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[cdt76]

B:

 

I wonder if you think about me. I wonder if you care how I'm doing now days? I care about you. The last picture I saw of you, you look sick, you look so thin and gaunt. That I actually still care about your well being pisses me off to no end because you obviously don't care. You cold, heartless bitch. I can't believe you could destroy a great thing with me, then move on and begin to destroy yourself. Too bad you couldn't see how good I was for you and the baby. Too bad you are too selfish to care what happens to your soul. But yet, I wonder, do I ever cross your mind?

[eachcomingnight]

Hey,

Here I am, only five days in, and I woke up yesterday morning with Coldplay lyrics running through my head:

"Nobody said it was easy, no one ever said it would be this hard."

 

Perfectly said.

 

I won't go so far as to say I hope that you are happy, because god knows that I want more than anything for you to realize that you are not and that you have made a mistake. But I know at this point that probably wouldn't change anything anyway.

 

I still want you to have that realization though.

 

I miss you so much and I can't keep the tears in when I think about the future that I believed you wanted as well. I am trying to look forward and think about an alternative future without you in it. It is hard right now, but I know I will get there.

xx

[iouaname]

Hey,

 

I just want to thank you for being there for me. Even though I know that you are relieved to not be dealing with things anymore, you're too nice to say it and I appreciate that. Thank you for telling me you will look back fondly on this relationship, that you respect me and love me and care about me, and that you wish the best for me. You're a good guy, even if you're not my guy.

[Minadee]

I cannot stop crying.

 

It seems you are starting to care less and less. You never ask me how I am, how the bub is, how my day has been. You don't talk to me much at all anymore.

 

My god it hurts.

[AwptiK]

There's a million things I want to say to you, but I know there's no magic phrase to change the way things are. :'(

[lop98]

F.UCK YOU. Clingy coward, good for nothing piece of sh.it. Wait you're actually good at something, climbing your way up and using women depending on the need you have, if professionally use your boss's daughter, if lonely use your best friend. You're trash. I feel bad for people that like me, will go on for years thinking you're a great friend, completely fooled by your facade of being modest and shy when you're a self-absorbed opportunistic rat who's constantly measuring himself against others and seeing what he can take from them when they're looking away. I hate you, you're a liar, how can you be so comfortable lying like this? you lie to absolutely everyone, even to yourself, oh and you can't be lonely, you're so needy and dependable you need a woman by your side at all times, when someone requires struggle, ah hassle, let's grab whoever's on the street and replace immediately.

 

You look gaunt and you look sad and miserable and poor and I could not be happier. It's called karma, a.sshole, and I hope it's only the beginning, I hope life kicks you in the as.s, rolls you all over, throws you on the street, gets you deported and brings lots of tears and darkness into your life.

 

Enjoy hooking up with ugly, cylinder-shaped girls 10 years younger than you are, have accidental kids and experience real hassle and be miserable forever. Loser. Meanwhile, I'm seeing someone a hundred times smarter and better-looking than you are who actually has the balls to act like a man by showing that he cares and not just pretending like you do.

[h3braica]

i hope that karma hits you and your ex soon!

[CaliforniaGirl80]

Everytime I think 'there can't possibly be more hurt coming' And everytime I am dead wrong. I can't believe how heartbroken I am. I really feel my heart or stomach or something inside being so tight and uncomfortable. Like I can't breath. How can I ever look you in the face again. Go. Just go already. I don't want you in my life anymore. Let me be me. I don't want you to be here now. I want you to leave. Be good and leave.

[lop98]

I hate you. You still miss me. The doubt will hang on your head forever. Bet you never imagined ignoring me for days would have these consequences, you thought you could pull that card on me so easily and then come back wishing it could all be put behind and it didn't, and as if your mistake wasn't enough you found someone to f-ck and now you're stuck there, but still stalking me everyday, wishing it was me beside you, just like you did all these 6 years you were after me when I wasn't dumb enough to even consider anything with you. I love that you're jealous, I know it's killing you, I love that you think I'm doing it with this guy the way I did it with you but what I love the most is that that girl is as raw as she can be, I'm sure treating her like a slut in bed must be a lot of fun when it's only you playing the game.

 

I wish you'd know I met him the second day you didn't return my calls ... feeling too cool for finding someone a month later? try two days later. It's nice being a woman sometimes and getting to choose, not going after the first nerd with acne, dark circles and no boobs that your friend hooks you up with. LOSER. In your 30s and hanging out with people fresh from their teenage years... they're the only ones that will be impressed by your lifestyle when the rest just see an as.hole that didn't even finish college and sounds just like it every time he opens his mouth to talk about his "art".

