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SimonSerenade Established Member

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Thankyou for leaving me, I didn't see it at the time but it really was the best thing for me, I just didn't have the heart to do it myself, It's been a long time since I last talked to you and I don't want to talk to you ever again, I don't want to see you again, as far as I'm concerned you don't exist.

 

I loved you and I showed that, I know I did, I don't care about the engagement ring or the money, it was never even about that, it was about how you could treat me so horribly before hand and afterwards, I did my best to start fresh with you and you walked all over me, you deserve nothing from me, that's what it was about, you got your conselation prize, you stiffed me for the last time, your not special and your not beautiful, you have to be pure at heart to posess those qualities.

 

I'd give anything to take back my time with you, I have never been messed around so much by anyone in my life before you came along, the man you knew, that walk in door matt, he's dead, I opened myself up to you and I let myself be vulnerable, I'll never make that mistake again with anybody, like the old saying goes "nice guys finish last", I'm not a nice guy anymore.

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Legatus Established Member

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Thank you for nothing. A year and a half of being together just so you can jump into bed of another guy. I wasn't the best at the beginning but this year I was at my almost best. Wanted to give you everything. Planned our future. You let me believe that everything was all right even though you stopped feeling anything for me. I knew something was wrong. I asked you. You still lied to my face. It would be much simpler if you answered "no" and we would have gone our separate ways. Instead you chose to deceive me, and you still think it was for my own good, because you thought everything will go back to normal. Well it didn't. You went off with another guy and you still have a decency to say that you didn't cheat, even though you waited 10 days to tell me. And then you start your new relationship and do not even blink twice. Never apologized, never said you regret what you did. You are kind of person that only learns when it happens to them. You are not capable of imagining how a situation looks like from another person's eyes. I hope you won't ever feel the way I felt. Not understanding how can you say you love someone, and one month later wanting absolutely nothing from them. Pretending that everything is fine when it was not.

 

Someday it will happen to you and then you realize that you haven't grown up. That you were scared when things got serious from my part. You called me desperate, but you forget that for the past month I wasn't desperate for you. I was desperate for answers, logic and reason - because those are things that I operate on. You gave me nothing but I found my way through all the lies you fed me.

 

The worst thing is the feeling that I lost a year and a half of my life, but I could have done so much. Well I'm not going to get them back, but I will catch up while you're still in the same place, but with a different man. I'm glad you found someone who loves you straight away, with friends who love you as well. At least you don't have to try. You are so perfect that you even blamed my friends to be suspicious - but they were right.

 

So for now I'm just waiting till you return keys to my house, take your things and leave my sight. You wanted to be friends but friends do not lie like that, do not go off without caring a single bit. Besides your friends turned out (again) to be people who just wait in line to get to your pants. This friend succeeded.

 

Have a nice life.

 

And yes you're right. Anyone after you will be regarded as 100 times better. All such person needs is decency and honesty to beat you...

SimonSerenade Established Member

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Thank you for nothing. A year and a half of being together just so you can jump into bed of another guy. I wasn't the best at the beginning but this year I was at my almost best. Wanted to give you everything. Planned our future. You let me believe that everything was all right even though you stopped feeling anything for me. I knew something was wrong. I asked you. You still lied to my face. It would be much simpler if you answered "no" and we would have gone our separate ways. Instead you chose to deceive me, and you still think it was for my own good, because you thought everything will go back to normal. Well it didn't. You went off with another guy and you still have a decency to say that you didn't cheat, even though you waited 10 days to tell me. And then you start your new relationship and do not even blink twice. Never apologized, never said you regret what you did. You are kind of person that only learns when it happens to them. You are not capable of imagining how a situation looks like from another person's eyes. I hope you won't ever feel the way I felt. Not understanding how can you say you love someone, and one month later wanting absolutely nothing from them. Pretending that everything is fine when it was not.

 

Someday it will happen to you and then you realize that you haven't grown up. That you were scared when things got serious from my part. You called me desperate, but you forget that for the past month I wasn't desperate for you. I was desperate for answers, logic and reason - because those are things that I operate on. You gave me nothing but I found my way through all the lies you fed me.

