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[Minadee]

Dear J

 

Today has not been a good day. I've been thinking of you a lot. Some days are good, some days I have long shifts at work and my friends cheer me up and make me forget you. Other days I don't want to move and just want you to be with me and cuddle me in bed. I havn't been in town in a while, because I always walk past the cafe where I sat with your mother and we drank hot tea and watched you help your nana in and I looked at you and felt such a warm glow. Then we left after some food and we went on the ferris wheel and walked past all the beautiful little pop up shops and then we went home and cuddled up in bed and made love and we would lie just looking at eachother and smiling.

 

God I miss you. So much.

 

You have been texting me recently, why? Things with her not going well? I have to ask myself if I would take you back after all this. I can't even answer that right now. I just want us to be happy together and be totally in love, like we where this time last year.

 

Please wake up and see that I love you.

Always.

xxx

[Riiighteous]

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

 

I always found it difficult to cut people off, especially those who hurt me. I myself know how thankful I have felt when I have been forgiven, and wanted to always forgive others.

 

Enough time has passed. This goes for all of you, for all of you who really did not react the right way. I know now that my priorities are straight. I know now what really matters, and what is important.

 

I forgive you. I forgive all of you. But that does not mean I want you in my life. It means that I know now beyond a shadow of a doubt that I am back to the character I wanted to be again, and that when I finally shut the door once and for all, I realized how much poison was overtaking me because of you.

 

It is sort of beautiful for me to say, and finally believe it... I don't ever want to speak to any of you again. I want you to take responsibility for your part, as I did already for mine, and close this book once and for all. And you are right...you were wrong. I know that I am a good person, and am back to living that way. I forgive you, I just do not love you, and do not have any desire to let you in to my life ever again. I can definitely say that I will never willingly speak to or see you ever again. I never thought this day would come. The day that I know my life may not be amazing, but it is and will forever be better without any of you.

[msfreebyme]

Patrick.

 

I still love you, I wish I didn't, I'm in love with a lie, an imaginary person you built up for me in my mind. You'll never be real...but oh, why can't you be?

 

A heavy heart.

Sarah.

 

I can relate to your post mostly. All he did was lie and I never knew who he truly was because I fell for just the wrong guy creating a fake persona. Hang in there dear and best wishes to you.

[sharsh]

I can relate to your post mostly. All he did was lie and I never knew who he truly was because I fell for just the wrong guy creating a fake persona. Hang in there dear and best wishes to you.

 

It sucks the most because you want someone back, who never really existed in the first place. Some days are still hard, but the longer I ignore his texts, and the more he texts me just looking for sex, the more I can detach myself and look at him from an outsiders point of view.... And he really isn't all that.

Best wishes to you as well! I'm more upset with myself for being so blinded.

[big bear]

I still don't believe the rumors. I still think it's all untrue. But you just kept sobbing and did not say anything. Did not admit and did not deny. I have no patience to be the doormat anymore.

 

F*cking calling 12 times on the birthday just to wish but not once to admit or deny. Not once to say something.

 

F*ck you. Be happy with the downgrade. So much is happening here and you be the ice princess you want to.

 

Just waiting for some news. Then I will be off from this city and I can change my number and start afresh.

 

Why have you deleted me of facebook. Mother effing joke. Why don't you reply my messages.

 

Bloody Cheater. Ditched me in the worst of times.

 

I WISH WE WERE BETTER STRANGERS

[jezzy]

Dear M,

 

I keep on telling myself that I am okay though I'm not that depressed unlike before I just wanna tell you how much I miss you. I miss your laugh, your cheeks, your smell, the way you hold my hand, the way you kiss me on my forehead, cuddles, the jokes etc. I never thought this would happen to us. We are so strong then suddenly, you gave up.

 

I know Im moody and I didnt understand your busy-ness at work. But Im trying! Im sorry if Im too desperate for wanting you back but all I know is I just love you. I dont know if the real reason of you breaking up with me is you want to be single and also you want to focus at work. I know you have lots of dreams but we can reach that dream together right? But now.. I realize how unimportant I am to you. Saying those words to me like you mean it is kinda harsh. You dont want us to be together, for now.

 

And all I can think of is you having a new girlfriend. Thats the only thing that goes into my mind every now and then... I dont wanna delete or block you on facebook but I have to. Please understand... I wanna move on. I dont wanna see myself hurt cause of pictures or statuses that says youre doing fine and having fun without me.

 

I'm so sorry to blocked you. In time.. when things are alright I'm going to unblock you dont worry but for now.. I'm so so trying my best not to contact and think of you. I love you so much. Thank you so much for almost 2years of relationship.. I've never been this happy with my life. I wanna thank you for that.

 

I know that maybe someday you'll be back.. But for now, I wanna move on with my life. I wanna be happy cause I think you are happy without me.. I love you. I always will.

