ex now just exhaust me. I just think to myself: "Oh, this again."

 

So hopefully this happens for you :laugh:.

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love1336x Established Member

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With each day passing it does get easier.

Thank god for true blood & video games though... that does a help a lot.

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STM206 Established Member

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You still cross my mind often. I look around to only be reminded that you're no longer a part of my life. To be honest, Adjusting to life without you has been such a struggle.

 

I know I should have been moved on by now, but I can't lie to myself. "Fake it until you make it" they say, but I can't fake the fact that you meant and still mean the world to me. I never thought someone like you would've come into my life and make me believe in love. Here we are, thousands of miles apart... you're already moving on and I'm still trying to figure out how to put the pieces back together 4 1/2 months later.

 

"I'll be the one, if you want me to. Anywhere I would've followed you. Say something, I'm giving up on you."

 

I miss you, I wish I didn't, life would be so much easier.

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johnpatric Established Member

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Take care cuteiii.. Have a happy marriage life...

jt27 Established Member

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I am struggling mightily with not having you in my life. I keep hoping it will get easier yet it seems to only get harder. I keep hoping I will not want you but I still do.

 

I dream about you every night now and can't escape the thought of you. You are everywhere I look, looking back at me with those beautiful eyes and that sparkling smile. I just want to reach out and hold you.

 

We were supposed to always be together and I can't get over you.

 

I gave you my heart. You took it and ran. I may never get it back.

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fallenheart Established Member

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goddamit. Been over 5 weeks and not a peep. My overactive/negative brain assumes you've just been sleeping with a parade of dudes, never giving me a seconfd thought unless it's to laugh at what a pathetic loser I am.

 

But I still ****ing miss you so much. I want nothing more in the world than to squeeze that body that fits in my arms like a glove, and to kiss you for hours. That kiss...that kiss is the one the thing I'll never get over. I've kissed many before you...maybe I'll even kiss again. But there's no chance it'll ever be as perfect as it was with you.

 

Wish I had meant something....ANYTHING....to you.

 

I wish a lot of things.

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Kansas87 Established Member

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Breadcrumbs.

Biggest/best breadcrumb I've ever gotten from you, but still. Have to keep telling myself that's all it is. A breadcrumb.

 

Would I give you one more chance, if you were really "ready?" Maybe. I know I should say no, but maybe. The problem is, despite what you say, I don't think you ever will be ready. I think you THINK you will, but I don't think you will. So I guess it's a moot point.

 

I would love to believe that maybe someday you will decide you're ready, you'll make the grand gesture, and you'll prove yourself. But I can't let myself believe that. I can't.

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Erlaad Member

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I gave you my heart. You took it and ran. I may never get it back.

 

No way buddy, your heart is yours. S/he might have managed to pull it a bit far away, but it's going to come back like a string.

 

You just need to pull it back. ;)

 

- Erl

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STM206 Established Member

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Not really sure how to feel about it, something in the way you move. Makes me feel like I can't live without you. It takes me all the way... I want you to stay.

Always Pondering Established Member

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I found the monkey coin bank you gave me a long time ago, I guess I forgot to put it away because I lost it. It didn't make me feel sad, heartbroken, or angry when I found it but I wondered how you're doing.

 

Of course as expected, I started wondering if we'll ever talk again in life, even just a "hello".

 

I sort of wish I had some magical object that could see into the future and see whether or not we were friends. That'd make these silly thoughts go away faster.

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STM206 Established Member

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How's the grass looking over there? Still green? Just remember, after summer comes winter. The vibrancy will fade and weeds will show. Now the choice for you will either be A.) move to warmer climate and start with a fresh lawn or B.) put some effort and maintain what you have in front of you.

 

Judging by your track record, I think you'll go with choice A.

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jt27 Established Member

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I keep finding random things of the way I thought you felt towards me. Things that would say "always" and "forever".

 

I wonder how you can say those things to someone else now or in the future and really, truly mean it....

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AnyaNova Established Member

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Here's the simple truth.

 

I would have stayed wih you through your OCD. Through your social issues and through your familial ones.

 

You wouldn't even be there for me through a simple health issue. You didn't give enough of a crap about me to consider that maybe never seeing each other again was a really bad idea in light of my friend's death.

 

Seriously I wish I could charge you rent for he space I. My head.

 

you left me. You abandoned me

 

It is high time that other than hat little bit I promised I stopped caring about you and stopped having these damned nutritional crashes which cause me to get set back and fixate on you.

 

I have you love and you stomped it under your heel as I'd it were worthless because you couldn't face your own fears.

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Erlaad Member

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This is not for any ex. This is for the "guy who's never going to leave me". The "only investment worth making".

 

I'm talking to You. Yeah, You that's typing right now. You with the stupid broken glasses and the silly avatar.

 

Yeah, I'm done coping with You. I've had enough. What's wrong with you? Why can't you be just a perfectly good man like all the freaking others? Why can't you get a nice good girlfriend, get a good job with some good money, get a good car and move into a move into a nice little house? Why can't you be trained and fit and slim like all good males your age? Why can't you be emotionally stable, confident, positive and easy-going?

 

Why can't you keep calm and stave off life's hardships like others? Why can't you be liked? Why can't you have good friends that you can rely on? Why do the people you care for always go away?!

 

You know what? I'm SICK and TIRED of YOU. Yeah. You're the cause of all my freaking problems. And don't you dare pointing fingers around. We both know that this is all YOUR fault.

 

YOU are the freaking caregiver.

YOU cannot f*cking control your impulses.

YOU must keep on falling in love with every stupid idiot who batters her eyelashes to you (no offense meant to the lady readers).

 

And then I have to deal with you F*CKING emotions and your F*CKING depression and your F*CKING outbrust and SUPER-DUPER-F***ING reputation.