 

The worst thing is the feeling that I lost a year and a half of my life, but I could have done so much. Well I'm not going to get them back, but I will catch up while you're still in the same place, but with a different man. I'm glad you found someone who loves you straight away, with friends who love you as well. At least you don't have to try. You are so perfect that you even blamed my friends to be suspicious - but they were right.

 

So for now I'm just waiting till you return keys to my house, take your things and leave my sight. You wanted to be friends but friends do not lie like that, do not go off without caring a single bit. Besides your friends turned out (again) to be people who just wait in line to get to your pants. This friend succeeded.

 

Have a nice life.

 

And yes you're right. Anyone after you will be regarded as 100 times better. All such person needs is decency and honesty to beat you...

 

What a bitch

SimonSerenade Established Member

SimonSerenade

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I will follow anyone who brings me to you, for now, forever, for on and on and on.

Rotor 1 New Member

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Honestly do you even miss me or love me anymore? If you don't I will leave you alone and stop trying to contact you. I guess if you do miss me or even like me a little you will say something. If you don't have feelings for me just dont reply and i will understand your decision and respect it. Night.

BrokenHeartedSavior Established Member

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Erica, my lost love,

 

I was standing on the sidewalk in town today when you passed me by. Not sure if you saw me, but i saw you.

 

I see your hair is blonde now, as it used to be beautiful raven-jet black.

 

Me? More gray these days, this past year. I no longer color it, but oddly enough younger women seem to like it- and me as well.

 

Unfortunately I want nothing to do with any other woman than you. Pathetic of me- since I have not heard from you for some time. Yes, I know, you're long over me. Wish I could say the same. I can't.

 

Was just thinking about you, amazing how I have gone throught one FULL and complete year of holidays. All of them, and all without you as I had for eight years. Yet here I am. Wishing I no longer existed. Unfortunately for me I still do.

 

I wish I had the power to totally let go and forget, just like you. My days are a struggle. Even more than a year later.

 

Tj graduated High School last week. I always thought you'd be there for him. You would be proud. He really wants to become a Paramedic like me. I prefer he do something else. Its not a good life.

 

He is getting a car tomorrow with his graduation money. I wish you were here to see it. Nothing i can do to turn back the hands of time I guess.

 

Oh well. I should not miss you- I am no longer a person in your world, i should know better at my age and this far past our breakup.

 

"Eternal sunshine of the spotless mind".

 

I wish it were for real.

 

John

Hoaks Established Member

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How on earth can you call yourself human? You used and lied to me for over a month. I told you so many times that i will walk and nevet bother you again, only for you to say stop worrying I love you. Ignore my calls, texts, run up a $300 phone bill that I have to pay while you wanted a weeks space. And you call me a lying dog? I had to find out from your ex bf that we were no longer together.

You say my doctor is doing nothing for me, and you panic with my anxiety. Well news flash for you, I wouldnt need a doctor if it wasnt for you. You ripped out my heart and stepped on it again. Thanks for wasting my time. I never called you any names or swore at you once during our "relationship". I gave you the opportunity to end this on good terms so you wouldnt feel any guilt. Cant even do that. Just ignore me and make out im the one with issued. I hope this happens to you, one day you will do this to the wrong guy.

 

Goodluck with your life, you will need it.

 

 

that feels better, for the next hour anyway. Am I allowed to post other stuff I wanna say to her here? When I need to?

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BrokenHeartedSavior Established Member

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How on earth can you call yourself human? You used and lied to me for over a month. I told you so many times that i will walk and nevet bother you again, only for you to say stop worrying I love you. Ignore my calls, texts, run up a $300 phone bill that I have to pay while you wanted a weeks space. And you call me a lying dog? I had to find out from your ex bf that we were no longer together.

You say my doctor is doing nothing for me, and you panic with my anxiety. Well news flash for you, I wouldnt need a doctor if it wasnt for you. You ripped out my heart and stepped on it again. Thanks for wasting my time. I never called you any names or swore at you once during our "relationship". I gave you the opportunity to end this on good terms so you wouldnt feel any guilt. Cant even do that. Just ignore me and make out im the one with issued. I hope this happens to you, one day you will do this to the wrong guy.

 

Goodluck with your life, you will need it.