 

I wish a car would hit you.

[blindhope]

When you left me it was the most painful experience of my life. But over time I realized it wasn't losing you that was hurting me so. It was my mind playing games. It was the pain of being rejected, the fear of being alone for the first time in 8 years. It was me not know being prepared for what's next and for the first time looking ahead and not knowing which path my life would take.

 

But now as I sit back and reflect I want to say thank you. Thank you for treating me so bad that I will never fall in your trap again. If you didn't lie to my face and treat me like total crap I'd still be playing your games. Waiting for you to return, as you "take your space to work on yourself" (with that 17yr old boy toy.) If I never knew about how low you sunk I'd feel for you and your troubles.

 

But now I realize who you are. I took care of you, spoiled you and loved you with all I had. But you weren't worth it. The definition of high maintenance. The poster child for spoiled brat. You had no passion or heart in life. Sure you WERE sweet and innocent, but deep down your cold and emotionless. You are right that you need to work on yourself. Yet you hide behind your new romance. But that will fail. The butterflies will wear off as they did with us and the excitement of running around in secret will be gone and you'll be left with the same troubles you face today. You really should have taken the time to learn to love yourself.

 

So thank you for allowing me to walk away. Thank you for saving me from a future of a one sided relationship, and thank you for showing me your true colors before it was too late.

 

I will find someone else who is worth the effort. Who deserves to be treated like a princess, and who deserves my love. I have wasted to much of it on you, but I have no doubt not another drop will be spilt because of you.

 

Have a nice life, and update your resume because I just informed your boss of what you've been up too. I feel that they'd prefer to keep it a rehab clinic a with therapist rather than a brothel with a...well you know -

Edited April 11, 2013 by blindhope

[Minadee]

I walked past the tree where we spent the summer of 2011 under. Do you remember? We had picnics and would just lay intertwined with each-other on a blanket, enjoying each others silence and me being jealous that you used to tan so easily.

 

One time, Roxy got off her lead and started bounding after some school kids who were playing football because she wanted to play so bad. We both were in absolute stitches and had to calm ourselves down before running to get her. And you used to try and wind me up by calling after her, but instead of saying her name you'd say "Barry" or "Jimmy" or "Benedict" which would frustrate me but make me laugh. No one to this day has ever come close to making me laugh so effortlessly the way you used to.

 

I miss you. So so so much.

[pofnin9]

This is just a confession to her, I just need to get it off of my chest.

 

I do not love her, I know it is wrong but I just want you to think that im moving on and you lost me. I just want you to hurt as much as I have. I want you but you are not ready and I cant hate you for that.

I made it seem like kissing you, holding you and sleeping with you didnt hurt but it did.

You have made a mistake and I am sure someday you will realize it and I am stupid enough to forgive you. You do frusterate me but I understand. I hate that I cant get over this stupid drama. I am too good for you. I did nothing but love but then when I went through a tough time u bailed. I gave you everything. You made me trust again. I should have known and I think I did know. Remember when I told you that you would end up breaking my heart? I was right.

Im sorry I hurt you but please stop hurting me.

[uniqwa]

J I loved you a lot.. I literally adored you.. YOU the same guy who did a lot of stupid ****.. YOU made me laugh, you were so funny. YOU had the sense of humor of a child, and yes I always understood the "jokes" I just didn't find amusement in majority of them.. I don't find a lot of things amusing..

I literally loved how free spirited you were, You were not bound to any belief besides your own. You still had respect for the beliefs of others despite how much ignorance you found. I loved that you were so intelligent.( well not really you left my ass) but I found so much intelligence in you.

I admired that in you, I admired that you were not closed minded. I admired that you loved learning. I loved that you were full of jokes..

the sarcasm, cruel things you did and said on a daily basis, I did not measure up to your standards.. I am sorry for that.. Not that you acknowledge that in any way..

The fact that you didn't love me.. I got that loud and clear, I'm sorry for clinging so hard to someone who didn't love me..

I am sorry for being dependent on you for emotional gratification.. I am sorry for not being more independent in every aspect of our relationship.. had I been more independent you would not have felt the burden, you would not have felt sick and tired of me.. I was clingy, like bubble gum and I am so sorry.

I should have given you solitude, more man time. I should have literally let you have hours and hours to yourself.

