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HappyxFaith Member

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I think about you in the morning, and I wonder if you do too. You know all those pictures you put up were ones I developed and gave to you, I wonder if you knew that. But then I realize, that wondering begets nothing.

 

I see the way our relationship played out, and probably if I could change some things, I would, but I wonder if it was just a combination of everything that hurdled you down this path.

 

I wasn't ready to live with someone, I knew but I did. And you were young, and I was your first healthy, and serious relationship. I thought that maybe because you were scared of suddenly having a very real commitment to someone else, that you were afraid of losing your freedom and your ambitions, and started remembering all the bad times we had.

 

But somehow you couldn't grasp the idea that I never tried to pull you back, never wanted to hinder you. I just felt you didn't have time for a relationship.

 

But I'm letting go day by day, and day by day things ease.

 

I wonder if I'll ever see you again. I think about asking to meet up with you when I'm finally in your country, asking if you have a new girlfriend. And that maybe if you didn't, you'd want to meet up with me. But maybe its just me and my dreams...

 

Maybe you really just don't love me.

fallenheart Established Member

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A little over 24 hours since you walked out of my life forever. I don't really have the words to express how painful it is to know I'll never kiss those lips that I love so much ever again. I'll never see those soulful eyes looking back into mine. And my last memory of you is always going to be you literally running away from me and it is killing me. I wish I meant something to you. I wish you were thinking of me. I wish you felt even a twinge of guilt, remorse, loss. I'll never know. I'll never see you again. Smell you, taste you. I don't have any ****ing idea how I'll go on in a world without you. Without you everything falls apart.

elseaacych Established Member

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I wish that I could send you the hospital bill for the panic attack you caused. It's about $3,500, you douche waffle.

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HappyxFaith Member

HappyxFaith

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I hate that every day now I'm waking up at 5AM thinking about you for god knows why. It doesn't matter when I sleep, but my body has started reacting like this. I wake up thinking up a girl you might like, how you might not actually miss me, or ever even contacting me again because she is just that great. And at the same time I don't want a guy who is crawling back to me just because his last conquest didn't work out, but at the same time, I wonder if you'll feel stronger for her, or if she's better than me, or if she's better for you.

 

My god, I'm driving myself crazy. I need sleep!

 

If I'm letting you go in my head and my heart, why the hell do you come back every morning to haunt me? God, I'm so tired.

STM206 Established Member

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<3 I still care... I don't know why.

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mangetout Established Member

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I wish that I could send you the hospital bill for the panic attack you caused. It's about $3,500, you douche waffle.

 

Douche waffle lol. I like that

HappyxFaith Member

HappyxFaith

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After reading an article... I desperately want to send you an email.

Telling you about how

 

I knew I took you for granted when you stayed with me, and I didn't show you the best side of me but I hope you'll give me a second chance when we meet up again. Am I crazy? Or just caught up in a whirlwind of emotions? I don't know....

 

Will you even meet up with me? Am I really not what you want? I want to cook with you, clean with you, grow with you, will I not be able to do that again?

 

Ugh...

HappyxFaith Member

HappyxFaith

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I must be going a little crazy... Why do I miss you so?

STM206 Established Member

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One beautiful day

If only we could share it together again, in our own special way.

 

The sun shines, the flowers are abloom...

I stare out the window, from a place we once shared our innermost moments, our bedroom.

 

You told me the words that I waited my whole life to hear... "I'll never leave you... Because I love you, in my heart I hold you so dear."

 

You said you loved me, and never would you place anyone else above me... You said I was all you needed, now you're gone, but our memories remain - undefeated.

 

The vacations we took, the conversations we shared, the memories we created... Even to this day, my emotions are nothing short of elated.

 

I know your departure left us both in doubt, the words exchanged left us wondering what the other was really all about.

 

We were everything... I looked into your eyes every day and believed that one day you would be bearing my ring.

 

I just don't believe that you stopped loving me so easily, not that fast... You were my soul mate, we had all the ingredients to make our relationship last.

 

I would give anything to have one more chance with you, a chance to rekindle a love that we once held so true.

 

These are my words that come from my heart, you and I together were such a work of art.

 

Dig deep enough into your soul, and remember what we once were... Lovers with dreams and aspirations... We were completely whole.

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Mary Oak Established Member

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Hey you. I just wanted you to know I am thinking of you and you are still very dear to me. I wish things would have ended differently for us. I know you always say you don't discount the future for us, but it has been too long now. TOo much water under the bridge to go back. I know you are gone forever, and I doubt we will ever speak again unless work related. THe only relationship we will ever have in a co-worker relationship. That hurts so much. You were once my world, and now you are not even in it. How are you doing? How do you feel about things? Do you ever look back? Or are you just in a constant state of forward motion? Well, I guess none of those answers really matters. What does matter is you are where you want to be, because if you wanted me, you would let me know.

