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[Jingle14]

And so it's my birthday. Will you even remember? I should be lying happily in your arms, with lovely things planned for the morning, but instead that ****ing bitch is probably with you instead, and what romantic treats do you have planned for her, the boring and beige running bitch. She isn't me, she can't replace me so easily, I'm very far from beige or boring, and you know that. Your ex wife, you told me, was boring and beige and you wanted me because I was the opposite, but your controlling nature couldn't handle someone with a voice and opinions. What a shame, what a waste.

[Frank13]

I have the urge to contact you for Valentines Day and tell you I miss you so much and miss our friendship, but I won't. You don't care, so me telling you I miss you isn't going to mean a thing. All it will do is boost your ego and let you have a nicer day.

[Njeanne]

Today is the day I would have taken the plane to visit you. You would come too me on newyears and spend two weeks with me, I would come to your place for the long weekend or a entire week.

 

How are you doing? I still miss you, as I thought I'll be crying a lot today...

I still am angry at myself for spending less attention to you last two months and making you therefore unhappy (changing feelings)

 

I am sorry...please forgive me...

[Minadee]

First valentines I haven't been with you in 4 years. This sucks. I miss you really bad today, but in some sick sense, i'm pleased you're not spending it with her.

[candie13]

I am glad I got all mad and wrote that mail, last night. Why do I always have to do the clean up?

 

I am happy that you're not contacting me. I hope you will not in the future either. I wonder if you've going to throw away the plates I left at your place, last time I cooked for you. I wonder if you've already changed the sheets of your bed already. Bet you did.

 

I think I'll drop the classes at the dance school where we met - didn't care that much for it, anyway.

 

And more important, I wonder if I'll bump into you tonight. We do live in a very small city, God would have wicked sense of humor if that happened. Well, I got nothing to hide from, you can be sure I'll be out with my friends and have a good time.

 

I wonder if you'll pick up the nerve to actually acknowledge what happened and drop a nice "good bye to you too" note. Prob not, you're such a coward and problem avoider... if you were a person to deal with reality, we prob wouldn't be here to begin with. Oh well... back to work!

[CaliforniaGirl80]

Silly girl. That would be me. I always seem to try to get some closure from you when in reality everything that comes out of your mouth only makes it worse.

You will never give me that closure. You just won't. I hate the fact that you still act like there were reasons why everything happened the way it did so you don't have to take responsibility. I'd rather you be a total jackass about it then the nice guy act your putting on. You really are a nice guy though but you just can't admit to the fact that YOU were the one that hurt me. Stop acting like everything is cool! You hurt people too. Your ex hurt you and now you act like you can only be a victim when in reality you did the same too me as she did to you. She at least had the guts to leave you in a horibble place and just forget about you. That is a real bitch move and I love her for it because she moved on with her life. I on the other hand am not moving on while dealing with a nice ex boyfriend who will just not do me the favour of stabbing me in the heart already and get it over with. Stop torturing me one pinch at a time. Screw girls. **** your ex. Do what you want so I can finally start hating you and cursing you out. Thanks in advance.

[Derpderpleton]

REALLY? You wanna try and get mad at ME for NO reason after what you did to me? Tell me that you're falling for me, appreciate all that I do for you (lord knows I did A LOT), how sweet I am, and now suddenly I'm not worth sh*t to you? Act mad all you want, the fact doesn't change that you're an immature b*tch for handling this the way that you have. Getting drunk every weekend and trying to 'talk' to EVERY guy that looks your way won't change it either. I REALLY hope this eats away at your conscience, because it's really f*cked up how you're acting.

 

You can think we're friends, but we're far from it. I put up with a lot of your immature BS when we were together, pretty much letting you walk all over me, those days are f*cking over. I'm done being nice to you, because that's obviously not what you want. I'll always remember how you treated me like this, and I hope you know, karma is a B*TCH.

[mcdo]

You broke my heart, what could be worse than that?

 

Ugh I said I wouldn't do this but here goes...

 

As far as I'm concerned the Dxxxxxx I knew is dead. It just doesn't make sense in my mind that the person who said everything she said and did everything she did over those 2 and a half years is the same person as you. The girl who said she loved me so many times. The girl who missed me so bad that she started crying while I was sitting beside her. All of the beautiful and nice things we felt for each other... where on earth are they gone? Only I feel them now.

