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June 7, 2013

Am very glad to see this thread so well used :bunny:

June 7, 2013

So glad I got to see you glow before you had to go. I can see how much better you do with the attention of other people, particularly if you don't have to stick to one woman who then allows you to isolate yourself and vice versa.

I hope you realize it. I hope you stay out of relationships, you'll be happier. You may find someone who doesn't need your dedication, your commitment and a promise of forever. That would be a situation I believe you could be truly happy with for longer than three months.

June 7, 2013

Yeah its funny how not one of your relationships worked out

June 7, 2013

Yesterday and today were by far the worst tests I've taken. Oh, and in case you are wondering, yes this one is to my "now!" And as ironic as it sounds this vent comes from a place of pure love. Believe it or not and right now I do not care if you do!

And to the CLOWNS that have been hacking into my email - after this vent - that account is closed to you! For good! Figuratively speaking of course because I CAN'T close it, but I Can put you on notice now. It is DONE after this and I dare you to test me because you WILL regret it if you do.

When that picture popped up on my social media account you want to know what I really saw?! If you are wondering, it was not fear. What I saw was a woman who was stressed out, angry and depressed! First, let me say that yes, I accept full responsibility for MY part and for being a huge idiot in denial! That is not what is important at the moment. I am more than willing to face it head on with 100% honesty. I don't care what others might say or think because you know what? I'm human and I made a momumental mistake and yes, I was in deep DEEP denial. I also found the STRENGTH to finally put a stop to it all the madness.

What IS important right now is the one holds equal if not MORE responsibility for how the woman in that picture looks. You need to SH*T or get off the pot buddy! How dare you string two women along like that. First, by coming to me and treating me like a piece of GARBAGE by taking what you wanted and purposely withholding yourself from me emotionally and then going home and playing MR. STELLAR husband, father and community man. That doesn't make YOU stellar at all! It makes you a manipulative POS who is willing to stomp on other peoples hearts just so you can have it all! Well, I have a news flash for you - you DON'T have it all! It doesn't matter if your buddies give you props for using women like they are at your own personal desposal. A decent "buddy" and a good friend would call you out on your cr*p and point out just despicable it is to treat two human beings in such a horrible HORRIBLE manner. You really need to hear this because you and the others put all of this on my shoulders for soo long; it is now your turn to hear the TRUTH (which I asked for many times).

Don't you ever contact me again unless you've finally owned your cr*p in all of this and have done the right thing. If your happy there then give it your full attention and if your not then do the right thing by ending it. Don't string two people along just so you can have it all without having to make any decisions. Look at what it is doing to the people your involved. Do you actually think that's healthy? I don't care how much you two think it doesn't show - IT SHOWS. I could see the damage clear as day in that ONE photo!!! Oh and that whole "sweetbell" rant was actually quite selfish and disgusting. If you think that is an appealing acceptable healthy attitude then definitely LOSE my number. I don't want any part of that type of life style. If you do then knock yourself the freak out and erase me from your life because I want NOTHiNG to do with people like that...at all!

Don't ever contact me again unless you are free and clear to do so! I want nothing to do with a man who doesn't know who he is and what he wants and backs it up with actions. I want a man who does; period.

You had no idea that I could peer right past your armor and see YOU for the person you REALLY are without all this other stuff in the mix did you? THAT is the person *I* fell in love with and not this manipulative game player who is straddling two worlds. I still stand by that and *NO* I'm not romanticizing you. I saw who you are and I believed in you. I had faith in you. And most of all I TRUSTED you!

Rant over! Good night!

June 7, 2013

This one is regarding a different person entirely. To that other woman who thinks her husband is true blue - well guess again! He is up to his same old tricks with MANY others. I have nothing to do with him avoid him like the plague even though he still tries to contact me. So you're barking up the wrong tree. Everyone might think he is Mr. Helpy Helperton, but he is an absolute piriah around women.

I want nothing to do with ANY man who is attached! There are plenty of nice single guys out there who ARE free and clear and want to have fun and enjoy life. I know I won't have any problems finding one and I look forward to that next step in my journey.

