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[Treasa]

Dear ex-knobhead:

 

Your friends REALLY like me. Thanks! Because of you, I got some awesome new buddies.

[jezzy]

Dear M,

 

I miss you so much and I wanna wish you a merry christmas and a happy new year! I still think about you everyday and I miss US. I cried last night and think how happy I was when I'm with you... though things led us to different way I wish you goodluck to your work and if love finds you faster than I thought Ill be glad to see you happy without me.

 

Maybe, it's hard for you too maybe not. I dunno. But I know how you loved me before and I wanna thank you for coming into my life. You're the greatest thing that happened in my life. I love you so much and I miss you.

 

If things would turned out alright. I'll be unblocking all of you. I am happy now but if you're here I guess, I am much happier.. See you soon!

 

I love you, I always will.

 

-J

[MyAngel]

It will be two weeks tomorrow since you told me it was over. It's been a strange two weeks, dealing with and coming to terms with everything. I haven't contacted you at all. I want to...

 

I miss what we had and I miss the person that I thought you were. I miss how things used to be when I thought you were in love with me. I know you're the kind of person that would move on so much quicker than me, but I'm still here thinking of you when you would be long gone. Oh well. You decided to end it, what more can I do. I didn't beg you to stay. But I didn't want us to end at all.

 

[radishes]

I don't really know what exactly about you I'm missing. Whenever I think about it, I forget you don't really ever listen to me, talk to me, or communicate with me. Why do I care you're having fun with your friends? I do just the same, just as well. I'm just tired of pondering over you, of having you take up my mindspace, I don't know how many times I've said that now. I guess sometimes it just has to go down before coming back up again. Oh hey its been almost 3 months since we broke up. I would've almost fully let it go had I not backtracked into that mistake. I'm sure this winter break will do me good ^^ And I'm having very fulfilling days so I'm satisfied. I loved you, but I have to let you go and move on. I'm glad other couples that break up can remain friends. Sorry, I'm just not one of them.

[Mr.White]

I love you. The girls at the hookah bar were actually pretty hot, I am sure you are talking to guys so when I told you I was thinking of you when I was talking to them....Well thats totally a lie. I honestly wanted to flirt and get their numbers. Oh yeah I forgot to tell you that that they had one of my old friends in the group so that is not the last time I am going to see them. Oh and they were Asian like my first ex.

I lied when I said i did not have a good time too.

Don't think you're the only one that can have fun.

[cavalier99]

F-you G for sending me a nice email yesterday for the 1st time in almost 3 months. Just when i was doing better having fun you come along and try to ruin the party. Your friend zone sht isn't appreciated. Telling me than you miss me and the dog. Well f off. Telling me that you didn't want to bother me ecetra. Bullsh-t. Of course you did. You want me as a backup plan like you always do with your ex's. They are either your friends or you date them again even years later. Well I'm different and not in that crowd. You will not get a ego boost from me EVER.

 

HOW WOULD YOUR BOYFRIEND FEEL IF HE SAW THAT EMAIL. I guess the honeymoon phase is wearing off he is gone or you are having problem and would like to keep me in reserve. Who knows but I'm mad as hell that 1 stupid email has messed me up some and brought out some raw emotions. I will walk this off. I still remember how you treated me like **** the weeks before the bu. All the lying ecetera. You are incapable of making a clean break with some one. I was stupid enough to let you string me along while you set up your new bf. Thank you for teaching me a valuable lesson. I now know better and know it is all about you and your ego. I will be that ex that you always wonder about. Your getting exacly what you asked for i hope you like it. You didnt think id be so strong did you. They all have come back. Pussies. Excet for the only one you loved and were going to marry. He didnt and you have only loved me and him in your life. Well im gone forever also. i bet you will still be alone because you dont know how to live alone with validation from a bfriend.

 

i wont look back! B-ch

Edited December 23, 2012 by cavalier99

[datdude]

You told me you were never going to walk away, again. I'm incredibly heartbroken and am lost. It was only 24 hours prior to breaking up with me that you said you were the luckiest girl in the world and how I'm simply amazing.