 

That girl isn't you. She couldn't be. Me and her were meant to be together forever. And I was never more certain of anything in all of my life. We were an unbeatable team. I don't know how many times I've been told that we were everyone's idea of "the perfect couple". Between the two of us we had everything a young couple could ask for.

 

So I've been grieving your loss as if you've died. I simply have not been able to get over the fact that the beautiful person that was such a massive part of my every day is gone. She must be dead, there's no way that person is still walking around Galway. If she was she would have texted me for tea and shopping and fun. And she would have wrapped my arms around her and whispered into my ear that she loved me. You are not her and I am trying to come to terms with that.

 

It pains me to think of the rows we had, the storms we tackled together, and how we got through them no problem. We had much bigger problems in the past. Problems that we resolved and we were so much happier afterwards. Whatever kicked off between us in our last 2 months together was nothing close to some of the **** we fixed in the past and moved on from.

 

This was easily fixable. AND I FIXED IT. I did every single thing you asked for. But you walked away. I will never forgive you for giving up on something that was so special.

 

About a year and a half ago dating you was hard. It was extremely difficult trying to make you happy, trying to keep myself happy and trying to keep our relationship functioning. And yet we worked through it. I put a hell of a lot of hard work into it and saw you mellow out and stop getting into the random moods. I watched you blossom into a happy confident young woman that was a million miles away from the moody near-silent girl that I struggled with for so long.

 

And it kills me to see that some stranger in Dublin is enjoying the benefits of all that. I put so much hard work into you - chilling you out and calming you down and helping you become an outgoing sociable young woman. And here's this guy, some random dude from the opposite side of the country, a guy who will NEVER be there for you when you need him. He can't walk 40 mins across town in the pouring rain just cos you're feeling lonely. He can't just pick you up and bring you over to his house and help you with your college work. He can't ever even just text and say "Hey lets do something later. Dinner? Movie?".

 

Instead the best you can hope for is "Hey lets do something in 2 weeks. Dinner? Movie?"

No matter what way you look at it you're settling for less.

 

Yet this guy gets to enjoy the benefits of all of the hard work I put in.

 

And I'll never forgive you for that.

[Sexy Teddy Bear]

Freckles,

 

I know I made mistakes. I know I dragged down our relationship. But I am a good guy when it comes right down to it. Some girls spend their whole life trying to find a good man, that one special man. They go through countless bad relationships, always attracted to the wrong guys. Well guess what? I am NOT one of those wrong guys. I am that one special man. You found him and now you just want to throw him away like a bag of garbage, all cause of a mistake.

 

We were so lucky to find each other this early in our lives. We could have made this work. But you didn't want to. You forgot why you were so madly in love with me. You were in love for a reason, and that reason is still there. You are just not allowing yourself to see it anymore. Instead, you are only seeing the bad in me. But you know there is so much more good than bad. And you know that my mistakes can be fixed. What you're doing is giving up on something wonderful. And you know it, deep down inside, you know it.

 

You said that your happy without me. And I understand why. But again, you are basing these feelings on only my bad traits. You are not considering all the good ones that I have. All the things about me that you claim to be so amazing. If I have all these amazing attributes, why are you giving up on me? I understand that you don't feel for me anymore, but all those wonderful things you use to say about me are still there. I can still offer you all those incredible things about me that you loved. I am not denying my faults, I have acknowledged them. I am fixing them. And I have apologized so many times for what I've done, but once more can't hurt. So, I'm truly sorry.

 

Don't tell yourself some crap excuse like, "we just aren't right for each other". That's just crap. You know full well that isn't true. You know that we can fit together perfectly if you just let us. Despite how you think that I don't like the things you do - photography, kids, pets, etc, etc. - I do like all those things. I have only ever been supportive of your photography. I love being with kids despite all those sarcastic comments I made. And you know they were sarcastic. And I love pets. I even agreed to adopting all the pets we could handle. But you seem to have forgotten all those things. The only thing you are focused on is my bad points. And that isn't fair for either of us.

