Post here instead of contacting your ex!

[Onionator]

You left me. I wasn't the best guy around but I sure as **** had the best intentions and put you before anyone and everyone....maybe that was the problem. Regardless you're with him now and I'm sure it's great with him but why do you still tell me you love me every day? Why do you call me at me midnight to say goodnight and then be with him the next night? I'm not an option...I'm too good for that ****. You're not perfect either, but for the past 6 years you were the one. We swore to get through it all and be together for good because we loved each other, all lies and naive expectations.

 

What happens now? What happens when I stop texting you and replying to your texts? Are you going to miss me or move on with him? You know it won't last with him, honeymoon phase is cool and all but it wont last with him. He won't love you like I did, that's for sure. You tell me you need me in your life cause I have always been there but I don't want to be your "friend". Yes we've always been best friends but never like that...good luck and hopefully things work out the best for both of us but right now as you're with him Im sitting here typing this out and missing you...missing us. We had a good run, but losing your childhood sweetheart is never an easy thing. I love you.

[NoMoreJerks]

Hope you don't mind me stealing these words, they're the same ones in my head too.

Not at all. I think a lot of people here feel that way.

[Harradin]

They say if you truly love someone, you have to let them go. I've let you go, its been 3 months NC and you haven't tried to contact me in any shape of form. Letting go is the HARDEST thing I've EVER had to do. I just wish we were still together, Xmas and NYE with you would have been amazing.

 

I just feel physically sick that you would think someone who manipulated you when you were upset about your parents divorce is "better" than me. Don't forget I was there for you during that, I cared and looked after you because I loved you. I hate the fact you threw that, our relationship, our love and an incredible connection neither us could explain in my face for this manipulating backstabbing low life pr*ck.

[Vander77]

They say if you truly love someone, you have to let them go. I've let you go, its been 3 months NC and you haven't tried to contact me in any shape of form. Letting go is the HARDEST thing I've EVER had to do. I just wish we were still together, Xmas and NYE with you would have been amazing.

 

I just feel physically sick that you would think someone who manipulated you when you were upset about your parents divorce is "better" than me. Don't forget I was there for you during that, I cared and looked after you because I loved you. I hate the fact you threw that, our relationship, our love and an incredible connection neither us could explain in my face for this manipulating backstabbing low life pr*ck.

 

I feel you there for sure. My ex's stepfather diex back in september and I was the one that held her together. I was the one that took time off of work to help you and your kids out. I never expected anything more than a thank you in return. Instead I get a big F U afterwards. They say time heals all wounds but that's a crock of shyt. Move on my friends tell me, yet I won't because I care too much when no one else has.

[Harradin]

I feel you there for sure. My ex's stepfather diex back in september and I was the one that held her together. I was the one that took time off of work to help you and your kids out. I never expected anything more than a thank you in return. Instead I get a big F U afterwards. They say time heals all wounds but that's a crock of shyt. Move on my friends tell me, yet I won't because I care too much when no one else has.

 

Exactly what I heard it all kicked off for me, to let go and move on. Its so much easier said then done!

[MyAngel]

This weekend has been so hard on me. Do you even remember? Do you feel it too? This should have been our weekend. You should have been here with me. The whole weekend I have been thinking of what were would have done if we were together like we planned to be. Picking you up from the airport, holding you, seeing you, loving you. Dinners together, just you and me. I had so many plans for you. Wanted to treat you like a princess, show you how much I had waited and wanted to be with you again. This weekend was nothing but a fantasy - a false promise. It never happened. It is crushing. I can't wait for this weekend to be over and I can stop thinking about it. In some ways I feel that it has held me back in healing. I hope that knowing the weekend is over will help me move on.

 

I won't be posting in this thread any more. I've dwelled on this too much. Pined for you too much. Cried for you too much. I miss you and love you but I have to let you go. I have to make a big effort to move on and forget. It's so hard as my mind is full of the things we did together. I can't stop thinking of you. The pain is so raw. I can't continue in this way and I am determined to come out the other side of this dark tunnel and be my happy self again. Life is so beautiful. I will not waste it in tears.

[Stillalive1]

Thank u for telling me after a long time we were together and I was laid off that I could move in your town and your rich friends may help me to get a job there,and after 2 weeks when u were visiting your family i came to pick u up and u dumped me the same day... Very nice from u... I didn't expected to b illuded... I was thinking how lucky I was to b with u,instead your words were just cheap... Problem is that i had huge trust issues from that day,and it was a nice goodbye gift... U apologized later,but trust issues are still there... I paid for your immaturity,and honestly is not fair...Expecially cause I always told u to tell me everything,instead u made me believe everything was good until u thrown on me all the mistakes i did (and i recognize some of them,nothing that couldn't b worked out).

Sorry if the only thing I could do was listening to u and not read your mind,cause believe me if I could read people's mind I would b WSOP champion and I would b driving a Lambo in this moment...

I hate the fact I m more than sure that with more communication things could b great... It never happened to me after or before to not getting a grip...I should probably hate u but i can't.

