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[NoMoreJerks]

I feel horrible. I'm crying. I miss you. I am under too much stress . I need to write a 30 page draft for my dissertation proposal by the end of this week, and I have NO idea what to write about, and very little time to do it. And what's worse, I can't focus on doing any work, because I'm too depressed and lethargic. I just want to sleep and not wake up. I miss you. I wish you were here, I wish we were together, and I wish I had something to look forward to in the evenings, to spend time with you. That would've motivated me to get work done during the day. I miss you. I love you. I hope you will come back to me soon. But it's not looking good. It's been a month and all I got from you was a breadcrumb text. I love you.

[iouaname]

I feel horrible. I'm crying. I miss you. I am under too much stress . I need to write a 30 page draft for my dissertation proposal by the end of this week, and I have NO idea what to write about, and very little time to do it. And what's worse, I can't focus on doing any work, because I'm too depressed and lethargic. I just want to sleep and not wake up. I miss you. I wish you were here, I wish we were together, and I wish I had something to look forward to in the evenings, to spend time with you. That would've motivated me to get work done during the day. I miss you. I love you. I hope you will come back to me soon. But it's not looking good. It's been a month and all I got from you was a breadcrumb text. I love you.

 

Stay strong, NoMoreJerks! You're doing so well!

[NoMoreJerks]

I just caved, and texted my ex. 10 days after he texted me ( i hadn't replied ). After a month of NC since the day he broke up with me.

[iouaname]

I just caved, and texted my ex. 10 days after he texted me ( i hadn't replied ). After a month of NC since the day he broke up with me.

 

Aw Don't beat yourself up over it too much, you're not the first this has happened to and you sure as hell will not be the last.

 

Are you feeling okay about it? Was it just a "response" or was it an emotional, pour-out-your-heart kind of text?

[NoMoreJerks]

Aw Don't beat yourself up over it too much, you're not the first this has happened to and you sure as hell will not be the last.

 

Are you feeling okay about it? Was it just a "response" or was it an emotional, pour-out-your-heart kind of text?

No, it was just a reply to his question -- he was asking me how things are -- I said: "things are ok, I guess. Too much work-related stress, but managing. Hope your job in Turkey is going well." Nothing emotional or anything. But I am worried he's gonna think I am playing mind games , cos I didn't reply to his text for 10 days... I feel really horrible about ignoring his text, only to reply to it 10 days later.

[Njeanne]

Can I give you a big hug, NoMoreJerks? "I need one too" since I am responsible for my break up, let's give each other a hug.

[ladyabstrused]

Hugs to all who needs it in this thread.

[Harradin]

I woke up today and wanted to text you, then I realised that I had gone just over 3 months NC and I had a new number.

 

When I look back now, it sounds like a horrible nightmare. I cared for you when you were upset about your parent's divorce, then you leave me for my "friend" who is significantly worse then me and he's also known to manipulate people. Then my cat gets run over, then you constantly text me like we were a couple, then when I try to show you how much you mean to me by getting you back, you lead me on and tell me you "think you made the right decision" and want to be friends.

 

All of this happened while I started a new course at uni, when I was supposed to be going out and making friends, but instead everytime I drank I couldn't stop because I wanted to get rid of the pain, instead I fell into a deep depression and had a nervous breakdown because I couldn't deal with the stress.

 

I just don't understand so many things, you couldn't give me a reason when I asked why, I could tell you still loved me when I tried to get you back, it was obvious. You kept asking mutual friends about me before I tried to get you back. Yet ever since then, except from a couple of Facebook comments, you haven't even tried to contact me. It genuinely hurts that you would settle for less and get rid of the best thing that happened to you (your words not mine.)

 

I wish none of this ever happened, and that we were still together. But its typically my bad luck, I was incapable of falling in love before I met you, I fell in love with you at first sight and know that I want to spend the rest of my life with you, and yet you leave me for a fat sh*t. I wonder sometimes whether you realise what a big mistake you made, and whether you try to make amends, but judging by my luck, probably not. Only time will tell. I do miss you a lot though.

Edited January 25, 2013 by Harradin

[NoMoreJerks]

Can I give you a big hug, NoMoreJerks? "I need one too" since I am responsible for my break up, let's give each other a hug.