 

I'm dead tired of you. Can't you please go die somewhere alone? So you'll be finally happy that you were freaking right.

 

Signed,

Me

Hello201 Member

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a week since she said she wanted a break two days since she said she wanted to finish it

 

im posting here instead of looking at our old messages etc , god its hard not to

 

i want here back when we were together it was everything i ever wanted she was amazing and id never loved like this before and she told me the same

 

i wish i knew what shes thinging right now , is she missing me , does she want to contact me is she not contact me cos she doesnt want to hurt me

 

she said the friends thing , how can i do that ?

AnyaNova Established Member

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Listen up, kid!

 

You let that strong, confident man inside you wilt like a flower denied water and if that happens and that strong confident man you showed me dies while the body that housed him still lives and breathes

 

My ghost gonna haunt your ghost in heaven for all eternity and it will not be pretty. Even if up in freaking heaven you still want this damned NC that given our issues is so terrible for both of us, I do want an accounting on that and the. As long as you tell me that you le him out to shine, ill leve you alone for the rest of eternity like you want.

 

But if not:..you're not hearing the end of it from me, ever. :p Got it?

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You continually show how full of lies and false promises you are, one minute you're telling me you'll do anything to be with me again, how sorry you are and that you'll prove to me that everything was a mistake, practically begging me.. and as silly as I am, I listened and then you go again 2 days later. But its always been that way, so why did I expect any different?

 

I haven't heard from you in almost a month now, I know you well enough, so I know without looking that you've moved on to someone else, that's the only reason you'd stop contacting me, because you can't bear to not have someone there to do everything for you, you need someone to fill in your gaps. Admitting to that crushed me at first, even more than the time I found out you were making advances towards another girl online, to know that I stuck by you through everything and now you've completely discarded me, which yes.. I wanted rid of you, I wanted better for myself eventually, but a silly part of me was praying for you to change, to mean everything you said, the same way I spent most of our relationship believing in some magic fairy tale side of you that doesn't exist.

 

I've never felt so low and broken as I did this past year but I'm actually beginning to not care, I'm beginning to realise so many things that I should not have taken from you. Even things that might seem silly to others, I know I can find someone who treats me better.. I know that there is going to be someone one day who loves the size of my breasts, just the way they are. They're not going to make me feel like I'm insignificant if I don't look a certain way.. There is going to be someone who loves every single part of my body the way it is and most importantly I'm going to be far more than just a body to them. They'll love me for my mind and for who I am, they'll talk to their friends about how much fun we have together or how special our relationship is, or how special I am, rather than just showing them intimate pictures that were supposed to be between us. One day someone is not going to be too scared or too selfish to help me move the relationship forward, to go out there with me and make the world ours, they won't leave it all up to me to do the work, they'll want to go the distance for me, just as much as I want to for them. They won't only see me as a sex object, they'll want to do so much more and admire so much more about me, they'll want to lay in bed with me and simply cuddle sometimes and they won't tell me Im clingy or silly if that's what I need that day. They'll want to romance me, they'll meet me at the airport or at the bus station when I come to visit them, they'll want to have a special night on valentines day and they won't forget my birthday. But perhaps most importantly, they'll be there for me, they won't give up on me.. they won't emotionally cheat when things get hard or have their ears pricked up, listening, ready for something 'better' to come along, or something that may be easier. They won't take my flaws I already know I have and hold them against me, they won't make me so scared and anxious that I have panic attacks. I'll feel safe. They won't let other people talk negatively about me, they'll have my back and more than that.. they won't ever talk badly about me to others or verbally abuse me. They'll appreciate all the little things I do, they'll find it nice that I like to wear dresses and put make up on sometimes and they won't knock me down for it and tell me I'm vain for caring about my appearance, especially if they know I used to suffer with bulimia.. they'll encourage me to hold my head high, they'll be proud of me accepting myself, they won't try to squish me down.

 

And I'll give them everything back like I used to do with you, only it won't be wasted on some selfish low life like it once was.. and I won't let my self esteem settle for anything less than it should be. Even if I don't meet this person until Im 65, thats ok.. I've realised since you left that I'm not worthless or useless like you told me, and yes to quote you, I do 'love myself, but that's how it should be, I have family and heck, I'm only 21, I have everything ahead of me. I know that every time you told me that no one else would ever want me, it was bull**** (Pardon my French), it was complete and utter bull**** so that you could have some pathetic sense of control to try to make yourself feel better. You were my first love which is a shame, but you won't be my last. There's so much more out there.

 

Also, I think I forgive you for what you did, but I most certainly do not like you.

 

This almost made me start balling at work. It is scary how similar our feelings are. You sure do sound strong. Keep that up!

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Mary Oak Established Member

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Hey again. One would think I would stop thinking of you eventually. Or at least stop crying. I wish you knew me now. I wish you cared enough to know me. I think you would be proud of the progress I made in the last two years. I know you see me at work, hear me around, and you have my work related email correspondence. I know you know I have chilled out and become a much stronger person. BUt, I wish you cared to really know me. Well, your loss, I guess.

 

Who am I kidding, it is my loss too, cause I sure do miss you. I can't move on with anyone yet, because I can't give 100%. But, I don't know if I will ever have 100% again. WHen you left, you took a part of me.

 

I know you had to leave, and I actually respect that decision. I know it was hard on you. I know you hurt and you probably still do in some way. The only thing I don't get is that you won't come back home.

 

Anyways dear, I miss you so much. I love you so much.

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learning_slowly Established Member

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I wouldn't contact her but she was referenced in something on Facebook, so her name came up. Really annoying as it caused me to think about her all day. What a waste of time!

 

Now blocked so it doesn't happen again!

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I love you.

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