Edited June 7, 2013 by avelonia2013

June 7, 2013

You were and are very very weak emotionally and my energy for life was always 1000x stronger than yours but I took a chance on you and I guess I enjoyed bringing joy to your miserable life. How many times did you ask me to never leave you? I had to reassure you nearly every day that I wouldn't be the one to leave you high and dry but then that's exactly what you end up doing to me. You really are a piece of work but its ok because anytime my mind tries to make me believe that you are living an incredible life without me I just go back to remembering the self induced misery you put yourself through every day. You are an empty vessel who wallows in self pity and sadness to the point where you simply become an overbearing energy leach. You did me a favour actually because I was blindly willing to commit myself to you but surely that would have been the single most biggest mistake I could ever make in my life. You are worthless and I am free to find someone who is likeminded and who wants to see the world in a positive way instead of sucking the life out of anything good

ouch ouch ouch

June 7, 2013

dear ex,

i went to this thread on this love shack site that wanted me to say all the things i never said to you....so i tried to think of things i hadnt said......that really mattered.I remember all the poetry that you said you loved i wrtote you ....now faded and forgotten with time..., i remember that you behaved badly on many occasions.......i remember you, when i look in my three girls chocolate colored eyes......and i love you for those eyes you gave them .....but you already know all this....i have said everything i have needed, desired or wanted to say to you..i never held back and neither did you good or bad we have said it all......just one thing....i wish you well in your new relationship......as i would hope one day...you will wish the same for me...i know you will..the kids say hi by the way...and send hugs your way.....good luck ..toodles..debs

June 7, 2013

Dear *******,

If you step one foot into my apartment, I will burn your house down. I know it was you who stole my things when you dropped off your key last tuesday. I'm not stupid.

One day, everyone you ever meet will get to see for themselves just who you truly are. They will get to witness what REALLY makes you tick, and how little you care for the ones who give you everything.

By the way, you have gained quite a bit of weight.

- Keenly

June 7, 2013

Dear *******,

If you step one foot into my apartment, I will burn your house down. I know it was you who stole my things when you dropped off your key last tuesday. I'm not stupid.

One day, everyone you ever meet will get to see for themselves just who you truly are. They will get to witness what REALLY makes you tick, and how little you care for the ones who give you everything.

By the way, you have gained quite a bit of weight.

- Keenly

She did really

June 7, 2013

you were a lying manipulative bastard,a cheat and an ungrateful piece of ****!thought you had it all and looked the best among all,had the best among everyone else around.you were a pig and a horny ****!!!

June 7, 2013

you go girl

June 7, 2013

Ty for leaving me. Case I never would have left you. No matter the cost no matter the pain. I don't blame you for leaving. Not that I understand the reasons why you had to go, but even if I knew it, I wouldn't understand it. Case there was never and there never would be a good enough reason for me to leave you. I would have gone fighting for long time after my last breath was taken. Its weird, case you were always the one needing me, I never needed any1. I was always the strong one. I was always the one who can menage on his own. Always taking care of you and your family. Working 2 jobs so you can pay for you school. Not that you'll ever need that diploma. Case you never studied. You were sitting on your lazy ass and I never even said thing. You were probably thinking that I like working 16 hours like ****, having insomnia from the stress. Your life was sucking my life out. How come I never had any problems, how come I never was scared or too weak to do something. You were always amazed with my ability to compress pain, to go on even in the hardest points of our lives. You were loving the fact that you can always depend on me. You were even joking about that that The Unbreakable you called me . But guess what, you broke me. I shattered like a glass in million piece's after you left me. Not even a goodbye? I was always thinking you were better then that. I guess I was wrong. But you know what, my life is easy, and it always was before I met you. Its like am breathing again. So don't even think for a second am ever going t0 take you back!

June 7, 2013

I'm still waiting to hear from you, I'm always waiting

June 7, 2013

Wow. I just realized something. I was in limboship for so long that I came to the Interent for answers, perspective and validation. I needed to let go with that final vent after seeing what I was doing. I'm actually fine ow and it feels pretty amazing. My forum experience was mirroring what I was actually going through in my day to day life in that situation. Now that I'm out and won't go back to living like that under any circumstances, I don't need "this" anymore. Seriously, it was like looking for a hit to pacify the addiction while I was in limboship. Amazing!

I'm officially done with it now. This girl is finally cleansed! Whoo hoo! Now it's time to start living.

I do not know what the future holds, but I know this...I'm looking forward to it.

Ciao!

