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mangetout Established Member

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I refuse to pine over you. I refuse to get sad over you. You are not worth because you have shown total lack of respect to me. I don't place importance to people who do that to me. So that includes you.

 

 

My emotions are put into a box and I will throw it into the sea. Forever.

 

 

I am finally not scared of this

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me85 Established Member

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Hey as**ole, I think I'm finally getting over you!

 

 

After I sent you a message I really didn't know if you were going to reply. When you did, I didn't feel anything. When I didn't reply to your message you sent another one. I still didn't care. I bet you were thinking I would be so excited. There are no more butterflies left in my stomach for you. I am no longer waiting for your messages and I don't care if you send any ever again. I don't want your breadcrumbs. I don't even want you anymore. Sucks for you because you have lost somebody who was willing to love you forever. This chick will never be yours again!

Have fun with the horse looking woman you been spending your time with!

 

 

Oh man, I LOVE this! I really needed a good laugh! Thank you!

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me85 Established Member

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After all you've put me through in the last 3 years, I have finally fallen out of love with you.

 

You texted me last sat that you "still love me, miss so much about us, still have my ring and that you need to come back to your roots" then was cold a few days later.

 

God knows it was a HUGE mistake keeping in touch with you after almost a year of being broken up and you dating 2 girls since (that I know about.)

 

Hey, you wanted what you got. Don't come running back (like you always do) when your little 4 month RS with that new girl doesn't work out. Cuz from what you've told me it isn't going all that great. & why tell me as if I care or want to know?? I don't feel sorry for you.

 

You make me sick. If she only knew the real you like I do. Poor girl. She's just your next ex. You say you can't make anyone happy. Well, no you can't because all you care about is making yourself happy. You're selfish. Selfish people will never truly be happy because they don't know what true happiness is.

 

GOOD LUCK ex! I'm not your shoulder and finally realize that I really cannot stay in contact with an ex. I never tried it before. Never had the desire. I guess it was different with you. I actually wanted things to work out and try again. And I did my part. Now I say goodbye. Not to you directly but in my head and in my heart because you are a complete waste of time and you are NOT the one for me. I know this now.

 

You chose another girl over me so be with her. Leave me the hell alone. I never want to see or hear from you ever again. I honestly do not care what happens to you in this life or the next.

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mangetout Established Member

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I fought for our relationship because I thought you were the ONE. The first eight months were the happiest days of my life and the rest of it was pure MISERY for me.

 

 

TWO YEARS of pain, mistrust, paranoia, tears, frustration, and feeling ugly, ugly, ugly, ugly!! Why the hell did I stay??? Because you "Love" me?? That's suppose to be love??

 

 

Now I see the LIGHT. I see who you really are and always were!!! You do the talk but cant do the walk. You weak man with poor boundaries. Quick to spout your mouth about morals and yet you lacked that in yourself you hypocrite.

 

 

I fell in love with MR WRONG! You were Mr Wrong from day one! Why didn't I see that? Because I have low self worth. because I don't love myself enough. Well this is changing and I will be treated with respect in the future

 

 

Lesson learnt. The day I have to fight for my partner to love me is the day I will walk. Thats my future motto

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Jingle14 Established Member

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I really could have done without seeing you in your prickmobile Porsche yesterday morning, as I was driving to my job interview - another few seconds, and you'd have been pulling into my road (I presume you were going to see your parents) as I pulled out. Stupid car and truly ridiculous, mid-life crisis number plate. If I didn't know you, I'd find you pitiful and would laugh mockingly.

 

I loathe you and loathe the way I allowed you to treat me, the things I put up with, stupid middle aged woman falling so deeply in love for the first time, stupidly dropping my guard but I felt it was safe, safe because you dropped your guard too. But it wasn't safe, you broke me. I'm mostly together but still partly broken. I think I always will be, I have been for almost 3 years now and I'm now just numb, feelings locked down for my own self preservation, keeping people out and at arm's length.

 

And the fool that I am still misses you, misses the happy times and walking around not only holding hands but with our other arm around each other, gazing into each other's eyes as we walked, smiling and looking so blissfully happy - what must people have thought, not that we cared or noticed. Why did you kill that? I will never understand.

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lamis Established Member

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I can't believe it has been two months since you gave up on us. In some ways it still feels like it just happened, but in other ways it seems like it has been an eternity since that last night I saw you on Skype when you decided to choose someone new and exciting over me. Who you are now dating.