 

You're the best thing that has ever happened to me and you walked into my life completely unexpected, but unfortunately how you walked out will always overshadow that one day, four years ago.

 

As each day passes, my perception of this woman I envisioned spending the rest of my life with... Becomes something I never would have expected in my lifetime. I trusted you. I loved you unlike any before. Yet, you left without any real explanation.

 

I silently broke NC and checked your Facebook. I don't think you've checked into more places in your life, as much as you have over this past month. Tagged in some pictures with the girls, dang... You've gained a lot of weight. You're all smiles... Are you really happy? How could you just cut me out of your life on a whim? Although I still love you and always will, I'm beginning to resent you and I really feel as if I couldn't allow myself to get back even if you came begging back. This whole breakup is beginning to look so stupid. I hope you don't make yourself look like a fool. Damn, this hurts.

[Minadee]

Dear J

 

I am so lost and lonley and miserable. You sneaked into my head at work. That has never happened before and I sobbed into the arms of my supervisor as he stroked my hair. It was horrible, really really horrible. I hate how sad I am constantly while I bet you are just fine.

 

Wish you'd come home. Please forget her J, please don't make me beg any more. I feel like I have no dignity left at all.

xxx

[Harradin]

I've been doing a lot of thinking very recently, I was confused from the moment you walked into my life. They seem to make sense, but lead to more confusion.

 

But there is one thing I know now, is that I'm going to always love you, and you lost possibly the best person you would have ever had in your life, someone who would have been there for you no matter what, someone who would have unconditionally loved you, someone who didn't care about your flaws, someone who would have never given up on you.

 

But you thought there was someone better, I'll never understand, I am far better then him in every single way, you usually leave because there is someone better, not because there is someone worse you could go for.

 

Maybe it was the wrong time, but you treated me like s**t, I'll never forgive you for what you did to me. I just wish you knew what you had.

[Marie0708]

So you've started a new relationship, huh? I suppose logically I shouldn't be all that surprised since what we had doesn't really qualify as a typical relationship.

 

But you still led me on, you b******, and that hurts just as much as if we were really dating.

 

Our friendship - if you can call it that - lasted for nearly a year, during which time you gave me hope that it would turn into more. Now I see that it was just wishful thinking that you could ever step up and be the man you act like you are. The facade has fallen and now I see you for who you truly are: a spineless, inconsiderate, deceitful scumbag who has no understanding or respect for the feelings of others.

 

I may never forget this hurt you've caused, but I've cut you out of my life and hope to NEVER hear from you again. I have had enough liars to deal with in my life; I don't want or need another one.

[Marie0708]

Dear past crushes/and lovers,

 

I’m not writing this to hurt you, call you out or even to make you realize I’m the one that got away. Perhaps as the great and immensely wise Beyoncé one sang, “You’re the best thing I never had… I bet it sucks to be you right now.”

 

I guess I’m writing to say that what you did by leading me on all those years… yeah, that wasn’t the coolest. But really I’m angrier at myself than I am at you. Back then, I didn’t fully realize I was worth more than a random text here and there, a casual email or a non-nonchalant ”sup”, but I do now (refer to Beyoncé).

 

I deserve better than this. I deserve better than casual. I don’t feel bad for saying that I’m awesome—because I am— and therefore I deserve more. I’m done waiting around in towers that I built. In fact, should you ever want to find a great girl, I’ll be out slaying my own dragons.

 

So in the end, I guess what I should be saying is thank you. Thank you for being so unassertive, nonchalant and dismissive that I was finally able to realize I deserve more. Thank you for leading me on, yanking my chain and leaving me in the friend zone, because now I’m so tired of it I refuse to stay here any longer.

 

So thank you.