June 7, 2013

What a horrible state I was in last night, I don't know where that came from, I wish I didn't ring you, I was just so desperate and didnt know who to turn to, its hard to believe you treated me the way you did in that situation, its hard to believe you could be that selfish, I didn't deserve that, I didn't deserve any of this, last night I was ready to end it all, I had nothing to live for, it's hard to believe I've been so sick for 2 years with no real sign of escape from it, life is terrifying for me right now, it's still hard to believe my ears could do this to me.

Thankgod charities like simaritans exist, without that person on the other line to understand me and be sweet and sympathetic towards me, I don't know where I'd be right now, I probably wouldn't even be here, I've never cried so hard in my entire life, I've bottled up so much in the past 2 years because nobody understood what's wrong with me, nobody helped me, nobody cared, least of all you, I think I've been as strong as I can possibly be and now all that strength has slowly drained from my body, I just need a break from feeling this way but it never ends, you made this so much more difficult than it should of been.

I'm trying so hard to see the good in you but I don't know if I can anymore, not after last night, I did so well without smoking these past 2 weeks, I only gave up for you, after smoking again this morning, I at least feel a little less desperate, I hate myself for going back to those demon white sticks but right now, I need something to keep me calm and composed, being without them has jut been too difficult to deal with on top of all of this.

Last night you told me you didn't love me anymore and that I said too many hurtful things that couldnt be forgiven, there was nothing in this world that could of made me say that to you, I forgave you for everything, I dropped things that I should of stood tall on, I let you walk all over me, I even let myself believe your lies, I gave you all your own way just so you'd be happy.

I don't know what's wrong with you, this isn't you, the person I knew wouldnt have it in her heart to be so cruel, selfish and dismissive, I watched you slowly change, I watched you get colder and colder until there was no warmth there anymore, I did everything you asked for, I went it of my way for you, I always put you first, anything I did, I thought of how you'd feel before I did it, i respected you, I valued you too much to ever hurt you or lose you, even after everything you put me through, after all the times you made me feel worthless and pathetic, I was nice to you, I put it behind me to be with you.

I did everything I could to be with you, I was a real human being with real feelings, I showed you love, kindness, devotion, you never had to worry about losing me because you knew my feelings for you wouldn't change, you knew I would be here, you knew you were the only one, you gave me so many doubts and you didn't correct them, a big part of me feels like you did this to get satisfaction out of knowing you could hurt me because people have hurt you in the past, your no better than those people and you don't see it.

I hope one day you see all this and I hope I get the apology I deserve but you won't do that, you don't take me seriously, you never did, you didn't love me and you certainly didn't respect me, you wouldn't of ended it over a worthless text otherwise, right now my head is a mess, you do this to me, you built me up just to knock me down, because of you I feel worthless and now I'll never trust anyone again, you faked love and sincerity, who knows what else you faked all this time, you just don't care, you made a mess and you left it that way without a single word, i don't know how to even begin to fix this, you needed to fix it but you just couldn't do that, you left me with nothing, you didn't even leave me with some kindness, I needed to feel meaningful, you couldn't give me that either, your heartless and your the one that deserves to feel these horrible things, I gave so much of myself to you, i didn't deserve a second of this.

June 7, 2013

I miss you so much. I don't know what else there is to say other than that. I got a new dog. Maybe that's why I feel this way today. I really miss our baby girl too, maybe her more than you, because I never broke up with her, but I had to leave her when I left you. Maybe one day I'll see her. Maybe she's the only reason I'll ever get in contact with you again. Maybe she'll be the excuse.

June 7, 2013

Ty for leaving me. Case I never would have left you. No matter the cost no matter the pain. I don't blame you for leaving. Not that I understand the reasons why you had to go, but even if I knew it, I wouldn't understand it. Case there was never and there never would be a good enough reason for me to leave you. I would have gone fighting for long time after my last breath was taken. Its weird, case you were always the one needing me, I never needed any1. I was always the strong one. I was always the one who can menage on his own. Always taking care of you and your family. Working 2 jobs so you can pay for you school. Not that you'll ever need that diploma. Case you never studied. You were sitting on your lazy ass and I never even said thing. You were probably thinking that I like working 16 hours like ****, having insomnia from the stress. Your life was sucking my life out. How come I never had any problems, how come I never was scared or too weak to do something. You were always amazed with my ability to compress pain, to go on even in the hardest points of our lives. You were loving the fact that you can always depend on me. You were even joking about that that The Unbreakable you called me . But guess what, you broke me. I shattered like a glass in million piece's after you left me. Not even a goodbye? I was always thinking you were better then that. I guess I was wrong. But you know what, my life is easy, and it always was before I met you. Its like am breathing again. So don't even think for a second am ever going t0 take you back!