 

I still feel pretty crappy. My life has basically become all about my research, studying Hebrew, and playing video games (yes, I started playing them after years without them. Yay escapism.) I have sort of retracted from the real world, and feel like actually connecting with anyone or having a conversation with them requires way too much effort. Maybe because I am afraid to let anyone get to really know me again. Being alone is starting to be really comfortable for me. I have never felt this much apathy towards socializing before. Kind of crazy that just a couple of months ago I had you to talk to every day about all sorts of aspects of our lives, and now I probably really only speak my mind and talk about personal aspects of my life once or twice a week with my family and/or therapist that I am now seeing because I'm doing such a bad job getting over you, and letting it impact so many aspects of my life.

 

I still have absolutely no interest in other women. There is one who flirts with me all the time in my Hebrew class, but just the idea of having to get to know someone and letting them get to know me sounds overwhelming. I need to stay single until I am happy again, I think. Then maybe I will see a relationship worth doing. Let's hope the damage that you did to me isn't permanent or even long-term.

 

It is all made more difficult by the knowledge that you are basically just living life like you always have (as far as I know, anyway), except that you have a new significant other. I know that you were the dumper, and I know that you were in love with him for a while before you dumped me, but still, it makes me feel like what we were was never important to you. And I guess I shouldn't care about that, but I know that what we had was important to me -- now more than ever, since the loss of you has impacted me so greatly.

 

I wish you had said no when I proposed to you a year ago. That would made all of this a lot easier. At least the present would be easier, I guess I would have just been crushed a lot earlier. But maybe being told no upfront, instead of building expectations and planning a wedding for 10 months, only to be dumped for another man, maybe that would have been better. I know you couldn't have known what would happen, and I know that the you who said yes to me would never in a million years have done what the you of today has done. I guess that is what really frightens me about socializing with people -- you can't trust them. They all change, and you can't know whether that change will leave room for you in their lives or not. They don't change maliciously either -- in some ways that makes it even worse. They just change because it is human nature. Feeling change. And that is what really frightens me about getting close to someone ever again.

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FredJones80 Established Member

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I can't believe it has been two months since you gave up on us. In some ways it still feels like it just happened, but in other ways it seems like it has been an eternity since that last night I saw you on Skype when you decided to choose someone new and exciting over me. Who you are now dating.

 

I still feel pretty crappy. My life has basically become all about my research, studying Hebrew, and playing video games (yes, I started playing them after years without them. Yay escapism.) I have sort of retracted from the real world, and feel like actually connecting with anyone or having a conversation with them requires way too much effort. Maybe because I am afraid to let anyone get to really know me again. Being alone is starting to be really comfortable for me. I have never felt this much apathy towards socializing before. Kind of crazy that just a couple of months ago I had you to talk to every day about all sorts of aspects of our lives, and now I probably really only speak my mind and talk about personal aspects of my life once or twice a week with my family and/or therapist that I am now seeing because I'm doing such a bad job getting over you, and letting it impact so many aspects of my life.

 

I still have absolutely no interest in other women. There is one who flirts with me all the time in my Hebrew class, but just the idea of having to get to know someone and letting them get to know me sounds overwhelming. I need to stay single until I am happy again, I think. Then maybe I will see a relationship worth doing. Let's hope the damage that you did to me isn't permanent or even long-term.

 

It is all made more difficult by the knowledge that you are basically just living life like you always have (as far as I know, anyway), except that you have a new significant other. I know that you were the dumper, and I know that you were in love with him for a while before you dumped me, but still, it makes me feel like what we were was never important to you. And I guess I shouldn't care about that, but I know that what we had was important to me -- now more than ever, since the loss of you has impacted me so greatly.

 

I wish you had said no when I proposed to you a year ago. That would made all of this a lot easier. At least the present would be easier, I guess I would have just been crushed a lot earlier. But maybe being told no upfront, instead of building expectations and planning a wedding for 10 months, only to be dumped for another man, maybe that would have been better. I know you couldn't have known what would happen, and I know that the you who said yes to me would never in a million years have done what the you of today has done. I guess that is what really frightens me about socializing with people -- you can't trust them. They all change, and you can't know whether that change will leave room for you in their lives or not. They don't change maliciously either -- in some ways that makes it even worse. They just change because it is human nature. Feeling change. And that is what really frightens me about getting close to someone ever again.

 

Very sad, my heart goes out to you.

sooshi Established Member

sooshi

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I haven't heard from you in over two months.

 

How are you today? How have you been? How has your life been unfolding?

 

Say hello.

STM206 Established Member

STM206

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Am I really nothing to you anymore? Not even a "hi I hope you're well"? Have you really erased me from your memory?