I should have paid attention to the **** I put in the oven, I just didn't give a ****. I should have been more accepting, I understood your reasoning, I understood how you felt on certain subjects,

I should not have been over emotional about the subjects because in tern i only hurt myself.. You were never able to hide secrets from me.. when you did I always found them..

I am sorry that I didn't give you freedom.. I am sorry that I constricted you and left you feeling as though you had no " me time".

YOU should know that I had so many good times with you..

I want you to know I appreciate the learning experience I've been given, I learned so much. I've learned how not to **** up a relationship.

I want to thank you. Even though you fell out of love with me and you sorta left me for someone else.. I want to thank you because. I have finally learned something very critical.

HOW not to **** up a relationship, I will utilize every single trick you taught me. I will make my next man so happy he'll never leave.. I will even cook the foods your mother taught me because they were delicious and the next man I get will eat good ass dinners daily.

I want to say, thank you for not giving me a chance. thank you for just running away and then leading me on.. I really did appreciate the pain, It was like having my heart stepped on and then kicked..

We both deserve to be happy, that you were never happy with me. I am sorry.. I was jealous and I should not have led myself to believe things, but I always seemed to find things.. Anyways..

I want to thank you. YES you will always be my first love, I will always love you it seems i can't even kill you off in my mind.

If I could go back in time with the knowledge i have now then...We would have had a stronger relationship, I would have pushed you to be a better person towards me.. I would have had a spine with you.

*learning experience* I'm not over you. One day I'll be able to say hi and not cry all over my computer while sending you a message.

Thanx for reading.

Edited April 13, 2013 by uniqwa

[CompleteFailure]

My ex said something similar to me before telling me she wanted to end things. It's actually painful to know that she's going to put that much effort into her next relationship. Seeing her, now she seems so strong willed and determined. Your post reminds me of that.

[TheBladeRunner]

I just wanted to say thanks....yeah right. I planned on spending the rest of my life with you and you through me away like trash. I have been doing very well lately, but nights like tonight meeting yet another new woman reminds me of how it used to be. I had yet another crappy meeting, this one was full of attitude, had bad skin, and although I am not thin, I can't stand the thought of being with a woman that is twice as thick as me. My friends mean well, but I think I am going to give up trying to meet someone at all. It's true, I am over you, but maybe I am not over the fact you destroyed my life. I give up, the world is full of self serving, narcissistic jerks just like you. Fu%^ OLD, and you too.....jerk!

[denxnis]

**** you. You're a selfish heartless POS who cares only about herself.

 

Don't wave at me like i'm your friend on the street. Don't text me and expect a response. You don't deserve a moment of my time and I'm tired of even thinking about you, you don't deserve the space your memories occupy in my mind.

 

**** off and get out of my life already.

[h3braica]

i hate you so much that i want you to die suffering from pain for 10 yrs! i've been faithful for 10 yrs, waiting and sacrificing everything to please you. when your paper finally fixed you throw me like a trash. you returned to your ex. you cheated on me for 10 yrs. you made me believe that you love me and didn't love your ex! you are a demon on earth! die!

[CopingGal]

 

For the last 3 days I have wanted to LITERLLY kill myself , I feel foreign in my own body.

 

 

I know you think there is no way out, but there is and it does NOT involve killing yourself. Do yourself a favor and look at a lot of my posts, especially in this tread. I'm telling you, I was in darkness and I felt hurt and angry all the time. I felt like I wasn't going to make it through the pain. But I did, and so can you. Yes, it still hurts. I still think of what my ex did to me, but I know longer am in intense pain everyday throughout the day.

 

You have to get outside of the painful part yourself. You are too focused on your pain and your misery. Try to focus on other things. What do you like to do? Start a blog and teach others. Sign up to do volunteer work. Join the Red Cross and help them when they have blood drives. Take some free classes on the internet. Go to a workshop of the Reading Council and learn how to tutor adults who are learning English. Volunteer to walk dogs at the local shelter. There's a big world out there that has nothing to do with what your pain.

 

You moved right? What things does your area have to offer. Contact the United Way in your area. Volunteer to work at a food pantry. Doing good in this world will help you to focus on other things and feel better about yourself.

 

You are going to still see angry posts from me in this thread. But the difference is I'm no longer consumed by my anger. I have many other things going on in my life. I might write an angry posts, but I no longer spend all day angry or all day crying or all day thinking about what a miserable SOB my ex is.