 

I miss you.

 

-J

[Harradin]

There's so many things I don't understand about us, I hate not having answers but I'm not sure whether I even want to know the answers. I'll make a bullet point list on all the things I don't understand.

 

- You told me, you realised you had feelings for me a few hours after we met but you felt that attraction the very first time we laid eyes on each other. You told me how you wanted to spend the rest of your life with me, that you thought we were made for each other, that we were brought together for a reason. How no matter what happened to us, you'd always love me. How you were so scared to lose me, how you were terrified of me leaving you for someone else, how you were terrified that you'd make a huge mistake and I wouldn't be in your life anymore. But funnily enough, despite you saying all of those things, you left me for a now ex-friend and its like you couldn't care less.

 

- What was so bad in our relationship? You seemed very into me, you wanted to spend time with me, we used to text all day, we just clicked. In fact a week before you left me, you told me that my ex-friend's friend sent you messages on Facebook trying to break us up and when I asked you what you wanted, you even got angry at me for even suggesting the idea! You told me how you loved me and wanted to be with me! Yet a week later, you left me for him.

 

- I hate that during that week, when you were "so upset" about your parent's divorce, I spent pretty much every evening with you, I looked after you, I was there for you and yet when I wasn't around you went straight to him as a shoulder to cry on. I thought I was being the shoulder to cry on? Was one shoulder not enough?

 

- The worst thing of all? He was infinitely worse then me, worse future prospects, worse personality, was fat, had no talents, known history of manipulating, backstabbing, two faced etc. And yet you thought he was better for you then me?! I would have been prepared to do anything for you, I loved you and I treated you well. Sure I made mistakes, I may have tickled you too much, may have been a bit touchy feely but it surely wasn't dealbreakers and you could have talked to me about it, I wouldn't have been offended.

 

- I just don't understand how you can go from "wanting to spend the rest of your life with me" to leaving me for my ex friend within a weekend.

 

- I don't understand the mixed feelings and the "confusion" you had after you broke up with me, why give me mixed feelings, why lead me on?

 

I wonder whether now you look back and regret what you did, I wonder whether you realised you made the big mistake you always feared, I wonder whether you would get back into my life. But believe me if you ever try, I'm not gonna make it easy for you. You'll have to prove that you are around to stay, but I guess if you do that you would be a keeper as you would fight for my love, like I tried to fight for you.

 

I thought I wasn't capable of falling in love, I thought I couldn't attach. I guess we were bought together to show that I could fall in love. I just wish you realised what you had before you threw it away.

[newcaledonia]

I have successfully avoided seeing pictures of you on fb with your new squeeze but inadvertently saw you at the thanksgiving table and she was squeezed between you .your kids..and a relative. when I saw the picture a few days ago I thought..sure fine..i can handle it but have slowly gotten more and more angry about it. mostly because i imagine her stuffing herself with food and the attention from the people who were once like family to me..and the fact she was sitting next to the relative i cared for. i had to ask you new squeeze to take over a job while i went to check on that relative..durint the time you were together that day while i was helping the relative you came home sort of raving about her. she was my friend at the time and although i appreciated her help i had a weird feeling in my gut. the photo of her next to you and her ...like a neat little fatty in a bookend of family made me want revenge. she must have been wanting to high five the relative saying thanks for getting sick that day you old biddy..i don't give a **** about you but i got the guy. in fact I don't give a **** about any of these people but look at me in the bosom of the family now.

 

i saw you two creeps deserve each other...and although this new one is a mere 20 years younger than me I can say one thing with certainty...she will be crying someday after she devotes her 30s to you...you don't or can't have kids...she is still young. one day she will say all i have are these ungrateful so called step kids and this angry man in my life. what did i do? why did i think this guy..and that means you...was so important to me. but right now..i hope the two of you rot on your own self importance and downright meanness. you two both suck and deserve each other. if i could make a wish on a wishbone I would wish that somebody else besides me tells you exactly what for. if i told you all it would do was bring you two closer..screw both of you ..you are unethical people in business and stupid in life. oh well..hope you fall over in your stupid chairs.

[Mel2011]

I find it amusing that you were the one that wanted to work it out, YOU approached me to fix us. A week later you turn around and you want nothing to do with me. That's fine, you go out and live you life, get wasted every night like you have been since we split up, but I know one day you will wake up and regret letting me walk out of your life. It may not be tomorrow, it may not be next month, but one day you will regret letting me go.

 

Have fun with your new 'party animal' life... I hope the next girl breaks your heart like you did to me.

 

Go to hell.

[J-B]

SA -

 

I miss you. Trying to be strong for us both and keep NC.

 

Here's one for your next Karaoke outing... captures the SA perfectly.

