Post here instead of contacting your ex!

[Mary Shadows]

I want to text/call my ex so badly. He contacted me out of nowhere after 2 1/2 years. Now I want to talk to him all of the time.

[littlesunshine]

Ugh, NC is really hard! I am so tempted to check his twitter again but nope! I must stay strong! This loser does not deserve me and I shall never ever contact him ever again!!!! My reasons for breaking up was valid and in his reply email he didn't even apologize or anything which obviously means that he doesn't think he did anything wrong, despite the fact that he lied to me big time. He failed. And I dumped him for good! I have to remember I deserve much better, much much better

[baRx]

man i'm so glad i don't post in these things anymore.

 

for now i'm just reading everyone else's posts and i cannot fathom the contradictions. people start off by saying "dear d!ck-wad", then end the rant saying "i miss you :(".

 

wat? if this is what these people are doing to you, (or - what you're doing to yourselves) it's time to take a look in the mirror, folks.

 

heal well.

[miss_u_crazy]

All I ever wanted from you was to show me true love. I don't know if you remember, but I mentioned to you in the beginning that I suspected you did nice things for me because you thought you should, not because you wanted to. It wasn't until I seen how hurt you were when we broke up that I saw the love.

 

I know it was my choice to leave. I felt like you forced me to leave. I told you the things that bothered me whenever they came up. You always just said deal with it this was the way you were. It was that final issue that really pushed me away though.

 

I know you were sorry you lost your mind. I was so angry I needed time to calm down and think about our relationship, and I told you that. I wanted to remember the funny sarcastic girl I grew to love. All the phone calls, texts and unexpected visits made things worse. One minute you were telling me how much you love and miss me, then next you are telling me how terrible I am and how I was never in your plans. It just seemed you were getting crazier and crazier.

 

The entire time all I wanted was for you to return to that smart, funny and strong girl I fell for. I couldn't tell you that though because I wasn't sure how to handle what had happened. I wasn't sure if it was something I could get over. How could I tell you how much I cared for you while I wasn't sure of our future? It would only keep you waiting, and I couldn't do that to you.

 

I still watch you from afar. I see you look happier in your pictures now, and that smile is back=) Your humor is back, I can tell by the comments in your pictures. I miss everything. I miss the nights at the gym. I miss doing homework together. I want to be there when you get your first job after school. I can't bring myself to get rid of that movie you wanted to watch with me, The Way We Were. I wish none of this happened.

 

I want to tell you all this, but I cant. I feel like all those times you told me to "deal with it" when I brought up issues with the relationship, they may all just come back. I worry I would find myself in this situation again in a month, wishing I stayed away. It wasn't until it was over that you finally said you would change. What am I supposed to do now?

[Thaurin]

You're crazy for marrying someone you barely even know so soon after you dumped me. I resent you for talking with this guy who "listened to your sorrows" behind my back--I consider it cheating. But I also wish you well in your life. I can't see this sham marriage working and think you probably decided to do it simply to hurt me and make me jealous. Regardless, if you go through with it... I hope you will be happy. We never could have worked. There were too many issues that you did not want me to bring up. You thought I put you down, but I seriously think you have quite a few Borderline Personality Disorder Traits. That's why I could not commit. After the honeymoon period... don't yell at him over stupid things every three days, or you'll be hurt and lonely again very quickly. But I fear that is your destiny.

 

I still miss you and love you. How crazy it that? Denial and bargaining. That's what occupies my mind daily now. How could you do all those evil things to me? Who intentionally says things to hurt the people they love? And most of all, why would I want to go back to such a person... even move countries for them?

 

I so want to hear from you, but what's the point... really, what's the point.

 

Have a good life. Maybe in 6 months, if I still want, I can contact you. But, again. What's the point.

 

Thank you for the nice experiences that we shared. Now **** off.

[radishes]

I had the first dream about you in a long while. Some days, you don't come across my mind at all, and other days like today you show up when I'm unguarded. Sleepy, dazed, and confused. I dreamed about how you had another girl but wouldn't really tell me. That's okay. I think it's my brain's way of trying to cope with the idea, trying to accept that idea and move on, whether or not that's true. It's not so much that my feelings are left, or that I love you anymore. Those feelings aren't quite there anymore, it's become more that 'not knowing', separate life kind of thing, that completely over, missing space kind of thing. I understand because you were with me for so long, trying to get used to it would be hard, but I'm not doing badly at all. I'm just trying to get used to everything. And I'm sure I will soon.