Edited April 13, 2013 by CopingGal

[CopingGal]

i hate you so much that i want you to die suffering from pain for 10 yrs! i've been faithful for 10 yrs, waiting and sacrificing everything to please you. when your paper finally fixed you throw me like a trash. you returned to your ex. you cheated on me for 10 yrs. you made me believe that you love me and didn't love your ex! you are a demon on earth! die!

 

 

I felt like you did for a long, long time. Seriously, check out my post above this one.

[SoConfusedAndInShock]

9 months NC and im still miserable...

there are good days and weeks like this weeks where i can't seem to lift myself from the ground. only God knows how much i miss you. its not fair at all. you ripped me into peaces took my heart with you and my life went down hills from there. you ruined everything so good about me. i lost myself in loving you but your life goes on with your precious rebound.

 

I pray you get what you deserve! i'm dying to see you go through what you put me through thats all i gotta say...

[R.C]

My ex girlfriend is the most ungrateful selfish person i have met in my life! I changed my "badboy" lifestyle for her! Because she was so God Damn special, but now she turned into the person i used to be! I helped her through all her battles, and now that things are looking up for her, i feel completely ditched and abandoned! I wish she was dead.

[steveT95]

You can't see it can you? The way you make me feel. Everyone thinks you're getting with that guy, you have a reputation for a reason. I should of stayed away from you. Followed my instincts and called it off early. I could have had any number of girls but I chose you. What a mistake that was you selfish little tart.

[JourneyLady]

T

I forgot to tell you I have an awful habit of feeling rejected and then doing an about face and acting like I give up - when it's temporary. I try to go on logic and am affected by my impatience, just as you said. So then I change my mind, but you're not into it any more and think I lied.

 

I'm not a liar, and if I care, I care. The question for me is always "can I afford to". If the answer is too scary, then I always think to go. If I don't understand you, it's because you're too angry to explain without hurting me.

 

I loved what we had. I loved you giving it unconditionally and I was giving it unconditionally as well. I'm sorry I didn't understand you well enough. I'm sorry I couldn't keep it light enough for you. But in the end, you misunderstood what I wanted. I didn't want more, I actually wanted you to have to give less - without it causing a problem with me. That's what I wanted to set up. I'm sorry you misunderstood that.

 

But I know better than to wait around for things to be as they were. I tried that in my last relationship - trying to slowly work every little thing out with H so that the light at the end of the tunnel might be everything as magnetic and joyful as it was in the beginning. It never went back to that, and it never would.

 

It's probably that way with you. We both experienced the joy at the beginning of our association. I'm not sure what happened with you to take that joy away. Perhaps it was worry about whether you could follow through or not. Perhaps it was something you didn't like about me and you started to think negatively about me. Perhaps it was just the stress of your life. In any case, you could no longer care about me and show you felt good about being with me. I can't get it back, though I will always wish I could make you feel that way again.

 

I feel sort of betrayed - because you told me to be myself and I was. Then you bail out on me and it feels like it's because I was myself in a bad moment and you don't like it. You're not "in love" with me anymore. You may, as you said, still love me, still care - but you don't have the kind of love that makes you want to forgive and put effort into it. I understand. I wish I still wasn't feeling that way; it would be easier to take.

 

But that's my healing to find. In any case, at the moment I know you are headed for hard times and I am still here for you until those are over, because we were friends first and not together. I know you know I still wish it was more, and that makes it uncomfortable for you. It's okay - I will get over that. Someone somewhere will find me worthwhile and not be fooled by the occasional nuttiness. I have found in the past that I can be talked through it, but it has to be someone strong. You are not that strong -- not in that way.

 

I'll be your friend only until you have gotten through your difficulties. By then I should have started my new life and you won't hear from me further. I do hope you find someone worthy of you.

[burnyourlifedown]

great idea! well i really want to contact her but i know i shouldnt. nothing good can come out of it but heres what i wanted to say to her, if only: i told you sorry a thousand times but you just completely ignore me. im sorry i couldnt be your **** buddy while you wait for your new love interest to break up with her off and on lover. i dont want to be number two. im sorry i wouldnt hold your hand as you cry for your new love interest. im sorry i said i hate you, that is the most untrue thing i ever said. you know these already anyway but it is still necessary to say these things to you. i hope you forgive me someday.

[Slowjam35]

You swore the only reason you ended it was because you had to move. It's only been 3 weeks and you're back already, but you didn't say a word to me. I had to find out from instagram of all places... Do you know how much that hurt? All this time I was blaming circumstances for our break up. Now I know there is more to it. Did I do something wrong? Because moving obviously was just an excuse to end it...