 

 

that feels better, for the next hour anyway. Am I allowed to post other stuff I wanna say to her here? When I need to?

 

Hey! Post ANY damned thing you want! Let it go just like me and the rest of us!!

 

That's what this GREAT place is here for my friend!

 

Payback? Help others understand that they are not alone in their feelings. It's what I try to do more than a year later.

 

We're all in this together, eventually the pain ends and we TRULY move on.

 

Until then? Post away!.......

inaya42 Established Member

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i understood her pain, her obsession, her bewilderment, her shock, her shame, her need. i felt sorry for her -- and guilty of robbing her of a man i knew i couldn't make it work with. i feared i was costing you both a better future than the horrendous past that we had. i am happy for you -- and for her.

 

still, i never saw another man occupying the space beside me. i will carry the memory of you in the layer above subconsciousness for the rest of my life.

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SimonSerenade Established Member

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I dragged this lake looking for corpses, dusted for prints, pried up the floor boards, pieces of planes and black box recorders don't lie, I've been preoccupied with these sick sixth senses that sense DNA on barbed wire fences, maybe some day I'll find me a suspect that has no alibi.

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The emotions were intense, I couldn't handle them. In fact, I still can't. These days they are a mix of regret, abandonment, nostalgia and hurt. I am not in control of myself. I feel conflicted.*My sense of self seems to be split.*By striving to be calm, strong and impervious, I have suppressed a cocktail of less-ideal traits: weak, pining, groveller - which have inadvertently festered into a pathetic alter-ego that manifests itself at night. Both selves miss you deeply. Your absence is felt.

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hellischrome Established Member

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You are stupid. I wish I left you and not the opposite. And you are even more stupid because tonight you will leave, and you will go back home for a week and I know you will see her and go back with her. And you will come back here together and I will bump into you in the street and I will die.

 

And I know that in one week I will be waiting for you jumping everytime my phone rings, but you will never call me because you will not have the guts to tell me what's going on and what you did back home.

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SimonSerenade Established Member

SimonSerenade

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You gave up on me a long time a go, can't say I blame you, I rejected the faith in your holy rays is what it comes down to.

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Today I got a letter from my sons school to say he had been nominated for a prize. Every year I get a letter saying when the prize giving is and that students who are getting prizes will be advised separately but never got the follow up until today. I wanted to tell you, to share my news but you are not that person any more. You are no longer my good news person. I am so unhappy right now :(

SimonSerenade Established Member

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It's hard to miss you in light of how you've talked to me and treated me these past few months, despite what you say I'm not a bad guy, for the last time, I forgive you for everything, I've moved on and despite my life not exactly being where I want it right now, it's still a lot easier without you in it, one day I'll be alright and that's the only thing I'm working towards right now, honesty, I really enjoyed our time together and I'll never forget the good times we had, I gave it my all and that's enough, I have no regrets, have a good life.

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NoMoreJerks Established Member

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So you contact me? ask me how i am doing. when i reply with a mere "ok", you tell me you think we shouldn't talk ? :confused: what? what a psycho. then you tell me "hope you're doing ok. take care of yourself. x" WHAT? WHAT A PSYCHO. You're so pathetic. It's yet another one of your mind****ing games. Hope I'm doing ok? Take care of yourself? Heh, like you ever cared.... all you ever cared about was : using me for sex, and f*cking thai whores. :confused: go f*ck yourself and stick your guilty conscience where the sun don't shine.

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ChasingCars Member

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Kinda miss you.

Bah.

 

What's it been, a week or so since NC at all?

 

Oh, tomorrow is 1 month since the end.

SPLAT.

By the end of next month I will be a totally different place, I just know it.

It'll be much better.

I'm talking myself up here, ya know. :)

 

By now you are probably so over me and while I may have helped you move along with asking for the NC, it was for the best.

 

You know what I missed today too?

Someone who would have cared about what happened.

 

Amazing how raw we can be.

ChasingCars Member

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Oh Crap, it has only been 6 days since NC.

Did time slow down or something????

It feels like at least a week.

 

Walking through knee deep mud here. :/

hellischrome Established Member

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I miss you so much today.