[sharsh]

I've been doing great.

 

But at the moment... I can't keep you off my mind. I know once I get to work, you'll disappear from my thoughts, only an hour and a half to go.

 

I woke up from a dream about you.. the only things that really stick out are.. I was taking a bath, and yelled for you to come in from the other room. You helped me wash my hair, and I remember looking up into your eyes. They were exactly as I remembered them, that's how I knew it was you... those green eyes, just like mine. They had that warm look to them, like everytime you had told me you loved me.

 

It's still hard to believe you were such a liar, and the "you" I thought I knew wasn't "you" at all. Because of all the lies, and the constant talking to other girls behind my back (and ending up in a relationship right off the bat with two of them after the breakup) I don't really believe it's YOU I miss.

 

More like... I miss having those intimate moments with someone, looking into someones eyes and knowing they love me without saying a single word, I miss having a special someone to always turn to.. I just miss those little things, not really with YOU, but just in general.. I want to have those things again with someone.. I miss what I thought we had, but I want it with someone else.. Do you get what I'm saying?

 

If I had to say I missed you in particular, it'd just be physical things.. like your body, or the stark contrast between your brown, almost black hair and your bright green eyes. You were so attractive, but your personality ended up not matching the outside. That's about all I miss at this point, your looks...lol?

 

Oh Patrick, when will you just disappear completely?

[Gottabestrong]

Hi babe,

how are you? Is the training going ok? How is the new house? Do the boys like the yard?

 

I miss you. I had hoped you would send me a text for New Year's, but you must have had your reasons not to. How can you say you love me and miss me, but not want to be with me or not even send me a Happy New Year message? That does not make any sense to me.

 

I don't know what to do. I feel like I am losing you by going NC, but I also feel that I will only heal if I cut all contact. On the other hand it feels like I am letting go because you seem to want to stay in touch with me and I guess there are still feelings there.

 

On the other hand they are clearly not strong enough for you to want to be with me anymore. I guess it is really how they say, you are just sad about losing someone who has been a big part of your daily life for a few months and you also don't want to be the bad guy, so you stay in touch in order to alleviate your guilt.

 

It's been 6 weeks since you ended us. Can you believe it? it feels more like 3 months, but also like it just happened. It's been 12 days of NC. Longer than we have ever gone before without talking. Well, while we were together we never went more than a few hours without talking. I miss that so much. I miss checking my phone every few hours and knowing that I will probably have a new message from you.

 

I just miss you. I miss us. I miss the plans we had for the future. I still love you. Probably always will.

 

Goodnight my Love!

[Treasa]

you are such a loser. still living with your mom at your age. working a part-time job. you're too emotional and feminine for me. you have no ambition. no goals. and no kind words ever ever ever came from your mouth. and sitting in bed all day talking is romantic? no! i hated every minute of those days because i was wasting time. lazing about all day is only okay if you have no ambition and no reason to get out of bed. geesh. what was i thinking. you are such a gigantic loser. i never respected you. i lied. i never liked your mom. i lied. i told you tons of lies. and i did go out with jack on dates, several times, so i lied about that too. he can actually say he loves someone -you never could. my dog was right all along - she never liked you. take your time thinking us over because i won't be there when you come crawling back because you will, i know it. your dating pool is pretty shallow and when you realize how good you had it, you'll be reaching out to me and i won't be there. urgh, you are such a waste of time

 

Up until the "jack" part I was wondering if I had blanked out, created a new username, and posted this. Sounds just like my ex from a few years ago.

 

You are SO well-rid of him! And yes, always listen to your dog. Animals pick up on a lot of things humans have long since forgotten about.

[radishes]

ha its funny how I've been feeling this certain way these past couple of days, then all of a sudden this morning I dream about you dating a girl, and BAM today I see a picture of you with her on facebook, that just happened to be on my newsfeed that I wasn't asking to see. I can't really describe my feeling...Its a really strange mixture...of not caring too much, but still losing something. Frustration, with some bitter feelings. Its just not the most pleasant of things... but it was coming so its not like I wasn't expecting it. After all I pride myself on my sense of intuition... ah well life goes on.

[118unknown]

Wow, seems like a lot of people have bad break ups...

[NoMoreJerks]

I love you. I wish I could call y ou to tell you about what I just found out, about my dad possibly having cancer. :-( I miss you. Did things have to end between us? I want you to come back. :-(

[littlesunshine]

I still think about you a lot, and I want myself to stop. I want to contact you, I want to talk to you like we used to, the way I know I have somebody that will listen to me and not judge me and love me no matter what. But I know this is over. I just have to find someone else. You're too busy anyway, I always feel like I'm bothering you.