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swimmingbird New Member

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I know we fell in love in the worst-case scenario, that we tried to stop it from the beginning but we couldn't and it was bad how we got together. But still, we made the impossible possible for some time and if I had the chance to go back I would do it again. Those memories are worth a hundred years of pain. You were the part that I missed all my life, and now you are gone because you wanted to do the right thing. Even if I didn't react well at first and you hurt me a lot during that time I only wish you to be happy.

 

Take care and keep shining.

elseaacych Established Member

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Reading this thread makes me feel so sad.

 

Ex. I don't even know why I want to talk to you. Maybe I miss that connection we had. I think I am sad-drunk, like I used to get with you. You know what? I've only been happy-drunk since breaking off with you. You were a suck-y drinking buddy, to be honest. You'd always talk to someone else, and I felt like **** because I couldn't hold my liquor like you could, and you always just seemed so interested in the other person, and I was just... uh... there. Anyway, I think the only good time I had drinking with you was when I was 21, drunk, and panicked, and you cuddled up next to me and told me that it was just going to be okay.

 

Anyway, I have the strong urge to drunk dial you and tell you I miss you and want you back, but I am here posting it on LoveShack, because I really don't need your attention or validation even though I think I do. These people are so great, and prevent me from doing stupid dumb sh-t like contacting your dumb ass.

 

I think I am better off without you, so this drunken rant is done, and I think I'll go sleep it off. F*ck you. I hate you. I love you.

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redbaron005 Established Member

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It's been six months and well, truly hope you are safe and happy wherever you've landed yourself. It's hard to love someone you don't ever see; I suppose my love is now more of a faith in who you are and who you have the potential to become. I still believe in you.

 

And know deep in my heart that this is what we both needed to grow. Yes I want you back so bad it hurts, but if that's the hurt I have to go through to respect you, I'm willing to take it. This isn't about me though, it's about you. Wish you the very best from the bottom of my heart.

AnyaNova Established Member

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It is my birthday tomorrow.

 

And I am missing you. I want you back. But you dumped me. Left me in the dust.

 

I want you to contact me. Tell me you miss me but you won't no matter how much I might wish, will you?

 

I'm having a relapse. I think if is because it is so close on to when we first started messaging.

 

But you aren't thinking of me, are you Tim? Do you even remember that tomorrow is my birthday. I remembered yours, but since you didn't accept my friend request or respond to message I didn't feel comfortable to wish you a happy one.

 

I will not be pathetic. I'm going to have a happy birthday tomorrow no matter what you decide to do! And I hope that I find someone new soon, since you clearly have happily moved on long since.

 

I'm sure you'll find yourself a very nice normal girl. But she will not have half the life in her that I do, or half the appreciation of art and beauty or half the ability to make your life truly zing (once the initial attraction wears off) that I could have given you.

 

The loss fundamentally, no matter what you tell yourself now, will be yours. I could have given you the stars, and the moon and the sun and made you feel each and every one of them throughout your entire being, just by appreciating a beautiful song or a beautiful opera together or a beautiful walk by the lake.

 

Surely some man will appreciate that.

Jingle14 Established Member

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So it's here, the day I've had unwittingly and unwillingly lodged in my brain for weeks - your birthday. 40 ****ing 5. What a stupid ****wit you are, finding what we had at our age and throwing it away.

 

 

Well, I hope you have a completely **** day, I hope your child's mother keeps your beloved kid away from you (it's not a Monday or Thursday, after all, and we know how unbending she is, especially when she knows how upset she can make you, and God knows how often I held you when you were in tears from the stress of it all - who held me though, when I was being knocked about by my own child, only 10 years old, and his dad, not ****ing you, that's for sure!) and that you spend the day miserable at home on your own! That might - does - sound bitter, but you and I both know how you treated me, shame on you for ****ting on the one person who gave you confidence and idolised you, nothing too much trouble, fulfilling your every fantasy.

 

 

If you're still 'seeing someone' - the same person you cheated on with me last May, perhaps, bet she doesn't know that, does she, you'll never change - I guarantee she won't take you on a surprise holiday for your birthday, with cake, Champagne on arrival, best room in a gorgeous hotel overlooking the bay, you didn't even know where we were going till we got there, Champagne and sex on the secluded beaches. Remember, 'the nicest thing anyone has ever done for me, the best present I've ever had'? I hope you get **** all.