 

So I will have a broken heart, and perhaps never get over you. But you will never find a man that loves you and cares about you more than me. I can promise you that. Sure, you will eventually find a good enough man for you. But how many jerks will you have to go through on the way? And when you find that man, do you really believe that you only deserve some one that is simply "good enough"? Cause I am more than good enough for you. And you are more than good enough for me. If you would stop trying to put up that brick wall again, you would notice that.

 

I mean, how many guys would move 800 miles just to have a shot with you? How many guys would lay in a pile of leaves and snow with you for an hour just so you wouldn't be alone? How many guys would stay by your side for 18 hours when you were sick, leaving only to get you something you needed?How many guys would lick a salt lick with you? How many guys would work for months to get you out of your shell so you could trust them? How many guys would put as much effort as I did into you and never once expect anything other than a smile on that beautiful face? How many guys would literally risk their life to be with you? If you don't think we should be together after all the good I have done for you, I don't know what kind of guy you think you should be with, and I don't think I want to know.

 

I hope one day you can realize that and understand that we are right for each other. I hope one day you can stop seeing only the bad in me. I hope that one day you can allow me to have a second chance. And if you do, I will prove that there is only good left in me, and all my bad traits are gone. But if you can't, then I wish you only happiness. I really do. I will always be there for you though. No matter what you do or where you are, I will be there. Even when no one else is there for you and you are alone and you feel like the world hates you, I will be there. I will never hate you no matter what. Whenever you need me, you know where I am. I will always love you Freckles.

[SendHope]

Hi Beatiful,

 

I keep missing you. All I wanted from you is effort. I work hard and diligently to free up time to see you. Yet all you do is stay out all night and go to bed in the morning. I'm not trying to be your parent and tell you what to do. But it's messed up that when I finally get to see you. You can barely stay awake and fall asleep effectively standing me up while being in the same room as you. For months this went on and for months, we would fight for this.

 

You keep saying you love me but actions mean differently. You couldn't be bothered to put in the effort and you broke us up because you didn't want to put the effort in to see me. The **** up thing is I repeatedly asked you if you would prefer early on and before we started to be together.

 

Don't get me wrong it was amazing at first. You were so in love with me but I guess the honeymoon phase zoomed by. I still idealize you a bit but all in all, you weren't mature at all. Sweet girl but you were more 16 instead of 20.

 

I am so better off without you. You have no goals, no education but I felt so compatible with you. I didn't care about any of that because I wanted you for you. I still do *smh*.

 

I gave you my all and you left me in pieces. Hate and Love swirl inside me. You're so ****ing selfish.

[Njeanne]

It has been 9 weeks since the break up and I still miss you as much and still have moments in the evening where I "have" to cry, it keeps me strong during the day. I am at this phase where I am slowly am forgetting the time we spent together for the last couple of weeks, and only remember the positive stuff before it all changed.

 

My heart still contains the guilt and burden of what I did for your feelings to change... It is my fault, loosing you, was my fault. I should never had started that activity that kept me busy for four evenings in the week and therefore we hardly could spend time together. I made you unhappy because all you wanted was me there with you, you wanted nonstop attention from me...

 

I figured men liked their space, but I guess you are not like most men. You want your women to give you attention nonstop, I wish I had known. You were my first real love, I am inexperienced with relationship how could I know?

 

I lost you forever now, I shall never hear your voice or see you smile ever again. I'll never touch your cheek ever again, or feel your warmth against my body.

 

I am sorry...

I killed your feelings for me...

I guess I took your love for granted...

 

I am sorry for my inexperience and stupidity to hurt you...

I loved you more then anything in my life, I was so happy but I never could see that you were becoming unhappy...

 

I am sorry Rikard...you deserve someone better then me..

Promise me to be happy for rest of your life...

Edited February 16, 2013 by Njeanne

[Njeanne]

Here I am today because I had a dream...in that dream I asked you "how can feelings change so quickly?" So it left me wondering while awake aswell... I know I started that activity in October and therefore could spend less time with you, but did it really affect your feelings that quickly? Why didn't you ever tell me your feelings were going and you became more unhappy? Why? :'(

 

Rikard...

[targaryen]

Hello there.

 

Congratulations, You’re dating her. See how she talks about French philosophy, plans her academic career, and chain smokes? Isn’t her fierce independence attractive and adorable? Here some tips on how to hold on to her.

