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Lost_Dragon Established Member

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You need help! Stop spying on me! You have a new boyfriend!

I don't spy on you! I let go! Do the same! Why do you need to know what or who I'm doing? I'm not bitter or hating you. I just don't want you to know about me. I don't need to know about what you do. You're either IN my life or you're out. Let me be.

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proactivedreamer Established Member

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I thought you loved me. I thought I could help you gain a new point of view. I thought I could keep fighting for you, but alas I grew agitated and panicked from the very severe lack of effort on your end. I gave all of myself to you. I gave you all of me, so that we might be happy together, build a life together, and one day have a family. Now, it seems that perhaps you didn't really care about that. It really seems that way to me because I cannot understand why you would-could allow for things to escalate to the point where I had to make a decision to end things between us. I don't even believe what has happened.

JoelBarish Established Member

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So you came over today. You seemed to want to talk. Yet you weren't willing to reconsider things. I don't know what you want.

 

You are probably just lonely. You just miss the relationship, not so much me. Soon you will pay me back the money. Then I'm going to have to make a decision and stick with it. I think maybe this time it will be harder on you than me. I never wanted to let you go. But I can't settle for breadcrumbs. I deserve someone who is sure they want me just as you once were.

 

It is hard letting go, especially when we both have feelings for each other. I just don't see things ever being right between us again. There is too many trust issues. Too much wishy washy-ness. And you spend far too much time looking at the ways I wasn't perfect. I mean if that is how you feel, why even bother talking to me about things? I deserve more.

Dazed'n'Confused Member

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Hey Hun,

 

I saw a counsellor today, just like you asked me to. You were right, I feel something closer to at ease with our relationship already and I'm practicing relaxing and shutting down my thoughts.

 

I still want to be with you, and I'm looking forward to seeing you again soon, and maybe in time you'll want to be mine once more.

 

I was good enough, I was the perfect boyfriend and you're not going to find anyone else like me. Your mum still wants your family to remain a part of my life, can you let her down gently?

 

DnC

TylerDurdenn Established Member

TylerDurdenn

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I miss cuddling you.

JustaRegularGuyZ Member

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I had a dream with you in it. We were having sex. I don't miss sex with you but I do miss your pale skin, then again, if you were any other girl with pale skin I would've been as turned on, so don't feel special.

You are dating some younger guy and you want a relationship. You can't expect some kid who plays PC games all day to have developed a personality or be good at anything other than jerking himself off. What are you doing, is he my replacement? At least raise your bar higher but you went far lower. You have no idea what you are doing, do you? You had no plan when you dumped me, you were so desperate to start your party life that you just went with whatever. You are pathetic, I will never take you back. I am glad you are going downhill without me.

The grass is already ****ed up for you.

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Lost_Dragon Established Member

Lost_Dragon

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In my memory

You're just a joke

And I don't remember

How it goes

im_thedude Established Member

im_thedude

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You have a new life, with new found confidence. And it's paper thin.

 

When your new friends, your new hobbies, your new boyfriend come crashing down, you'll move on to the next batch of people who will give you the validation you seek.

 

When that happens, don't come back here. You're a cancer here.

 

I don't know if I should tell you to go **** yourself, or if I should feel sorry that you genuinely don't realize how screwed up you are. It's all so tragic.

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Lost_Dragon Established Member

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Oh, That will be you final message to me?

 

Here is my final message for you.

 

Make that the one promise that you keep for me.

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RightThere Established Member

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Had an epiphany yesterday. I was struggling to move forward because I actually still didn't trust you. You didn't do what you said you were going to do. And although I was weak with insecurity, it was because you didn't earn my trust!

Petunia20 Established Member

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I would be lying if I said I didnt think about you. When in fact I think about you everyday of my life. Waking up without you hurts less now and knowing that you are living with someone else and setting up your future with her is now more of a fact than a betrayal. I have been very busy with my friends and this guy. He's not anything serious, more of a fling I guess. I have accepted that you are not coming back and I do not secretly wish that you were anymore. I talk to this guy here and there and not about much. I have seen him 4 times and I think even if he wasnt in my life I wouldnt be missing you. I believe I am past that stage of missing and desiring you back. I am now in acceptance maybe? NOt sure where it goes from here. I do not waste my time wondering why you did what you did or fantasize about you coming back. So I will continue to document my progress here and read back on everything someday when I am fully healed. You left me June 6th and I last saw you July 4th. So its been almost 4 months.

shyanna13 New Member

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I am extremely frustrated. I keep imagining what I would say to my ex if he ever tried to come back.