[MyAngel]

You're too busy anyway, I always feel like I'm bothering you.

 

That was how I felt. It's hard when all you want is to spend time with them and they are too busy. You feel like a real nuisance.

[heartshapedrocks]

I miss you today. It hurts.

I hate waking up in what used to be our house.

And dreaming about you.

Its not your problem.

You are gone.

[radishes]

It's okay that you started dating someone new 3 months after our relationship ended. Sure I am frustrated, but I've accepted it. Because you know, I'm really strong. I've always said so, and I've always done so. Because of my strength, my pride, and my self-dignity, I'm not going to allow myself to be wrapped up in something that won't ever be any of my business. I mean in all honesty what you do now since 3 months ago, have nothing to do with me anymore. I'll be honest and say that I am a little annoyed at how happy you two seem together in your picture, but I'm moving on just like you are. Let's put it that way.

 

I've been moving on for my emotional well-being. Goodbye, I don't think I'll ever be in your life again... other than being friends sometime down the road.

[sharsh]

Today.. I miss you. Maybe it's because I'm bored. I even entertained the thought of texting you, for about 5 seconds.

 

Well.. let me rephrase. I miss who I thought you were. Which is an imaginary person. So I miss whoever that was. I don't miss the actual person you are. Which is part of the reason I only entertained the thought of talking to you for such a short bit of time.

 

Not to mention I had a dream about you this morning. I don't even remember what it was about, that's how insignificant it was.

 

I just wish I could erase you completely from my mind. You don't deserve a residency there anymore. After all, if you were who you portrayed yourself to be... I wouldn't be in this mess. We'd still be together. But it was only 3 years wasted.. not 6... or 10.. or worse.

 

Missing you is just such an odd thing for me, because I know I don't miss YOU. I know who you really are now, and I don't miss that. It's just so odd.. I can't explain.

[radishes]

I can't believe I'm posting in here again tonight >< I'm so stupid. I just had to look through those photos. those stupid meaningless photos trying to see if what they were like together when they went to the party together. I feel like I'm kind of torturing myself, dangling my feelings on a string. I'm silly.

 

The painful feelings I didn't have before, I have them now. How lovely. Maybe its a lesson learned to really not look at photos you know that will be there...

[edgygirl]

When I finally get you off my mind this week. When, for the first time, I stop seeing you as a possibility. When I had an awesome NYE kiss & evening with a handsome stranger. When the thought of you started to fade for the first time since we met 3 months ago... you respond to my email.

 

Why today? Why bother? Why after a week of N/C? Why didn't you just leave it all behind?

 

Now you are suddenly "nice" again. Now that you realize that there's room for me to accept your breadcrumbs for now... This way you can be happy with our quasi-relationship, where you don't have to make any effort. F you. I'll date others meanwhile, and when you realize what you're missing, it might be too late. We might be too late. F your residency. F you not realizing that you should make the effort cause it would be worth it.

[RespectfullyAlone]

You were going to meet me at the airport, running, rushing and jumping into my arms -- smothering each other with kisses. Yet 3 days since we were in each others arms making love, and 2 days since your last affectionate txt, you threw me to the curb.

 

You foolishly suggested I was in love with the idea of being in love. No, I was in love with you. And I feel a fool for actually feeling love for you, and seeing in your eyes what I perceived to be love in return. In fact I'm pretty sure you did love me, so how could you erase me from your life so clinically, and then proceed to mock me by telling me I should look at this as a growth opportunity. Or by slicing my already destroyed heart be telling me there is someone else out there in the world for me.

 

Maybe in the long run you speak the truth, for I do not recognize the person you are now. Yet I am still in love with you, and would have been the first to forgive you. It's possible this is the real you, and I for one do not like this person. I never would have fallen in love with you like this. I hate how you have thrown away us, our future, our life together. I know for certain you were beyond blissed out and happy when we were together, which is why it's so confusing you threw it all away so quickly.

 

You made me feel, so wanted, cherished, adored and loved, and I hate now realizing it was all a sham. For you expressed constantly how amazing a person I was, how much you loved and adored me. Feeling, sensing and seeing the reality that we were great together, I could not help but melt each time I thought of you during out relationship.