 

4 years and it's come to this? We've become complete strangers, when at one time we were the best of friends, "soul-mates".

 

It's like you've filed me away into a folder titled "VOID".

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FredJones80 Established Member

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Am I really nothing to you anymore? Not even a "hi I hope you're well"? Have you really erased me from your memory?

 

4 years and it's come to this? We've become complete strangers, when at one time we were the best of friends, "soul-mates".

 

It's like you've filed me away into a folder titled "VOID".

 

Listen to the words of this ;)

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me85 Established Member

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You have the NERVE to text me at 3 am this morning that you love me "babe" & I'm the only person that ever truly loved you & asking me to help you because you want to kill yourself?!!!???

 

How DARE you!

 

It's not my job to take care of you anymore it's her's. You know, the girl you chose over me. If she's not, that's YOUR my problem. NOT mine.

 

Oh, she broke your heart??? Oh, you're so sad about it??? Well, cry me a freaking river!

 

Get out of my life. Stop contacting me. I'M NOT YOUR SHOULDER OR YOUR LAST RESULT OR SECOND BEST.

 

Fu ck you *********.

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tlegend Established Member

tlegend

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Listen to the words of this ;)

 

This is amazing. Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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FredJones80 Established Member

FredJones80

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This is amazing. Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Its sad because it is true :( From intimate bond to "somebody that I used to know"

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me85 Established Member

me85

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I finally realize how much better off I am without you in my life!

 

I've lost all feelings and attraction for you.

 

You will never get me back.

me85 Established Member

me85

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Its sad because it is true :( From intimate bond to "somebody that I used to know"

 

 

It IS sad. Especially if you saw yourself spending the rest of your life with that person and wanted nothing more than that.

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AnyaNova Established Member

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Apparently. Viewing three apartments causes a crash.

 

Spending eight hours renting a truck to get the stuff we need to allow us to live until I can move everything over finals week and moving my cat and I over, predicates a vey mild crash that my elecrolyre packet got me out of quickly.

 

Apparently doing the above yesterday and scouting out a new couch (will be delivered next week) precipitates a crash.

 

So I'm sitting in my new apartment with a headache the size of Tennessee, with at least mild to moderate cognitive impairment from my usual abilities, missing you.

 

Wondering if I'm right in supposing that the answer to where do all the 30's singles go on weekend nights is, home.

 

Wondering if you are lonely like I am on these days when all your couple friends are out. Wishing you'd just call me.

 

Knowing that you won't.

 

I'm so tired of this.every cell in my body knows that you weren't here when I needed you most and you didn't give enough of a anything about me despite my messages to be there for me.

 

My doctor says we should when we can start treatment stop these from happening.

 

God I hope she's right.

lamis Established Member

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I wish you would leave me alone when I am sleeping.

I hadn't had many dreams about you the first 7 weeks or so of our break-up, but the last week I have had three dreams about you, two last night alone. I had heard people before talk about dreams that just put them in a bad mood/upset them, and always thought that was kind of silly.

 

Now I know what they mean.

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Kansas87 Established Member

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I let you back again, against my better judgement. And here we are again, in the exact same scenario. Me pouring my heart out trying to change your mind, you telling me you've moved on and you need a "break."

 

And now I have to get over you all over again.

 

I just want to be happy. I'm so f***ing tired of getting my heart ripped out of my chest and stomped on. I want somebody to support me, to be there for me no matter what. Someone to love and to love me back. I'm turning 27 this week; I want to get married and have kids at some point. I feel like that's never going to happen now because I'm going to be hung up on you forever.

 

I don't understand how one day things can be going so well and the next you're so willing to let it all go.

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AnyaNova Established Member

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Just read a letter on that site that really sounded like it could be from you.

 

It described being in the situation of being with a jealous, controlling, and sounds like at the least emotionally abusive woman, and how the person was considering even suicide.

 

I know from experience that your voice is not completely unique and others online can sound like you so that I know it is likely not.

 

But if it were than you really and in no way more so threw the love I gave you in the sewer.

 

If you went from me who would have loved you as purely and as wholly as possible and always strove to uphold us both, and particularly to encourage you to be yourself to the utmost and find within you that courage that is there but so buried...

 

To someone who would value you so little and treat your love as trash, then. And only then did you take the love I gave you and flush it down the toilet with your morning business.

 

I really hope it is not you. I really hope that you wouldn't treat my love for you with such disdain.

 

I guess I shouldn't care anymore but I do.