 

 

Knowing how arrogant you are, you may well be expecting a text from me today - that's if you ever think of me, although you told me last May you still think of me a lot and look for my car registration number when you're out driving, how 'you're all I think of when I'm in your hometown, J' - well, I've got news for you, sunshine, you're in for a long wait, I'll never contact you again! The weak and foolish mug your actions turned me into has gone and I'm again the strong, independent and sassy person I always was, before you came along and destroyed me!

 

 

So no, I don't wish you a 'happy birthday', I say '**** you, I hope it's the worse one ever and a day full of loneliness and misery'! Just like mine, in 2012!

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Never Again Established Member

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It is my birthday tomorrow.

 

Happy birthday, kiddo.

 

Enjoy it as much as you can. Be impulsive. Be daring. Be selfish. Be happy.

 

I hope he stays silent, at least for tomorrow. Any words from him now will only be a distraction from what the day is really about...and that's YOU.

 

Take it from the everlasting sadsack himself: the worst thing an ex can do is wish you a happy birthday. Then again, I'm the highly sensitive type, so maybe I'm projecting.

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Mary Oak Established Member

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[FONT=Courier New]Today is a day I never thought would come. It is the day I am saying goodbye, not only to you, but to the thought of a life together, to a thought of any type of personal relationship, and even to the life we once knew together. It hurts but it has to be done, and it is way past time. I cry as I write this, but not sure why. Maybe because I believed in you and us. But that belief has be gone so long, I don’t know why I cry. I will no longer avoid you in the office, I will no longer be bothered if you are out with my friends, I will no longer care that you replaced me. You are non-existent to me from this moment on. I have been able to do this with people in my past, which have hurt me and my family way less than you did. So, it should not be as hard as it may seem. I can look through people and not see them or feel them. I no longer care if I hurt your feelings, or if I am being respectful… just in case you decide to come back. I won’t let you come back. I will be professional as I am with any other co-worker. I will no longer let you effect my dates, I will no longer compare what we had with others. I will move forward with purpose. Now that I don’t have you dragging me down, I can become me again.[/FONT]

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Ally1993 Member

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Five months later and you have had a change of heart. Now you want me back.

Well I have grown stronger so it won't be easy for you

 

Wish this would happen to me

STM206 Established Member

STM206

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"The only thing different, the only thing new... I've got these little things... and she's got you" - Patsy Cline

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Lalasita Member

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I HATE MY ex so bad.......

STM206 Established Member

STM206

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I hate that I still miss you... We were so perfect together.

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Do you know that when I told my counselor about just the details about what happened between us (with none of my conjecture thrown in at that point) he said something along the lines of, "He doesn't sound like he was emotionally mature enough to be in a relationship and it wouldn't be a good idea even if he did come back to get back together with him" and I nearly bit his head off when I responded exasperatedly, "I know!"

 

But the reason I nearly bit his head off.

 

Because everybody and their dog that I told about what happened between us felt the need to include that as their first response and I was very sick of hearing that.

 

As if I hadn't come to that conclusion on my own.

 

But it still doesn't stop my stupid heart from apparently still wanting you to come back. To come for me. To tell me how you really felt about me.

 

I want to remember like I first saw you, sitting slumped and weak looking in the coffee shop.

 

But I can't because I keep remembering you how you were when it was just the two of us and you were so confident and you showed me your strong side and it feels like you really pulled a jedi mind (#*#& on my head.

 

What did you do to me? How did you do this? Why can't I find some way to rataionalize this. To close it up in my head and heart and lock it away forever and throw away the ****ing key because seeing the amount of damage you had to do to sever what we had when you so obviously loved me damaged me in a way that I am not sure I will ever completely heal from.

 

Why am I relapsing so bad?

 

Why am I missing you so damn much?

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beembm Member

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Missing you a lot right now. I still love you and think about you every day. The tears don't come as often now but the pain is still there in my chest. Hate what happened to us so much. Hate that it felt out of my control. That I couldn't see through the darkness.

 

 

God I miss you. Wish I could just lay next to you and hold your hand.

 

 

Uh oh here come the tears actually. I hate crying at work. love you

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dontgiveuponme Member

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Im fighting the urge to contact you right now. If u only knew how much i miss u :(...Im really confused right now there are lots of things i want to ask you but im i know you cant answer it at the moment ur as confused as me.U want some space and im giving it to you.

 

What really hurts me the most is i fall from ur promises u made me believe in things u told me before.Its so unfair u will give up on me and ran away when times get rough.U cant see all my sacrifices i did for 3 years.Do you think anyone can match that?You are so selfish :(

Mary Oak Established Member

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I just want to know, are you ever coming back home to us? We still miss you :(

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