 

You are not real, the struggling girl whose own mother commented on that you finally started to look like a happy woman on top of things is a mirage. You cheated me, and have robbed me of precious time. My heart aches for you, my mind is crazy for you. But I don't even know who you are.

Edited January 6, 2013 by RespectfullyAlone

[ladyabstrused]

I've moved on and I no longer think about you, despite the abuse and trauma I went through with you. It's been such a progress and I think I'm finally, finally ready to say - that I forgive you.

 

I forgive you, ex. But it doesn't mean that I will ever forget. I wish you well and all the best, wherever you are. May you not hurt or feel negatively and may you find your own successes in life ahead.

 

I hope that someday, perhaps you would forgive me too, for not being the person you wanted me to be. Because I can't and I won't change to be someone I'm not.

 

Be well and so long. Take care.

[littlesunshine]

You feel like a real nuisance.

 

I know right! It's absolutely horrible and since I was in an LDR it's even worse because you can't see them!

 

 

 

 

At the end of my relationship it was hell, there are no actions to show love and when he was too busy to write to me in weeks it really made me frustrated and disappointed. It made me doubt everything, after weeks of not hearing from him. I started doubting that if he really meant it when he said he loved me, or to him it's all just a conquest.

 

I think I should be glad that this is over, since the way he treated me made me feel horrible. And I do have self-esteem and don't think I deserve that. Despite that I told him I didn't think I deserve what he was giving me a month before the break up, he showed no changes, in fact not even a real apology. Then I broke up with him for good. I kept my head up high and showed him that I respected myself through the whole break up. I don't think I should ask for anything more.

 

But I'm still sad that this is over, because for the times he was not "busy" he was actually the best boyfriend anyone can ever ask for. He sent me gifts, just random things he saw that he thought I would like. Just downright amazing, those two months. But now it's gone, and I hope for the best that in the future I would have met somebody else that would make me happy for a longer time.

[rys]

most LSers are talking about their ex,

 

 

so i thought about you

[Njeanne]

We were friends for atleast a year in total, your feelings changed deeper for me but I had to reject them when you confessed. You became slightly upset/obsessed about me as I was in a different relationship resulting in a drama and you left for two weeks... You came back because our friendship was bigger, I figure you needed time to get over me. Our friendship came stronger and stronger and I was getting feelings for you which I didn't realise I had till I became jealous of a woman who got close to you.

 

I eventually confessed when you did second time, and I thought our relationship would never ever end... After the break up you said "we are too different" "you realised you were happier without me" "you were certain I wasn't the person you wanted to spend life with" Your feelings gradually disappeared at the 4th month mark, and broke up with me 6th. Why lead me on...?

 

If I was ever important to you, why did you not tell me how you were feeling? Too me the way you let me on for two months to break up means I meant nothing to you. You didn't fight for me. Love isn't a feeling, it's commitment, it's work. You can't expect feelings to disappear (which is normal because spark goes) and then to just give up on it.

 

You should have told me and we could have worked on it. There is no "I" in a relationship, the harder you work on getting feelings back the less it's going to happen because there was no commitment...

 

How could we go wrong? You were so in love with me half year before we got together... Will your feelings ever return for me? We have been broken up for three weeks now and I miss my best friend so much.

 

Did I neglect you? Did you get bored? You don't know why you fell out of love... I know i spend more time with my new hobby and we could spend less time together but you should have told me...if neglect was the case...

 

I still love you so much, you were so perfect for me. Never angry, never moody, always positive...I miss your voice, I miss your smile, your laugh will I ever hear it again?

 

I still feel we belong together, but I can't force you to love me... I would do anything for a second chance...if ever...

 

Please...

I want you back so much...

Crying while typing this... I just can't picture you in future being with someone else, touching your cheek and kissing your lips... You told me there was no one else, promise me to take care of yourselves... And be happy...

 

(selfish, I hope you regret and find your feelings back for me)

[Joyvke]

I miss you so much, I really wish that things would have worked out differently. I don't understand why I gave you 2 chances. First time when I was afraid I didn't feel the same as you did, you literally begged me to try it. Then after a while you told me I was your first in everything - I was so upset you have no idea. The feeling I had with my last ex came to mind "He's going to leave me just like my last ex did". I told you about that feeling I had before we dated and yet you lied about it. Then when you told me you never dated anyone I gave you the benefit of the doubt. I don't regret the time we had, it really was amazing, I just don't understand why you throw this away. Everyone has fights in their relation, the ones we had weren't fights we couldn't overcome....

 

Bah.