Perhaps you should have shared more of your issues with her : ((( sometimes its really tough when you try to play like all is good sooner or later truth will come up.

If you actually told her or showed her that her issues where drowning you it would have hurt her very much as you said not everyone can play it strong like you do it does not make you better person or her worse it just is how things are.

June 8, 2013

Perhaps you should have shared more of your issues with her : ((( sometimes its really tough when you try to play like all is good sooner or later truth will come up.
If you actually told her or showed her that her issues where drowning you it would have hurt her very much as you said not everyone can play it strong like you do it does not make you better person or her worse it just is how things are.

hmmm... Thought we were just supposed to post here. Didn't realize there would be commenting. Didn't expect that - just sayin'.

June 8, 2013

I'm still struggling to figure out what I did wrong, I know you resented me and you fought with me on my views, you have to understand I was raised by people from different generations, I was simple in my own way, it made things easy and it made life a cake walk, I'm a man, I pride myself on being right and though people don't like it, that's what I am, I have a reason for everything I do and I had a reason for everything I did in our relationship.

You think it was because I was this that and all the other and it wasn't, it was because i wanted to make our relationship better, I wanted to make our relationship easier, I'm not stupid and that's why you have to rewind all the way back to the start of the relationship for something I did wrong because I considered your feelings before doing anything because you were the woman I loved and I respected you, the last thing I ever wanted to do was hurt you and as a man I did my best to treat you well and protect you from anything or anyone that hurt you, as I got to know you more I learned these things and i learned your fears and insecurities, I always did all i could to avoid them, I wanted you to feel safe with me, I can only say i did my best.

The past is the past and it can stay there, I only asked that you didn't keep it around for me to see, I didn't keep mine around for you to see after all, I wanted this relationship to feel fresh, all evidence of the past should be dead and buried, it's the only kind and humane thing to do.

I think promises are important and they resemble a bond of trust and security, if I made one to you I made sure I kept it, I loved you and I would never want you to have to doubt my word, I was brought up to be a kind, considerate, respectful, intelligent, honest man with values and an appreciation for the beauty and complexity of the emotions of love.

I hope one day I can find someone who can understand me, I shouldn't have to explain myself, someone who loves me should trust me and trust my decisions,

There made with good heart and intent and that should be good enough.

I'm not sorry for wanting the best for you, I'm not sorry for wanting the best for us, you told me some stories when we together and though you didn't realise my heart broke for you and i cried inside, I never wanted to stop bettering myself for you, I only wanted you to feel happy and safe in my arms, that's what any good man wants for his woman.

I never would of left you, you were the greatest lady I ever had the pleasure of spending time with, you were the best of the best, you truly meant the world to me, everything you were was beautiful to me, you stupid stupid woman.

June 8, 2013

hmmm... Thought we were just supposed to post here. Didn't realize there would be commenting. Didn't expect that - just sayin'.

Yes you are right but the situation has reminded me of well of something

I was caught of guard myself but by all means do carry on ...

June 8, 2013

I was with a womanizer. I allowed myself to be used and I was not a victim. I should have left a long time ago but I was to prideful to believe that I couldn't make you love me in spite of your words and actions letting me know that you didn't want to love me. I gave you parts of me that you didn't earn or deserve (lucky you), oh yes it hurts very much to this day. I take comfort in knowing you will get nothing else from me. Everything I do or anything I want to do is more important than calling or texting you.

Now I have blocked you from my phone and I have not fed your ego. Go ahead and find you a new conquest. You can keep all the stuff I bought you because that's a small price to pay in order to get you out of my life. It wasn't until you sent me this breadcrumb message of how you were thinking about me. It almost seemed like a mass message that you sent to several women throughout the day. I am sick of your act and the only part of me I want you to see is my back.