 

Invest in cutlery. She hates eating food with her hands. If you have to touch food with your hands, she will not let you touch her for hours.

 

She loves vintage things and music. Consider spending some time listening to sixties music - especially the whole of the Beatles oeuvre.

 

Her sexual kink is punishment and dominance by an authority figure such as a headmaster.

 

Prepare to spend hours listening about the Disney Company’s decline, Alan Menken, and watching all the Disney Renaissance movies.

 

Her favourite cigarette brand is Pall Mall’s Superkings.

 

Beauty and the Beast is her favourite movie of all time.

 

The Parent Trap was her favourite childhood movie.

 

Making a grand romantic gesture? Buy her Pringles, not flowers. Smokey rib (the purple one) is her favourite flavour.

 

Listen to classical music: Tchaikovsky, Chopin, Schubert. She’ll love you if you do.

 

She doesn’t like ketchup and baked beans. Also, oranges if she’s sick.

 

Her ideal breakfast in bed is blueberry pancakes.

 

She has her steak medium rare.

 

One sugar in her tea, with milk.

 

When clubbing, she drinks Jack Daniels and half-pints of beer.

 

She prefers white wine to red.

 

She is a liberal, an atheist, pro-choice, nouveau feminist.

 

She hates kids and babies.

 

She will break your heart if you’ve met her and fallen her before she’s at least 30.

[targaryen]

You never gave me the chance to get closure. One day you were telling me you love me as you had always done, the next, you call me to say you're outside in your car, waiting to coolly announce your departure...well F*** Y*** and your surprise.

 

I wanted desperately to spend the next 10 years with you. There is so much we haven't done that I had planned. Just today, the travel agent got back to me with our entire trip to disneyland planned out, and I had to be the one to tell them we're not doing it, after talking about it for two years....me...who was left behind, not you, who decided to give up on this.

 

I never doubted us for a second. Somehow I had this foolish notion that all the BS you constantly brought up made us stronger because every time we survived it. I guess I was wrong. I should have left you the minute you told me you're going to London on your own, rather than with me, as originally planned. That should have been a dead giveaway that you wanted out.

 

Anyway, my dear, I saw you today and you've done something new to your hair. Good for you. I hope it gets you what you want...whatever that is (I never really understood what you really want in life...)

[calgary]

i'm sorry I ended the most amazing thing that ever happened to me over something so pathetic.

 

I love and miss you more than I've loved and missed anything in my entire existence. I miss the lifestyle you brought me, I miss the snuggling on a night I miss laughing and joking constantly, I just miss messing around in the bathroom whilst you took your make up off. I miss your smile so damn much it makes me want to cry. I miss when you'd just grab my hand randomly.

 

I loved you more than I realized. i'm struggling to imagine the rest of my life without you. it really hurts me that you're no longer mine. you really was the best part of my life.

doing anything with any other girl just seems wrong.. it'd be so weird going for dinner with somebody else.

 

I don't know what to do or how to get you back, but I just wish I never ended things in the first place over something I could have tolerated in comparison to what you gave me.

 

these last 6 weeks I've been a little bit lost. i'm heartbroken, depressed and devastated. love you and miss you forever. really thought you was the one.

 

:(

[Heartfail]

Today for the first day I feel relieved I am not with you anymore.

 

I am really moving into a new and I think important phase- I don't hate you but I am seriously beginning to dislike you.

 

We've talked a lot in the last few months about what a mess I am, how selfish I have been how, I have apologised directly to you I have apologised over and over in my head to you, i wasn't good enough when we were together I was irrational and emotional when we broke up

 

Well guess what I am done apologising. It took two J. Also I didn't behave 'badly' because I'm immature or self centered. I reacted to our break up with devastation and grief and irrationality.

 

You spent the whole damn relationship having panic attacks and flare ups of eczma because you were so unable to communicate or share or approach anything you found difficult in life in us in yourself.

 

But now she will a have to deal with all that- real smooth that you are taking her to a cottage just like I took you to in fact almost a year to the day- what a lucky girl she is to have my ideas regurgitated onto her.

 

YOu are such a FRAUD J. A fake. I am genuinely delighted we are done. BYE!!!