Frank13 Established Member

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I was doing so well at forgetting you. Then today I had a dream about you and us being together. Now I am missing you again.

 

Again last week you told an acquaintance to say "Hi" to me. I don't know why you do that. We have been NC for so long. What's the point? One time when you did that I texted back "Hi" and all I got was "Thanks". I am not making that mistake again.

 

Just move on and forget about me. We are complete strangers now, no longer in each other's lives. I am, and have been moving on. I guess you just want an ego stroke. You will have to look elsewhere, because there is no point in me giving you that.

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I would say, you broke my heart, I loved you so much more than you loved me, I just did not realize you do not know how to love, you left me for another yet I know you will take the same issues with you. It is like a rerun of a bad movie, you are even dating the same dates in the same order camping, beach, mom's house. Same exact thing.

 

You are a very cold person that will eventually be a lonely old mean man. You hurt people so much and just cut them off - you will get what you give and your time will come.

LoveB86 Established Member

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This isn't about getting back at you. This isn't about wishing bad things on you. You dumped me for another co-worker, cheated on me like it was nothing. Proudly walking around and showing her off like you never did wrong. Yet, at 3 months later, I still feel sad. Sad that you didn't even care to say you were sorry. But I learned from this... I want you to be happy even though you cheated. You see, I am and will be more of a stronger person as time goes on. The memory will fade and I will become "normal" again like you. Normal enough to walk around and not care anymore just like you.

 

I haven't cried in months since you cheated. But today, I want to shed a tear. A tear for the struggles I had dealt with the last 3 months, the weight loss, the "band-aid repair" ego that I have to "wear", the pain of seeing you and her every other day at work, the rumor I heard someone or you at work started about me being "high mantienance" when I am not that way at all. You would do anything to alleviate your guilt huh!? You even have your girlfriend against me and I didn't do anything to her. Wow, you created all this mess? But at the end of the day, you both are still confused over the fact that YOU CAN'T BREAK ME! You done everything you could to tear me apart because of your cheating and lying.

 

Thanks for allowing me to mold into a stronger person. Would you like someone to lie and cheat on you? No... so why did you felt it was okay to do that to me?

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hellischrome Established Member

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I am not doing bad today - but I know I am still hoping for something. And I am really stupid but deep down I hope you change your mind.

SimonSerenade Established Member

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Getting to know new people has been great but there's still a sadness there, feels like just yesterday I was meeting you for the first time and then time passed us by and were engaged and loving our time together, I don't know when it all fell apart or even why it did, it's best that I never know, I don't even want to try to understand it, the end result is that we'll never be together again, that's something I've accepted and life is easier knowing that, I loved you more than I'd ever loved anyone, underneath all the crap I wanted nothing more than a stable relationship with you and to know you could be open and honest with me.

 

it's hard knowing what you meant to someone who could throw you away so often and so easily, I was a fool to think I could have that with you, the girl I met before you had all that to offer, she made me feel like something special and I walked away from that for the pure love I felt for you, instead of getting all that was on offer from her i fought hard to try to get it from you, the saddest part is that I still to this day felt I made the right decision, I still have no regrets.

 

I realise now that I need the kind of relationship she had to offer, it's easy, there's compassion, there's stability, there's communication, I smile at the thought of it, it's heart warming, I missed out on that, I'm not stupid enough to miss out on it again should I ever get so lucky, I wanted what any human being wants, to be loved, respected, appreciated and cherished, I didn't get that from you, I don't see this break up as a loss anymore, I see it as a possibility to gain when the time is right someday.

 

I hope one day you find what your looking for, I don't know what it is but it would be nice to know you can find happiness in whatever you do.

ChasingCars Member

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Well sheetz, man.

30 days and here I am posting randomly on a forum to fill time and not trip on you.

This cannot be the long term answer, obviously.

 

I think this 30 days is going to be about not only cutting off contact (that was last month's goal) but making it impossible for you to ever reach me.

That leaves no doubt that you could just pop up again.

Also, I need to find normal ways to spend my time that have nothing to do with you.

I need to get back on a real fitness routine.

Yesterday, I ran 2 miles and then ate half a bag of cookies- geezus.

 

This is seriously aggravating that I am this mucked up over you.

You were good.:cool:

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