 

I would tell him how he had no right to be mad at me for dancing with other people, since HE is the one who broke up with ME. He's not allowed to be angry that I'm moving on!

 

Also, it was a low blow to post videos on Facebook of him making fun of the teddy bear I bought for him that says "I love you (name)" in my voice when you squeeze it.. that thing was expensive! Jerk.

Never Again Established Member

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I honestly thought you were a sincere, honest person.

 

I can't blame you for following your heart, even if you did give up on us without even trying.

 

But you lied to me. The whole month before the breakup was a lie. The reasons for the breakup were lies. You not chasing the guy from LA was a lie.

 

I don't care if lying is easier or if you're trying to spare my feelings, but it makes you a dishonest bitch. You led me on at your best friend's wedding, and then forgot immediately about me cuz you saw him in NYC.

 

You're intolerable. I didn't feel the "in love" passion for months, but I invested in you and got it back. You didn't feel it for a few weeks and you bailed. Couldn't even be bothered to tell me something was wrong until it was too late.

 

You're immature. You're chasing a fantasy. You will end up heartbroken, and I will not be there to support you ever again.

 

Get f*cked.

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im_thedude Established Member

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I honestly thought you were a sincere, honest person.

 

I can't blame you for following your heart, even if you did give up on us without even trying.

 

But you lied to me. The whole month before the breakup was a lie. The reasons for the breakup were lies. You not chasing the guy from LA was a lie.

 

I don't care if lying is easier or if you're trying to spare my feelings, but it makes you a dishonest bitch. You led me on at your best friend's wedding, and then forgot immediately about me cuz you saw him in NYC.

 

You're intolerable. I didn't feel the "in love" passion for months, but I invested in you and got it back. You didn't feel it for a few weeks and you bailed. Couldn't even be bothered to tell me something was wrong until it was too late.

 

You're immature. You're chasing a fantasy. You will end up heartbroken, and I will not be there to support you ever again.

 

Get f*cked.

 

We should be friends. I've enjoyed your posts on Loveshack and it seems our situations share some key similarities. Keep strong!

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Never Again Established Member

Never Again

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We should be friends. I've enjoyed your posts on Loveshack and it seems our situations share some key similarities. Keep strong!

 

Trying!

 

Having ups and downs, but don't we all?

 

I'm here for assistance, and here to give it when I can. Glad you've enjoyed what I've had to say - sometimes I feel like I'm blowing smoke out of my ass.

 

I saw your posts, and our situations are definitely similar in some ways. Friends it is, and I'll help however I can. Also, I'm all about making "stay strong" the battlecry of the brokenhearted.

 

Stay strong!

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Dazed'n'Confused Member

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Hey.

 

I really, really miss you. I want cuddles and tucks and to be told "I love you".

However, I'm starting to accept you're not coming back, you've found something that makes you happy and its no longer me. I don't regret a moment of your company and I still love you.

 

DnC

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summerof12 New Member

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Dear C.

 

Its been a year now :( A year since I last saw you. Held you. Heard your voice. Told you I Love You.

 

Not a day goes by without me thinking about you. I daily fight the urge to check your facebook, twitter and instagram. I imagine us meeting again. Hugging, crying, being together. Its unbearable. I dont think you ever realized how much I love and care about you.

 

I´m so sorry I couldnt do it anymore. It was just to much for me to handle.

 

I wish you nothing but happiness, but at the same time, your happiness depends on other people now. Your new boyfriend. So forgive me for feeling bad about it. It breaks my heart thinking about you moving on. Replacing my space in your heart with his.

 

I remember when we broke up, I searched all day for how to get over a break up. In one thread there were a youtube video posted, and I remember its name like it was yesterday; "Strangers, again". I couldnt even get myself to watch it for more than a couple seconds, but it wasent hard to get the message. You have happy times, then argue and at the end it ends in a break up. After that you look at the memories all day, and feel bad. But after a while life moves on. You meet new people and learn new things, and the person who once meant the world, is now just a stranger.

 

I wonder, if we met today, would it be the way it always was, or would we now have become strangers, again?

 

I´m sorry, I love you, and I´ll never forget you.

 

J

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AnnaAnna Established Member

AnnaAnna

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Soon I will be over you completely and just like that, you will be just a distant memory.

 

 

I so look forward to that day!

AnnaAnna Established Member

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Dear C.

 

Its been a year now :( A year since I last saw you. Held you. Heard your voice. Told you I Love You.