 

All the best,

 

Marie

 

courtesy of Hello Giggles

Hello Giggles- Don't Lead Me On

[lovefiction]

All of my friends and family tell me you are not worthy of me. They say you were an a$$ and that I could do so much better. In my head I know this is true. You never deserved me... I am beautiful and smart and compassionate... You used to tell me all of this and so much more... I want to believe that you loved me but how can I believe that when you replaced me so quickly... I have begun to think that you may have started talking to her before we broke up... I have this odd feeling that you only broke up with me after you knew you had someone else to fill that void. I know you hate to be alone... I think you are more scared of loneliness than I am... I keep thinking that as long as this new woman doesn't disappoint you in the first three months you will probably ask her to marry you... How easy it must be for you now without me... Finally free of the burden of me being a single mother... Why? Why did you stay for two years? Did you think you were doing me a favor? You only made it harder; each time I disappointed you and you iced me out of your life because I could not drop everything and make you happy... You have hurt me so terribly... All those things you said and did to make me feel loved - now they mean nothing... You replaced me as if I was some old rag doll... I should have known you would do it - you throw away anything that disappoints you... I have never said anything mean to you before and I do not mean this to be mean... I honestly hope that one day you are able to see the collateral damage you leave behind everywhere you go... I hope one day you look at yourself instead of always assuming that the other person failed you...I hope one day you will miss me (just like you always have) and this time around I will be strong enough to stay away... I am sorry you think I failed you... I am sorry that you didn't love me enough to stay... Goodbye...

[Jingle14]

I hate you, you lying piece of ****. And I miss you, how I wish I didn't. You're spending Christmas with someone who isn't me and I've had to numb any bit of feeling I have to bear the pain that not only do you choose not to be with me but that you choose someone else. I choose to be alone, choose not to let anyone else get close. I can't and won't risk it again. You broke my heart and it will not repair. I hope you think of me every time you look at your Christmas tree, the one we chose together and the ornaments, for our future home together that never happened, that you think of me. I hope the mess you made of my life is on your conscience until the day you die. I wish you were dead.

[radishes]

Really, this has nothing to do with you. I'm feeling really bad right now and want to get out of my house because my crap excuse for a father came back today, on Christmas Eve, and there's not really anywhere I can go. So here I am shutting myself in my room, when in actuality I want to be out and about in the rest of my house too. I want to spend time with someone else, I want to be somewhere else, to hang out, to have fun, to laugh, and smile. I guess it helps me to get away from feeling this way when I see my dad. I don't know if its healthy handling the situation this way, but I don't really know a different way to handle it.

[Minadee]

Dear J

 

So..

The family are here, the drinks are flowing and everyone is slowly settling down and enjoying the crappy soaps. Not me. I'm upstairs, locked away like some crazy fool because I am doing my best not to cry. I have been feeling like this for three days now. It is so F*$CKING unfair. You are out drinking, laughing with HER and all your friends and family and I am alone.

 

I hate that I miss you so much like this. You keep feeding me breadcrumbs and it seems I am on my knees eating them up as you throw them to the ground. I am so out of control and unhappy. I thought about looking at the the beautiful card you got me last Christmas we spent together. It said "To the love of my life" well, quite clearly not.

 

Why is it when we get talking, it always turns to sex? Is that what I was for three years J? Some innocent virgin who you turned into some sex crazed nympho? A warm hole? I like to think not. I cried yesterday, I thought about when we were in bed together last christmas eve and you looked at me and said "Marry me" and I laughed and blinked back tears. I never thought anyone could love me so much.

 

The thought of you lying in bed with her is unlike any pain I have ever felt. Please baby, please don't be in love with her.

 

I will try to block all thoughts of you tomorrow. Will you send me a Merry christmas text? Maybe. Will I over-analyize it? Probably.

 

Please give me the strength to get through tomorrow without crying.

I love you with all my heart and soul.

xxx

[Riiighteous]

Well this has thus far been one of the worst years of my life. But luckily the silver lining is that last year I was still so devoted to you, despite you destroying my life...and now I can confidently say and know that I am over you and have no feelings for you.