 

 

-TRS

[baRx]

it's been a long time since i wrote in one of these.

 

the best part is, i don't even have anything to say. i feel no emotion toward you. i have no more care.

yeah, i'm alone... but finally, after 3 painful years, i can finally say "who gives a sh*t?"

 

feels pretty good, too.

 

have fun traveling 3 hours all the time for that fool ;D

[DaveA]

Dear Amy,

 

You know i love you more than anything in the world and i know you felt the same way. Everything was amazing and the connection between us was like nothing else i have ever experienced in my 25 years! 1yr 6months down the line you start having problems at home with your dad and brother, get diagnosed with an under active thyroid and then we start having stupid little fights about stuff that was so pointless. You went through a stage of hitting me and threatening self harm or driving your car off a cliff

 

Then at your new job you get attention from your boss who is yet to be divorced and has kids, you jump on this attention, claim to have feelings for him after you broke up with me and say he is much better that me when everyone can see he is not, he is a massive downgrade and when your clouded glasses come off you will see.

 

You start to be so horrible, calling me names and saying i'm nothing and worthless and should be jealous of this lurch look a like! But what you forget is how i stood by you through thick and thin when any other lad would have left you in an instance, I'm sorry i wasn't there financially for you taking you out every single weekend but emotionally you couldn't fault me, you were my number 1 priority and i would of done absolutely anything for you.

 

I wish you were more mature about the way it ended, i wish when you came for your stuff you were straight with me and said " there is no chance for us " instead of saying you never know in a week or 2 we could get back together. Instead you string me along then turn into a massive bitch and try and convince yourself he is better than me.

 

You have made a massive mistake, couple months time you will realize when your honeymoon period dies and you see what you did have and what you have now. You have completely broke my heart and broke me as a person and i'm not ashamed to say that, you know what you meant to me. But i WILL get bettet, i WILL improve myself, i WILL find someone who is worthy of my love and i WILL have the last laugh.

 

Enjoy it while it lasts

[NoLeafClover]

I never knew how much you meant to me until the day you ended things.

How could it be that after trying so hard you just gave up fighting for us? How could it be that for the first time in our relationship you saw me dropping my first ever tear, you end up giving up on me.

 

There isn't a single day I don't think about you. I am afraid to listen to the radio because I think of you. I can't stop looking over at my phone hoping it would be you...but I am scared to touch it because I might end up calling you.

I open my email and can't stop reading previous emails you sent me less than a month ago about how "I was the love of your life, and you didn't know what you'd do without me."

 

Now this...Silence... Tears ...Confusion...so many unanswered questions. Wondering what it could have been and how I could have SAVED us.

 

I miss going out to lunch with you...Missing your kisses.. your hugs.. the first moments we ever saw each other.. Places we used to go to..Sleeping in the boat...Late night calls...Random miss you text messages...the sweats I was wearing the night I met you just hang on the side of my door untouched..

 

Why? What happened?...........Is it worth it?

 

You claimed you still love me, but you're emotionally un-stabled. Understandable.. but why couldn't I be the one to fix that for you? I've always been there for you and always made you feel better....You were my best friend.

 

So many sleepless nights...so much pressure..so much pain.

 

I love your very Very Much Dawn.. but I need you to realize that on your own. I am extremely hurt and still can't believe why the person that meant so much to me is hurting me to this point. I am waiting for you but I don't know how much longer I can hold on.

 

I hope you get to do the right thing.. for us. I don't want you to be another ex. You mean the world to me but I can't send you this because I am dodging being hurt again and possibly going off the deep end...

 

-I love you with all my heart, A.M

[msfreebyme]

It sucks the most because you want someone back, who never really existed in the first place. Some days are still hard, but the longer I ignore his texts, and the more he texts me just looking for sex, the more I can detach myself and look at him from an outsiders point of view.... And he really isn't all that.

Best wishes to you as well! I'm more upset with myself for being so blinded.

Usually the texts will go away if you completely keep NC and it helps if you block the number. Tell people what you're going through. Loveshack, friends, and family help too. It all defiantly gets better. I've been about a year strong and I've taken the time to find myself more and more.

Plus that outside point of view is only going to become stronger once time flies by. I was so mad at myself for falling in love with a fake until I realized it was a real growing experience that only made me stronger in the end.

Thanks for the wishes. =)

[MyAngel]

I miss you so much.

[radishes]

This is one of those nights (since yesterday actually) that I'm lying here wondering why I'm thinking about you, why I even give you the time of day in my mind space, and then I remember because I felt so much for you, put so much of my heart and emotions into a relationship that very well wasn't really worth it. I just really miss you. I shouldn't, and there's no point in feeling so, but it's there. I wish it would go away, it's too bad human emotions doesn't work quite that well in quite that way. I loved you so so much, more than I could ever express, do, or say, but those feelings of mine were just not safe with you. It's not that you weren't worth it, it's just that I'm sad something that could've blossomed is now broken into so many pieces. Irreparable. It's something lost the wind and the circular motions of the world.

