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[AnyaNova]

These are the lyrics to the chorus of your song. I wish their truth in this could make me angry.

 

"What have I become, my sweetest friend.

 

Everyone I know, goes away in the end.

 

But you could have it all, my empire of dirt.

 

I will let you down, I will make you hurt."

 

And that is what you did. You let me down. You made me hurt.

[AnnaAnna]

Today is my 30 day anniversary. I broke down and messaged him once but overall my determination and strength have kept me from doing anything stupid. It was hard sticking with NC and so many times I wanted to call and beg but I didn't. I kept going and today I feel great about myself.

Thanks guys for all your support

 

 

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Dear B....

 

 

I been writing to you every day since we broke up (in my secret diary). I write about my daily struggles without you. There have been times where I missed you and just wanted you back in my arms. Other times I just wanted you to feel my pain and suffer as much as I have.

After today I won't write to you anymore. I am ready to let go and say goodbye forever.

You don't deserve my words or my time.

[Familia]

AnnaAnna - brilliant keep up the great work and NC - I have managed 8 days now and that has been killing me trying not to give in and msg her or call - I cant wait to make it to the 30 day mark. Well done

 

We are here for you

[im_thedude]

Even with all the anger and sound rationale strengthening the scar tissue, I still find myself missing you like all hell on this cloudy evening.

 

What I would give not for a second chance, but for just one night reliving what we used to be.

[AnyaNova]

Save the exception of one last message when I am seeing someone, It is time for me to stop writing these things, too.

 

I have other primary contacts.

 

If you actually are reading these (which, of course, you're not), then you don't get that access into my life or mind anymore. You chose to walk away from that. You couldn't face your fears.

 

Dammit, Tim, there is part of me that wants you to come back to me with those four things, sometimes. But I have to kill it gone, because you have made it clear that you won't.

 

Given the number of 20 to 30 year olds visiting my profile, I am pretty sure that I must be pretty decent looking. I am intelligent, smart, funny, and surprisingly sane as long as my vitamins and electrolytes stay in tact.

 

I am told that there are many men out there who would love to make an intelligent, passionate, and articulate woman like me, pancakes. I hope to find them, and choose one to see exclusively.

 

I could have quickly arranged dates on POF or Tinder, if I had wanted to (which, btw, people like us need to avoid those sites like the plague!). But I chose to wait to find someone close to who I am and what I am looking for. It took seven weeks, but I have been on a date. I'm pretty sure I can arrange more. :-)

 

I have reopened my facebook page to public. If you choose to, you can see it. If you want. I chose to do that because that is the way I had it before I met you, and to continue to leave it to the private that I set after the breakup seemed to much like giving you control somehow.

 

Since you will not get the help you need, and you will not want to try again and see if you could trust this time, this is what I hope. I hope that someday in a few months or years, you can friend me on facebook, and maybe, just maybe we can navigate a friendship (because that article was so wrong, and I just didn't see how), so maybe in that way I can show you that everyone doesn't go away in the end.

 

But I need to stop doing this. I need to stop writing here and prolonging this. I would have loved you with my whole heart and mind, second only to God, and the things in my life God wants me to do. But you couldn't trust. You didn't. And what you are doing now, Tim, is running. Running from the fear or what we were set up to have, running from the trust and the love that we could have created and were creating. That is why you cried. That is why you kept pulling me closer. That is why we held each other so long, and that is why it took you till 2:30 in the morning to say goodbye. Because you loved me. I loved you. We loved each other.

 

And you chose to smash it.

 

I hope someday you stop running from love. That you work out that you nee some help not equating love with pain and getting abandoned.

 

Maybe someday, you will have the strength to reach out and friend me on facebook, and we can go from there. Probably at that point, I will happily be with someone else, but at least I can show you what friendship is really like.

 

The story of us. Its a very, very broken story. And, unfortunately, one that is over.

 

Tim, I loved you. I have spent so long missing you. I hope you come back to me and we can be friends.

 

Other than one last message when I am seeing someone,

 

Goodbye.

[AnyaNova]

Today is my 30 day anniversary. I broke down and messaged him once but overall my determination and strength have kept me from doing anything stupid. It was hard sticking with NC and so many times I wanted to call and beg but I didn't. I kept going and today I feel great about myself.

Thanks guys for all your support

 

 

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Dear B....

 

 

I been writing to you every day since we broke up (in my secret diary). I write about my daily struggles without you. There have been times where I missed you and just wanted you back in my arms. Other times I just wanted you to feel my pain and suffer as much as I have.

After today I won't write to you anymore. I am ready to let go and say goodbye forever.