 

I post this because even if everything else has fallen apart, at least I did grow and move past you. I half laugh, half want to vomit at the thought of what a creep you are, and how you slut yourself around to any girl who gives you attention. I will always have that confidence and reassurance in knowing that i'm not another dumb bimbo, and I actually have the brain and the looks. I know that 10 of those won't ever make up for one of me. This is something I had to learn for myself, and I had to learn that you are a disturbed individual who will one day meet your demise, even if it isn't in this life.

 

So yes, everything else might be sad, gloomy and stressful, but it really is a good holiday because I am miles away from the mindset I had years ago. I never have to see you again, I never have to deal with the lies again, I never have to deal with the manipulation. There is no place, and no door for you to walk into my life again. I slammed that door shut, and it will forever be locked. This is on you, this is for you to warp in your head, and I will never forgive what you did to me. But I will forget you in general.

[radishes]

I think in this process of me recovering, Facebook might be the one holding me back. It doesn't matter if another friend got back with their ex right? That shouldn't have any bearing on me, yet it makes me want to see how you're doing, and I want to be with you in the same way.

 

Actually I've just been trying to figure out why you tug at me so. What is nagging at me, why I think of other guys when trying to get rid of this feeling. Because I can't seem to pinpoint it, and it seems almost impossible for me to accept it without being able to define it.

 

Maybe its just that I've got leftover feelings for him that are still there, that I don't want to admit and acknowledge. because it feels like it shouldn't be. But should or shouldn't doesn't have anything to do with what is. And the relationship didn't work for a reason. And I know many of those reasons. I just wish it could be easier right now for me.

 

But I don't want a man who would make fun of me for the things I do, I don't want someone who wants me only when they feel like they're losing me. I don't want someone who can't appreciate me because everything else is too dazzling and distracting. I don't want someone who can't see that I shine inside and out, who doesn't think I am just as great or even better compared to all the external distractions, who can't even overlook the little annoyances after years and years, who can't weigh the preciousness of my feelings. Why would I want to go back to that?

I don't want to hold myself back, hold myself down over that. Settle for something less when I could have the world. Writing down all of this is such a release.

 

You'll always be that first one, my first for many things that I can name. And my last for very many other things. And that's okay with me. Because there's so much the world has to offer me when I reach out, when I'm receptive, when I'm open. I can have the world, you don't need to be the only one that captivates me.

 

I notice that on so many days, I always have an internal struggle, between not being able to accept things for the way they are, and coming to terms with the way I feel, and accepting that things will pass, and it is for the best. I loved you, and I still have those feelings, but its normal. I can only do my best to handle it.

 

I really can have the world. I have the strength and the power to fulfill myself in every way, to be happy to the fullest, to experience sadness fully, to love completely, and to give myself over completely.

[coffeeloverx]

It's my first Christmas without you and I'm not quite sure how I feel. We've been broken up for 6 months. I'm over you. I can tell you that 100%. I feel much better but at the same time, I think it's just weird not having somebody you love around for the holidays.

Ugh.

[sharsh]

I'm really starting to feel like I don't give a f*ck. I don't even give enough f*cks to type out your stupid name.

 

I hope you take her to your mom's house today, it's Christmas. So she can see what a f*cking trainwreck your mom and her boyfriend are. Is your mom going to be drunk, like always, and high as a kite? She's going to make an awesome impression.

 

Afterwards, I hope you get to meet her family, and they find out what a trainwreck you are. I hope they ask you questions like, are you in college? And you'll pathetically answer back, No.. I don't even have a GED. Then they'll pull her aside away from you and tell her "what a 'catch' you are" in some sarcastic tone, like my grandparents did, when they first met you.

 

Really, maybe I do give at least half a f*ck, or I wouldn't be typing any of this out. But I don't want you back. I don't expect anything from you.

 

If she has any sense, she'll be smarter than I was then, and when she realizes you don't have sh*t going for you, and plan on keeping this way...when she realizes you're incapable of being 100% faithful, she'll leave your ass in the dust. Then you'll be back at my door like you said you would "if this new relationship didn't work" AND HAHAHAHA. You had the audacity to tell me I'm your backup plan.