[MyAngel]

This is one of those nights (since yesterday actually) that I'm lying here wondering why I'm thinking about you, why I even give you the time of day in my mind space, and then I remember because I felt so much for you, put so much of my heart and emotions into a relationship that very well wasn't really worth it. I just really miss you. I shouldn't, and there's no point in feeling so, but it's there. I wish it would go away, it's too bad human emotions doesn't work quite that well in quite that way. I loved you so so much, more than I could ever express, do, or say, but those feelings of mine were just not safe with you. It's not that you weren't worth it, it's just that I'm sad something that could've blossomed is now broken into so many pieces. Irreparable. It's something lost the wind and the circular motions of the world.

 

This rings true for me as well. It's so disappointing when you love so so much and in the end, what do you have to show for it...

[Minadee]

Missing you a lot tonight. I hate knowing that i'll be thinking of you over christmas.

[bitterruin]

I haven't seen you in at least two weeks. Running into you today wasn't very nice though. I pretended I didn't care and walked past you, after you turned around pretending like you didn't see me. Anyway, I wish you cared enough to call me, I don't know if you have because I got a new phone and the old one is sitting there in a drawer, I'm afraid to look at it and see no new messages.

I miss you and I wish I could stop pretending like I've moved on and we could go back to being together again.

[jezzy]

Dear M,

 

I never thought you'll be doing this kind of BS. We've been through a lot. You told me I'm the sweetest and you want me to be your wife in the future. But why? You gave up and after 3 weeks apart you posted a picture with a girl? Maybe she's your co-employee, I dont know.

 

How disrespectful it was for you to post that kind of picture without even thinking about me? Or the people around you? I just hate you. I hate you so much. The reasons you said that it would be the best for us to break up is BS. You never realize my worth.

 

All the things that we did for almost 2 years had gone so bad. You didnt realize that! I want to forgive you. I wanna forgive you but for now, I cant. I'm too hurt. You've changed. You are not the person that I loved before.

 

I hate you and I wont begged for your love anymore. I'm done! Magsama kayo!

 

-J

[Pinky777]

I miss you. So much. I can't stop thinking about you even for a second, and I haven't since the minute I met you. I used to think that being friends, not expecting anything out of a relationship with you would make things easier but it hasn't. I'm still in love with you as much as ever. I know things didn't work out and for a reason but we barely even tried to fix things. We didn't even give it a chance. Did we end things too quickly? Would you still be with me if not for that fight? Do you regret it at all or was that the excuse you were waiting for? I don't want the world from you, I just want things to go back to the way they used to be when we were happy. Is it really better being alone? What have you figured out? Do you miss me at all? Do you lay awake thinking about me too? Do your kids ask about me?

[radishes]

I wish I knew where to even begin. Sometimes when I think of you, so many questionable things you have said pop up again and again. Why in the world would you say I wanted nothing to do with you? You broke up with me! Why would I want to stick around like a girlfriend?! Why do I sound like the bad guy? Why are you not taking responsibility? You said you tried your best. I wish I could say that about you. To say that was all you were capable of, is kind of sad at the least. That's all I have to say about that.

[heartshapedrocks]

I will survive

[jezzy]

Dear M,

 

Its been a week since I talked to you. I miss you so much. If only things would be the same just like before.. but probably not. I'm getting tougher everyday. I'm trying this No contact rule in order for me to be stronger and move on. I miss you so much. I love you..

 

If this No contact rule will lead me back to you that would be good but if not.. Its okay. I know you're happy though without me. I want you to be happy.

 

Sorry for blocking you, your family and bestfriend I just needed some time I will unblock you soon when Im ok I miss you. I love you.

 

-J

[NoMoreJerks]

I love you. I love you. I am devastated by what you told me, after all the apologizing and begging I did, so that we could stay together. I am utterly devastated. You told me to try and have a good Christmas, and that I have lots of close friends. You must know how devastated I am right now, to tell me that. I have some close friends, but they are not even here. I am all alone, have to deal with this on my own. My family don't even want to hear about this anymore, and probably my friends as well. Deep down, even though I love you, I will never forgive you for the timing and manner in which you told me it was REALLY over between us. You told me you hoped I would "find someone next year who can give [me] the attention deserve". And you then called me by the nickname you came up with, followed by a "x". I'm devastated. Did you have to do that? At least just keep it short and to the point instead of telling me those heart-wrenching words. I will never forget you, or the time we spent together. You took my virginity at 29, and I had waited for so long because I wanted it to be with someone i really liked and cared about, and I was so madly in love with you. I will never love again, or trust again.