You don't deserve my words or my time.

 

I have been putting off doing the same thing, even though I know that I needed to. I always have been a competitive little brat, and seeing someone else do it, well, I couldn't not do what I needed to do anyway. It would be weakness, somehow. :-) Thank you.

[AnnaAnna]

AnnaAnna - brilliant keep up the great work and NC - I have managed 8 days now and that has been killing me trying not to give in and msg her or call - I cant wait to make it to the 30 day mark. Well done

 

We are here for you

 

Thank you so much. It's been a wild ride and I'm not out of the woods yet but I think the hardest part is over. I feel it in my bones

Just remember you are doing this for yourself. Honestly, it gets easier every single day. You will have your ups and downs but just keep going. You can do it!

[AnnaAnna]

I have been putting off doing the same thing, even though I know that I needed to. I always have been a competitive little brat, and seeing someone else do it, well, I couldn't not do what I needed to do anyway. It would be weakness, somehow. :-) Thank you.

 

The hardest part for me was thinking he doesn't love me anymore. He doesn't care anymore! I have excepted that and I'm ok with it.

I know there's nothing wrong with me, we just fell apart. I also know that he did love me once and somehow he lost his interest and I am ok with that too. We shared some great memories and that nobody can take away.

I have always been extremely competitive and that's exactly how I took this BU. Hell, You can live without me, I can live better without you.

 

 

You can do it too Anya! Stay strong and show him how great your life can be without him in it. Someday he will wish he had never let you go. You are one amazing girl and you deserve to be happy.

[BillSeal]

wish I had found the articles on commitment phobia earlier. Got engaged 2 weeks ago, 8 days later it's over. She can envision us together and is happy but the thought of a commitment makes her panic.

 

Best relationship ever. Will never regret it. Heart-break is overwhelming right now. Fighting the urge to send her links to the commitment phobia posts. Her kids want to keep me in their lives but I don't know if I can handle it.

 

I don't want to move on :-(

[CopingGal]

It's nice to see this link is still going.

 

Hi L. I miss the man you pretended to be so much, but not you. You told me you loved me then 2 weeks later confessed to cheating on me and told me it was worth it to you to stomp on my heart.

 

I know you are a very, very sick man. I know you are a compulsive liar. You tried to wreck my life. But you didn't win. The couple's counselor warned me about you. She was right. She was right about all of it.

 

I have some compassion for you because you are sick in the head. All the times you harassed me by phone...all the lies you told...All the times you pretended you couldn't come to see me because you had no money or had to work...all lies. I really, really do feel sorry for you.

 

I will never ever come back to you. I have nothing to say to you ever again. It's been so long since we talked and I want to keep it that way. Good luck with your many trips to the mental hospital. I hope they can finally do something to help your brain.

[HorseLuck]

Wow. I thought I ran into you tonight and turned into a deer in headlights. City of millions but it's always been a small world after all. Either way I feel better not having made the eye contact.

 

Why do we freak out and turn into jelly at the chance of running into our exes? They're just people. Seriously, I'm going to make it a goal not to let anyone intimidate the crap out of me. Confident but not cocky.

[Familia]

Well 8 days of NC, for some reason today being the 8th day was the hardest, when I woke up this morning she was the first thing on my mind and it hit me like a brick wall and stayed with me all day, I came very close to just sending a msg saying I LOVE YOU although I have got through the day without sending the msg. Stay strong and dont set yourself back to square one.

 

Stay strong everyone, each day certainly has its ups and downs.

[Lost_Dragon]

I'm going on two months without contact. The longest I went before was only one month. I haven't been counting the days but know the estimate.

 

You tried to contact me a month ago, twice. Your words were meant to hurt and anger me. I know I'm hurt. I know I'm angry. I don't need more help from you. If you really want the jeep then come and get it. You fill it with gas, jump it and go. The keys are inside the glove box. You can take it with no contact from me. If its not gone in a week I'm having it towed. Not to be mean to you but its just taking up space here. A week should be long enough. Now you can leave me alone for good. I have no desire to be friends or anything in the future. I don't need a response to this message either. In fact, any more contact from you will be considered harassment.

 

Should I send her this? She said she will take me to court over the vehicle. Its in her name but I bought it. She can't even drive stick shift. I tried to teach her but she gave up. She knows it is really mine. After hurting me with the BU why would she do this? She hasn't contacted me since a month ago. No cops came knocking and no mail from authorities. Was she just trying to get a reaction out of me? She had a new boyfriend the day after she ended it. Does she know I gave up on her now? Is she angry that I did? I don't care either way. The betrayal I feel will never change. I want nothing to do with her. GO AWAY!!!!!!!!!