Of course. Thanks. *hugs back*

[iouaname]

I had a rough morning. I got up and wasn't feeling well - and then I passed right out on the floor. Came to right after and have been recovering, but for some reason, it's made me want to call you and haveyou come take care of me. I want you to hear that I was hurt and sit with me and care for me like you used to. I want you to take care of me, like you promised you always would

 

I won't give in and contact you, though. Because more than I want to contact you, I want to show myself that I'm strong enough to not need you...

[NoMoreJerks]

I had a rough morning. I got up and wasn't feeling well - and then I passed right out on the floor. Came to right after and have been recovering, but for some reason, it's made me want to call you and haveyou come take care of me. I want you to hear that I was hurt and sit with me and care for me like you used to. I want you to take care of me, like you promised you always would

 

I won't give in and contact you, though. Because more than I want to contact you, I want to show myself that I'm strong enough to not need you...

Awwww. *hugs* Are you ok? You should go see a doctor?? Call up some friends to bring you food, etc.!

[iouaname]

Yeah I'm doing a bit better! I think it was just a kind of equilibrium problem and I got up too quick and just went down. I hit my side pretty hard on the side of a door when I fell so I'm in some pain, but otherwise I'm doing okay. I called up my mother and she came and helped me out this morning.

[bitterruin]

I have a bad feeling I'm going to run into you today. I don't even remember when was the last time I saw you. Probably right before winter break. Coming back to campus has given me so much anxiety. I hope all the memories don't come back when I see you, if I do see you.

[Njeanne]

I have accepted it is my fault you fell out of love with me...

I have to live with this guilt my entire life...

 

Rikard... it has been six weeks now from today, and I still miss you so much.

There will be a day where I will have to stop holding onto hope that you might return back to give us another chance...everywhere I read they say, that once feelings are gone they never ever come back. Even if I'm the one that made you loose it? Or is your love supressed by negative feelings?

 

I love you...

I wish you could love me again too...

You loved me more then I could ever love you, and I took it for granted...

I am sorry....Please forgive me...

[IsthisREAL]

I havent spoken to you in a long time. I was your first. We were in love.

3 years ago today, we had sex for the first time. remember? how could you not, my mom walked in on us hahaha.

I miss you.

 

The day after we broke up you sent me this song

"See You When I See You"

 

Let's don't say goodbye

I hate the way it sounds

So if you don't mind

Let's just say for now

 

See you when I see you

Another place some other time

If I ever get down your way

Or you're ever up around mine

We'll laugh about the old days

And catch up on the new

Yeah see you when I see you

And I hope it's some day soon

 

God made this old world round

And maybe it's that way

So that paths that we go down

Yeah will cross again someday

And someday I'll...

 

See you when I see you

Another place some other time

If I ever get down your way

Or you're ever up around mine

We'll laugh about the old days

And catch up on the new

Yeah see you when I see you

And I hope it's someday soon"

 

I always check my phone expecting to see a text message from you... I wont be texting you, but i still hope you would. As much as I hate to say this, i know it was the right thing. You are still only 21, and I was your first bf. I wouldnt expect you to settle down. I just hope you never forget about me.

 

One day, we will be complete strangers, and when I look back to these past few year, you will just be a fragmented memory of what was the best years of my life. Its bitter sweet tho. While I am in so much pain now, I dont regret any of it, and would redo it all over again just relive the amazing times we had together. You really shocked me the past month, but I will say one thing, you were the best gf i ever had.

[NoMoreJerks]

Yeah I'm doing a bit better! I think it was just a kind of equilibrium problem and I got up too quick and just went down. I hit my side pretty hard on the side of a door when I fell so I'm in some pain, but otherwise I'm doing okay. I called up my mother and she came and helped me out this morning.

Glad you are doing better and that your mom came over to help out. Take care of yourself!

[NoMoreJerks]

you know what ? I am tired. tired of everything . i just give up. i am going to call it a night, go to bed early, try to focus my energies on my work. that is what matters most. i am sorry, for being too tired to pursue this, to pursue you. besides, you rejected me flat out, and now you tell me that u miss the times we spent together, that you miss my city, that you've been thinking about me every day...? i don't get it. sorry. i can't waste more energy on analyzing this.