I ve even heard u have a new relationship now,and the fact i knew it from other people and not from u made me feel like is better to cut the communication,cause if we can't talk about it we can't b friends. It's strange and I don't like to don't talk never again with the person that was close to me during the most painful days of my life. Unfortunately the fact u are and u will always b the only girl that met my dad makes u special,it was not a routine period for me... And I hate the fact that i still feel such a strong connection with u cause u were close to me in that awful year when he was diagnosed with cancer and passed away... I even hate the fact that we are not even talking anymore... Cause unfortunately it made u like a member of the family and the other one is my mother.

Edited January 13, 2013 by Stillalive1

[tigressA]

I've been moping and analyzing for several days now. I've come to the realization that it's not a virtue to stay with someone despite evidence that they don't intend to be faithful to you because you really care and you hope it will work out. I realize now that that is serious denial and doesn't make me look like I'm working with a full deck of cards. But it also shows that yes, I did care. I cared.

 

I've also come to the realization that caring, in this circumstance, is fruitless. So I've stopped caring. I'm not going to waste any more time thinking of you or us or what might've been or all the other bullsh*t that in the end is completely pointless. I'm going to breathe, I'm going to dance, I'm going to walk, I'm going to smile, I'm going to laugh, I'm going to cry, I'm going to learn, improve, move forward, make plans, follow through, have sleepless nights, eat too many cookies...just live my life. I'll be doing all of that and more while never having you in mind, just like I did before I knew of your existence.

 

[Thaurin]

Hey, ****. I'm just writing to let you know that I wish you the best. I don't want to hang on to bad feelings towards you. I think we can both agree that the distance was a major hurdle for the both of us, one that in the end we maybe could not overcome. Maybe we were too different after all and it just caused too many problems between us. It didn't prevent us from having many special and fun times, though. But now we can't hurt each other anymore. My hope for you is that you'll find what you've always wanted in the person you're with now. Good luck with the house, your career and everything else. Be good to your pets.

 

Please don't reply to this message. I'm not ready for it. Maybe some day when I'm sure there aren't any lingering feelings left that would hurt me. I would like that.

Edited January 14, 2013 by Thaurin

[Sari]

I just wrote you a long, angry message and my iPad erased it. I know you always hated my sPad. Well, now we both hate you.

 

Suffice to say, rot in the hell of your own making. I hope your life sucks big time, but of course it will, you unfailingly make terrible decisions wherever you go. I was just the last in a long line.

 

Oh, by the way, I have a date this Friday! It brings me so much pleasure to think of you feeling sad for me and tearing yourself up in fake anguish and melodrama about breaking my heart (even though it's for my own good according to you - such magnitude! Such altruism! Such a d*ck!), when actually I'll be out having fun with another man! So suck on that, you pretentious, insecure, childish, aggressive, self-aggrandising, melodramatic, petulant, self-indulgent, ugly-hearted c***.

[Kubda26]

I think this is a great idea for a thread.

 

Mine:

 

It has just been over 12 hours since I emailed you to just be friends. We both saw it coming, but your reply agreeing to it and saying you wouldn't wait around hurts. The distance did us no favours, we were never officially together and I was never sure of how I felt, but right now I just feel miserable, and hurt and wishing you would fight for me (selfish, I know).

 

It hurts because your words confused me and I now realise I didn't really mean much to you? It probably hurts my ego more than anything, and I need to remind myself that it was too difficult to work out and why I said to be friends. But for me, it is always the case of not knowing what you have until it's gone, and wanting what I can't now have.

 

I hope we can remain friends, we were never in too deep to cut off all contact. Though I think when you move on (and no doubt you will very soon) with someone else, it may kill me inside to see it.

[Thaurin]

Hey, ****. I just wanted you to know that I'm not hanging on to bad feelings towards you. I don't hate you. Be free of the past, have a good life and be happy. Goodbye.

Edited January 15, 2013 by Thaurin

[Minadee]

Dear J

 

I am angry today, really really angry. After everything you put me through on friday, when she dumped your ass and you threatened suicide, who picked up the pieces? MUGGINGS OVER HERE DID. You didn't give a flying monkeys. The mother of your kid trying to support you over the loss of the girl you f*cking left her for!!

 

I'm sorry you think she's better than me. Goodluck trying to find anyone else who would do that.

 

How dare you hurt me like this. You were supposed to see me today and you text me saying you were going to try and sort things out with her, then get mad at ME for saying you need to sort your priorities out!!!! Unreal!! Well and truley unreal!

 

I'm at a loss for words at the moment. I don't think anyone has ever hurt me like this.

[sweetkiwi]

Tesoro,

I hope you're having fun in France. I am glad you got to get out of town and that you've stepped up to new challenges at work. And that you're growing a beautiful beard.

 

No. Im not happy about the beard actually. It makes you look even sexier and I can't handle that right now. I am still in love with you. You fill my thoughts most days. Us laughing. Cooking together. Going to visit a beautiful unique garden. Swimming at the beach and you always getting sunburned. You have been my best friend since I arrived here. And I miss you too much.

 

Everyone in my family wants us together. Even we do. But also we know how we tried. And we both need other things in a mate.