 

The sad thing is, right now I think that if you were in front of me as distressed as you were that night all I would feel is numb. I hate that that is so, but right now it is true and maybe it is what needs to be right now for me to heal.

 

Because you're so gone you might as well be in a different dimension. You're not coming back to me ever in any way, shape, or form.

Petunia20 Established Member

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10 months have passed since I last spoke to you. I wanna tell you that you're still on my mind every single day of my life. I've been missing you a lot lately. I wonder if you think of me at all. Wonder if you miss me or if you wonder if you've made a mistake. I feel like no one will ever compare to you. I'm seeing someone else now. Have been for 3 months but I don't feel the same as when I was with you. I miss you and I think of you. I wish I could see you again even if it was just for a brief moment. I wish we would pass each other somewhere and we caught each other's eyes. Ugh...

Always Pondering Established Member

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It's been about 6 months since we've last had a conversation and a little over a year since I've last seen you. I do not know if your intention of ignoring that one time is because you just don't care now that you're in a relationship or if it's because you're actually giving me the space I need to heal. If it's the latter, then I thank you from the bottom of my heart and I'm very surprised. It's a shame we're just incompatible though.

 

I may never know. I have to admit though, I still wonder if we'll still say hello one day. I wonder if we'll pass by each other and just wave, or if that time would never come again.

 

Things are getting better though. As every month progresses, I always notice a step forward and because of that I know I will make it through.

 

I remember that things between you and your mom are not great at all so I hope Mother's Day did not turn out bad for you.

 

Well, goodnight and hope things are alright.

L1ght Established Member

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Haha nice. Over it

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Kansas87 Established Member

Kansas87

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How could you do this to me the week before my birthday of all times?

I know it wasn't all your fault. I know I made mistakes. But I wanted to keep trying and it hurts so badly that you don't. I just miss you.

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ThatOneGuyThat Member

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No I don't want to be your friend. I don't want to be anything less than first if I was ever to be in your life. Yes being with you would be easier, it would eliminate all the hurt I am feeling. But, it would not be right, you do not deserve me. You have hurt me tremendously and I may be able to forgive you in the future, but I cannot now. Especially if you are here and with me seeing you the way you are. You are not the person I thought you once were.

 

You made all the choices. You knew everything about me. You chose to hurt me, because you knew it would hurt me and you still did it. I was there for you when you needed me but when I needed you, you weren't there. Instead you were with him. Cheating on me. And now that I'm gone you're still with him. But what do I expect.

 

You went out of your way to see him. You lied to me. You made excuses for him. Even he thought it was weird you going to his, but you said it didn't matter. You didn't asked me, you took my trust for granted. You chose him over me. You should of been meeting him over me. You never should of lied to me.

 

You decided he was better than me. It's why you did what you did. Why you're doing what you're doing. You haven't moved on. You're filling a hole inside you which cannot be filled. You think you're happy but all you're doing is running away from the truth. You will never be satisfied.

 

You're incapable of a serious relationship. You will just jump from one to the other. Searching for excitement, thinking it's love. Its not, you confuse love for infatuation. But what we had was a relationship, and as soon as you felt it slip, that puppy love leave and all that remained was real love and commitment. You ran. You pushed me away. You chose lust over love.

 

We had something real. You decided what we had wasn't worth fighting for. So I'm deciding you're not fighting for. I don't want to talk to you ever again until you realise and reconcile. And if that doesn't happen then oh well. I would of already moved on. I am not a toy you can drop on the floor when you see something new.

 

Yes all these things are in the past and cannot be changed. But the future can be controlled. And I'm taking control of mine. Good luck with taking control of yours.

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me85 Established Member

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I let you back again, against my better judgement. And here we are again, in the exact same scenario. Me pouring my heart out trying to change your mind, you telling me you've moved on and you need a "break."

 

And now I have to get over you all over again.

 

I just want to be happy. I'm so f***ing tired of getting my heart ripped out of my chest and stomped on. I want somebody to support me, to be there for me no matter what. Someone to love and to love me back. I'm turning 27 this week; I want to get married and have kids at some point. I feel like that's never going to happen now because I'm going to be hung up on you forever.

 

I don't understand how one day things can be going so well and the next you're so willing to let it all go.

 

 

Did you copy and paste this from one of my threads??

 

I know exactly what you're going through. It's so hard!!!

 

But you WILL, I repeat, YOU WILL GET OVER HIM but I promise the only way is to erase him from your life completely.

 

Be silly about it and make jokes, like, "he's dead to me" because he really is going to have to be.

 

HANG IN THERE!

 

PM me if ya want as we are in the same boat. :(

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