[na49]

I miss you so much. Everything about you. EVERYTHING! I'm just a memory to you. I'm just a somebody to you. I'm nothing to you anymore. I haven't been anything to you in over 3 months now. You left me for him. He was better than me anyway. Who am I kidding? I'll never have the money, or drive the car that he drives. I'll never have the career he has lined up for him. Instead I'll be stuck. Clueless about the future. Working my tail off and praying I have a job when I graduate in 4 years. You'll date so many great guys and tell them all about me. How much of a bad guy I was. How they treat you so much better than I did. Just realize that NOTHING I ever did was with bad intentions. You may not have liked everything I did. You didn't have to. I wasn't perfect. I wasn't good enough for you. We'll pass each other on campus as complete strangers. I'll have to accept that. You probably think I don't care about you anymore because I've blocked you everywhere. It's actually the opposite. I love you so much that I hate you. I hate you so much that I love you. I'll always be seen as the bad guy in your eyes. You'll laugh with all of your new friends about how much of a loser and a sucker I am. How you're so much better off without me. Here I am sitting wonder if I'll be good enough for anyone. Will anyone be better off with me?

[bitterruin]

I never blamed Max over you leaving me for him but I can't deny that I'm still angry at him and I did something really bad. Something I've always wanted to do but thought I was above it. After talking to you today about you giving back my stuff I was really upset and did something I didn't think I would do. I said I wouldn't play your games, cause I was done with you. But I'm going to show you that I can play too. And I'm warning you, I'm very good at revenge.

[Minadee]

Why did you tell me you love me last night when you were blind drunk? What am I supposed to think now? SMH

[iouaname]

Struggling today. It's been a while since we've spoken, and I can't help but feel hurt every day that you don't reach out to me. I know that I told you that I needed space and that I couldn't speak to you, and that this is you respecting my wishes, but it's still hard

 

I go back to school tomorrow, and I'm struggling with not having you there. Not just because you were like a support system to me, but also because you were my best friend and everything seems to have less meaning when I don't get to share it with you

[Njeanne]

Cheat

Lie

Selfish

Abuse

Hate

Fight

 

These are stories I read thus far about people who broke up, the reason. Most of these people get back together with their ex, and here I am thinking... Aside from spending a lot of time with my hobby and spending less time with you I never hurted you.

 

How come these people get a second chance and not me? I know you fell out of love with me... but we were best friends and cared greatly for one another. Why am I crying, hating these couples for getting back together while I won't get you back ever?

 

I miss you so much, and yes I did a mistake in the relationship by spending less time with you, I always showed you how much in love I was with you and you knew it, why did you had to fall out of love?

 

Part of me still hopes it's buried beneath that trouble and all you need is space/time but I can't wait... I know you are at home not even being sad about having lost me, you're a great guy and would never try to hurt me unless to protect your own heart (which you did during break up) those words will always haunt me...

 

I read a story of someone's bf falling out of love and becoming bored, many months and only saw her as a friend in the end. Ya know what? His feelings came back a month later, but he had no guts of telling her till fourth month! Why did she had so much luck? Why!?

 

It still hurts me you broke up before we were going to meet up first time and spend newyears together, but I understand you couldn't wait till after because you would have had to lie/fake everything and you'd knew I was going to kiss you...

 

I still wish we'd get a second chance...so many people get one, and they broke up for worse things...please Rikard, my little Rathy I hope you'll find your feelings for me one day or give us a chance to work through things...

 

You never told me what caused you to fall out of love with me, so I assume you don't know since you told me "fell free to change my feeling" I know you never wanted to fall out with me, I can feel that. I just hope we would get a chance again in the future...but since we are ldr it's hard.

 

Rikard...

[lakerman34]

Well V, I'm on here posting to tell you I'M 100% OVER YOU! I've been over you. Actually, the reason why I'm on LoveShack is to talk about my new love interest, L, who I will (probably) be official with on Friday when we go on our date!

 

You messed up BIG time, and now L is going to get ALL my love and affection, everything I have to offer. It's better this way, anyway, because she is more deserving of it than you are.

 

Word on the street is my (former) friend that you decided to sleep with and date just 2 weeks after our breakup has broken your heart. I could have told you he was going to do that. He's a pig that's only interested in the pussy. I loved you FOR YOU.