 

And more, you need to find yourself. I showed you who I was and gave you the best of me. And I am so happy I did. Being with you showed me so much about life and love!!!

 

I know we will see eachother again. Possibly soon. We both can't stay away for long. For different reasons I am sure. But certainty escapes me. Your mouth never formed the words for me to know how you felt. A skill I hope you acquire with the next woman who loves you.

[Thaurin]

So, how have you been?

[Onionator]

Hey ******, so you've been texting me telling me you love me and you miss me and that I should talk to you. **** you. I'm not gonna be here for you to flirt when you're not ****ing your boyfriend. It's taken me forever but I'm over your ass, I thought you were the one but haha that feeling sure can change. Don't expect to talk to me until you're single again cause I'm not just your "friend", I love you but not like that. So good luck with your new boyfriend, probably won't last and you'll come crawling back to me but it's whatever.

 

PS: Texting me cute memories won't work.

PPS: I still love you.

[heartshapedrocks]

thanks for the text today telling me you deposited the money you owe me in my bank account....

 

I never know what to think when you text me.

Is it a hook to get me to engage or an easy way out?

 

I'm sorry I can't respond for I've built a fortress of thick bedrock to protect myself.

 

Your attempt does shake me to the core.

Is it a moment of weakness or make you feel less guilty?

Knowing you well, my guess it's a little of both.

So yeah, you got me. I still miss you.

I think you miss me too at times.

Maybe when your new lover is pre-occupied.

Or you see the snow on the mountains.

When you are by yourself, alone with just your thoughts...

 

It's a painful lesson letting someone you love go.

It has made me braver & stronger.

It's taught me how to pray.

It's made me humble.

I have you to thank for that.

[ladyabstrused]

thanks for the text today telling me you deposited the money you owe me in my bank account....

 

My ex never returned me my money.. it wasn't a small amount either.

[NoMoreJerks]

I miss you. I'm sorry I didn't reply to your text. You wanted to talk. That's why you asked "How are things?" You wanted to initiate conversation, for whatever reason. Probably not to get back together, but to boost your ego and not feel lonely, but even though I know you did it because you are selfish, I still feel sorry / bad for you, and wish I could reply. I'm sorry, but I can't. I need to try and move on. I have to tell myself that I did my best , to help you, to make you feel better, to fix you, but it's no longer my job to fix you and make you feel good about yourself. I hope you will find someone who will make you happy. Just thinking about that hurts me so much, because I know I should've been that person, because I doubt you will find anyone else who is willing to give you so much. But I guess unconditional givers are not always appreciated.

[heartshapedrocks]

My ex never returned me my money.. it wasn't a small amount either.

 

sorry that happened.

[Harradin]

Hey you, I hurt a lot today for some reason, its been three months NC, you haven't even tried to contact me, we only went out for two and a half months and yet I'm still hurting.

 

I really miss you, you used to brighten up my days. I miss when we used to act so immaturely together, and then we'd end up both laughing our heads off. I miss when we used to playfight, and I'd always win but yet you'd still try to beat me! I miss your smile, you hated it but I loved it. I miss how we couldn't be boring, we'd always find some way to make what we were doing entertaining. I miss how we would never argue, we got on like a house on fire. I miss sending you a morning text/receiving a morning text, it was one of the things I had in routine and it used to brighten my day from the start. I still feel the incredible connection that we had, from my stomach, its strange.

 

A, I really, really miss you. Why did you throw all of these things away? I'll never understand. I shouldn't love you or miss you but I can't help it.

[Njeanne]

I miss you so much today honey boney, it's been one month and a week, I'm getting stronger but ya know... I wonder if you think about me, miss me... I still hope one day your feelings will return... or that you will want to give us another chance. We had such a strong friendship bond...you fell in love with me once, I know you can do it again.

 

Either you grew bored in the relationship and fell out of love with me, or I neglected you too much with my new hobby... Everything was perfect till I started to do some other stuff...

 

So many people get back together, why...? Because they see each other, they got physical touch, but we? We were Long Distance, which makes it so much harder. Please Rikard, give us another chance.

[oohlala]

Stopping what we were doing shook me up more than my last breakup with an actual boyfriend did. I miss your face. I miss the way your face sparkled when you'd see me. I miss the late nights when you went outside of your comfort zone to make sure I knew how you felt. I miss our inside jokes and our language. We came so far in such a short time...I wish I understood what you want.

 

I desperately want to call you. I'll be in Hawaii Saturday and I'm going to probably spend an hour of every night alone on the beach in the dark, when no one else is around, looking up at the moon and thinking of you. And wishing I could hear your voice.

[NoMoreJerks]

i've been missing you a lot today. :( i've been crying a lot. i don't know what to do. but texting you back is not an option. i love you.

[ladyabstrused]

sorry that happened.

 

Me too. :\

 

i've been missing you a lot today. :( i've been crying a lot. i don't know what to do. but texting you back is not an option. i love you.

 

*hugs*

Try to distract yourself. Sometimes, your tears aren't worth it for the person who can't make you smile. Come on now. Cheer up, okay?

 

Hope everyone else in this thread gets some moments of peace and feel better soon.