Thanks for being honest and telling me that you want things to remain the same as they were between us when you get better. "You want to enjoy each others company and have fun" yeah okay

June 8, 2013

OK, so you downgraded - I already knew that. But I still cannot but laugh when my friends tell me about how your old/new bf you cheated on me with 'got hold of his life again with you'. So he ALMOST quit smoking? ALMOST got back to studying? And he started working as a melex driver? Whew, that's ALMOST a great match for you! (what was it you planned to become? a book editor?) I wonder: why is it that you have hidden your relationship status from everyone while he's 'in couple' with you on Facebook?

Oh, and just so you know: I met a girl in a bus yesterday - she's lovely, great looking and a Star Wars nerd. We're going for a date next week. Have fun in your ALMOST great relationship, darling

June 8, 2013

I am having such a hard time right now, I couldn't bring myself to block you on anything so I turned iMessage off and deactivated my Facebook, no big deal, only had my sister, grandad and dad on there anyway, I figured I'd just leave you to your devices, let you have your own world, ill stay out of your way.

I meant what I said when I said I couldn't handle this, its just been too much, one thing after another but im geussing my health and emotional well being isnt your problem anymore, I truly hope your not talking to ste again, that would be stupid after all the horrible things he said about you, ugly goofy looking bitch being one of many things he said that made me throw him out of my life.

It's hard being with someone who has no sense of guilt or remorse but it's even harder being without, you left me with so many unanswered questions and nothing but bad things to think back on with how you ended it, you said it yourself, you don't love me anymore, I don't think you loved me in the first place to fall out of it so quickly, I'll never understand how someone could be so heartless and do that to someone, I thought there was only one person in my life who could do that to me, I never expected it from you though, I thought I meant more to you than that.

I loved you so much, I haven't got it in me to hate you or anyone I loved, I wish I could because it would probably be easier but that just isn't me, I can't be nasty to you, I never could, you were the one I couldn't be without, you were the one I thought would stand by me and love me for as long as I lived, I just couldn't see me with anyone else, thinking of you with anyone else always broke me up because I just couldn't imagine anyone else by your side who would suit you more than I did, thinking of your past killed me because of that, that's why i was so desperate for your words to be true when you told me i was the only one.

In the beginning I was scared so I broke it off that once, I was scared of feeling the way I did for you because I felt too strongly, i always feared you would leave me one day when I knew I couldn't be without you, now I'm struggling to pretend you never existed and go back to the person i was before this, completely happy and content to be alone and only counted on myself, I didn't trust anyone before you came along, I couldn't bare to be with anybody, i just didn't feel anything for anyone, you changed that and you opened my heart again, I put my past pain behind me and wanted to give you all I could be, I wanted to be all you deserved, now I wish I never met you.

June 9, 2013

just wanted to say, i liked reading this in a british accent.

What did you mean by this ?

June 9, 2013

I resent you for the following:

-Jerking off Only moments after breaking the news that our relationship was done, while I sat there crying, especially when you blindsided me And told me you loved me the night before

-Told me I was a "****i ng idiot who didn't know how to run my life", told me I couldn't make decisions or use Any common sense unless it was your common sense, told me repeatedly to get lost, you didn't love me anymore, I wasn't your priority, etc. etc.

-Expected me to stay on the pill for X sex, all the while not telling me that you were sleeping with other people and expected us to not use any protection

Repeatedly through in my face all the dates you were having and all the girls you were banging, "banging broad's" in your words

-Picking up a girl in a bar three weeks before we broke up, lying to me and about you were talking to on your phone, lying to me that you were on a lunch visit with your mortgage broker when it was in fact this girl you planned to get with after you got rid of me

-Going on a date with this girl the day after we broke up

-When I found out about my serious health situation, you told me to simply "heal up well" and that you didn't really care about what happened to me

-Months later when I asked you to go for coffee, you decided to tell me you met a girl on vacation and are going to see her in Venezuela, where she lives, and that you are completely in love with her and she is your girlfriend after only knowing her for 10 days. "The love is there as you said and you will make it work". You're so selfish you expect her to move here of course, why would you ever give up your life here to go there for someone?

-Over and over you would tell me how great of a person you are who has so much to offer, you deserve the best and are not settling for anything less

-You would never ever come to see me despite living 20 minutes apart, get your fighter Venezuela to see a girl you've known for 10 days

-Everything was always on your agenda and on your terms, we never planned anything according to what I would like to do, and you were selfish, arrogant and cocky

-I could go on and on and on…

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