[mano]

here u go, we broke up again just an hour ago, i writing this while m tears keep falling n falling, i don't even know what did i do? u have disappointed me so much. i gave u a clean slate i forgave you for everything u had put me through n trusted u again, n yet u took it all for granted n did it to me again,

i know i ended it right now, but u left me with no choice, the things u just said to me are unbearable.

u told u have been really depressed n hurting, heck i have been praying for u n been worried. n just because i was hurting too much today n told u i am missing u n want u to feeel nrmal soon u said such mean things to me n cripple up m heart, how could you??

u been keepin me hangin by saying u gonna be back as soon as u feel better but today again u did it. i don't even know what have i done.

i am scared of facing tomorrow i do't know what tomorrow gonna be like. how i am going to cope with it

[sadpanda87]

just get out of my mind and be gone for good. i've had enough thinking of you, you're not worth it.

[hockeyfan99]

ok. so you want to break up with me after all the insecure crap i have put up with for sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo f*ucking long. yeah i lied to you. but you are terrifying to be around with all your insecurities. how would you like it if i called you out on something so simple as looking at another guy in a sexual way when i'm not around and then have me get all pissed off at you?? the difference here is that i wouldn't do that sh*t to you because i know that looking at other people when you're not with me is F*UCKING NORMAL!!!!!! hell its even normal to look when you're there but not to be rude about it. I CAN'T WALK AROUND WITH A F*UCKING BLINDFOLD ON!!!!! and if you say to me one more time that there is a guy out there that will live up to your standards then you have another thing coming. HOLY SH*T!!! thats not going to happen because no guy is going to put up with your crap. every person i have spoken to has said that you need some serious help and aside from me lying to you, I DID NOTHING WRONG. you said to me one day that you are SOOOOOOOO afraid that you are going to regret your decision to walk away from me........well guess what, I HOPE YOU DO. I HOPE IT HAUNTS YOU FOR A VERY LONG TIME because i'm not that bad of a guy. you just have serious trust issues that you need help with otherwise you are NEVER going to be happy with ANY guy you meet!!! you just don't want to address them. all you want to do is keep living your life this way and hurting others along the way. I EVEN OFFERED TO GO TO WITH YOU IF YOU DECIDED TO SEEK HELP!!! nope, not you. you don't need help. you're doing A-ok.........yeah right.

 

 

wow that felt good!!!!!!

 

i'll be back tomorrow for another round!!! lol

[iouaname]

Why is it so important to you that I stay in your life? If it was SO important to you - why would you break up with me and take the risk? You're a confused boy and I just can't deal with it anymore...

[cremedelacreme]

***mine is not a breakup but rather a disapearing act***

 

Why do you let me suffer so much?

[iouaname]

Rough day...

 

sometimes, I just feel like you used me. You claim that I brought you so much happiness - happiness that you never thought you'd have. You said that I helped shape the person you've become more than anyone else. It pisses me off that after all of that, you could just leave me feeling like this, and thinking that "being friends" was sufficient

 

I bet you think you're so cool now, living in your new city with your new job and your new friends. I guess I got left behind. One of the biggest things that keeps me from contacting you is the anger that I feel for you about all of this. What you did really hurts and disgusts me.

[purplereigncb]

I've been having dreams of you rejecting me. They hurt soo much. I always wake up in a panic, as if I had just been stabbed in the heart.

[hockeyfan99]

i was so mad at you yesterday but today i miss you more than anything in the universe. i'm starting to realize that i should have done more to make this relationship work. people would think i'm crazy for saying that but right now i just don't care. all i care about is getting you back into my life but again i know that i'm going to have to hit a grand slam to get you back. i'm so sorry for all the hurt that i have caused you. you were my rock. the person i could go to for help with anything. it just sucks so bad that you're not there. this is by far, without a shadow of a doubt, the worst pain i have ever felt. right now i don't see any hope in sight that i'm going to feel better anytime soon. this breakup has taken its toll on me like none other. i just wished that i could have you back in my arms. i need you so so so bad........i love you

[happykat]

I just don't get why you strung me along like that and why you still won't be honest about what happened. It's so frustrating that I will never know the entire truth, but hopefully soon I will forget how much it hurt to know that you like someone else more than me. And I thought you were perfect.