 

Not a day goes by without me thinking about you. I daily fight the urge to check your facebook, twitter and instagram. I imagine us meeting again. Hugging, crying, being together. Its unbearable. I dont think you ever realized how much I love and care about you.

 

I´m so sorry I couldnt do it anymore. It was just to much for me to handle.

 

I wish you nothing but happiness, but at the same time, your happiness depends on other people now. Your new boyfriend. So forgive me for feeling bad about it. It breaks my heart thinking about you moving on. Replacing my space in your heart with his.

 

I remember when we broke up, I searched all day for how to get over a break up. In one thread there were a youtube video posted, and I remember its name like it was yesterday; "Strangers, again". I couldnt even get myself to watch it for more than a couple seconds, but it wasent hard to get the message. You have happy times, then argue and at the end it ends in a break up. After that you look at the memories all day, and feel bad. But after a while life moves on. You meet new people and learn new things, and the person who once meant the world, is now just a stranger.

 

I wonder, if we met today, would it be the way it always was, or would we now have become strangers, again?

 

I´m sorry, I love you, and I´ll never forget you.

 

J

 

That's beautiful. I wish somebody would love me the way you love your C.

 

 

Best of luck to you!

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AnyaNova Established Member

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Yeah,

 

I know I said I wasn't going to post here again.

 

But tonight, a guy, I'm pretty sure, kinda tried to chat me up a little bit. :-) It was nice.

 

I didn't think of you at all for hours. A few weeks ago, I might have hoped that such a thing, such an idea, would serve as motivation to cause you to step it up. To work on your fears, to learn how to handle all the feelings of love. And the possibility of pain that it brings.

 

At this point I know you won't. You can't right now. That's okay.

 

But it was nice. I'm surprised I noticed it, and I'm pretty sure that if I hadn't risked smiling at him, I never would have known.

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Dumped85 Established Member

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I don't ever want you in my life, I hate that you have moved on so quickly. Like we meant nothing. You are a slut who never deserved the love I had for you. I hate that what if thoughts linger. Hate that feeling of knowing that you endef it out of a misunderstanding. I miss what could have been. Hope you are happy leaving me behind bitch.

JustaRegularGuyZ Member

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I hate that I have to post here everyday. I had another dream about you and I don't want you in my life.

I honestly don't care what you do or who you **** but my dreams bring back feelings that have died down. The ironic part that I go to sleep thinking of another girl that I am falling for and feel great about but I dream of you. You don't deserve a single thought. I legit ****ing hate you. I've read the guides on how to act when I saw you but I don't think I could just smile and walk by, I rather just ignore you. I can't wait for you to crash, i know you far too well to know that you will from your YOLO life.

Haydn Established Member

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Just by hearing you tried to contact me to use me again has set me back today. I hate you S. I love you S. Have a good day whatever you are doing. (Don`t fall down any holes or drive over any landmines)

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Chris715 Established Member

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Yeah,

 

I know I said I wasn't going to post here again.

 

But tonight, a guy, I'm pretty sure, kinda tried to chat me up a little bit. :-) It was nice.

 

I didn't think of you at all for hours. A few weeks ago, I might have hoped that such a thing, such an idea, would serve as motivation to cause you to step it up. To work on your fears, to learn how to handle all the feelings of love. And the possibility of pain that it brings.

 

At this point I know you won't. You can't right now. That's okay.

 

But it was nice. I'm surprised I noticed it, and I'm pretty sure that if I hadn't risked smiling at him, I never would have known.

I know you said you aren't going to date anymore (or at least for awhile) but did you get his number or did he get yours? Maybe in time something will come of this or maybe not, and someone else will come along. Either way I hope you find some happiness Anya, you deserve it.

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JustaRegularGuyZ Member

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I still care.

 

It kills me that you dumped me so you could go out with someone who can not even constract a proper sentence, who takes longer to get ready than you do, who looks at his reflection everytime he passes a mirrow. I wish you would've dumped me for a guy who could at least come close to the way I treated you, who sees more in life than working on his abs, who is able to kiss you with a passion the way I did. We both went for complete opposites. I found a girl who expresses herself and who is going for Ph.D and she is not a selfish lover. You found a guy who doesn't know a thing about romance or passion, you just don't know it yet. What are you doing to yourself Kitty? I hope one day you will appreciate the way I treated you but I am also sorry for constantly trying to change you. You are a great girl in your own way but god you are so stupid.

 

I don't Love you but I always cared for you. You need to learn to make mistakes because I was always there to prevent you from them.

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