[L1ght]

I still remember the days when you would randomly beg me never to leave you.......like totally out of the blue you would get upset and ask me to swear to never leave you. I'm a guy so I just instinctively played your behaviour off as a girl who was just feeling insecure and needed words of comfort so I obliged and told you I would never leave you many times........Is that the trick? damsel in distress who acts weak and pathetic so that she can manipulate a guy into commiting to her before she spits him out and leaves him for dust further down the line when she realises she is too weak for the kind of commitment she was asking for in the first place?

 

I'm not a dumb guy but you sure as sh*t made me feel dumb for believing in you.

 

(Any of you girls like to comment? Your thoughts on the matter would be appreciated. I just don't like the fact that I was manipulated into commiting to someone who wasn't willing to show me the same level of commitment she would constantly beg me to give to her)

This kind of behaviour makes me think that I'm better off believing that love is just a game and that I should play my cards closer to my chest any time a woman asks anything of me otherwise she will just use it against me further down the road when I least expect it......of course I understand that some girls probably go through the same crap with certain guys. It depends on the weak, pathetic, needy individual who is unable to give what they ask for in a relationship to begin with I guess

Edited October 28, 2013 by L1ght

[Haydn]

Today, i totted up the amount of money i spent on you. (Childish i know) But you never paid for anything. And you still asked me constantly how much money i spent on previous girlfriends. This was madness. You ranted at how i took `her ` to Greece but not you. Your jealousy bankrupted me not only morally. I remember the last time i saw you and you gave me my things back. But where is my watch i wonder? I wont ask for it back as that would mean contacting you. That would put me back so much. All these things should count against you but for some reason they dont. You really are so self centred and self serving. You you always about you. I miss you S. I really do. Haydn M.

[AnnaAnna]

Well 8 days of NC, for some reason today being the 8th day was the hardest, when I woke up this morning she was the first thing on my mind and it hit me like a brick wall and stayed with me all day, I came very close to just sending a msg saying I LOVE YOU although I have got through the day without sending the msg. Stay strong and dont set yourself back to square one.

 

Stay strong everyone, each day certainly has its ups and downs.

 

Great job fighting those feelings! Keep doing what you're doing and write here instead of messaging your ex. It helps a lot!

[RightThere]

Not that I wasn't broken before, but you really broke me.

[Haydn]

Such a fool for you.

[JustaRegularGuyZ]

I can't wait for the day for you to contact me, so I could show you how happy I am without you and how my life is so much better.

I do understand though, you need your party years to mature and grow up.

 

And leave my friends alone! What don't you get?! You lost me and you lost them.

[the tank]

Thanks for blocking on facebook.Even if we were not friend anymore. I was still looking sometime our old message or your profil pic. you make me a big favor. I dont know why you donethis now. But i will try to not care about that.

 

Fews months ago you were everything for me. Now we are complete stranger......

[TylerDurdenn]

You're heartless, you've changed into something horrible. Why did I waste 4 years with you

[JustaRegularGuyZ]

You're heartless, you've changed into something horrible. Why did I waste 4 years with you

 

It's not a waste, it is a great experience. Look for something better now, you deserve better!

[Dazed'n'Confused]

Hey Bub,

 

I love you and I miss you already. I don't blame you and I'm not angry. I'm going to get the help I need to get through this. I hope and dream that Maybe one day we can be together again and I will hold you in my arms once more, but I know realistically its not going to happen.

 

I will never forget you, or the kindness your family showed me, the time I've spent in your company is the happiest I've been in my entire life. You were the perfect girl and I hope you find the peace you deserve abroad, even if it is without me.

 

I'm terrified of seeing you in my dreams, and facing the crushing reality that you're gone, and have moved on without me.

 

Love always.

[SimonSerenade]

I hope your happy now, I genuinely mean that, I would be lying if I said I didn't miss you a little, I miss our phone calls the most, some nights feel so empty without them, I hate the mess that followed our demise, I didn't want to remember you like that, if nothing else, I hope you remember me as the person who even if he didn't succeed, gave his absolute all to make you happy, I haven't got much more to say short of that, I really did love and think the world of you, I hope one day you can learn to cherish somebody who feels that way for you, over and out.

[Lost_Dragon]

Why would you say you are going to take the jeep? Then when I tell you to come get it and the keys are in it, you ask me if I want it. No. Either you take it or it gets towed. I'm done with drama and games. Most of all, I'm done with you. Live your life without me. Any change of heart from you will be all for show. So hate me if you want. Just do it somewhere far away from me. I don't hate you but I won't forget this scar on my heart.