 

L understands me. She and I have the same interests, and she is dedicated to me 100%. I feel more right around her than I ever have with you, I feel more loved by her than I ever have with you, and I feel more myself around her than I ever did around you. I can just be me, be as weird as I want to be, and she just laughs about it, looks me in the eyes, smiles, and kisses me. That sounds A LOT better than your eye rolls, than you calling me '*******' and 'douchebag,' and you going to go hang out with your "friends" (many who were guys that just wanted to screw you anyways) rather than hang out with me. See, L welcomes me with open arms and a smile whenever I see her. I will be leaving the country for 11 weeks, but I trust L a thousand times more than I could ever trust you.

 

Well, for your sake, I hope you find happiness, because I truly believe that this whole jumping relationship to relationship, looking happy is just a cry for help. I'm not as bad of a guy as you made me out to be. I want you to find someone who could love you even more than I did, and understands your antics MUCH better than I did, because frankly, a guy has to have 0 balls to be with you in your current state of promiscuity and inability to just be happily with a single guy.

 

I hope if/when we cross paths again, we can just smile at each other and let bygones be bygones, but realize that we can't be anything more than acquaintances. I am ashamed to say that I wished for your pain right after we broke up, but now that I have found a girl that truly likes me as I am and I can be 100% authentic with without fear of repercussion, I can see that you must have felt some pain, being with 3 different guys for only the 4 months we've been thru w/ each other. It took me a while to even start looking at other girls again, but I was patient, and Miss Right has walked into my life, and frankly, she makes you look like Miss COMPLETELY Wrong.

 

I wish you happiness, and if you ever have to come into my life again, I hope it's in the most minor of roles possible. We lead two WAY different lives, have VERY different values, and have EXTREMELY different views on respect, honesty, and trust. We don't belong anywhere near each other.

[McDonald]

Its only been a few weeks, but you have no clue what you have done to me. You made me change myself so you could have security in our relationship, then you break up with me for everything that you told me "not to do"

 

You told me that you hated partying, So I stopped going out

You told me that you hated drinknig, So I stopped drinking

You told me that you hated the people im around, so I started spending all my time with you

 

Then you tell me that you want to party, that you want to to drink and I was holding you back?

 

You tell me that You felt like we were getting to close, but you said you wanted me to sleep with you everynight?

 

Everything you told me to do, you changed your mind about it later. Do you not remember anything you said a few months ago? I dont understand it. Then you hit me up like we are friends, you play with my heart by making me come to lunch with you, shopping with you, because you knew I would go.

 

Then you say that you hope it will pass, that you hope we will get back together... and it makes me happy again.

then I see you holding hands with a guy a few days later... I cant believe you.

 

Everything I did for you, I loved you so much. You were my best friend before as well, and am I losing that too?

 

You told me not to be afaird to text you, then you tell me you cant take it anymore... you just make no sense... but I cant let you go for some reason. Maybe its because you were my first love. maybe its because you were a lot of "firsts" for me. I just wish it ended different. I actually wish you talked to me about how you felt, because they could all easily have been fixed.

 

Im tired of being sad everyday. Of not being able to concentrate in class because i see your face everywhere in my mind. Im tired of the flashbacks of your relationship, the sudden breakdowns, being emotionally depressed.

 

you really have ruined me. You changed my life, and left me to dry. Yet I still want to be your friend. Im not sure whats wrong with me at all

[Gingerxr2]

If your reading this thanks .

 

Look since we split I spent alot of time trying to understand what went wrong between us ? ! When I went to Sicily It opened my eyes to what had actually happened and where it went wrong ,

 

Helen I don't think either of us ment for it to go as badly wrong as it did ? I'm an idiot for how I treated you , I should never of treated you that way or done the stupid things I did to you , you really didn't deserve that ! I'm not going sit here and say it was one sided but I can see why you got upset with me not making and effort to show you how I felt towards you or making the effort to take you out or make you a priority !! . I ignored your crys for attention because I took you for granted and when the thought of you getting attention from someone else that I believed could give you better it frighted me ,

 

I'm not writing this to say I want you back or to say anything like that , but what I wanted to do was to say Im so sorry. I needed to do this for myself so that I can move on and say goodbye .

 

I truly wish you all the best in all your future and to say I'm glad out paths crossed to have some amazing times together , you will always be my Bear !! And I hope that one day if we see each other again we can atleast say Hi !

 

Goodbye