 

Goodluck making a "good" impression on her and her family today. Lol, you're gonna need it.

 

Merry f*cking Christmas, assh*le.

[Minadee]

Dear J

 

Well, it's happened. I'm crying on Christmas f*%king day.

 

Miss you so much it hurts and you just don't care. I told you I missed you last night and all you said was ":/" it's true isnt it, after three years, you don't miss me, at all! that is just the worse feeling in the world. I hate you for making me so unhappy on this special day, you know I love the holidays.

 

:'(

[Missing Him]

Day 1 of No Contact went perfect. I did not speak with him or see him the entire day, and then that night he emailed me wishing me a Merry Christmas. I didn't respond.

 

Day 2 has not gone quite as well. While I haven't messaged him and haven't spoken to him, I attended a small gathering that he also attended. He acknowledged me a lot, commented a lot on things that I said, and was generally trying to be in a good mood with me. I didn't acknowledge him much at all. I don't know if I broke No Contact but I am not going to count it as a break in No Contact because I did not speak to him really and because there was no discussion of the relationship, instead it was a learning experience that I shouldn't attend gatherings with that group of people any longer.

 

He wants to be "good friends" still and while he said he is confused and doesn't think we can have a relationship right now, he has hope for us in the future. While I still want him and also want something in the future, I can't be his friend. So I've implemented no contact as a way to both help me to heal and to allow him to find clarity in his own decision. Hopefully Day 3 will be a bit more like Day 1.

[radishes]

I'm not sure what I'm feeling towards you. Maybe a mix of missing you, loving you, losing you, letting you go, wanting to see you, jealousy, fear, and disbelief. It's snowing here and as I was out with my family I imagined you being out in the snow with a girl and how pretty she must look and how you're starting to like her. A rather unpleasant thought that killed my mood. But luckily you don't take up that much time in my head. I keep on feeling like I'm seeking out validation that I'm perfectly lovable and okay. Man all this just because of that one night, that kind of mistake I will never never ever make again. It's too much, it feels even worse when we first broke up. Am I coping in the right way? I will never know

[Missing Him]

I had been wanting a sense of closure, and I didn't feel I had it, because he was unwilling to truly let me go. He kept feeding me lines about being together in the future. Without offering me any answers on how we could do it, he kept telling me that we would take space, then be 'casual friends' and then eventually if he decided he wanted me, we could be together again. I don't think he really thought through what he was saying or what he was doing. So tonight I ended his naivety. I got him to finally understand what I was seeing - that if he made this decision, there would be no turning back. Once my wounds are healed, I would not be willing to re-open them. He cried and felt bad. He backpedaled a little bit, trying to find a way to work it out so that he could keep his decision and still keep me as an option for later. I tried, too, but I knew that it wouldn't work. I knew that I had to exit his life permanently or that he had to take back his decision and agree to work things out with me. But he has doubts and I knew that him taking back his decision would just lead to more hurt in the long-run. I think that I successfully ended the delusion in his head that we would ever be able to be together in the future. I saw him do what I had originally wanted, regret his decision and begin to realize that what he really wanted was me. But it's too late for that. He feels that his decision is what's right for him in the long run, and now he sees that I feel the same about my decision and that with these decisions, we are not going to have a future together.

 

I think letting go of the prospect of having a future together is the hardest part. I'll figure out a way to do that in time. If I continue to think I have a future with him, I'll never let him go.

 

Tomorrow I begin No Contact all over again. Back to Day 1. I think that I'll be stronger this time, as soon as I let go of the hope. I need to let go of the hope.

Edited December 27, 2012 by Missing Him

[MyAngel]

When am I going to stop thinking about you? Wanting you? Loving you? It's so pointless and I am struggling to get past this.

[Missing Him]

I was supposed to come visit you today and spend the rest of the month with you. It would have been one year exactly since our original Christmas trip You probably don't even realize any of this, though. You were never very good at appreciating the little things...